1. mirror image activity: Facing each other have students switch on and off being a leader or a follower with their bodies switch after 1 minute 2. Group discussion

Self-esteem High vs. low self esteem What qualities do we have to offer?

How do stereotypes affect us? Media, Music, The way you dress…what do you think?

Components of healthy relationships:

Effective communication handout Quality conversations Understanding emotions and inner feelings (p. 20 in engagement handbook Conflict resolution skills

Problem Solving Scenarios

Trust Importance of you in a relationship and still maintaining friendships and independence

Quality Time Together

Violent or Unhealthy Relationships: Dating violence handouts Reality not Myth Taking action

What you need to remember:

How to Help a Friend Who is Being Abused Listen to what your friend has to say. Don't be Judgmental! Don't make them feel ashamed. They probably feel bad enough already. Tell your friend that you are available when they need to talk . Make it clear that you care, and that you are worried. Talk in private and don't gossip about what your friend has confided. Let the person know why you are concerned. Be specific . Refer to certain incidents you have witnessed and not to the relationship in general. Talk about what you saw and how it made you feel . Tell them the ways you believe the specific behavior is having an impact on them - "When she put you down you seemed embarrassed and then you made excuses for what she did." Or "When he was yelling you seemed frightened. "Offer to get information 180's 2nd Floor, Youth Helpline, 888.222.2228On line sites include - www.loveisnotabuse.comDon't give ultimatums - "If you don't break up with him (or her) I'm not going to talk to you anymore."

When to talk to an adult.. Who should you talk to? Sit down privately with your friend and come up with the right person together. Write down what you need from the adult, what you want them to be like. Make sure the adult you choose has your best interest at heart. It might be a parent, a teacher, a school counselor, a coach, or a friend's parent. Chart out all the adults you know and figure out who is your best ally. If you think your friend is in physical danger , but he or she doesn't want to seek any help, go ahead and tell an adult you trust. If you think the person's at serious risk, tell him or her you are going to go to an adult, and then do it.

The Cycle of Violence

Personal Rights in a Relationship THE RIGHT to refuse requests without having to feel guilty or selfish. THE RIGHT to express my feelings, including anger, as long as I don't violate the rights of others. THE RIGHT to be competitive and to achieve. THE RIGHT to have my needs be as important as the needs of other people. THE RIGHT to decide which activities will fulfill my needs. THE RIGHT to make mistakes and be responsible for them. THE RIGHT to have my opinions given the same respect and consideration as others'. THE RIGHT to change my mind. THE RIGHT to be independent. THE RIGHT to be treated respectfully. THE RIGHT to be cooperative and giving and not be taken advantage of. THE RIGHT to be safe.