2. STAGES OF TALENT DEVELOPMENT 18 1 Romantic Stage —“This is fun!” 2 Technical Stage — doing it “right” 3 Mature Stage — high level
3. STAGES OF TALENT DEVELOPMENT Take Aways: • Beware of cutting the Romantic Stage too short • Manage the transition from Stage 1 to Stage 2 – avoid sacrificing fun • Talent is not obvious early • Support makes the difference 19
4. POSITIVE COACH MENTAL MODEL A Positive Coach is a “Double-Goal” Coach ®
5. POSITIVE COACH MENTAL MODEL A Positive Coach is a “Double-Goal” Coach 1. Winning (IMPORTANT) 2. Teaching Life Lessons (MORE IMPORTANT) ®
13. REDEFINING “WINNER” Scoreboard Definition Results Comparison with others Mistakes not OK 24 Mastery Definition Effort Learning Mistakes are OK
14. REDEFINING “WINNER” Scoreboard Definition Results Comparison with others Mistakes not OK 24 Mastery Definition Effort Learning Mistakes are OK The Tree of Mastery is an ELM TREE
15. REDEFINING “WINNER” Scoreboard Definition Results Comparison with others Mistakes not OK 24 Mastery Definition Effort Learning Mistakes are OK The Tree of Mastery is an ELM TREE Research shows: * Mastery Climate = Anxiety goes down = Self-confidence goes up
16. REDEFINING “WINNER” Scoreboard Definition Results Comparison with others Mistakes not OK 24 Mastery Definition Effort Learning Mistakes are OK The Tree of Mastery is an ELM TREE Mastery gives players a feeling of c______
17. REDEFINING “WINNER” Scoreboard Definition Results Comparison with others Mistakes not OK 24 Mastery Definition Effort Learning Mistakes are OK The Tree of Mastery is an ELM TREE Mastery gives players a feeling of c ontrol
18. REDEFINING “WINNER” Scoreboard Definition Results Comparison with others Mistakes not OK 24 Mastery Definition Effort Learning Mistakes are OK The Tree of Mastery is an ELM TREE Mastery gives players a feeling of c ontrol > work harder > stick to it longer
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23. FILLING THE EMOTIONAL TANK E-Tank is like a gas tank 28 EMPTY Less coachable FULL More coachable
36. EMPOWERING CONVERSATIONS 3. Listen! — vs. waiting to talk • It’s a gift you give your child • Ask rather than tell 57
37. EMPOWERING CONVERSATIONS 3. Listen! — vs. waiting to talk • It’s a gift you give your child • Ask rather than tell • Ask open-ended questions 57
38. EMPOWERING CONVERSATIONS 3. Listen! — vs. waiting to talk • It’s a gift you give your child • Ask rather than tell • Ask open-ended questions • Show you are listening 57
39. EMPOWERING CONVERSATIONS 3. Listen! — vs. waiting to talk • It’s a gift you give your child • Ask rather than tell • Ask open-ended questions • Show you are listening • Resist the urge to “fix” it 57
40. EMPOWERING CONVERSATIONS 57 Let the child set the terms • Follow the child’s emotional schedule • Connect through activity • Be patient and persistent
42. HONORING THE GAME 4 Gets to the R OOTS of positive play RULES • Refuse to bend the rules to win 36
43. HONORING THE GAME 4 Gets to the R O OTS of positive play RULES OPPONENTS • “ Fierce and friendly” 36
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45. HONORING THE GAME 4 Gets to the ROO T S of positive play RULES OPPONENTS OFFICIALS TEAMMATES • Never do anything to embarrass our team 36
46. HONORING THE GAME 4 Gets to the ROO T S of positive play RULES OPPONENTS OFFICIALS TEAMMATES SELF • Live up to your own standards even when others don’t! 36