How has Facebook affected you and your relationships?

1. Heather Shepherd Background picture:
IntangibleArts (flickr)
Foreground picture: Sony
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Commons

2. Our ideas of relationships are changing
and Facebook is a large part of how we
define our relationships
VictoriaJohnson(flickr)

3. Facebook is often the “primary tool
for interaction early in the
experimenting stage of romantic
relationship development”
-Jesse Fox
Rhythm302
(flickr)

4. It has become “a new tier in
the relational hierarchy”
-Jesse Fox
Background: 55His.com (flickr)
Foreground: Sean MacEntee (flickr)

5. But…
it didn’t used to be
like that
Powerhouse
(Wikimedia
Commons)

6. To signal a commitment, men used to “pin”
their girlfriends, or give them their
letterman’s jacket
Azowlclub (Wikimedia
Unknown (Google)

7. “Those social courtship scripts don’t exist on
Facebook”
-Gretchen Kelmer
US Fish and Wildlife Service- Northeast Region (flickr)

8. Now you have to include your significant
other in your Facebook profile
Wolfr (flickr)

9. And
“deciding
to go FBO
means
laying your
emotional
cards on
the table,
face up”
-Tom Jacobs
Syed Abdul Khlaliq (Wikimedia Commons)

10. How is that affecting us
and our relationships?
AprilKillingsworth(WikimediaCommons)

11. We share our most personal
information via social media
C.
Todd
Lopez
(Wikimedia
Comm

12. Eliminating any sense of privacy and
intimacy
PolychronisLembesis(WikimediaCommons)

13. Leading to
relationships
shaped by their
“actual and
perceived
audience”
-Jesse Fox
Math__ (flickr)

14. Which is affecting
how people are
breaking up
Paul M. Walsh (Wikimedia Commons)

15. And “breaking up in IRL [in real
life] is no longer enough to get
over an ex, you’ve got to end
contact on Facebook too”.
-Allison McCann
Izzy,
(flickr)

16. Many divorce cases are becoming more
nasty because of Facebook,
which is being used as evidence
LegalAssitance (flickr)

17. Over one third of divorce filings in 2011
contained the word Facebook
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18. So, should we restrict the use of Facebook
in relationships?

19. Or have we reached a point where
we don’t know how to communicate
face-to-face

20. We use it as an avenue of communication.
We control what we say and what we do on
the Internet.
Either way, we can’t blame
Facebook.

21. Sources
• http://living.msn.com/tech/social/is-facebook-ruining-your-
relationship
• http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2011/09/09/facebook-relationship-
problems-social-networking_n_955980.html
• http://www.womansday.com/sex-relationships/dating-marriage/
facebook-and-marriage
• http://arukwe-onyedikachi.blogspot.ca/2012/03/8-most-common-
reasons-for-divorce.html
• http://www.divorce.usu.edu/files/uploads/Lesson3.pdf
• http://www.buzzfeed.com/atmccann/how-facebook-ruined-dating-
and-breaking-up-too
• http://www.psmag.com/blogs/news-blog/i-now-pronounce-you-fbo-
facebook-official-51307/
• http://www.guardian.co.uk/technology/2011/mar/08/facebook-us-
divorces

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