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Just as there are laws that govern the universe, there are laws that lead those who discover and apply them to become successful. Dr. Fahey presents success strategies based on science.

Just as there are laws that govern the universe, there are laws that lead those who discover and apply them to become successful. Dr. Fahey presents success strategies based on science.


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  1. 2. Are YOU Thinking About Changing! When Change Matters ’ tis the season for CHANGE
  2. 3. A play about highly actionable ideas or techniques for achieving greater success starting right now! Based on the book: Psychological Foundations of Success by Stephen J. Kraus, Ph.D. The Art and Science of Success Basics … And Why They Work!
  3. 4. Different people are at different points in life and have different needs
  4. 5. Examples <ul><li>There are those who are true learners of career success and never learning how to move their life from good to great </li></ul><ul><li>Others are a part of a driven sales-network for a company </li></ul><ul><li>Next, we have those who may be driven by the achievement of the work provided them and this includes the special talent to maintain a positive relationship between themselves and others </li></ul>
  5. 6. Other Examples <ul><li>Some may be seeking to build a strong family and relationships </li></ul><ul><li>Some may be struggling in some aspect of their lives and are in need of extra help and support and through their work are in search of their true purpose and meaning in life </li></ul><ul><li>Others may be struggling with bad habits such as with eating, drinking, smoking, or gambling </li></ul><ul><li>You, or someone you know may be at this time unable to stop grieving for a loved one or pet </li></ul><ul><li>As a result, so many question their ability to be successful, or more successful </li></ul>
  6. 7. How To Figure Out What You Want Out Of Life, …And How To Get It! What people tell me they want most What are some of the most common things people say they want?
  7. 8. Regarding Weight Loss <ul><li>Weight loss at the end of short-term programs can exceed 10% of individual body weight: however, there is a strong tendency to regain weight, with as much as two-thirds of the weight loss regained within 1 year of completing certain programs and almost all by 5 years. </li></ul>National Institute of Health Technology Assessment Conference Panel, 1993. For a more recent review that reaches similar conclusion, see Wadden, Brownell & Foster, 2002
  8. 9. Regarding Smoking <ul><li>80-90% would be smoking a year later, and over 95% would have smoked at some point in the previous 12 months. Successful quitters generally go through a cycle – trying to quite, failing to do so, and trying to quit again – it usually takes up to six times before quitting for good. </li></ul>
  9. 10. Thinking about Starting A Business <ul><li>Over ½ million businesses close each year </li></ul><ul><li>More than 95% of new (and old businesses because of changes) fail within the first three years </li></ul><ul><li>Success is rarely an accident </li></ul><ul><li>Being lucky has little to do with being successful </li></ul><ul><li>For decades, research shows only a few succeed, most do not. Why?  </li></ul>
  10. 11. BEING SUCCESSFUL <ul><li>There are consistent patterns of ATTITUDES and ACTIONS that differentiate successful people from their less successful counterparts </li></ul><ul><li>The differences appear in study after study, and stand out when we explore the lives of successful people </li></ul><ul><li>True achievers THINK about their lives differently, and use “different” techniques for bringing about life changes </li></ul><ul><li>Thus, the biggest barrier to success, then, lies in the process of how people bring about success </li></ul>
  11. 12. Common Strategies for Success <ul><li>The use of Willpower </li></ul><ul><li>The New Year’s Resolution </li></ul><ul><li>Use of Positive Affirmations </li></ul><ul><li>Cold Turkey </li></ul><ul><li>Pay For It </li></ul>
  12. 13. How do we know what really works? <ul><li>Great thinkers – All are unable to agree on or see the true drivers of success and happiness. </li></ul><ul><li>Research & Case Studies: By observing great minds of highly successful people </li></ul>
  13. 14. How do we know what really works? <ul><li>Successful Companies – spent billions on learning how to manifest success and successful people. </li></ul><ul><li>Societal Wisdom – Leaders have a vested interest in understanding and communicating the keys to success and do it through profound messages. This is done successfully through TV, books, movies, and even in children’s stories to perpetuate ideas about success and well-being across generations. </li></ul><ul><li>Psychotherapy – There are over 70,000 scientific articles on depression, and 57,000 on anxiety. Less than 3,000 on happiness </li></ul><ul><li>Myers, D.G. (2000). The funds, friends and faith of happy people. American Psychologist, 55, 56-67. </li></ul>
  14. 15. Science and Success in Practice <ul><li>Do you believe all prescription medicines are good for you? </li></ul><ul><li>What about all herbal supplements </li></ul><ul><li>How many have heard of the Snake oil salesman (special mixture call laudanum) </li></ul><ul><li>Do you believe subliminal tapes work? </li></ul><ul><li>The 1953 graduating class at Yale </li></ul><ul><ul><li>3% wrote specific goals for their futures </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>20 years later, that 3% was found to be worth more financially than the other 97% combined </li></ul></ul>True/False? iPE
  15. 16. Defining Success DICTIONARIES define success as getting what you want. Success is aspiring to something and then achieving it. Success is desiring something and then accomplishing it. The question is, “What do you want?” We also need to fully understand that getting what you want and wanting something good for you are two different things C. reating E. xtraordinary O. utcomes  
  16. 17. What works according to science? VISION The Science of Success is about the core elements of scientific research: Observation, Measurement, and Testing hypotheses in an objective way, and publishing research so that others can evaluate the conclusions and attempt to replicate the findings. Plotinus: “Vision needs no special gift or effort, but only the use of a faculty which all possess but few employ.”
  17. 18. <ul><li>“ If you don’t know where you’re going, you’ll get there.” </li></ul><ul><li>“ If you don’t know where you’re going, any place will do.” </li></ul><ul><li>“ If you aim for nothing, you’ll hit it.” </li></ul><ul><li>“ If you fail to plan, you plan to fail.” </li></ul><ul><li>“ If you don’t know where you are going, you leave your destiny to chance” </li></ul>Common Clichés
  18. 19. “ Successful People Achieve What They Want By “beginning with the end in mind.” (Covey, 1989, p. 95). Reference Covey, S. R. (1989). The 7 habits of highly effective people. New York NY: Free Press. Vision NOTE: More importantly, it is better to envision the acts of achievement.
  19. 20. Vision helps to focus effort and clarify priorities VISION Like researchers that study therapeutic effectiveness, successful technology business leaders have also concluded that vision is crucial to sustained success Harvard marketing guru Ted Levitt contends that “The future belongs to people who see possibilities before they become obvious,” and we even label such people (and companies) as visionary
  20. 21. Successful People Know What They Want
  21. 22. Successful people not only envision what their future will be like, but also who they will be in the future through a process of selective focusing on their FUTURESELVES that excite them the most
  22. 23. FIND YOUR PASSION Passion – meaning what lights up your emotional fire? Find your bliss! You are not here on earth to simply live, but to live for something significant – one needs passion and purpose in life Envisioning our FUTURESELVES is not only common, it actually plays an important role in our learning performance and our psychological and physical wellness Far from idle daydreams, images of our FUTURELIVES contribute to our self-esteem, our happiness, and the sense that we can control our own destinies
  23. 24. People with Ambivalence and Uncertainty (Opposite of Having Purpose and Meaning in Life) <ul><li>Experience negative emotions such as depression and anxiety </li></ul><ul><li>Are less happy and less satisfied with their lives </li></ul><ul><li>Have more physical illnesses & doctor’s visits </li></ul><ul><li>Are indecisive, uncertain and rebellious </li></ul><ul><li>Tend to be easily distracted and procrastinate </li></ul>
  24. 25. Paralysis of Analysis <ul><li>It is characteristic of </li></ul><ul><li>Underachievers </li></ul><ul><li>Depressives </li></ul><ul><li>The cause of becoming a non-changer </li></ul><ul><li>The result of the thoughts, “It seems all my adult life I’ve been trying to figure out what I’d like to be when I grow up,” and “I cannot figure out what it is that I will enjoy.” </li></ul><ul><li>Result: You want to change, but you don’t want to </li></ul>
  25. 26. VISION THINKING about the future isn’t enough Enables Action Deters Gratification: to do what feels good in the moment at the expense of SUCCESS For example: Underachieve Overeat Oversleep Overspend Procrastinate CLEAR
  26. 27. How Do You Figure Out What You Really Want? <ul><li>You need to engage is some soul-searching, to find yourself </li></ul><ul><li>Special people can help you – Find them, attract them. </li></ul><ul><li>The aim is to identify your passion – what you really want from life, your school work, so you too can . . . THINK like a GENIUS </li></ul>
  27. 28. How To THINK Like a Genius <ul><li>Successful people are a little (positively) crazy </li></ul><ul><li>Tend to be a little eccentric, and unconventional in their thinking </li></ul><ul><li>Reject traditional beliefs, and lack a concern with what others might think about certain ideas </li></ul><ul><li>They come up with odd or strange ideas </li></ul><ul><li>Three-in-four millionaires believe that learning to “think differently from the crowd,” has been a key factor in their economic success </li></ul>
  28. 29. How To THINK Like a Genius <ul><li>Successful people are overly optimistic </li></ul><ul><li>They are flexible THINKERS which is a prerequisite for creative thinking leading to an ability to conceive an idea and its opposite simultaneously </li></ul><ul><li>They are able to envision two objects at once with one replacing the other </li></ul>
  29. 30. Examples of Inflexible Thinkers <ul><li>Low self-esteem is generally driven by two types of beliefs 1) one must get constant love and approval from everyone, and 2) one must accomplish all of his or her goals perfectly </li></ul><ul><li>Many depressed people tend to use too many shoulds: One of them is, “I should lose weight” </li></ul><ul><li>Perfectionists say, “I must accomplish all of my goals perfectly” </li></ul><ul><li>Inflexible thinking leads to most of human unhappiness (“No one likes me,” “I-can’t-stand-it-beliefs,” and “No wonder she doesn’t like me – I’m a total loser”) </li></ul>
  30. 31. <ul><li>Research shows that the number of highly successful students, creators, and political leaders in a given generation can be predicted by the number of highly successful people in the preceding generation – Same fact applies to business leaders </li></ul><ul><li>Over half of Nobel Prize winners, studied closely under another Nobel Prize winner </li></ul><ul><li>Albert Einstein looked to others for ideas and inspiration – his role model was Isaac Newton </li></ul>Successful People Look To Mentors, Teachers , and Role Models Who is your Success Idol? Combining unusual ideas with a role model brings about INNOVATION
  31. 32. MULTI-FUTURESELVES <ul><li>Examples: </li></ul><ul><li>Great Student </li></ul><ul><li>Successful business person </li></ul><ul><li>Great Dad or Mom </li></ul><ul><li>Fantastic People-Helper </li></ul><ul><li>Reasoning: So, if you experience a bad day at the office, you are not emotionally crushed. </li></ul>
  32. 33. <ul><li>Successful people take risks </li></ul><ul><li>Robert Kennedy said, “Only those who dare to fail greatly, can ever achieve greatly.” </li></ul>How To THINK Like a Genius <ul><li>Most millionaires do not inherit their wealth, but rather saw an economic opportunity overlooked by others, and took the risk necessary to capitalize on it </li></ul>
  33. 34. THINKING LIKE A GENIUS Is not about investing in the stock market, but much more about investing in yourself, your education and career, and your interest and enthusiasm in leadership, and a future vision
  34. 35. How To THINK Like a Genius Successful people ask questions <ul><li>Frank Trainor, a CEO of a small construction company south of Boston once said, “ Everyone should explore their web! Then ask many questions.” </li></ul><ul><li>Einstein would have agreed. He said, “The important thing is to never stop questioning.” </li></ul><ul><li>Socrates became famous for his questions that force people to THINK. </li></ul>
  35. 36. What works according to science? STRATEGY Turning Grand Ambitions into Consistent Action
  36. 37. <ul><li>Strategy mandates a different kind of thinking from vision </li></ul><ul><li>Vision is necessary but not sufficient for academic, </li></ul><ul><li>or work related success </li></ul><ul><li>Having one or the other leads to underachievement </li></ul><ul><li>True success can only come from a combination of vision and – strategy </li></ul><ul><li>Successful people make plans for success </li></ul><ul><li>Making plans for success is crucial for the achievement of expected rewards, as well as for good health </li></ul>
  37. 38. The Millionaire Mind, author Thomas Stanley asked a nationwide sample of millionaires how they reduce fears and worries. Topping the list was hard work (94%) and believing in themselves (94%) But directly behind these are items that stress the importance of planning – Preparation (93%) Focusing on key issues (91%) Being decisive (89%) Planning (87%) Being well organized (83%) And all of these lead directly to GOAL-SETTING! Note: Motivation will not be enough to bring about success
  38. 39. About Goal-Setting <ul><li>People with highly important goals, for example, tend to be happier and more satisfied with life than those without important goals </li></ul><ul><li>Goals, when properly set, lead to enhanced performance, and can be an integral part of a strategy for success </li></ul><ul><li>Goals are far more than research topics of academic interest. Elite athletes are trained in goal-setting techniques. Members of the U.S. Olympic ski team, for example, are required to write personal performance goals and submit them to their coaches on a regular basis. </li></ul><ul><li>Many business people are compensated based on whether they achieve their goals. </li></ul>
  39. 40. Goals increase performance for three major reasons: <ul><li>#1: Goals Provide Direction </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Goals direct action </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>They channel and focus effort in the direction chosen by you - the goal-setter </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Goals are empowering tools, enabling people to steer their lives in the direction of their choosing </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>If you ever decided to buy a particular kind of car, then, you may have notices how all of a sudden you started seeing that kind of car – everywhere, and this experienced shows how goals direct attention, as well as action, even without conscious effort </li></ul></ul>
  40. 41. Goals increase performance for three major reasons: <ul><li>#2: Goals Produce Motivation </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Goals stretch and push you, resulting in greater effort and persistence. </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Goals clarify and make concrete your desired ends </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Being aware of the gap between where you are now and where you want to be creates motivation to close that gap </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Motivation comes about because goals engage your sense of pride, self-esteem, and competitiveness </li></ul></ul>
  41. 42. Goals increase performance for three major reasons: <ul><li>#3: Goals Generate Strategy Refinement </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Goal-setting is merely one element of a strategy for success </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>After setting challenging goals, people think longer and more creatively about how to accomplish them, and how to measure progress toward them </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Merely telling oneself or another person to “sell as much as you can,” will result in directed action and heightened motivation </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>But a challenging, specific goal (like earning an “A” in every class will also engage the process of strategy refinement – hard, creative thinking about how to accomplish the goal </li></ul></ul>
  42. 43. Six Proven Principles for Effective Goal Planning <ul><li>The key to developing a potent strategy is to understand </li></ul><ul><li>the six proven principles for effective goal planning </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Challenging </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Specific </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Approach </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Measurement </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Proximal (deadline) </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Inspiration </li></ul></ul>
  43. 44. Challenge Yourself <ul><li>People who set more challenging goals tend to accomplish more than those who set more modest goals </li></ul><ul><li>Emerson said, “We aim above the mark, to hit the mark.” </li></ul><ul><li>When goals are set higher and higher, performance increases </li></ul><ul><li>People with attainable goals are happier and experience more well-being than those with unattainable goals </li></ul><ul><li>The most common reaction to unattainable goals is simply disengagement – people do not commit to them </li></ul>Ralph Waldo Emerson (1803-1882)
  44. 45. Challenge Yourself <ul><li>Commitment to a goal is predicted by the formula: </li></ul><ul><li>Commitment to a goal = Goal importance X Goal Attainability </li></ul><ul><li>People are most committed to important, attainable goals, but if either goal importance or goal attainability becomes zero, then commitment disappears </li></ul><ul><li>The research shows that people are often reluctant to commit to new career, personal, or business goals set simply because they considered them unattainable </li></ul>
  45. 46. Be Specific <ul><li>The biggest boost in academic excellence and performance from goal setting comes when goals are not only challenging, but specific. Over 100 published studies support the notion that challenging specific goals result in better performance than easy goals, no goals, or situations in which individuals simply try to “do their best” </li></ul><ul><li>Specific, challenging goals minimize wiggle room, resulting in greater effort and persistence, as well as strategy refinement (planning, preparing, and organizing) </li></ul>Reference Tubbs, 1986; Latham and Locke, 1991; Mento, Steel, & Karren, 1987
  46. 47. Approach Goals True success in life comes from achieving things, not avoiding them
  47. 48. Approach Goals vs. Avoidance Goals <ul><li>10-15% of people’s goals are about avoidance (e.g., stop eating, stop smoking, stop drinking) </li></ul><ul><li>Avoidance goals bring to mind negative experiences, whereas approach goals are mentally associated with positive memories and triumphs </li></ul><ul><li>Avoidance goals trigger a “should” mindset with a focus on threats and self-protection </li></ul><ul><li>Approach goals triggers a “want” mindset with a focus on possibilities and opportunities </li></ul>
  48. 49. Measurable Goals <ul><li>Goals have a much bigger impact on performance if they are measurable </li></ul><ul><li>Measurable goals enhance strategy refinement </li></ul><ul><li>Measurable goals encourage consistent, steady progress, day after day, week after week </li></ul><ul><li>Measurable goals versus zero tolerance is not a good idea </li></ul><ul><li>People are not perfect and will ride peaks and valleys in life, his or her studies, and in business </li></ul>
  49. 50. Proximal = Deadlines <ul><li>Motivating: making it easy to measure progress can produce confidence, self-control, and determination </li></ul><ul><li>For example: </li></ul><ul><li>Best way to achieve academic success - better to set proximal goals that are weekly, monthly and think in terms of daily progress, not daily planning </li></ul>
  50. 51. <ul><li>Goals should be important to you and consistent with your own ideals and ambitions for the future </li></ul><ul><li>People whose goals are consistent with their needs and values, even when compared to others with the same skills, exhibit “more interest, excitement, and confidence that leads to enhanced performance, persistence, creativity, and heightened vitality, self-esteem and general well-being” </li></ul>Inspirational Reference Quote from Ryan & Deci, 2000, See also Sheldon & Elliott, 1998, 1999; Sheldon & Houser-Marko, 2001
  51. 52. <ul><li>Going to college to learn Law because parents want this </li></ul><ul><li>Corporate America – Typical hour-long performance review: First two minutes praise Employee’s strengths and accomplishments . . . the next 56 minutes are about the Employee’s failures and weaknesses which are labeled “opportunities for improvement” or “areas for growth” or “deltas” . . . final two minutes spell out Employee’s goals and objectives </li></ul><ul><li>Generally, advancement and promotion at jobs are tied to improving weaknesses to an adequate level </li></ul>Non-Inspirational Goals
  52. 53. Effective Leadership <ul><li>Research shows that the most effective leaders identify only the individual’s strengths </li></ul><ul><li>Create environments in which those strengths can flourish while weaknesses can largely be ignored </li></ul><ul><li>Effective leaders harness the power of inspirational goals </li></ul>Source: Buckingham & Coffman, 1999
  53. 54. THINK SCAMPI <ul><li>Specific </li></ul><ul><li>Challenging </li></ul><ul><li>Approach </li></ul><ul><li>Measurable </li></ul><ul><li>Proximal </li></ul><ul><li>Inspirational </li></ul>S pecific M easurable A chievable R elevant T ime bounded
  54. 55. What works according to science? BELIEF The science of minimizing Fear, Uncertainty, and doubt
  55. 56. BELIEF <ul><li>Key Ideas Surrounding Belief </li></ul><ul><li>Emotional experiences produce personal growth </li></ul><ul><li>Conquering challenges can boost motivation </li></ul><ul><li>Successful people “believe” they will be successful </li></ul>
  56. 57. Successful people believe they will be successful
  57. 58. BELIEF <ul><li>A definite powerful predictor of success </li></ul><ul><li>Research shows those confident to make life changes are far more successful in those efforts than those who question their ability to change </li></ul>“ Whether you believe you can do a thing or not, you are right.” Henry Ford
  58. 59. Belief <ul><li>Belief has very real effects </li></ul><ul><li>Self-fulfilling prophecies based on beliefs that we can change are not urban legends: they are very real </li></ul><ul><li>The X Factor is our belief in the things we tell ourselves (e.g. self-instruction, self-talk) like when we say “get over it” or “cheer up” </li></ul>
  59. 60. <ul><li>Self-efficacy is a powerful predictor of change and SUCCESS in learning or doing anything </li></ul><ul><li>Self-efficacy is “task-specific” self-confidence (not your level of self-confidence, but whether you “Believe” you can act in a certain way or carry out a particular course of action) </li></ul>Self-Efficacy The Belief You Can Do It?
  60. 61. People with HIGH self-efficacy are more likely to . . . <ul><ul><li>Set specific challenging goals, and be more committed to those goals </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Perform better and accomplish more </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Be more proactive, motivated, and work harder </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Follow through on their New Year’s resolutions </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Persist in the face of obstacles, and view setbacks as a source of motivation </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Be successful in tackling problems </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Prevent a single lapse from snowballing into a full-blown relapse </li></ul></ul>
  61. 62. People with Internal Control <ul><li>Believe outcomes in life are dependent on one’s own actions </li></ul><ul><li>Are more content in life </li></ul><ul><li>Produce greater effort, persistence, and achieve goal commitments </li></ul><ul><li>Cope better with setbacks </li></ul><ul><li>Believe they have some control over their academic career, health and wellness (more exercise, less doctor visits) </li></ul><ul><li>Generate greater pro-activity </li></ul>
  62. 63. People with External Control <ul><li>Believe outcomes in life are due to luck, fate or the action of others </li></ul><ul><li>Research shows those with external controls are more stressed, and engage more in defensive coping strategies like withdrawal, denial, and sometime hostility </li></ul><ul><li>Most Americans have internal control and believe “We each make our own FATE.” </li></ul>
  63. 64. HOPE: The Belief in a Bright Future <ul><li>With hope we tend to set a greater number of goals </li></ul><ul><li>Achieve more and perform better </li></ul><ul><li>Are happier, suffer less anxiety, and burnout </li></ul><ul><li>React better to difficult circumstances (e.g. bad test scores, stressful jobs, accidents, illnesses) </li></ul><ul><li>Use more effective coping habits (e.g. humor, exercise, and preventative care) </li></ul><ul><li>Cope better with setbacks </li></ul>
  64. 65. Symptoms of a Lack of Belief <ul><li>Learned helplessness and self-handicapping </li></ul><ul><li>Alcoholism </li></ul><ul><li>Procrastination </li></ul><ul><li>Lack of interest, effort </li></ul><ul><li>Panic attacks </li></ul><ul><li>Asthma </li></ul><ul><li>Depression </li></ul><ul><li>Grief </li></ul><ul><li>Insecurity </li></ul>Positive emotions bring to mind positive memories and make the future seem brighter, which spurs more proactive behavior
  65. 66. Building Belief
  66. 67. GET RID OF THE ANTS A utomatic N egative T hought s ANTS ANTS
  67. 68. Killing ANTS Dead <ul><li>-- Evidence </li></ul><ul><li>What is the objective evidence for this ANT? </li></ul><ul><ul><ul><li>If I do NOT reach my planned goal on time, </li></ul></ul></ul><ul><ul><ul><li>does that not indicate I am a loser? </li></ul></ul></ul><ul><li>THINK, “Haven’t I completed lots of other goals on time? (if your answer is “no,” then some life coaching and problem-solving is called for) </li></ul>“ If I don’t reach my goal on time, then I am a loser.”
  68. 69. Killing ANTS Dead <ul><li>-- Exaggeration </li></ul><ul><li>Is this ANT an exaggeration? Am I over-reacting? Am I over-generalizing? </li></ul><ul><li>Isn’t “loser” a little strong? </li></ul><ul><li>In concluding that I am a loser because I didn’t reach my planned goal on time, am I making a mountain out of a molehill? </li></ul>“ If I don’t reach my goal on time, then I am a loser.”
  69. 70. Killing ANTS Dead <ul><li>-- Alternatives </li></ul><ul><li>What are some other possible explanations? </li></ul><ul><li>Is it possible that I didn’t reach my planned goal on time because I didn’t have the resources I needed? </li></ul>“ If I don’t reach my goal on time, then I am a loser.”
  70. 71. Killing ANTS Dead <ul><li>-- Flexibility </li></ul><ul><li>Can I evaluate this situation in more flexible terms? </li></ul><ul><li>Am I thinking in overly rigid, black-or-white, all-or-none terms? </li></ul><ul><li>Just because I may have room to improve my project goal planning skills, does that really mean I’m a loser? </li></ul>“ If I don’t reach my goal on time, then I am a loser.”
  71. 72. Killing ANTS Dead <ul><li>-- Utility </li></ul><ul><li>Is this belief empowering or counter-productive? </li></ul><ul><li>Does it really benefit me to think of myself as a loser just because I was late in reaching one planned goal? </li></ul><ul><li>Should my self-worth depend on this kind of thing? </li></ul>“ If I don’t reach my goal on time, then I am a loser.”
  72. 73. Killing ANTS Dead <ul><li>-- Comparison </li></ul><ul><li>How have others fared in similar situations? </li></ul><ul><li>Did everyone else reach his or her planned goal on time? </li></ul>“ If I don’t reach my goal on time, then I am a loser.”
  73. 74. Killing ANTS Dead <ul><li>-- Role reversal </li></ul><ul><li>How would I evaluate other people who performed as I did? </li></ul><ul><li>Would I consider everyone who didn’t reach their planned goal on time a loser? </li></ul>“ If I don’t reach my goal on time, then I am a loser.”
  74. 75. Building Belief <ul><li>Daily Journal – writing your thoughts </li></ul><ul><li>Academic MindSPA – time out to relax </li></ul><ul><li>Take baby steps building belief </li></ul><ul><li>Act happy </li></ul><ul><li>Act successful </li></ul><ul><li>Envision specific means to your goals </li></ul><ul><li>Visualize doing the steps to success </li></ul><ul><li>Hire a Career Coach to help you succeed </li></ul>
  75. 76. What works according to science? Persistence The science of drive and determination
  76. 77. Facts about Persistence <ul><li>It is not sexy </li></ul><ul><li>It is not glamorous </li></ul><ul><li>It is crucial for personal success </li></ul><ul><li>It is crucial for business success </li></ul><ul><li>Origins of sustainable, organic growth </li></ul><ul><li>True success comes from persistence </li></ul><ul><li>Persistence is about progress </li></ul><ul><li>Persistence is the key to happiness </li></ul>
  77. 78. Successful People Don’t Give Up, and They Work Hard <ul><li>M*A*S*H (its history) </li></ul><ul><li>Gone with the Wind (its history) </li></ul><ul><li>Dr. Seuss’s first book (its history) </li></ul><ul><li>The first Chicken Soup book (its history) </li></ul><ul><li>Over 90% of Americans agree </li></ul><ul><li>that “willpower and hard work,” are primary reasons why a person’s life turns out well or poorly. </li></ul>
  78. 79. Persistence is the key to happiness Intelligence – Ignorance is NOT bliss, nor are brilliant people particularly happy. Physical attractiveness – The beautiful are NOT happier than the rest of us, except among young women, and even then the effect is very slight. Marriage – Married people are moderately but NOT dramatically happier than their single counterparts. About 4-in-10 married Americans describe themselves as “very happy,” compared to only 24 percent of those who never married. Source: General Social Survey, cited in Myers, 2000 Children – As any parent will attest, having kids is no guarantee of happiness. In fact, childless couples are slightly happier than parents, but again the effect is very modest. Money – When asked what would make them happier, “more money” tops the list. Persistence, Progress and Happiness Happiness is ultimately about progress
  79. 80. Happiness is about progress <ul><li>Happiness is the emotional juice that emerges from a sense of momentum toward inspirational goals </li></ul><ul><li>Everyone may want to get to the top, but if you want to enjoy getting there , you should take the stairway rather than the elevator </li></ul><ul><li>The American constitution guarantees, “life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness ” – not happiness itself. But as it turns out, the pursuit of happiness . . . is happiness </li></ul>
  80. 81. <ul><li>Think like a genius (positive thinking) </li></ul><ul><li>Manage self-talk (if you manage a successful project - take credit for it </li></ul><ul><li>Explanation P1 = personal - attributing success to your intelligence </li></ul><ul><li>Explanation P2 = permanency - your intelligence will help on other projects as well </li></ul><ul><li>Ask for help </li></ul><ul><li>Bring people into your vision plans – involve them </li></ul><ul><li>Join a Mastermind group </li></ul><ul><li>Know when to be alone </li></ul><ul><li>Ask yourself if you need to fire some “friends” </li></ul><ul><li>Reshape your physical environment </li></ul><ul><li>Go public with your goals </li></ul><ul><li>Reward success </li></ul><ul><li>Avoid self-punishment </li></ul><ul><li>Exercise </li></ul>Persistence Promoters
  81. 82. What works according to science? Learning The science of making course corrections in life
  82. 83. Successful people are learning – all the time <ul><li>Successful people take action, and rely on course corrections to navigate successive approximations to success </li></ul><ul><li>The actions taken are driven by choice </li></ul><ul><li>Persistence is good . . . Progress is better </li></ul><ul><li>Persistence can be achieved by effort alone, but progress requires persistence and learning </li></ul><ul><li>We learn from every experience – even negative ones </li></ul>
  83. 84. Lame excuses for not being highly successful <ul><li>“ I don’t have a degree!” </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Mark Twain said it best: “I have never let schooling interfere with my education.” </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Albert Einstein was a notoriously poor student, and Bill Gates was a college dropout; neither made the mistake of equating a degree with true learning </li></ul></ul>
  84. 85. The Millionaire Mind, author Thomas Stanley documents when millionaires are asked what they learned most in school, about three-fourths cited the lesson that “hard work is more important than genetic high intellect in achieving.”
  85. 86. Lame excuses for not being highly successful <ul><li>“ But I’m not smart enough . . .” </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Highly successful people aren’t necessarily brainiacs with advanced degrees </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>People somehow believe their level of “smarts” can’t be changed </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>You must first believe you can get smarter </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>Your own personal theory of intelligence influences your goals and level of achievement in many ways </li></ul></ul>
  86. 87. Mark Twain “ Each one of us has the substance within to achieve whatever our goals and dreams define. What is missing from each of us is the training, education, knowledge and insight to utilize what we already have.”
  87. 88. Some final thoughts <ul><li>People are often unaware of the factors that drive success and happiness in their daily lives </li></ul><ul><li>Highly successful people understand the true drivers of their success and happiness </li></ul><ul><li>They keep daily records (self-monitoring) of what they do well to improve their life </li></ul>
  88. 89. For Dr. Fahey, The Cultivation of Spiritual Goals Are Key <ul><li>Have FUN </li></ul><ul><li>Be Creative </li></ul><ul><li>Communicate </li></ul><ul><li>Trust a and Respect </li></ul><ul><li>Vision </li></ul><ul><li>Partnership </li></ul><ul><li>Energy Management </li></ul><ul><li>Flexibility </li></ul><ul><li>Search for Meaning </li></ul>Your Wheel of Life
  89. 90. Someone’s in the Kitchen RECIPE FOR A HAPPY DAY 1 C Friendly Words 2 Heaping C. Understanding 4+ T. Time and Patience Pinch of Warmth & Personality Dash of Humor Spice for Life Measure words carefully, adding heaping amounts of understanding. Be willing to adjust amounts of time and patience as necessary. Cook on the front burner, keeping temperature low – do not boil! Remember to season well with a sense of humor, and warmth and spice for life. Serve individually remembering, “Presentation is everything”
  90. 91. Dr. Robert Allen Fahey