8. ❖Nikah: The original meaning of the word nikah
is the physical relationship between man and
woman. It is also used secondarily to refer to the
contract of marriage which makes that
relationship lawful.
❖Fiqh: A contract that results in the two parties
physically enjoying each other in the manner
allowed by the Shari'a.
9. “And among His signs is this, that He
created for you mates from among
yourselves, that you may dwell in peace and
tranquility with them, and He has put love
and mercy between your (hearts): Verily in
that are signs for those who reflect” (Quran; Ta-
Ha 30:21).
10. Arranged Marriage Versus Love
Marriage
True love will come only after years of living
together and giving the following to your
marriage
13. The influence of the environment on one's
thought process concerning marriage.
Parent’s Influence
❖Mother; Mostly female child
❖Father; Mostly male child
20. Tips:
❖ Respect yourself, respect
him, respect your and his
family
❖ Spice things up in the
bedroom
❖ Learn the art of
communication
‘The man is the
head, but the
woman is the neck.
And she can turn
the head any way
she wants.’ ― Nia
Vardalos
21. Conclusion
❖ The husband is the ameer of the home and has many
rights over his family and responsibilities towards
them
❖ The most important of the wife responsibilities is her
obedience and willingness to serve her husband
❖ She has more rights with regards to being treated well
and being handled with care
❖ When a husband is pleased with his wife and gets his
Title: Our Goal in marriage is to have a successful marriage in this life. The reality is that there is no Happily Ever After in this dunya. In Jannah we will attain the Happily Ever After life.You could have a good life in this dunya but there will always be some type of test in your life. - My Life
A little about myself. I am not a scholar. The only reason I mention my information is because we should be careful from whom we get advice from. Not everyone is qualified to give certain types of advice.
My advice: 1.Some cases are special and would need a different approach to the issue at hand. 2.Sincere advice for the benefit of the Ummah.
The mind has been wired by society on ‘What the ideal marriage should be. We should not always follow the status quo. Just because everyone is doing it, doesn’t mean we should all follow in the pursue of it.
Which perspectives we are going to look at. 1. Qur’an, Sunnah, Sahabah’s lives 2.Psychology is a taboo in the Muslim Community 3. History gives one wisdom and insight. It teaches you lessons in life. We can understand where did ideas originated from. 4. We will learn the terminology/rulings but we need to also know how to apply it into our marriage life.
1.Dealing with people requires lots of taqwa.2.Halal way 3. Having a partner in life that you can enjoy having around is, pleasure in itself.4.The family is the fabric of society. If the family is destroyed the society is destroyed. You can see that is happening in today's time.
1.A marriage contract is one of the most important part of getting married. You can state what you want and don’t want in your marriage.2. You do not have to change your last name. It is a Christian practice. The father own his daughter and he passes her down to her husband.
Does love comes first in marriage?
Two types of arrange marriage;q.1 Forced: 2. By choice with Wali’s approval. He uses his experience as an elder man in choosing the right husband for the girl. He looks at the simulatery of the two.3. Love marriage has a 50% divorce rate. One of the reason is because once the honeymoon phase is over then reality sinks in that's when they start to see their differences. Sometimes lust is also mistaken for love.
This book was recommended by my professor. It is very important that we study each other's psychological makeup.Understanding each other’s personality helps us become more aware of the emotional state of our spouse.
1.Mother:The good mother whether having a bad or good life she sets a good example and raises her daughter/son to respect their own marriage. If the mother had a bad life she will try her best to raise her daughter not to live the life she had, by teaching her to be in control of every matter in her married life. If the mother is not God fearing she will set a bad example on how to be a good wife.2.If the father is abusive, whether physical or verbal he can set a very bad example for the son. If the daughter witness his abuse then she would say, ‘Why bother getting a headache’ especially if she successful in life.
Women is a step to step on. This though has been held by men almost all over the world. Hindu culture/religion has influenced Afghan and Pakistani people’s thought process. In bollywood movies we see that the one of the partner is worshiped. If you pay attention to the lyrics or even the script you will notice the devotion. If you study their religion they have false gods of the genitals of both genders that they worship.
Feminist started out because the men throughout most of the societies did not give rights to women except Islam. There was that one extreme that of the men who thought women was something you inherited. Now we have the opposite extreme where the saying goes, ‘That a woman can do anything a man can do.’ Actually, it should be ‘A woman can do what men can’t do.’ We need to strike a middle balance.-The Secular thought has another extreme in which they are now thinking what is the point of marriage.With having a free sex life with anyone, what is the point of marriage. It will be an easy separation. These dangerous thoughts have been implemented in our mind consciously and subconsciously through the media, education, books. etc…1.Serving does not mean slavery! 4.Not an opportunity for dictatorship, dominance or control in the marriage!
- Friends and family also have some degree of influence over us.Be cautious from whom you get marriage advice from.
- The best way is to follow Islam. Get close to Allah by learning the deen and following the sunnah. Have less expectation from each other but except from Allah. Make lots of duaa.Beware of Shaitan. Be grateful and Allah will give you more.
1.The in law problems can be reduced if respect is shown for the sake of Allah. 2. It is taboo to talk about sex. It will benefit you if you learn different ways of giving pleasure to your spouse.3. We might know how to talk to a friend or a close relative but we need to also learn how to speak with our spouse.
Anything good I said is from Allah and anything wrong I said is from me or shaitan.
