 The document discusses six different styles of love identified by psychologists: Eros, Ludus, Storge, Mania, Pragma, and Agape.  Eros love is passionate and sexual, but fleeting. Ludus love is game-playing and non-committal. Storge love develops from long-term friendship. Mania love is obsessive and dependent. Pragma love is practical and compatible. Agape love is selfless, caring and forgiving.  Each style tends to correlate with certain personality traits and relationship behaviors. Positive matches between styles include Storge-Agape and Pragma-Agape, while negative matches include Mania-

2. No one knows for sure why or even how
love happens although while studying the
different aspects of love, psychologist
have found six different styles of love.
Eros Love
Ludus Love
Storge Love
Mania Love
Pragma Love
Agape Love

3. Eros love can be
classified as a highly
sexually and emotional
charged relationship
between two people. An
eros lover would likely
take risk in the
relationship. Most eros
lovers desire a partner
with highly physical
attractive qualities.

4. Eros lovers usually feel
genuinely attracted to
another individual,
although their love
tends to be
subconsciously a
narcissistic love in
certain aspects.
Eros lovers are typically very romantic and seem
to burn with desire for their partner. However
this type of all consuming love cannot stand the
test of time. Once their desires are satisfied,
eros lovers typically move on to their conquest
and the cycle starts all over again.

5. Some psychologist believe that eros
lovers can bring many potentially
positives to a relationship. Some eros
lovers concern for their partners well
being tend to establish healthy
communication skills. A study should
eros lovers will more likely comprise on
conflicts with integrating and obligingly
then other love styles.
Those who exhibit this love style tend
to be more extroverted and agreeable
then most, while also having a higher
self esteem. Typically eros lovers do not
partake in deviate behavior such as
drugs, antisocialism, and depression.

6.  Society tends to look down on those who follow the
ludus love style. The ludus lover prefers maintaining
several relationships at once then settling down with
one person. Ludus lovers prefer the thrill of the chase
then actually making a real emotional connection with
a partner.

7. Those who lean more to the ludus style tend to remain
unsatisfied with their current relationships. Ludus style
tend to avoid jealousy in a relationship even though
their relationships tend to be short lived. Typically ludus
lovers do not tend to concern themselves whether their
partner is loyal or not . Most prefer a more sexual
relationship then one with more of a deep emotional
attachment involved.
Neuroticism has found a
positive link about Ludus
lovers. Showing that
people who have unstable
personality traits may
become involved in
game-playing or non-
committed behaviors.

8. Ludus lovers tend to use manipulation in order to
control or exploit their partners flaws. This can
involve lying, cheating, and deception in order to get
what they want. Love is only a game to a ludus lover,
they never attach to anyone too close so they never are
hurt by loves cruel thorn at times yet they never feel
loves security either.

9.  Storge love usually comes from a long term friendship
that has gradually turned into love. Storge lovers focus
more on compatibility and companionship then
physical attractiveness. They generally focuses more
the friendship aspect of the relationship and not so
much on the sexually aspect as some other love styles
do.

10. Storge lovers are usually described as loyal and
trustworthy. They do not usually fall into love
instantly or necessarily have the mindset of love at
first sight, they would prefer to cultivate a relationship
slowly over time. Storge lovers tend to want to
familiarize themselves with their partner before
intense emotions come into play. This takes time and a
desire to want to understand their partner while
feeling genuine feelings of love towards them. This is
why they usually are friends with their partner before
they fall in love with them.
Studies have show the storge lovers
have are negatively correlated with
depression, impulsiveness, and
neuroticism.

11. Storge lovers tend to place a lot of importance on
commitment so that neither partner breaks the others
trust with infidelity. Sex is usually a less of importance
on this love style then others, usually because this love
style is more focused on the emotional aspect of
belonging and sense of security. This love does not come
with a lot of feelings per-say yet is full of security and
comfort in this relationship.

12.  Usually these lovers are very possessive and
dependent on their partners. They typically
become extremely obsessed with their love
partners and cannot think logically when
they are not around them.
 This style of love tends to fall in love very
quickly and this love is overwhelming for
them turning their very life upside down.

13. Manic lovers tend to have lower self esteem as well as
impulse control and some studies have shown they have
higher rats for depression and borderline personality
disorder
Manic lovers desire a lot of attention and affection, when
not given this they can perceive this as rejection which does
not lead to positive results. Usually they have a lot of anxiety
and with this high anxiety levels if they perceive rejection
this would only intensify their anxieties.

14. Manic lovers tend to be extremely jealous even if some of their
jealousy seen as irrational. They do not do well with loss of
contact with their partners no matter the for how short of time.
They can become very easily distressed without their partner or
at least their whereabouts.
When their partners turn their focus away from them, manic
lovers tend to try anything in their power to bring their partners
attention back on themselves no matter how foolish they may
look. Manic lovers love intensely and want to be loved intensely
back so much so they become obsessed with the relationship and
worry constantly that it will fail.

15.  Love is not intense, overwhelming , or crazy yet based
on reason and common sense, to a pragma lover. Pragma
lovers usually choose a partner with whom they are very
compatible with, and are a practical choose for their
economical and social status.

16. In cultures where people A typical pragma lover does not
tend to arrange marriages usually invest their time in love in
the people in there someone who is “unworthy”.
relationships tend to have a Pragmatic lovers tend to look at
pragmatic love style. There each of their assets an look for
is no passion or friendship the best “deal” in their lover
in these marriages but their before attaching themselves to
commitment. If there is a them. Usually pragmatic lovers
issue or problem they will are faithfully and loyal as long
work as a team to fix this nothing changes in their partner,
problem. if this happens they ten to look
for another partner. Pragmatic
lovers tend worry about social
then personal qualities.

17. When entering a relationship they will go down a check list of
person to see if they are truly compatible; “Will this person get
along with my family”, “Will this person earn enough money to
make life easier”, and “Will they be a good mother/father?”.
When they find someone who meets much of their criteria they
then look at their family history, and check up on their partners
family in order to find out about hereditary problems.
Pragmatic lovers tend to break up or
divorce for practical reasons. These
relationships do not typically fall though
due to the fact that pragmatic lovers have
more realistic expectations in their
relationship. When they do get divorced
though they may actually plan the divorce
for some future date, such as after putting
their youngest child through school or reach
a certain goal then they can get a divorce.

18.  Agape lovers tend to want to care and
nurture their partner. This love tends to be a
compassionate, caring, and selfless type of
love. Usually this love is more so associated
with God in many religions.

19. Agapic love is extremely forgiving assumes when their
partner mess up it is only because of ignorance or
through error that is not in their partners typical
personality. If an agapic lover partner had an affair and an
child was conceived with another man he would love the
child and concern himself with the pain his partner may
be feeling. If his partner contracted a STI from someone
he would more than likely help his partner through the
hard times and help medically then be anger over the
affair.
Agapic lovers do not tend to simply fall in love their love
is always open to others even strangers as long as you let
them in. They offer a more spiritual love that does not
seek to gain personal rewards. An agapic lover cares
about their partners happiness and would let go of their
partners if they seemed happier somewhere else.

20. Most agapic lovers would be willing to accept a partner who is
tied with immoral or illegal activities even with they personally
disapproved of such behaviors. An agapic lover will always
support their partner no matter what. They are also very patient
with the behaviors of their partners.
With agapic lovers they tend to forget their
own needs and desires. Nothing wrong
with agapic love unless taken to the
extremes this can cause a problem.
Religiously agape love style due to its self-
sacrificing nature can be seen as admirable.

21.  Storge - with agape or  Agape- Ludus
pragma
 Agape- 90% of other styles  Manic- Ludus
 Manic - with agape, and  Storge-Ludus
under the right
circumstances Eros  Manic- Pragma
 Pragma - with agape or
storge  Pragma- Eros
 ·Ludus - best with Ludus
 ·Eros - under the right
circumstances with
Storge, agape, Pragma, or
manic, if that person
meets erotic ideals
Positive matches Negative matches

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