1. Welcome To FamilyWelcome To Family
MattersMatters
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21 November 201021 November 2010
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Psalm 127:1Psalm 127:1

2. Spiritual CompatibilitySpiritual Compatibility
in Marriagein Marriage
Presented by: MVKPresented by: MVK

3. Survey Done at TFTSurvey Done at TFT
in 2010in 2010
Communication – 38.27%Communication – 38.27%
Finances – 29%Finances – 29%
Spirituality – 28%Spirituality – 28%
Children – 18.5%Children – 18.5%
Neutrality – 16.04%Neutrality – 16.04%
Sexual – 9.87%Sexual – 9.87%

4. Divorces at Different YearsDivorces at Different Years

5. WHAT IS SPIRITUALITY?WHAT IS SPIRITUALITY?

6. The terms Spirituality andThe terms Spirituality and
Religion both refer to theReligion both refer to the
search for the absolute Godsearch for the absolute God

7. Irwin ThompsonIrwin Thompson
Religion is NOT identical withReligion is NOT identical with
Spirituality, rather religion is theSpirituality, rather religion is the
form spirituality takes inform spirituality takes in
civilizationcivilization

8. How These Couples InterpretHow These Couples Interpret
Spiritual ProblemsSpiritual Problems
 Irresolvable Spiritual DifferencesIrresolvable Spiritual Differences
 Spiritual Lukewarmness or ColdnessSpiritual Lukewarmness or Coldness
 Partners who are Spiritually confusedPartners who are Spiritually confused
 Partners who are resistant to religiousPartners who are resistant to religious
mattersmatters

9. SBNRSBNR
Then we have a group of those whoThen we have a group of those who
separate Spirituality from Religion byseparate Spirituality from Religion by
saying that they believe in the existence ofsaying that they believe in the existence of
many different ‘Spiritual Paths”many different ‘Spiritual Paths”
They emphasize the importance of findingThey emphasize the importance of finding
ones own individual path to spiritualityones own individual path to spirituality
They call themselves theThey call themselves the SSpiritualpiritual BButut NNotot
RReligiouseligious

10. QUESTIONQUESTION
WHAT HAPPENS WHEN ONE FAILS TOWHAT HAPPENS WHEN ONE FAILS TO
BECOME SPIRITUAL ANDBECOME SPIRITUAL AND
RELIGIOUS?RELIGIOUS?

11. ALTERNATIVESALTERNATIVES
Humanism – I canHumanism – I can
Atheism – No GodAtheism – No God
Gnosticism – Don’t really careGnosticism – Don’t really care
Traditionalism – Superstitions etc.Traditionalism – Superstitions etc.
Hobbies – Sport etc.Hobbies – Sport etc.

12. THE CHALLENGETHE CHALLENGE
2 Corinthians 6:142 Corinthians 6:14
Do not be Yoked together withDo not be Yoked together with
UnbelieversUnbelievers

13. THE PROBLEMTHE PROBLEM
Most of us met our PartnersMost of us met our Partners
before we became Christiansbefore we became Christians

14. THE TRUTH ISTHE TRUTH IS
YOU WERE INCOMPATIBLEYOU WERE INCOMPATIBLE
FROM THE ONSETFROM THE ONSET

15. INCOMPATIBILITY!INCOMPATIBILITY!

16. WHAT IS COMPATIBILITY?WHAT IS COMPATIBILITY?

17. COMPATIBILITYCOMPATIBILITY
Being Able to exist andBeing Able to exist and
Perform in Harmony orPerform in Harmony or
Agreeable CombinationAgreeable Combination

18. So if we are truly COMPATIBLESo if we are truly COMPATIBLE
and ONE of us comes and saysand ONE of us comes and says
I HAVE FOUND JESUSI HAVE FOUND JESUS
There shouldn't be a problem inThere shouldn't be a problem in
TRUSTING their JUDGEMENTTRUSTING their JUDGEMENT
And choice and BUYING in intoAnd choice and BUYING in into
it!it!

19. Laws of CompatibilityLaws of Compatibility
Rule 1Rule 1
NEVER marry a person withNEVER marry a person with
the hope that they willthe hope that they will
changechange

20. Laws of CompatibilityLaws of Compatibility
Rule 2Rule 2
Never marry a person who is notNever marry a person who is not
compatible with you and startcompatible with you and start
praying that God will change thempraying that God will change them
It is better to remain single andIt is better to remain single and
serve God alone than to be marriedserve God alone than to be married
to someone who has no interest into someone who has no interest in
GodGod

21. Levels of CompatibilityLevels of Compatibility
Level 1Level 1
PHYSICAL COMPATIBILITYPHYSICAL COMPATIBILITY
 Do you find your Partner PhysicallyDo you find your Partner Physically
attractive?attractive?
 Are you happy to introduce him/herAre you happy to introduce him/her
to your friends and family?to your friends and family?
 Do you like the way they look?Do you like the way they look?

22. Levels of CompatibilityLevels of Compatibility
Level 2Level 2
INTELLECTUAL COMPATIBILITYINTELLECTUAL COMPATIBILITY
 Are you comfortable with their levelAre you comfortable with their level
of Formal Education?of Formal Education?
 Do you enjoy the same ideas andDo you enjoy the same ideas and
Things?Things?

23. PLEASE NOTEPLEASE NOTE
Though some people have a low levelThough some people have a low level
of Formal education they have a veryof Formal education they have a very
high level of informal education andhigh level of informal education and
they can fit into any type of companythey can fit into any type of company

24. Levels of CompatibilityLevels of Compatibility
Level 3Level 3
Maturity versus Age gapMaturity versus Age gap
How old are you?How old are you?
What is your Maturity Level?What is your Maturity Level?

25. Maturity versus AgeMaturity versus Age
She may be 25 but have theShe may be 25 but have the
maturity level of a 40 year oldmaturity level of a 40 year old
You may be 35 but have theYou may be 35 but have the
maturity level of a 25 year oldmaturity level of a 25 year old
THIS MAKES YOU INCOMPATIBLE!THIS MAKES YOU INCOMPATIBLE!

26. ALL THE ABOVE WILL SPILLALL THE ABOVE WILL SPILL
OVER INTO YOUR SPIRITUALOVER INTO YOUR SPIRITUAL
LIVESLIVES
AND MAY BE THE CAUSE WHYAND MAY BE THE CAUSE WHY
YOU HAVE SPIRITUALYOU HAVE SPIRITUAL
PROBLEMSPROBLEMS

27. Laws of the Spirit in MarriageLaws of the Spirit in Marriage
Law 1Law 1
John 4:4John 4:4
Every Christian family MUSTEvery Christian family MUST
acknowledge Godacknowledge God

28. Laws of the Spirit in MarriageLaws of the Spirit in Marriage
Law 2Law 2
Ephesians 5:23Ephesians 5:23
The Man MUST be the Spiritual LeaderThe Man MUST be the Spiritual Leader
of the Familyof the Family

29. The Husbands Spiritual RoleThe Husbands Spiritual Role
In marriageIn marriage
 He is the Priest – To performHe is the Priest – To perform
Spiritual RitualsSpiritual Rituals
 He is the Prophet – To direct TheHe is the Prophet – To direct The
Spiritual AffairsSpiritual Affairs
 He is the King – To rule like Christ inHe is the King – To rule like Christ in
His familyHis family

30. Worth Considering FactWorth Considering Fact
IF A WOMAN CANT LOOK UP TO AIF A WOMAN CANT LOOK UP TO A
MAN THEN SHE SHOULD NOT LOOKMAN THEN SHE SHOULD NOT LOOK
AT HIM AT ALL..AT HIM AT ALL..

31. CONCLUSSIONCONCLUSSION

32. ENCOURAGE YOUR PARTNERENCOURAGE YOUR PARTNER
FOR SELF GROWTH ANDFOR SELF GROWTH AND
IMPROVEMENTIMPROVEMENT
HEBREWS 10:24HEBREWS 10:24

33. DON’T FORCE ANYTHING ONDON’T FORCE ANYTHING ON
THEMTHEM
CHANGE IS ENCOURAGED ANDCHANGE IS ENCOURAGED AND
NOT ENFORCEDNOT ENFORCED

34. BE PERSISTENT.BE PERSISTENT.
IF YOU GIVE UP NOW YOU WILLIF YOU GIVE UP NOW YOU WILL
ALWAYS GIVE UPALWAYS GIVE UP

35. NEVER LOSE HOPENEVER LOSE HOPE
HEBREWS 11:1HEBREWS 11:1

36. THE ENDTHE END

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From 23 November 2010From 23 November 2010