3. Overview
Conflict in the Workplace
Symptoms of Conflict
Your conflict style
Influence on employee engagement
Building trust
Active listening
4. Conflict in the Workplace
What causes it?
How do you deal with it?
5. “The people to fear are not those who
disagree with you, but those who disagree
with you and are too cowardly to let you
know.”
Napoleon Bonaparte
6. Causes of Conflict
lack of defined roles,
lack of understanding of duties,
lack of time, tools,
or temperament to complete tasks and
individuals’ agendas in opposition to
organizational goals.
7. Conflict Left Unmanaged
Leaves a business in a state of constantly
dealing with issues rather than managing
the organization’s goals.
Hoping it will go away allows it to fester into
a larger conflict, involve more co-workers
than the original dispute and hurt the
organizational culture.
8. Symptoms of Unresolved Conflict
Stress frustration and anxiety
Loss of Sleep
Strained relationships
Grievances and litigation
Employee turnover
Loss of productivity
Absenteeism
9. Recommendations for Conflict-Safe
Work Environment
Never allow conflict to become personal
Reward, recognize and thank individuals
willing to take a stand and support their
position
Expect individuals to support with data and
facts
Provide training in healthy conflict and steps
in mediating a conflict
10. Don’t play favorites. Not wrong to like
some more than others. It is wrong to act
on that in an unfair manner.
Talk to individuals one-on-one. See how
things are going from their viewpoint.
11. One of the most common things that allows
conflicts to grow and escalate is
assumptions – that other people won't
understand, won't be reasonable, don't
want to resolve things, etc. The first step to
resolution is asking questions with curiosity,
rather than making assumptions.
12. Conflict
The goal of organizational leadership
is not to eliminate conflict but to
use it.
Conflict is a predictable social phenomenon
and should be channeled to useful
purposes.
13. “A good manager doesn’t try to eliminate
conflict; he/she tries to keep it from wasting
the energies of his/her people. If you’re the
boss and your people fight you openly when
they think you are wrong –that’s healthy.”
Robert Townsend
CEO of Avis Rent a Car
14. If there is conflict or dissention in your
department, look at your own actions.
Do you, either verbally or non-verbally send
messages that it is not okay to disagree or
Do you put individuals “on the spot” when
they express their opinion?
15. Observe closely the interactions among
employees and what is going on
Ask individuals for how you are perceived
handling conflict
16. Conflict Involves
Emotions – What you feel is important
Perceptions – What you see at stake
Behaviors – How you act with others
19. 1. A Accommodate
B Avoid
2. A Collaborate
B Compete
3. A Compromise
B Avoid
4. A Avoid
B Collaborate
5. A Compromise
B Accommodate
6. A Collaborate
B Compromise
7. A Compete
B Avoid
8. A Collaborate
B Compromise
9. A Accommodate
B Compete
10. A Compromise
B Avoid
11. A Collaborate
B Accommodate
12. A Avoid
B Accommodate
13. A Compete
B Compromise
14. A Compete
B Collaborate
15. A Accommodate
B Compete
20. Styles
Accommodate (I Lose, You Win)
Avoid (I Lose, You Lose)
Compromise (We Both Win, We Both Lose)
Compete (I Win, You Lose)
Collaborate (I Win, You Win)
21. Accommodate (I Lose, You Win)
Putting aside your needs and desires and acquiescing to
the other person’s requests/demands.
Appropriate:
• When a high value is placed on your relationship with
the other party.
• When outcome is of low importance to you, but is of
high importance to the other party.
22. Avoid (I Lose, You Lose)
Side-stepping or withdrawing from the conflict
situation.
When you prevent/postpone conflict, it remains
unresolved and neither party wins.
23. Compromise (We Both Win, We Both Lose)
Resolving the conflict quickly and efficiently by
seeking a fair and equitable split between the two
positions.
Each side concedes on some of their issues in
order to win others. Both parties must be flexible
and willing to settle for a satisfactory resolution of
their major issue.
24. Compete (I Win, You Lose)
Seeking to win your position at the expense of the
other party losing theirs.
Appropriate when only one party can achieve their
desired outcome.
Best used when outcome is extremely important
and relationship is of low importance.
25. Collaborate (I Win, You Win)
Cooperating with the other party to try to resolve a
common problem to a mutually satisfying outcome.
When you join with the other party to compete
against the situation, instead of each other.
Each side must feel that the outcomes gained
through collaboration are better than they could
achieve on their own.
27. What Does This Mean?
Dependent on importance to you or
organization to “R” or “O” ----
You may have to choose styles that are
beyond your “comfort area” default style.
28. Five Conflict-Handling Styles
Collaborate
I Win,
You Win
Accommodate
I Lose,
You Win
Compromise
We Both Win,
We Both Lose
Avoid
I Lose,
You Lose
Compete
I Win,
You Lose
HIGH
MEDIUM
LOW
HIGHMEDIUMLOW
Importance of outcome
Importanceofrelationship
29. Conflict Gaps
In most workplaces because skills not there
for collaboration
Ideal mix of styles in healthy workplaces:
75% Collaborate
No more than 25% for Compete,
Compromise, Accommodate and Avoid
31. Building Trust
Let people know what is expected
of them.
Decide on the limits of your trust.
Lead the way.
Build trust gradually.
32. Listening Errors
Failure to hear clearly
Failure to communicate clearly
Failure to “hear between the lines”
33. Listening Strategies
Passive listening
Active listening
Questioning
Looking for inconsistencies or
underlying interests
34. Interests & Concerns
What are their core concerns?
What is their motivation?
How can their interests be satisfied?
35. Creativity
Creativity helps to:
Think of new and different alternatives
Think of new strategies to advance your
cause
Redefine the situation
36. Self-awareness - What is your default style?
What do you have to do to change?
What is your motivation?
Are you making assumptions?
Have you gathered the facts?
Are you establishing trust?
37. Conflict resolution in the workplace and
creating a safe place for debate can be:
complicated
time-consuming
exasperating
38. However, when correctly:
worthwhile
productive
expanding
46. “Attitude is a little thing that makes
a big difference”
Winston Churchill
47. Your attitude is the foundation for your success
in any area. What you do is influenced by
how you think, and your thoughts reflect
your most basic attitude.
48. One of the things that allow an
individual to become successful
is his or her attitude. Successful
people don’t have any fewer
problems than unsuccessful
people; they just have a different
mindset in dealing with them.
50. “ The art of communication is the
language of leadership.”
-James Hume, professor, speechwriter
51. Successful Communicators
Identify difficult situations
Are aware and understanding
Other person’s point of view, filters
Adapt their style and messaging
52. “The single biggest problem in
communication is the illusion that
it has taken place”
George Bernard Shaw
53. The first step to getting what you want is to
communicate your thoughts so you are
understood.
55. Communication is an Art,
Not a Science
There is no absolute right or wrong way to
communicate effectively. What is most
important is that you communicate in a
manner and style most comfortable and
effective for the situation and results.
56. Effective communication is a two-way
process in which there is an exchange and
progression and ultimately understanding
of ideas toward a mutually accepted
direction or goal.
Basic Elements:
Speaker
Listener
Message
Medium
Feedback/Reply
57. Communication Goals
To get and give
information
To persuade
To ensure understanding
To get action
To change behavior
58. Information Richness & Media Type
Face-to-face
communication
Verbal communication
electronically
transmitted
Personally addressed
Written communication
Impersonal written
communication
High
Richness
Low
Richness
59. Engagement Model
Ask questions
Ask for feedback
Provide detailed feedback
80/20
Listen
60. Empathy
Not sympathy
Does not show weakness
Have to listen
Reframe
Understand/Acknowledgement
61. Listening Tips
Paraphrase the message to the speaker in order to
confirm your understanding.
Repeat the message to help you remember what
was said.
Probe for missing information.
Remember the most important points of the
message for future application.
Act upon the message as necessary.
62. Types of Feedback
• Formal—documented
annual/semiannual performance review
• Informal—day-to-day communication
and feedback about performance
68. Causes of Conflict at Work
Miscommunication
The employee either did not receive the message or received only
part of a message, or the message was delivered in a way that may
have been misinterpreted.
Different Interpretations
The employee believes that adherence to rules, policies, or
procedures should be carried out in one way, while the actual intent
or the rule, policy, or procedure is something else entirely.
Different Values
The employee has less regard than others for a specific task or duty
and does not attach importance to its value.
Opposing Goals
The goals of the company or supervisor are directly opposed to
those of the employee.
69. Conflict Strategies
Win/Win—Collaboration
• Both parties achieve their goals
o Example: Working together, an acceptable resolution is
reached that helps everyone concerned regarding a
conflict.
Win/Lose—Competition
• One person is defeated
• Example: Employee’s request or complaint is denied
without reason.
70. Conflict Strategies (Cont.)
Lose/Lose—Avoidance
Neither parties achieves its goals.
Example: Employee quits because of perceived problems
at work.
Lose/Win—Give in
One person gives in.
Example: Supervisor not enforcing rules.
71. Reasons for Poor Performance
• Lack of communication leads to:
• Lack of trust
• Lack of respect
72. Basic Rules About
Managing Performance
1.Set Expectations
2. Always expect excellent
performance.
3. Never let poor work go unnoticed or
performance issues go unchallenged.
73. Team Leader’s Responsibilities
• Train team members to work together
• Identify potential obstacles
• Suggest procedures or ideas for solving a problem
• Help get information
• Give input
• Help the team progress
• Monitor progress
• Recognize and reward results
74. Types of Difficult Team
Members
• The reluctant team member
• The defiant team member
• The dominant team member
• The absentee team member
• The vacationer team member
75. Characteristics of an
Engaged Team Player
1. Openly shares feelings, opinions, thoughts, and
perceptions about problems and issues relating to the
team.
2. When listening, attempts to hear and interpret
communication from sender’s point of view.
3. Utilizes resources, ideas, and suggestions of other team
members.
4. Trusts and supports other team members, encouraging
their growth and development.
5. Understands and is committed to team objectives.
76. Characteristics of an Engaged
Team Player (Cont.)
6. Acknowledges and works through conflict openly, by
respecting and being tolerant of individual
differences.
7. Makes decisions based on information only, rather
than being influenced by peer pressure.
8. Provides ideas and suggestions to the team leader
that are helpful to the team.
9. Always strives for a win/win solution.
10. Strives for consensus on team decisions.