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1. DELIMMA OF A MARRIED MAN
Why we choose this topic
Because thisisthe burningissue inourmodern societydue to societybecominghollow fromitsrootsandbadlyeffectto
the societydevelopment.
What is marriage?
Justlike everysmoothroadhasbumpsand speedbreakeronit,everymarital couple goesthroughupsanddowns.The
notionof happilyeverafterisapplicableonlyto fairytales,inrealityeveryrelationshiprequiresefforts. Itisa
commitmentof twopeople toone anotherandto eachotherfamily. Itisa bingingof the familyanditisa lifelong
commitment.Itis more than a physical unionbut a spiritual andemotional union,especiallybetweenmanandwoman.
Marriage,also calledmatrimonyorwedlock, isaculturally recognizedunionbetweenpeople calledspousethe
establishedrightsandobligationsbetween them, aswell asbetweenthemandtheirchildren,andbetweenthemand
theirin-laws.
Marriage,also calledmatrimonyorwedlock,isaculturally recognizedunionbetweenpeople,calledspousesthat
establishesrightsandobligationsbetweenthem, aswell asbetweenthemandtheirchildren,andbetweenthemand
theirin-laws....A marriage ceremonyiscalledawedding.
Whenwe thinkof marriage,the firstthingthat comesto mindishavinga lastingrelationship. Marriage isacommitment
of twopeople toone anotherandto each other’sfamily,bondedbyholymatrimony.
Marriage isthe processby whichtwopeople make theirrelationshippublic,official,andpermanent....Howa couple
managesthemoftendetermineswhethertheirrelationshipcollapsesorholdsfirm...."Divorce-proofing"amarriage can
meanidentifyingandshoringupacouple's strengths...
Importance ofmarriage in Islam and society
The reason marriage is importantisthat itaffirmswhatour FoundingFathersunderstood--thatthe purposeforthis
countryis to use our freedomsforthe promotionof the commongood. Marriage promotesthe commongoodby
buildingfamiliesandraisingchild.Thus,byencouragingthe normsof marriage—monogamy,sexual exclusivity,and
permanence—the state strengthenscivilsociety andreducesitsownrole.Governmentrecognizes
traditional marriage because itbenefits societyinaway that nootherrelationshiporinstitutiondoes.
Many cultures,extendedfamilywhichincludesmarriedcouplesstayinginthe home of theirparentsisa formof showing
love andrespectforexample inPakistan;marriage isalsobasisforhavingchildreninthose societies.Since issueslike
fornicationandhavingchildrenoutside of marriage isconsideredtaboosotogrow a familyincollectivistculturesgetting
marriedismust.Our attributions,interpersonal andromanticrelationshipsandgroupbehaviorsare all influencedby the
culture we live inthusresultinginthe attitudeswe have towardsaspecificactionswe take.
The institutionof marriage isthe central draftof all the formsof human societywhichare a part of civilization.Marriage
isthe deepestaswell asthe mostcomplex of all humanrelationsbecause itisadifficulttaskfortwopeople toleadtheir
life togetherwhentheyhave theirindependentthinkingandwayof living.InIndianlife,roleexpectationsare highly
specificandinstitutional inmarriage, thusawoman'srole infamilyhasremainedmultifarious.Marriage andfamily,asa
setof institutions,alsoencompassformal andinformal,objectiveandsubjective aspects.Familyisafundamental
buildingblockof all humancivilization.Marriage isthe glue thatholdsittogether.The healthof culture,itscitizensand

2. theirchildrenisultimatelylinkedtothe successof marriage.The paperprojectsthe marriage as a social institutionin
variouswritingsof IndianEnglishwriters,whichsupportsthe social acceptance of marriage asa social institution
throughliterature.
Marriage isan institutionfoundinall society whichleadsacouple tothe legal partwithoutdamagingtheir self-esteems.
Marriage itself aplatformtocreate a society. Parentsare responsible forpreparingtheirchildrentobe a goodhuman
and Muslimbecause theyare the source of makinggood society.Marriage iscrucial to a flourishingsocietybecause
goodmarriagesare the bedrockof society.
In Islammarriage isdeclaredtobe one half of single Muslim'sfaith. Itprovidestranquility,peace andsecurity.
“Who so ever likes to follow my tradition, and then he should know that marriage is from tradition.”
THE PROPHET (PBUH)
Dilemmafaced by man
It isdifficulttomaintainbalance betweenmotherandwife whenmanfacedtrouble onfinance aswell ashismotherbad
behaviorwithhiswife orvise verse. Orwhenthe situationof Mine v/sourscame.Thenthenthe issue raise andlackof
love andunderstandingcome infront of manfrom hiswife ormother.
In the case of jointfamilysystem privacycompromise whichmightdisturbedmenrelationwithhiswife.Orwhenhe
lenda helpinghandfromhiswife andfamilymake itissue of egoratherthanencouragingtheirboundingbecauseof
narrow mindsetandmanunable todeal withthatfamilymindsetwhichisgoingtowardsjealousy factordue towomen
independency.
Sometimesman’sclosenesswithhismothertendtotense situationforwife,whichisbecause of notclarifiedbymanon
the right time whichmakestrouble intheirlife anditmayalsocause of jealousyinhiswife sideagainsthismother.
Effect ofthese dilemmas
These dilemmascausesanxietyandstress due tousesof substance abuse increase,researchersfoundthatmarital
conflictbadlyaffectedhealthforbothhusbandandwife whichbecame disturbance inaworkforman and womencan’t
performherfamilyresponsibilities.
Children alsoface emotional difficulties,theyfall inunrecoverable traumaswhicheffecttheirchildhoodaswell their
future life.Slowlyandgraduallytheyhate theirparentsandfeel alonetheirself.Theybecomeshy,expresslessand
exhaustedbecauseof notsharingtheirfeelingandnotable toshare or discusstheirfamilyproblemswithanyone orif
theyhave friendstheybecome jealousbytheirlifestyle. Inresultof these situationtheythinkabouttakingrevengefrom
theirparentsbyleave themalone astheyare grow to theiradulthood independentlife.
Mostlylosstheirsocial connection due tothese dilemmas.
Today’s Journal
Nearlyhalf of all marriagesconclude ondivorce,because of notamature attitude throughwhichanyone canbe flexible
to resolve these dilemmastosave theirrelations.All become selfishabouttheirownexpectationsfromotherone,no
one can agree to compromise ontheirside totake stepforwarduntil otherone firstlaydowntheiregoor sorry themfor
theirmistakes. Eldersalsonottryto come forwardand make sure to save theirchildren’smarriage.

3. Separationor Divorce
The root cause initiallystartwhenbothstart expectinghigherfromeachotherwithoutlisteningonce problem orwhen
women’sfinanciallyindependencyincreasedthanmenandshe tryto empowerherthoughtsonmenratherthan
becomingasupportingendforhimor vise verse.Due towhichitcan create longdistance betweenspouseswhichcause
lack of trust due to whichspouse use toavoideachother.
In the case of children,separationaffecttheminbothshorttermand longtermand theirbehavior, academicsand
psychology badlyeffect.Theirlife came intotraumas,theirfocustotallydestroyedandtheirfuture came inhigherrisk.
Whole familybadlyeffectdue torelationshipdistance, facedintense of sadness,stressanddisappointedfromtheirlife.
No one can try to resolve thingsdue tonon-flexibilityfromeachother.
Due to whole scenario productivenessfactoralsolackfromeverypersonof familywhichbadlyeffectontheireconomic
life aswell.Noone canable to fulfilltheircommitmentsanditbecame disturbanceineconomicandsocial setup.

4. Public Opinions

9. Conclusion
Avoid feelings of jealousy
Don’tact on yourfeelingsitishardnotto act the wayyou are feeling. Stopcomplainingadmitsyourmistake andtryto
resolve the problemasearlyasyoucan by makingtruston your partnerand seekinghelpfromyourpartnerto
overcome these feelings.
Shiftyourfocusfrom negative thoughtstoavoidanyreactionswhichincrease more complicationsandtrouble foryour
relationship.
Strong timely communication
Stay focusinhere and now and be attentive fornonverbal signals.Alwaystalk eachotheranddiscusseverygoodorbad
situation andtry to resolve eachotherproblemsandprovide comfortzone withthe habitof patientsandtolerance.
Pre and post marriage counseling
Keepintouchwithprofessionals, therapistwill attempttoevaluate yourrelationship, they figure out:
o What keepsyoutogetherineverysituation?
o What stressesyourrelationship?
o The nature of your conflict…
o Your strengthandweakness…
o What stepsyoucan take to balance yourrelationship?
o You shouldable tobalance the contradictingpressure physical intimacy,time,moneyandboth
families…
o How to overcome pastissues?
o How to forgive eachother?