1 hour to Relationship WOW! http://www.themarriagerestorationproject.com/marriage-boot-camp

1. 1 Hour to Relationship WOW
Beginning Now
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3. Today’s Class will Cover
1 Hour to Relationship Wow- What
will make the MOST Positive difference in
your Relationship in 1 HOUR???
An 8 Step Journey

4. Who are we?
Why are we qualified to teach you this material?
Have you heard us speak before and where?
Are you familiar with our approach?

5. Rabbi Shlomo Slatkin
Masters in Counseling Psychology
Advanced Clinician in Imago Relationship Therapy
In practice for over a decade
Working exclusively with couples and relationship issues

6. Some of Shlomo’s Works and Media Features.

8. Our Story
We experienced serious
Marriage Conflict ourselves
shortly after our first child was
born. We got help and this is
why we are here today doing
what we’re doing.

9. When you discover
this…everything
changes.
It’s continued to keep us together - even when
we have had our ups and downs.

10. Before we reveal the one thing
that made the most positive
WOW for our marriage…
• Let’s understand the most important ingredient, the
prerequisite, for any marriage to succeed.
• The absence of this ingredient is the number #1 cause for
divorce.
• What do you think it is?

11. Lack of Commitment is the
#1 Reason for Divorce*
*With this ring…National Survey on
Marriage
in America. (2005). Gaithersburg, Maryland:
National Fatherhood Institute

12. Don’t tell me I have to do anything else!
We’re not here to hit you over
the head and blame you for your
marriage problems by giving you
a whole speech that you aren’t
committed enough.
We are going to explore what
makes couples commit or cease
to commit and how our
relationship wow can allow you
to recommit in a whole new way.

13. People stay in a marriage for
all sorts of reasons.
-children
-finances
-peer pressure
-negative beliefs about divorce
-fear of the future

14. If you’re staying together for the
kids or for $$, these things are
not enough in the long run.
You MUST have a REAL DESIRE to be with your
spouse. Otherwise, when times get too hard,
you’ll bolt.

15. But what if I…
• Have fallen out of love?
• Think my spouse is the problem?
• Feel like I married the wrong person?
• Think I would be better with someone else?

16. What got us
back on track?
We were able to re-commit to our
relationship because we discovered our
relationship WOW. Once we understood
this WOW, everything began to make
sense. We understood why we were
suffering and we had hope that things
could be better.
We discovered….

17. …The Secret Agenda
of Relationships

18. There is a reason why you picked
your spouse
and there is a reason why you are
fighting now

19. Why did you pick your
spouse?
What made them stand
out over everyone else
you may have dated?
There was something special, a feeling that you
might not be able to put your finger on.

20. The Imago
• Imago=image
• We all have an unconscious image of our ideal
partner
• This image is a composite of the positive and negative
characteristics of our primary caretakers
• In other words, marriage is the unfinished business of childhood.
• We fall in love with someone who will help us recreate what was so
familiar and actually get it right this time, if we get conscious

21. We all have unmet childhood needs
• Whether you had bad parents or good parents, they weren’t able to
fulfill all of your needs.
• We seek out a spouse that will help meet those needs we didn’t get
• The problem is that it’s not so easy. The one who can heal us the
most also can hurt us the most. The thing we need most from our
spouse is the hardest thing for them to give and viceversa.

22. The Three Relationship Stages
• 1) Romantic Love- the attraction that hooks us in and anesthetizes us.
• 2) The Power Struggle- the eternal conflict most couples face
• 3) Real Love- The conscious marriage

23. Conflict is for the purpose of growth and
healing
• Back to our story: When we
discovered the very conflict that we
were experiencing was tailor made
for us, based on our Imago, we
were able to recommit
• We saw the big picture, the secret
agenda
• We were sold on our relationship,
now all we needed to learn were
the skills that would help us move
on our journey towards a conscious
relationship

24. What if your spouse doesn’t remind you of your
parents?
• Pick
• Project
• Provoke

25. The 8 Step Journey of Marriage
Importance of
Commitment
Challenges to
commitment
Secret of
Commitment-
Changing your
Perspective
The Secret
Agenda of
Relationships-
Making sense of
why you picked
each other and
why you are
fighting
Your Imago
Unmet
childhood Needs
Relationship
Stages
Conflict is for
the purpose of
growth and
healing

26. What happens when people commit?
“A couple came for a 2 day intensive to decide if they should stay together after
years of marriage or separate. They just weren’t sure they could each get their
needs fulfilled in this relationship. The husband complained that his wife was
wishy-washy about what she wanted. He thought, if she would be completely
committed to the relationship, then the 2 of them could work hard to meet each
other’s needs and create a happy life together. As they were sharing a deep
dialogue with each other about the pain they were experiencing, she blurted out,
“I’m committed!” Tears flowed down his face and he stepped out of the process
and asked, “What did you say?” She said, “I’m committed to our relationship.” It
was a touching moment and the beginning of a complete shift in their relationship.
After years of thinking that this relationship was going nowhere, they decided to
make it work. And to this day, it has worked!

27. Commitment is Freeing!
“The irony of commitment is that it is
deeply liberating: in work, in play, in
love. The acts frees you from the
tyranny of your internal critic, from
the fear that likes to dress itself up
and parade around as rational
hesitation. To commit is to remove
your head as the barrier to your life”.
– a Starbucks Cup 

28. Understand why you’re
experiencing the conflict you
are facing
You’ll have an easier time committing
Because it’s not about it being better elsewhere
It’s all about loving the one you’re with

29. You’re off to a good start…
Commitment will redirect you and get the energy flowing in the right
direction, but you need more knowledge about relationships and
practical skills that you can apply.

30. Commitment is the 1st Step of
the Amazing 5 Step Solution
What are the next 4 Actionable Steps?
Seal your Exits
Detox your Marriage
Acknowledge the Other
Love Infusions

31. Don’t forget about…
The 4 Critical Moments
The 5 love languages
…Lots of Amazing Relationship Ideas and Solutions

32. Where Can You Get the Skills
and Tools That You Need to be
Successful?

33. In only 1 hour, we covered 8 Steps.
Importance of
Commitment
Challenges to
commitment
Secret of
Commitment-
Changing your
Perspective
The Secret
Agenda of
Relationships-
Making sense of
why you picked
each other and
why you are
fighting
Your Imago
Unmet
childhood Needs
Relationship
Stages
Conflict is for
the purpose of
growth and
healing

35. You Will See your Spouse
Differently

36. Fall in Love Again

37. What Couples are Saying about our Mind
Blowing Insight and Life Changing Solution
“After going through your program, I feel like a
completely different person. Although we have
spent years in therapy, we were still on the
verge of divorce. The skills we have learned
with your Imago therapy have helped us break
the vicious cycle of conflict and we are actually
able to enjoy each other’s company again.”
Harold

38. Worst Marriage Ever?
I receive your weekly blogposts and read your recent post entitled “ How do you know when your marriage is
over?”. You debunked common reasons that couples see as warranting divorce and boldly claim that even the
worst marriage can be saved. I wanted to write you so that you can share with your readers our story because if
any marriage was doomed to fail, it was surely ours.
We came to see you almost a year ago for therapy. As you may remember we only came for one session and we
were in bad shape. My husband did not want to continue and being that we he was unemployed and I was
making a meager salary, we couldn’t afford weekly sessions. We did get your digital program though we didn’t
touch it for months. The marriage got worse to the point where he through burning grease at my face. I
thought it was over. Things only got worse from there. My husband was put in jail on false charges, I lost my
job, and then I found myself sick for months. I discovered there was a sewage leak in my bedroom that was
contributing to my condition. This was the turning point. When we first received the digital download, I
downloaded your audio mp3s to my husband’s phone, hoping he would listen to them.
I started to notice that our communication had changed. He had implemented some of the strategies you
suggest on his own. We began connecting again. We stopped the constant bickering. For the first time in a long
time, I had hope that our marriage could succeed.
We are now expecting our first child any day now and couldn’t be happier. Thank you so much. Your program
saved our marriage and we are eternally grateful. Please continue to let other couples know that if your
program could help us, it could help anyone, as you would be hard pressed to find a marriage as bad as ours
was.
Z, Baltimore, MD

39. “Like You Were Talking Directly To Us!”
“When we listened to your audios, we
thought you were talking directly to us.
Everything you said was so relevant to
our situation.”
Margie, Ohio

40. 100% Money Back
Guarantee
60 Days. No noticeable improvement at all to your marriage. Full
Refund.

41. The Price is $147
That’s 3 Classes
Jam-Packed with Practical Tools that You
can Apply Immediately.
90 Minutes of Counseling = $225
1 Hour of Counseling = $150

42. That’s 3 Hours of Marriage
Counseling for the Price of 1

43. Bonuses for You! Commit to
Your Success!
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Retention
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44. We Don’t Know when
We are Reopening up
The Bootcamp
Our schedule only permits us to do
this for these next 3 weeks. We don’t
know when we will have the
opportunity to offer this again.

45. Questions?

46. Final Thoughts…

47. See you Next Week!
Thank you for joining us.