1. Parenting Teens in a
Technological Age
"There are some things now that parents and young
people have to negotiate that they didn't before.”
-Huffington Post’s How Technology has made Parenting
Harder
2. Why do we need to know about
technology as parents?
Our kids know way more than we do.
Technology isn’t going to stop advancing.
It is important for our kids to be able to
use technology in a school environment
and later in their work environment.
If we don’t teach them how to be good
digital citizens, THEN WHO WILL?
9. I discuss with
my child how they are
using their apps and
the privacy settings
associated with each
app.
10. Teens Using Mobile Devices
Cellphones- iphones/android smartphones
Tablets/iPads
iPod touches/other music players with
apps/internet access
ANY mobile device that can gain internet
access either through WiFi or a cell signal.
11. What benefits to mobile
devices do you see?
What negatives do you see to
mobile devices?
16. FACEBOOK
Many parents are now on Facebook.
Teens still have them and use them
BUT
They no longer post as many status
updates and they have taken the majority
of their time to other social media sites.
17. Twitter
Tweets: 140 characters or less.
Hashtags are searchable #idontgetthis
Favorite: when you really like someone
elses tweet
Retweet: you repost someone elses tweet
Twitter is full of information. You can
have conversations back and forth with
others and you can
18. Instagram
Is a photo sharing app, where you follow
other people and they follow you back.
You upload your photo and put a
comment with it and probably a few
HASHTAGs, or as most of you call it,
the pound sign… #whatdoesthismean
Other users can comment or like your
photos.
20. Vine
Video sharing app where students can
record and edit 10-15 second videos to
post.
Only allows for video posts and they are
usually uploaded and shared thru Twitter.
21. SNAPCHAT
Is another picture sharing app like
Instagram. EXCEPT you send pictures to
only a specific person. More like an email.
Other person can only view it for 6
seconds and then it is deleted forever.
(you can change the number of seconds,
but I think max is 15 seconds.)
Has security issues/where does it go once
it is deleted. Is it really gone or is it
owned by SNAPCHAT somewhere?
22. Google+ and Tumblr
Tumblr is similar to facebook, but it is set
up more like a personal blog. It relies
heavily on imagery and short posts.
(takes less time to manage than
facebook)
Google+ is for sharing any digital content
with friends, family, and coworkers.
25. Ask.fm
They create a link to an ask.fm account.
Other users can ask them random
questions anonymously.
They usually answer them. But obviously
it is their choice whether it is truthful or
not.
My biggest issue is what are they asking
each other and is it appropriate?
Do we know if our kids use this social
media?
26. Privacy Concerns
Yes there are obviously privacy concerns
with all of these social media apps/sites
Change privacy settings so profiles and
posts are restricted to only friends that
your child has chosen
27. But are there effects
worse than just having
your information out in
cyber space?
29. The effects of likes and comments are
huge.
Do our students find their self worth in
their likes and comments?
Do they post pictures and videos to
facebook, instagram, vine etc. to
determine their worth by the number of
likes and comments they get?
Research says YES! How do we stop this
trend?
Likes, Comments, Shares ETC…
30. Brainstorm a few ways that you feel we
can minimize the effects of this growing
problem.
(I don’t necessarily have answers)
Be prepared to share back to the group.
What do we do?
31. Teens Using Mobile Devices:
Setting Limits (and how to do it)
One way to help keep the addiction to
mobile devices is by setting limits.
One way to do this is by creating a mobile
technology contract.
Maybe to help get by-in from your child,
have them come up with some of the
guidelines. Then discuss what they come
up with and agree upon the final contract
together.
32.
33. Map
We all need a little guidance and help
once in awhile. That’s why we are here.
34. Guardrails vs Rules
Guardrails set a direction and keep you on
the road.
You have to determine where the road
should be going when you set guardrails.
NOT RULES!
Guardrails should flow from our values.
Meaning when you set guardrails you
should be able to articulate the values
that stand behind your guardrails.
35. Guardrails vs Rules
“Guardrails keep us from crashing. They
also empower us to drive with confidence
toward our chosen destination.
Guardrails don’t hinder us, they keep us
on course.”
Establishing a balanced approach to
guardrails is an act of love.
36. The Road
What values do we want to pass on?
Are they based on Biblical truth?
What do you do in your home to actively
engage in passing on these values?
38. Implementation!
After you draft your guardrails present
them in a written format to your family.
Be able to have time to talk through why
they are important to you and how they
line up with specific values you want to
portray.
Once you have shared ask for their
feedback.
39. Preventing phone misuse…
Set realistic guardrails…
Extreme, unrealistic, legalistic, over-
protective guardrails often steer kids
toward rebellion.
40. Preventing phone misuse…
TALK AS YOU WALK!
Moses gave us the mandate to talk wit
our kids, morning, noon, and night…
Walking, sitting on the couch, eating
dinner… you name it.
41. Consequences for misuse…
1. Delay Punishment.
2. Make sure they match the violation.
3. Ask them to set their own consquence.
4. Look for teaching moments.
5. Demonstrate UNMISTAKABLE Love.
42. Talking points
• 1. It IS a good idea to “friend” people
you’ve met in and not “friend” people you
haven’t.
• 2. It ISN’T a good idea to use location
services.
• 3. It IS a good idea to text your parents
when you are somewhere you aren’t
normally.
• 4. It ISN’T a good idea to sleep with your
phone.
43. Talking points
• 5. It IS a good idea to use your phone in
the living room instead of your bedroom.
• 6. It ISN’T a good idea to break your
phone just to get a new one.
• 7. It IS a good idea to always assume that
everything on your phone could at one
point become public
44. Downloadable Contract… etc.
This book has a bunch of free resources
you can download at :
parentssmashingphones.com
Welcome to parenting teens in the technological age workshop. This quote sums up why I decided we need this type of information as parents. (Read Quote).
So why do we need to know about technology? (Read reasons)
I need every person to stand up. We have four corners of the room and each one of them represents a decision you must make. I will put a statement on the board and you need to choose if you Agree, Somewhat Agree, Somewhat Disagree or Disagree.
I need every person to stand up. We have four corners of the room and each one of them represents a decision you must make. I will put a statement on the board and you need to choose if you Agree, Somewhat Agree, Somewhat Disagree or Disagree.
I need every person to stand up. We have four corners of the room and each one of them represents a decision you must make. I will put a statement on the board and you need to choose if you Agree, Somewhat Agree, Somewhat Disagree or Disagree.
I need every person to stand up. We have four corners of the room and each one of them represents a decision you must make. I will put a statement on the board and you need to choose if you Agree, Somewhat Agree, Somewhat Disagree or Disagree.
I need every person to stand up. We have four corners of the room and each one of them represents a decision you must make. I will put a statement on the board and you need to choose if you Agree, Somewhat Agree, Somewhat Disagree or Disagree.
I need every person to stand up. We have four corners of the room and each one of them represents a decision you must make. I will put a statement on the board and you need to choose if you Agree, Somewhat Agree, Somewhat Disagree or Disagree.
I need every person to stand up. We have four corners of the room and each one of them represents a decision you must make. I will put a statement on the board and you need to choose if you Agree, Somewhat Agree, Somewhat Disagree or Disagree.
Now that we have a list of positives and negatives about mobile devices, let’s define what I see as a mobile device that could be in your teens hands.
This brings us to our group activity. Will you make groups of 4 to 6 with people around you and will you write down as many benefits for mobile devices as you can see, and a list of as many negatives for mobile devices that you see. I will give you 5 minutes to create your lists and they will come back together and share what we came up with. (Use flipchart on easel to record answers.)
What do you think teens do with their mobile devices? Let’s make a list, I need a scribe to write down what you think.
Infographic about teens cell phone usage. Share infographic. Read everything
Infographic about teens cell phone usage.
In order to understand how teens are using their cell phones I want to just go through the popular social media apps. I will talk about what they are, how they are being used and what we could possibly be concerned about with each one.
How many of you are on FB. (at least one parent probably is) Teens still use facebook to communicate with others, it is almost like their email and direct chat option. That is about all. They post a lot fewer statuses on here than they used to a couple years ago. But it is still the number one social media site based on active users per month. Meaning it counts every user that logins at least once a month.
Instagram is a photo sharing app where pretty much once your child has an account they follow other users (hopefully people they know) In return other users follow them. They upload pictures they take, sometimes editing them, and a comment or caption and of course a few hashtags… or as you know it a pound sign. #whatdoesthismean. Other users can then comment or like their photos. Let’s look at a screenshot of my Instagram.
Instagram is a photo sharing app where pretty much once your child has an account they follow other users (hopefully people they know) In return other users follow them. They upload pictures they take, sometimes editing them, and a comment or caption and of course a few hashtags… or as you know it a pound sign. #whatdoesthismean. Other users can then comment or like their photos. Let’s look at a screenshot of my Instagram.
It is a personal blog, where they post memes and pictures and articles they read. Put a link to a youtube video of a song they like, or even embed the video into their page. They can chat as well.
Ask.fm is usually put in conjunction with twitter or instagram. They get a link which others can use to ask them questions. Many students
Obviously there are concerns with privacy issues regarding all of these apps/sites if we don’t do anything about it. But you can do something about it. It is important that you discuss with your child, the importance of only following or being friends with people they know when they are interacting online. Within the settings for these apps they also have privacy settings which can make it so only friends they have allowed can see their posts and pictures etc.
Unfortunately there are self esteem issues/self worth issues that are happening because of social networks. Let me read part of a blog that I found. It is written specifically about instagram, but I feel it definitely applies to all social media sites/apps that teens use. (read blog)
Read A Word on Instagram by Sarah Brooks (on iPad)
So what do we do to combat this? Or help out students when it comes to
Talk about smashing your kids phone book…and go through some of it.
