not what you hope to do but what you
realistically expect to do
not what you tell others but your innermost
thoughts about your realistic capabilities,
not pride in past deeds but a realistic judgment
about what you are able to do
How One Can Build Self
Planning = Confidence
Decide what you will say,
Practice how you will deliver it,
Thinking about what you will say?
Who are you talking to?
What do you want to achieve?
What are your main messages?
Steps To Built Self
1.) Cultivating a Good Attitude
2.) Dealing with Emotion
3.) Practicing Self-care
4.) Setting Goals and Taking Risks
5.) Getting & Giving help Building Confidence
1.) Cultivating a Good Attitude:
Identify your negative thoughts. Your negative thoughts might sound like
this: "I can't do that," "I will surely fail", "no one wants to hear what I
have to say." This inner voice is unhelpful and will hold you back from
achieving high self-esteem and greater self-confidence.
2.) Dealing with Emotion:
Be patient with yourself. Sometimes you go backwards to go forwards.
Gaining self-confidence does not happen overnight. You might try
something new and not meet your goal. Not meeting your goal the first
time around is an opportunity to learn more about yourself. Self-
confidence needs to be nurtured and grown, a bit at a time.
3.) Practicing Self-care:
Take care of yourself. There are many small steps to this one action. It
involves maintaining your personal grooming by bathing regularly,
brushing and flossing your teeth, and eating tasty and healthy food. It
also means making time for yourself, even when you are very busy
and when others monopolize much of your time.
4.) Setting Goals and Taking Risks:
Set small and achievable goals. Often, people set unrealistic or
unattainable goals, and either become overwhelmed with the
challenge or never get started. This is a real damper for self-
5.) Getting & Giving Help Building
When you know you're kind to the people around you, and are making
a positive difference in other people's lives (even if it's just being kinder
to the person who serves you coffee in the morning), you'll know that
you are a positive force in the world, which will boost your self
confidence. Find a way to make helping others a part of your weekly