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Can your relationships be enhanced by a relationship expert?
What can a relationship expert teach you that you do not already know?
Believe it or not, there are some discreet skills that a relationship expert can teach you that will make
your connections to other human beings more effective, whether those are professional or romantic
relationships.
For example, Robert Epstein, Ph.D., Helen Fisher, Ph.D., and John Gottman, Ph.D. are researchers whose
research I believe offers tremendous benefits to those willing to read their work and try it out.
Professor Epstein has been writing recently and really challenging our Western concept of courtship, for
example.
Epstein wonders why 95% of arranged marriages in India are long lasting and grow in happiness when
our divorce rate, even with the intervention of the Fairy Godmother, is 50% in our first, second, and
even third marriages. Kezai-Noble course on relationship expert
Epstein says that maybe we should do some intimacy building exercises as couples in order to share the
benefits of a long lasting union.
Helen Fisher, Ph.D., has been studying the phenomenon of romantic love, and she says that we have the
best chance of a successful union if we start the romantic love process with a compatible personality
type.
Want to discover what your type is? Well, you have to take her personality quiz at Chemistry. The idea
of engineering romantic love sure appeals to me.
John Gottman, Ph.D., and Julie Schwartze-Gottman, LCSW, have been observing couples for 30 years at
the 'love lab', and they have some real insights about how to make relationship longer lasting and much
more fun.
For example, they can observe a couple and tell you within a few minutes whether the relationship will
last, based on the number of times they see expressions of contempt, stonewalling, criticism, and
defensiveness.
The Guttmann’s observations of couples are videotaped over the course of a weekend at least, and
broken down by a team of experts for non-verbal communication patterns, they look at your urine and
blood for stress hormones, etc. so this is a serious observation.

2. The Guttmann’s have teased out a number of skills that the folks who are successful in relationship, who
they call the Master's of Marriage, appear to have, and they have put those together in a workshop
called The Art and Science of Love.
I have taken segments of that workshop and used it with my domestic violence counseling clients, who
are often amazed that relationship has discreet skills that they can learn.
Back to relationship expert Robert Epstein, Ph.D., who says that we in the West can have long lasting
relationships with all the benefits that result for our children and our health if we put aside our Disney
Prince Charming meets Cinderella at the ball and they live happily ever after with the help of the Fairy
Godmother relationship model and make some effort to practice intimacy, like a relationship workout, if
you will. Kezai-Noble Tips on relationship expert
Epstein has students in his university classes practice some of the exercises he prescribes for couples,
like soul gazing, where couples take a couple of minutes to look into each other's eyes, not stare, but
gaze, and the students who do this report a stunning increase of feelings of closeness for the other
participant.
Another of the Epstein exercises involves synchronizing breathing, which I find interesting, because I
have used a heart rate variability biofeedback program with couples to teach them how to take a look at
the heart beat of the relationship.
The heart rate variability biofeedback program offers a wonderful way for couples to learn how to bring
their individual heart beat into coherence and then bring the heart beat of their relationship into
coherence.
Couples learn from this practice that the relationship is dynamic, and it changes from coherent to
incoherent and perhaps back to coherence based on their thoughts, breathing, and attention.
Relationship needs to be attended to heart beat by heart beat rather than crises by crises.
The best news for the new experts in relationship? When they learn to attend to their relationship in
brief intervals like heart beats, tuning relationship coherence is much easier.
I think reading about the ideas of the above researchers will go a long way towards making one much
more expert in relationships.