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The Mesothelioma Center's July Support Group - Talking to Children About Mesothelioma
1. Supporting Children and Grandchildren
When You Have Cancer
Dana Nolan MS, LMHC, NCC
Licensed Mental Health Counselor
2. The Times They Are a-Changin’
Historical perspective:
Paternalistic
What experts in child
psychology now know
Resources available
(800) 615-2270
3. Basics of Supporting Children
Honest, timely and ongoing
communication
Age-appropriate information and support
Minimize changes to daily family routine
Share the responsibility of providing
support
Allow children to cope as individuals
Involve children in treatment activities
(800) 615-2270
4. Education and Communication
The hardest part…
Why does this part scare
parents and grandparents
so much?
Age-appropriate knowledge
is protective
Trust-building
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5. Basics of Educating Children About Cancer
Children Under age 2:
Can’t understand concept of cancer
Distressed by disruption of routine
Separation/attachment issues
Children ages 2-7:
Use simple terms like “good” and “bad” cells
Reassure children their behavior did not cause the cancer
and that disease isn’t contagious
Explain treatment in terms of how it will affect them and
their routine
(800) 615-2270
6. Basics of Educating Children About Cancer
(con’t.)
Children ages 7-12:
Able to understand more about causes and effects of serious
illness, but keep explanations simple
Children ages 12+:
Capable of abstract thought
Can understand more in depth explanations
May want to know details and research on their own
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7. Pictures and Hands-On
When explaining treatment information to children,
pictures/illustrations or a tour of the treatment facility
will help them understand.
For younger children, drawing pictures (draw granddad
with no hair) helps them to express their
thoughts/feelings about the situation.
If they are interested in seeing medication port,
radiation treatment site, scars, feeding tube – let them.
But don’t push.
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9. Timing and Setting of Communication
Remember your own
experience first learning about
your diagnosis
The younger the child, the
shorter the talk
Don’t just communicate facts
of cancer, add emotions and
thoughts
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10. Communication During and After
Treatment
Children’s thoughts/feelings change
just as ours do throughout the cancer
experience
Normalize thoughts and feelings of
sadness, anger, joy, fear and
frustration
Continually offer children of all ages
opportunity to talk or ask questions.
They will eventually take you up on
it!
(800) 615-2270
11. Minimize Changes to Daily Routine
Try to keep children's school and activity schedules as
normal as possible. It keeps them balanced
Let teacher know that child has a family member with
cancer
Chores/responsibilities/consequences still apply
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12. Share the Care
“Let me know if there is anything I can do…”
Transport children to school/activities
Organize play dates/sleepovers
Meals brought to home
Ask family members/friends to offer children opportunity to
talk/vent, but not pressure them to talk
(800) 615-2270
13. Children Coping as Individuals
Quiet children can become more silent
Lively children can become more active
Anxious children can become more restless, etc….
(800) 615-2270
14. When Do We Need Extra Help?
Children’s (and teenager’s)
behaviors are better indicators than
their words
“You seem (sad, worried, lonely,
angry, etc.) lately…can you tell me
what is going on?”
It may not have to do with cancer
(800) 615-2270
15. Resources Available for Supporting
Children
Counseling
Tour of a Facility
See resource list for
books, websites and
organizations that can
help!
(800) 615-2270
16. Books/Websites That Help
“My Daddy’s Cancer: An interactive book for children”
by C. Cohen
“What IS Cancer anyway? Explaining cancer to children of all ages”
by Barkley and Eve Series
“Can I still kiss you?”
by N. Russell
“When a parent has cancer: A guide to caring for your children”
by W. Halpern
http://www.cancercare.org/publications/49-
helping_children_understand_cancer_talking_to_your_kids_about_your
_diagnosis
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