Do you have any seduction goals?

Most guys don't. Most guys are happy
with their preprogrammed desires for
sex, intimacy, and companionship.

They go out, keep trying, until these
get fulfilled.

For a long, long time, this was all men
needed.

Only in recent times did people need
to consciously plan what they were
going after. Why?

Up until fifty years or so ago, once a
guy and a girl hooked up, there were
plenty of "negative incentives" to keep
them together.

Meaning if they broke up, especially
after they were married and had kids,
everybody would know.

Even on "Mad Men" there was that
one single mom in the neighborhood
that everybody gossiped about.

The thing about having "negative
incentives" is that we don't tend to
notice them.

Kind of like having a boss that will fire
you if you show up late.

So long the rest of the job is pretty
good, and you get paid well, getting up
early in order to show up on time (so
you don't get fired) will kind of slip
into the back of your mind.

At first it might be pretty difficult, but
pretty soon it will be just be something
that you do without thinking.

This is the kind of world couples lived
in a generation or so ago.

Since they were many more negative
incentives regarding breaking up, they
were much more motivated to work
on the relationship, and deal with
whatever issues came up instead of
ignoring them.

Nowadays, people don't do that.

There's zero stigma with breaking up,
getting divorced, or being a single
parent.

Which means if you want a happy
relationship, it's going to take a lot of
SELF MOTIVATION, rather than relying
on those external negative incentives.

However, most guys don't even realize
this.

They just hook up with whoever they
can hook up with, cross their fingers
and hope for the best.

Now, sometimes you'll get lucky.

Sometimes you'll meet a girl from a
similar background, who has similar
beliefs as you, and shares plenty of the
same interests.

This will make it much more likely
you'll both WANT to work on any
issues, as you genuinely like each
other's company, beyond just sex and
intimacy.

But if you just get with whoever you
can get with, this isn't very likely.

Instead, consider the type of girl
you're going after.

Consider the type of girl you'd like to
hang out with AFTER that initial thrill
wears off.

Consider a girl who has the same basic
life plans as you, instead of some girl
who you expect will blindly follow you
wherever you go.

To be sure, this is a lot of work. But the
work you put into today will save you a
lot of pain tomorrow.

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