This document provides an overview of a program to help prepare expatriates for living and working in the United States. The program covers understanding American culture, communicating effectively, doing business, and living in the US. It discusses American values, history, regions, diversity, and current issues. Tips are provided for adapting to a new culture and building intercultural skills to enhance work and life abroad. The objectives are to develop cultural self-awareness, knowledge of American culture, and strategies for bridging cultural differences.
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Welcome to the United States
An Acculturation Conversation
Prepared for: COMPANY
Date: LOGO
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Program Overview
1. Your Expat Experience
Your Motivation and Expectations
Culture and Adaptation
2. Understanding the US
The Land and the History
The Values and the People
3. Communicating in the US
Styles and Strategies
American English Today
4. Doing Business in the US
Eight Scales of Culture
Working on Intercultural Teams
5. Living in the US
Your New Home
Your Personal Action Plan
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Program Objectives
• Encourage self-awareness and general understanding of culture
• Develop knowledge of a new culture and the skills of adaptation
• Learn strategies to bridge the gaps so as to create relationships and build trust
• Learn to align expectations while striving to suspend judgment
• Enjoy enhanced interpersonal skills leading to increased confidence and satisfaction
• Develop enthusiasm for the task at hand and the opportunities it brings for personal growth
Program Benefits
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• Your motivations for moving
• Your family’s expectations
• Your goals longterm
• Your objectives today
1. Your Expat Experience
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A set of shared
assumptions and values
learned over a lifetime with
communal symbols, heroes and
rituals
Let’s compare cultural notes!
What is Culture?
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WHAT IS CULTURAL COMPETENCE?
WHAT ARE CULTURAL LENSES?
“We don’t see things as they are, we see them as we are.”
~ Anais Nin
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In peach cultures, such as the US, people tend
to be friendly—soft on the outside—with new
acquaintances. They smile frequently at
strangers, move quickly to first-name usage,
share information about themselves, and ask
personal questions of those they hardly know.
But after a little friendly interaction with a peach,
a hard-shelled, soft-centered coconut— like a
French person—may suddenly get to the hard
shell of the peach pit, where the peach retracts
attention and ends the “relationship”. This is
unconsciously deceptive: Americans are
generally friendly, but they value their personal
space and their families, and they move homes
and jobs frequently. Friendliness doesn’t mean
friendship.
Peach Meets Coconut
Can you identify with either of these?
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7 Common Sense Ways to Ease Adjustment
• Be self-aware—manage expectations
• Question ethnocentric attitudes
• Be organized to meet challenges
• Seek support with like-minded groups
• Extend your cooperative network
• Cultivate interests—explore your
options
• Make an effort to remain positive
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5 Factors of Success Predictability
1.Job knowledge and motivation
2.Relational skills
3.Flexibility and adaptability
4.Extra-cultural openness
5.Family adjustment
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Regional Differences
• New England—Traditional
• Mid-Atlantic—Business
• The South—Bible Belt
• The Midwest—Bread Basket
• Mountain—Pioneers
• The Southwest—Artistic
• The West—Inventive
BIG 5 PERSONALITY DIMENSIONS
Neuroticism, Extraversion, Openness, Agreeableness,
Conscientiousness
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Sri Lankans on Staten Island
Arabs in Brooklyn
Ghanaians in the Bronx
A mosaic of cultures
QUEENS, NYC
The New Immigrant Enclave of NYC
The Most Diverse Place on
Earth
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An insatiable lust for land created the paradox of the frontier character…once land was secured with
toil, the pioneer was restless and went looking for something more, something farther…
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Manifest Destiny and the Homestead Act ~ 1862
“It is our manifest destiny to
overspread and to possess the
whole of the continent which
Providence has given us for the
development of the great
experiment of liberty and federated
self-government entrusted to us.”
~John O’Sullivan, 1845
“Go West,
young man,
and grow up the
land.”
~Horace Greeley’s
clarion call
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The Indian Wars
1866–1890
Indians were either
slaughtered or systematically
rounded up to be “housed”
on “reservations” where they
often starved to death due to
corruption and indifference.
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A nation of immigrants passes through Ellis Island, welcomed by Lady Liberty,
seeking the American Dream in the “Land of Opportunity”.
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• Challenge tradition
• Think outside the box
• Embrace change
• Treat everyone as equals
• Respect the privacy of others
• Abide by the law of the land
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Entrepreneurs start young, learning the value of work and ingenuity.
•• Control over ones destiny
• The Puritan Work Ethic
• Self-reliance
• Do-it-yourself
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“The Miracle Worker”
Annie Sullivan teaches deaf and
blind Helen to connect with the
world. Helen later graduates from
Radcliffe and travels to 35
countries to speak up for the
disabled. Many schools for the
deaf and blind were started
around the world because of her.
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Family and Community
• Family Values
• Houses of Worship
• Service Organizations
• Sports and Team Spirit
• Education and School Spirit
The People
“Dad coaches” are a thing!
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The truth is many
suburban parents
raise “normal kids”
from their “homes
away from homes”
(their cars) while
juggling jobs.
…with super
kids!
Moms
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Hillary—2008
“Although we weren't able to
shatter that highest, hardest glass
ceiling this time, thanks to you, it's
got about 18 million cracks in it.”
Changing Gender Roles
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EDUCATION in the US:
How to manage student life from pre-school to adult school
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Government and Politics
• Balance of Power
• Branches of Government
• Political Parties
• Voting Rights / Voting Cycle
• Civic Engagement
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Black Lives Matter vs. Police, Gun Control, Immigration, A Living Wage, LGBT rights,
Reproductive Rights, Climate Change
Current Issues
39. Some cultures don’t trust smiles, and some find smilers less
intelligent.
A nation’s ideal affect is how people want to feel.
US: High-arousal states are energizing.
EAST ASIA: Low-arousal states are soothing.
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Tips for Interacting with Americans
• Smile, shake hands, make eye contact
• Be informal—use first names
• Show appreciation—we like to be liked
• Don’t criticize or complain
• Treat everyone equally
• Be brief and direct
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American English Today
• How are you is a greeting, not a question
• Practice asking questions—watch doors open
• Scheduling formulas—in, on, down?
• Social vocabulary: Wanna’ hang out later?
• Phone and texting: voice mail formula; spelling names
• You guys can be just girls/women
• How to use get in every other sentence
• Meaning is in the music—rhythm and pitch
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Edward Hall, a forerunner of cultural anthropology in the 70s, developed this model.
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Other influencers of cross-cultural studies in the workplace
Geert Hofstede1980
Fons Trompenaars1993
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Eight scales of management culture
1. Communicating – low-context or high-context
2. Evaluating – indirect negative feedback or direct negative feedback
3. Persuading – applications-first or principles-first
4. Leading – egalitarian or hierarchy
5. Deciding – consensual or top-down
6. Trusting – task-based or relationship-based
7. Disagreeing – avoids confrontation or confrontational
8. Scheduling – linear-time or flexible-time
erinmeyer.com
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1. Communicating
• Be explicit—it’s yes or no
• Win respect—be direct and brief
• Add value—speak up
• Meet challenges—be positive
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Working in American English
• The 7 Cs: clear, concise, concrete, correct,
coherent, complete, courteous
• Clarify and follow up
• Email to get results
• Present for an American audience
• Establish credibility with a low, loud voice
• Maintain comfort with body language
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2. Evaluating
• Give positive feedback directly on the spot
• Use Management by Objectives (MBO)
model
• Practice meritocracy over favoritism
• Praise individual achievement vs. team
performance
• Motivate with perks
• Give negative feedback indirectly
positive—negative—positive
• May send conflicting signals to those
expecting American straight talk!
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3. Persuading
• Informal, pragmatic, rational, single-minded,
tenacious, creative, straightforward, explicit
• Short-term, big picture view
• Quickly reach a favorable deal
• Applications-first versus principles first
• Self-promotion: American second-nature
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4. Leading
• Flat superior-subordinate relationship—egalitarian
• Align needs, balance strengths
• Welcome expertise at all levels
• Delegate—do not micro-manage
• Clear away impediments
• Mentor down
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Strategies for Leaders of Multicultural Teams
• Familiarize your team with cultural differences specific to your national mix
• Discuss these differences—invisible psychological boundaries—in light of the
impact on collaboration and productivity
• Brainstorm strategies to bridge differences and increase effectiveness
• Coach team members to suspend judgment and to actively gap cultural divides
• Match people’s styles to projects so as to meet your clients’ needs
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5. Deciding
• SURPRISE: Egalitarian Americans decide “top down”
• Making unilateral decisions quickly = efficiency =
success; decisions are flexible and subject to revision
• May lead to lack of trust from counterparts and slow
implementation (consensual style = rapid
implementation)
• Historical conditioning in a young culture mandates
experimentation and innovation
• High tolerance for risk stems from an opportunity ethos
and a notion of abundance
• Spontaneity and improvising encourages creativity,
intuition, and confidence
• Failure can be instructive and lead to breakthroughs
• “Analysis paralysis” is a source of frustration
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6. Trusting
• US: Task-based cognitive trust >
achievement
• Relationship affective trust > closeness
• US teams based on situational trust >
established by objective
• Marked mobility creates turnover, minimizing
time spent on building relationships
• Emphasis on efficiency and contracts
• May be seen as a lack of sincerity and loyalty
• Longterm projects may be jeopardized by
frequent change of management/missions
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7. Disagreeing
• Approach issues openly and directly but by
using polite language and
qualifiers/downgrade terms > high courtesy
• “Agree to disagree”
• Avoid getting upset or personal: Americans
are less expressive than many cultures
• Saving face is of less concern to the
American, who will easily disagree with
superiors when input is welcome
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8. Scheduling
• US > a controlled-timed, mono-chronic,
short-term society—always do what’s next!
• Scheduling can be in terms of minutes
• Being on time for appointments is expected
• Consistently meeting deadlines is rewarded
• Be decisive: any decision is better than no
decision
• Get to the point quickly with minimal
backstory in meetings and presentations
• Time is money
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Meetings and Conf Calls
• Could this meeting be an email?
• Has everyone done their needed prep?
• Distribute a precise agenda—with
suggested timing of items—to potential
attendees so they can decide whether their
presence is needed
• Disagree openly—honesty is essential
• Start and end on time; stay on topic and be
concise; give options for follow up and
further discussion; reach a conclusion
• Americans often follow up with an email
summary—this is not a sign of mistrust
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Strategies for Americans on Intercultural Teams
• Communicating: allow for silence; listen carefully; direct may be rude
• Evaluating: check that your message was completely understood
• Persuading: appeal to broader, more nuanced concepts
• Leading: be culturally attuned to each individual’s style
• Deciding: factor in lag time for more careful consideration from colleagues
• Trusting: connect on a deeper level with colleagues, even by email
• Disagreeing: adapt your style based on culture—less or more direct
• Scheduling: respect other approaches to time management
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5. Living in the US
• UPS leaves packages on door steps
• Americans give their ATM cards to bartenders
• Alternate merge keeps road rage to a minimum
• With 3000 miles of land, Las Vegas, Disney,
beaches, and family members widespread, we
don’t all need passports
• And yes, everything is BIG
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Shopping
• There’s a sale for every possible occasion
• Grocery stores advertise their specials in
their circulars
• A Costco membership is worth it for a family
with kids
• Outlet shopping is available in every
direction
• Coupons and reward points make a
difference
• Beware state sales tax —7% in NJ—on
everything but clothes and groceries
Never buy anything at full price!
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The Jersey Shore, cherry blossoms in Newark, the island of Manhattan:
this is your new “backyard”!
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The Accompanying Spouse—Your Agenda for Success
• Communicating
• Third Culture children
• School involvement
• Networking
• Resources and groups
• Resume vs. CV
• LinkedIn profile
• Portable career
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Your Personal Action Plan
• Social Security, drivers license, transportation, local services
• Medical, security, safety
• Cell phone/cable/internet provider
• Back to school
• Networking, expat organizations, support, community groups
• Identify major challenges and list action steps learned from today’s program
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Hugh Evans started a movement
that mobilizes "global citizens”,
people who self-identify first and
foremost not as members of a state,
nation, or tribe but as members of the
human race.
What does it mean to be
a citizen of the world?
TED
“Culture hides more than what it reveals, and strangely enough, what it hides, it hides most effectively from its own participants.” Edward Hall, The Silent Language
What are some “popular” stereotypes of Americans from people of your culture?
What are some “popular” American stereotypes of people from your culture?
Stereotypes vs. generalizations; cultural lenses and competence
NE: live to work vs. rural SOUTH: overtly bible belt, southern hospitality, conservative MW: bread basket, curious, patient,conservative SW: quality of life, artistic, harmony with nature, native and hispanic; NW: high-tech; live and let live progressive, protective of life style.
The invasion of the American West by white settlers was triggered by a massive immigration of Scotch-Irish, who were fleeing the bad harvests, high rents, and suppression of Presbyterianism in Northern Ireland.
Hardship and the constant dangers of the frontier made them stern, violent, clannish, and fiercely independent.
Their greatest resources were their endurance, labor, and ingenuity.Their slice of land was not so much wealth as dignity.
Daniel Boone, a heroic deerslayer and Indian killer, became the uncrowned king.
America could not survive without the west. From 1841to 1846, nearly 5 million people, mostly German and Irish immigrants, had packed into the eastern cities, creating just the kind of problems the founding fathers had feared.
Garage bands and land of start ups
Levels of education; cost; practical
National Rifle Association and the 2nd Amendment: The Right to Bear Arms
Aurora, Fort Hood, Edmond, San Bernadino, San Isidro, Sandy Hook, Blacksburg, Orlando
How to understand and be understood: prosody
/uh/ /th/ /d/ vs. /t/ : would’ve, could’ve, should’ve to capture meaning: gonna, gotta, wanna, lemme jus’ to recognize past tense: when dja = when did you
Corporate Social ResponsibilityHelp all participants recognize the complexity of working in a cross-cultural environment
Establish that assumptions and practices vary dramatically from one cultural environment to another
Identify and develop strategies for maximizing success when working in a cross-cultural environment
Define “downgrade terms”; the “daddy voice”; lingo
facial expressions and gestures
When giving negative feedback consider not only how many upgraders or downgraders you are using, but also whether to wrap positive feedback around negative feedback. Although Americans are stereotyped around the world for their directness, if you give negative feedback in the U.S. by launching into the criticism (as would be common in countries like Russia), you may find that your American counterpart is anything but receptive. You’ll have better luck if you explicitly state something that you appreciate about the person or the situation before moving onto what you’d like that person to do differently. In addition, try over time to be balanced in the amount of positive and negative feedback you give. If you notice something positive your colleague has done, say it there and then, with explicit appreciation. Then, if you need to criticise them later, your comments are more likely to be heard and considered rather than rejected out-of-hand. PERQUISITES: PROMOTIONS, TRAINING OPP, RAISES PARKING, EMPLOYEE OF THE MONTH
dialectic: thesis, antithesis, synthesis based on case studies and precedents
Egalitarian/individualist (particulalist) Yankee independence delegate team decision making low power distance such as elaborate procedures or excessive testing
; accept own limitations —rise of Corporate Coaching
with organizational culture
Spearhead Corporate Social Responsibility (CSR)
"Oh, how I hate the American tipping custom," laments a New Zealand businessman on traveller.com. "I just hope Americans can be understanding of foreigners who either don't know or understand the system, or simply don't have small denomination cash on them.”
"I think it's awful that these people have to rely on tipping to make a decent wage," posts a VirtualTourist international traveler in New York City. "We will tip the expected amount, of course, but I just feel it's a lot to add onto our bills."
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