19. # try_the_sauce.rb
describe Burger do
describe "#apply_sauce" do
context "with sauce" do
let(:burger) { Burger.new(sauce: true) }
before { burger.apply_sauce }
it "sets the sauce flag to true" do
burger.has_sauce_on_it?.should be_true
end
end
context "without sauce" do
let(:burger) { Burger.new(sauce: false) }
before { burger.apply_ sauce }
it "sets the sauce flag to false" do
burger.has_sauce_on_it?.should be_false
end
end
end
end
20. Parent implicitly teach
boys to pick themselves up -> no fear
girls be more careful -> fear
“Risk Management”
or
“Taking Risks”
36. – “Irene Chang Britt, SVP Campbell Soup Company
“Not that I would have listened, but I wish I’d
known that it was okay to make mistakes earlier
in my career….We have to know that we’re
responsible for the results we create. We’re
victors, not victims. A mind-set of personal
responsibility is really important.’’
37. Every behavior that is wrong should be challenged,
not just for you but others
“What do you mean by that?”
“Do you really think that?”
“It doesn’t seem like you to say something like
that.”
38. You have needs and should be able to ask for them
“Respect and value yourself as something
unique”
39. Find a win-win. Work together with negotiating partner
“Negotiation is a conversation not a battle”
40. # exception_example.rb
begin
# perform some dangerous operation
# decision incoming
# load dependencies
# make decision with 100% certainty
rescue
# embrace imperfect information
# research decisions
# ‘pre-socialization’
end
41. Nobody has all the information to make the decision
“Stop thinking and act”
43. • What is your goal and why is it your goal?
• Is this what you want or what society wants?
• Identify your triggers, what makes you uncomfortable?
or emotional? or out of control?
• Identify your coaches
• Practice, Practice
• How do you research your points
• How can you make it not about you?
Who is Eric
20 years Training
15 years of political work on social injustice
8 years exploring all the forms of psychology
Mean people - we may create a blacklist
What are the most limiting things in the US - Gender Role and Race
Women 100% of the requirements
Guilt
Shame
Women do not feel they have the right to negotiate, gender norms
will often not think they are good enough
Slut shaming
Rating of women if you have a condom in the US
UK Optimistic
Women officially rumination and bigger mental health issues
Men do not appreciate, dependent
Boys asking girls for dates
Movies
Woman on average view failure as a permanent state
Empathy gap
The tendency to underestimate the influence or strength of feelings, in either oneself or others.
Get back in the Kitchen
Agisim hurts women more than men
Empathy gap
The tendency to underestimate the influence or strength of feelings, in either oneself or others.
Compliance
Fashion, Magazine, talk shows define what you should be
BUT we need to evolve as a human race and society also need evolve thats why we have teenagers
Make situation less ambiguous - reduce salience of gender norms in favour of situational norms. Learn about bargaining range and stay within range so you don't invoke role incongruity. gain experience: know appropriate behaviour, gain a script, then less likely to fall back on gender norms.
Embrace Imperfect Information
Back Up Your Decision with Research
‘pre-socialization’ of my case
Experience helps you grow
make mistakes earlier in my career….We have to know that we’re responsible for the results we create. We’re victors, not victims. A mind-set of personal responsibility is really important
One way to do this is to apply the two aspects in turn. It’s useful to start with reason, and gather facts and figures. Once you have an obvious ‘decision’, it’s the turn of intuition. How do you feel about the ‘answer’? Does it feel right?
If not, have another look, and see if you can work out why not. If you’re not emotionally committed to the decision you’ve made, you won’t implement it well or effectively.
Take More Responsibility:
Do not let sexism get by
Apologizing
http://stopsexistremarks.org/stop-sexist-remarks-the-5-minute-guide/
Gender roles are limiting you, evolve beyond them
How to negotiate?
Mindset- negotiation sounds threatening, combative. Reframe:
Not a competition, it's a conversation
This is a win-win. Work together with negotiating partner
Problem-solving mindset. Separates you from the goal
Communal mindset- to help others
Be open to alternatives offered- cannot offer more salary, but more holiday
Prepare
Know your facts- what do you want and why do you want it? Practice communicating it clearly and professionally
Be patient
Can set off a cascade of other negotiations. Be willing to give time for them to come back.
Be objective
The situation may feel personal but it is usually not
Be resilient
You will fail. Prepare to negotiate for the next situation
Embrace Imperfect Information
Back Up Your Decision with Research
‘pre-socialization’ of my case
Experience helps you grow
make mistakes earlier in my career….We have to know that we’re responsible for the results we create. We’re victors, not victims. A mind-set of personal responsibility is really important