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Your Boundless Possibilities Workbook
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Welcome!
As a Boundless Living Coach and a partner in making sure Bob’s Boundless Living Coaching Program
fulfills his intention to serve his clients and to having them experience what’s possible in living the life
of their dreams, it’s my honor to have worked with thousands of people as they transformed their
experience of living.
That’s one of the reasons why, when Bob suggested that we create a gift to provide people with a tool
to empower them, shift their level of self confidence and enable them to move through blocks and
barriers that seem to be stopping them in this challenging economic environment, I said “Absolutely –
Let’s do it!”
Bob frequently talks about being present and noticing when you’re not and that is a great place for us
to start because when you’re present, you’re in the moment and can powerfully impact YOUR life and
the lives of others you care about.
My intention in creating this coaching document is to provide you with a powerful tool to enable you
to go beyond those familiar or, unfamiliar, barriers that have stopped you in the past. My commitment
is that it will show you some areas in your life where you may be unaware of blockages or beliefs that
have kept you stuck AND to give you some coaching that will help you get past those barriers –
hopefully forever!
If you’ve never experienced coaching, and the value it can provide, I’d like to take a moment or two
here to give you a few tips for making the most of what’s to come.

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Making the Most of a Coach
So many times, we are inspired to read something new that moves or excites us and we think we understand
completely the principles we have read about or studied. Then, as time passes, we wonder why those
“understandings” don’t always get translated into action. Often, it’s because understanding and implementing
are so different.
Like a sports coach, your Boundless Possibilities Workbook will act as your coach and work with you to effectively
implement the steps that you intellectually understand and help you to successfully integrate them into your
daily life.
If you are diligent in implementing the things you read about in this workbook, you will actually begin to see
things that you may not have seen in the past. The reason for this is that sometimes, when you are on the
‘playing field’ of life, it’s tough to step outside yourself and see why or where you get stopped. You just know
you are not fulfilling on what you think you want. You and I know how frustrating this can be!
What do I mean by diligent?
It’s really quite simple. For the next 21 days, concurrently, if you will do the exercises and follow the guidance of
The Boundless Possibilities Workbook , you will have a breakthrough in your view of what is possible for you.
This begins with having faith in yourself and letting go of fear, stress and concern about areas in life where you
are finding yourself “stuck.” That means, if you stop or skip one day at any time during those 21 days, you will
need to begin again. The reason? Studies show that new habits are formed when you do something
consistently for 21 days in a row.
So, if you use Your Boundless Possibilities Workbook as it is designed, it will allow you to step back and observe
yourself, your actions , and your thoughts – much as a “real” coach would do. You will then be able to see
yourself and your “thoughts” much more clearly than when you are “on the playing field” of life. You will see
the actions you take much more clearly, and, most importantly, the thoughts that drive those actions.
Having the ability to “step back” and observe your thoughts, behaviors, emotions and assumptions in this way
can actually allow you to make the course corrections in your life; and by performing these actions for 21 days,
you will form new, more empowering habits.
You could say that when you are in the midst of your challenges and barriers, it’s like standing in the middle of a
forest, unable to see the beauty of the giant, sheltering tree, standing high above you because you’re so
confronted by the bushes, brambles and thorns that seem to surround you everywhere else.
Once you can step back and – as if from a coach’s point of view – you can see where you are, that the sun is
shining, that there is a safe path through the thorns, bushes and branches, and you can begin to awaken to the
sheltering trees overhead; offering you beauty and a safety you were unable to experience before.
For the next 21 days, consider The Boundless Possibilities Workbook as your partner – your coach, supporting
you as you create your Boundless Living Life and coaching you to implement some of the tools you have been
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Of course, unlike an “in person” coach, who actually speaks to you and who literally “holds you accountable” –
this “paper coach” requires YOU to pick it up and engage with it.
I hope you will take the opportunity to use it to move yourself forward in your Boundless Living Challenge or in
any area where you may currently feel ‘stuck.’ While the purpose of this workbook is to empower you to
increase your self confidence, these exercises can assist you to create breakthroughs everywhere.
Whether you are actively participating in the Boundless Living Challenge, are a member of the Boundless Living
Coaching Program or whether you are just considering it, you can definitely use this Boundless Possibilities
Workbook to move yourself forward in all areas of life; personal AND business.
However, there is ONE more thing - a catch (isn’t there always?)…
You must be committed to making these changes, advancing your intentions and to doing the exercises.
“The irony of commitment is that it is deeply liberating – in work, in play, in love. The act frees you from the tyranny of your
internal critic, from the fear that likes to dress itself up and parade around as rational hesitation. To commit is to remove
your head as the barrier to your life.”
Anne Morriss
When you make a commitment to yourself to read the materials, do the exercises and engage in the reflections
required, you will naturally alter your ordinary view and ways of looking at things and begin to expand into what
is possible for you.
So, take a few minutes now to read the following “Intention Statement” and then get started in creating the
next level of your Boundless Living life!
Intention Statement
“Our Intention is that out of the work you will be doing in The Boundless Possibilities Workbook, you will
experience powerful insights that lead you to take life-transforming action and habituate new ways of thinking;
leaving you with a whole new view of what is possible for you in life and in business. May your power continue
to unfold and may Boundless Living become a reality for you, opening vistas of fulfillment, joy, and success you
had not thought possible.”
Boundless Possibilities Principles
Declare your commitment to “Become an Observer”
Be clear what you want and don’t want in your life
Honor your word to do all exercises and answer all questions
Be open to insights and be willing to take appropriate actions
Do your assignments 21 days concurrently (in a row)
Start over if you “break” anywhere in those 21 days
Prepare to Love your Life!

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Introduction
Your Boundless Possibilities Workbook: Here’s how it works!
Your Boundless Possibilities Workbook will provide you with coaching insights in each of the following areas:
MAKING THE MOST OF A COACH……… Page 3
INTRODUCTION………………………………… Page 5
SESSION 1………………………………………….. Page 9
Becoming an Observer
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Your Thoughts
SESSION 3…………………………………………… Page 20
Being Present and Creating Confidence
COMPLETION………………………………………. Page 26
In order to make sure this Boundless Possibilities Workbook provides you with maximum support, I want to take
a moment and show you how it is laid out.
Coaching Session Format
1. The beginning of each Workbook Session touches on highlights of what is covered in that Chapter of the
Workbook.
2. After each session, there will be an opportunity to evaluate where you are on the “Success Scale” as it
applies to what was discussed in that session. You will be using the scale below and the accompanying
coaching that follows to guide you as you move forward through the program. Here is what it will look like:
Self-Evaluation & Coaching: Session No. ____
Where I am on the Confidence Scale regarding (Name of the Session)
 1. I am totally competent in this area
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 3. I am totally stopped in this area
Here you will “check in” with how you feel you are doing and whether you need coaching on the material
you just covered.
Check Box 1 if you can consider that you are soaring forward and perfectly clear
Check Box 2 if you need clarification on subjects covered in this session
Check Box 3 if you want additional coaching to support you to get the most out of this Session
3. After each session, you will also find a series of review questions, comments, or exercises. This is your
“Coach on Paper” working with you to clarify and deepen your understanding of the Session.
4. Occasionally, we will re-define a standard word. The definition given will not be directly from a dictionary; it
will be the word as used by us as a coaching distinction or way of speaking that may differ slightly from a
“generic” definition. It will be bolded in the paragraph where it is used and it will look like this:
From the coaching perspective, distinctions give you more power in impacting results because they supply
(see example above) otherwise missing information
5. After each session, you will be given a space to write any question that comes up for you that you may want
to do some research on your own!
Ok – Now you’ve got the picture of how we will be working together. Let’s move forward on your
Boundless Possibilities journey!
Distinction: Noting differences; a different way of looking at something in order to create a new
perspective. For example the difference between saying: “I had a bad hair day” and “my hair was straight,
stringy, and flyaway and I couldn’t do a thing with it.”

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Introduction - The Foundation of Confidence
Take Control!
A house is always built from the ground up – and the integrity of the foundation gives the home stability and
strength. Let’s look for a minute at your level of responsibility for your life. When most people hear the
question “Are you responsible” usually it is because something has gone wrong and someone needs to be
blamed! It doesn’t have to be that way.
Here is another way to look at that powerful word “responsibility.” I love the way Bob speaks about this word.
Being responsible, he says, is never about being wrong or about blaming yourself for something or not owning
up to what is important to you. It’s about knowing that you are the source of your own power and that when
you say that “the buck stops with you” rather than allowing the circumstances to determine the outcome of
your life, you have much more power to influence what happens to you, rather than the other way around.
Like the foundation of your home, it is the place on which you stand to create your present and your future.
As you move through this Boundless Possibilities Workbook, keep in mind that your positive ability to respond to
less than positive circumstances is a powerful tool in creating your Boundless Living life. Stay in touch with that
strength within you and success will be yours.
Considering the Boundless Living Coaching Program is a great start to creating the life that you have always
wanted. It will give you huge new insights and opportunities to move forward with anything you want to
accomplish and to increasing your confidence at lightning speed.
Now, let’s take a look at how much time this week you are planning to devote to working in your Boundless
Possibilities Workbook - 30 minutes a day? 10 minutes a day?
If you’re anything like me, you have a lot of things that could get in the way if you let them. You could be
cleaning up the kitchen, working in your office, reading a book, writing a letter, paying taxes – anything you
know you “should” do or even really want to do, but somehow, something else, more important at the time,
seems to come in between what you said you were going to do and doing it.
It’s perfectly natural for other things to get in the way; after all, life continues and things change, moment by
moment, even when your intentions are to watch an amazing show on TV. Why, of course you want to be
confident and successful. It’s an awesome possibility but… and here’s where life “interrupts” your
intentions…there are LOTS of OTHER things you must also do. What follows is Lesson One from your “Coach.”
Set Your Intention Right Now! If you haven’t done so – stop right now – and write down your intention for
success this week – what success would look like (Describe it completely):

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Great! Now, take a few moments and visualize it happening. Really allow yourself to experience the feeling that
comes with having your confidence and success become a reality. How will it show up this coming week and
what will be the outcome IF you are more confident? Schedule time each day to spend in your envisioning
process and that will make it more and more real for you.
Setting your intention and mastering the principles and practices for building confidence is a critical step in living
your life truly happy, confident of success and personal and professional fulfillment.
Get as clear as possible about what you want and the outcome you want to create, either in life or in your
business; design a vision board or some inspiring picture of what you intend to have in your life, and use it to
envision that experience. You can then take the actions you will be inspired to take. You’ll discover that the
better you get at envisioning what you want, the more easily it will begin to come to you.
Create a habit of Focusing on the Solution you are creating rather than the challenges you experience along the
way.
Identify a person in your life who can be a support for you in keeping your focus on a solution rather than on a
problem. Talk with them – ask them what you can do to support them as well so that, together, you can create
a partnership in which your mutual intentions can be fulfilled.
Guiding Principles Review
These guiding principles are the source for the information in this workbook. Keep them in mind as you begin
your journey toward self confidence and success
Declare A Commitment To Become An Observer
Be clear what you want and don’t want in your life
Honor your word to yourself
Be open to insights and willing to take appropriate actions
Do your assignments 21 days concurrently (in a row)
Start over if you “break” anywhere in those 21 days
Prepare to Love your Life!
Now, let’s get started with Session 1

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Session 1 - Becoming an Observer
This Session contains the key to success for this workbook. If you can begin to observe yourself and the actions
or reactions you have to circumstances in your life, you will begin to have more power in separating yourself
from being at the effect of life and causing your life to go the way you intend it to go.
Take this one distinction on, and you will literally transform your life. When you get “outside” your automatic
thoughts and begin to see things as if you were an observer, you will see how the stories or interpretations
about things can change the way things actually impact you and your life. The following exercises will help you
to do that.
In the Morning:
Take a moment to look at your day today. What kind of attitude are you taking into the day with you? Are you
clear there may be challenges? Are you looking for problems (and finding them)? What are you feeling as you
first wake up?
Then, consider what did you DO about those feelings?
What is your energy level and what would support you in raising it?
For the most part, we are unconscious of those feelings we wake up “into.” Your job over the next 21 days is to
begin to notice those feelings and write them down. This is the beginning of “Observation of Self.”
Assignment: Write down your attitude each morning and answer the above questions.
Start today (You will definitely need more paper so use this as a beginning and then add to it):
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What you will begin to notice as you write down those feelings and emotions each day, is that you have a choice
to listen to them – to let your life be determined by those feelings or emotions or to choose to create something
different. THAT is a new concept to many people. That they actually HAVE a choice about what they are
feeling is BIG news! Is that news to you?
Did you even notice you were choosing?
At Noon:
Consider the statement that “The Universe is Out to Support You!”
Once you begin to create a belief that you live in a friendly universe, it can impact everything. This is one of the
NEW habits that, if you choose it, will alter your life and the confidence with which you live it.
When was the last time YOU consciously made the decision to operate as if you trusted the universe?
I remember saying that to a friend and getting a strange look. I think it was when I was trying to decide whether
or not to buy a new car – a convertible. My friends told me it was crazy to buy a new car, especially a
convertible; there was nothing wrong with my old one – and a convertible was so impractical. I might lose my
job and not be able to keep up the payments. The weather in Texas is too hot for a convertible and my
insurance would go up…all kinds of things might go wrong. And I said “I trust the universe and if I am meant to
have this car, it will all work out” – and it has and I LOVE it!
Assignment: Each day make it your business to consciously decide to operate as if the universe is completely
your partner in having life be wonderful. Notice what happens on that day – do you feel differently? Are you
lighter in spirit? Do your friends seem nicer? Does the day seem brighter? Just take note of it and see if
operating as if the Universe is out to support you makes a difference in your level of happiness and satisfaction –
and do you feel more confident in your ability to win at life.
Remember, you are practicing being an Observer of yourself! - Write down what you notice.
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In the Evening:
Notice your energy level and where you find yourself at the end of the day.
Write down what you noticed about your day and whether it was different in any way than the day before.
What did you learn? What improved? What signs showed up that things were getting better?
Describe your observations about yourself and how you interacted with the circumstances around you. Then, at
the bottom, write at least three things you are proud of yourself for; things that you did during the day. No
matter how small or insignificant they appear, each day you will create three NEW things you did that you can
observe, take pride in and document at the end of the day.
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Self-Evaluation & Coaching – Session 1
Where I am regarding my ability to observe myself:
 1. I am completely competent in this area
If you have selected Box 1, good work! Move on to Session 2!
If you have selected Box 2 or 3, take a moment now to address the following questions:
1. Did you take any time during the day to consciously schedule your “moments of observation?”
Remember, they will not happen on their own – especially at first since you are creating a new habit. It
may require that you actually schedule a specific time to consciously observe how you are doing and how
your day is going. It can just be for a moment or two – this does not have to take a lot of time. It is a matter
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I invite you to go to your calendar now and schedule some time this week to do that…You could find it very
helpful. Here are a couple of examples,
Monday - Add a note in your calendar at 12:00 PM asking:
How many times so far today did I make an optimistic statement?
How often did I alter may normal reaction to something by considering an alternative?
Tuesday - Add a note in your calendar at 2:00 PM asking
Was I more present this morning to acceptance?
Did I consider another person’s view of a situation and alter mine as a result?
Wednesday - Add a note in your calendar at 4:00 PM asking:
Was my experience of life at work satisfying or dissatisfying today?
What part did I play in whether my day turned out well?
Only when you begin to be aware of those places where you are conscious of being present will you be able
to change your experience of life. Putting “course correction” in those places where you are consistently
unconscious or thinking about past events or concerns will alter how you feel about yourself and your life.
Notice if those moments occur at work. Do they happen when you are at home? Do you experience the
ability to observe yourself more during your leisure hours or when you are with certain people? Noticing is
half the battle and you will only notice when you are awake to the question.
That’s why putting it in your calendar will “wake you up.” Of course, you also want to notice where you are
experiencing more enjoyment, more ease, and where you are feeling “lighter.” Make sure you accept where
you are today and be kind to yourself as you are waking up and observing that you seem more satisfied and
confident in your life every day.
Schedule time during the day to visualize the intention you created at the beginning of this workbook. It
could be as little as 10 or 15 minutes in the morning or evening; just schedule it and begin creating a habit of
noticing what you are doing that is powerful, that is useful and that successfully moves you forward toward
what you want to have.
2. What practices have you put in place to confirm or add validity to the statement that the Universe is out
to support you?
Do this by taking action to shape your thinking in that direction – begin it now and take it one day at a time.
For example, each day this week, notice when something goes different than the way you think it should.
Consciously shift your thought process and see a value that you derived from it going the way that it did.
Do this consistently all week and notice if, by the end of the week, you are beginning to feel lighter and
more at ease inside. In doing this, you will begin to take the first step to creating habits that support your
Boundless Living experience.
As you know from following Bob, the Law of Attraction tells us that we get what we focus on. Take the
next few minutes and make a list of everything in your life that is wonderful and that you are grateful you
have.
As you do this, take a moment to really experience each thing on the list and the joy that it brings you.
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you have. And, because you are doing this, the grateful feelings you are experiencing will increase more and
more each day.
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Coaching Session 2 – Your Thoughts
Know what you want and what you don’t want
When you are clear that you choose the way you respond to every situation in your life, you can begin to gain
power, clarity and confidence. If, after all, we are just victims of our circumstances, being blown in one direction
and then in another, we have little to say about how our life goes.
It is only when you take ownership of your own happiness, success and confidence and you understand that
you have the ability to determine how you respond to circumstances, that you can you begin to direct the
course of your life.
We all encounter “victims” in life – you may have even considered yourself one – and have seen that they
believe that the past is more powerful than the future. This is what keeps them victims. It is only when we see
that the power for guiding our life and our direction is in the present – that the past has no power over us and
that when we choose the ability to respond powerfully in this moment –our entire life can change in an instant.
We lay the foundation for our confidence in directing our life by letting go of being a victim, being clear of what
we have that we don’t want, and knowing what we do want. Focusing on solutions, looking for the lesson and
the value in everything and discovering the gift in every situation is what allows us to make peace with
“thoughts” – both good and bad – and to create a powerful place to stand for ourselves in the present.
Getting people to see the power available to them when they take responsibility for who they are and what
they create in their lives is such an amazing conversation and one that constantly leaves me, as a coach,
inspired by who people can be when they choose their own power.
Question Your Thoughts
So often, thoughts from the past get in the way for all of us. However, when you can take responsibility for
having those thoughts, for questioning or clearing them, for ignoring them or laughing at them, you can begin
the process of creating your own happiness and generating confidence in your ability to design your Boundless
Living lifestyle.
Modern medicine for years has told you that you are what you eat – and it has become even clearer that you are
also what you think. Your thoughts control your body; even your unconscious thoughts. Those can be the most
powerful if you are unaware that they are there. If, for example, you are unaware that you are being a victim,
there is little hope for ever getting past it or for being anything else. That’s why what we discussed in Session 1
is so important.
Being an “observer” is an essential, powerful learning tool for anyone interested in making any changes in their
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Take the case of the fish: The fish says…”I’m so unhappy - I hate my life…everything is slippery, soggy and smelly
all the time.” Then, (if he could) the fish walks up on land and looks back at where he was. He says “WOW, no
wonder I felt wet and soggy all the time…I was in water!”
That’s what it’s like when we begin to “observe” ourselves. When we are being a victim, for example, it’s hard
to see it. It just feels like the way it is in life is that “everything bad always happens to me.”
Now, if we step back and see what actually occurred as if looking through someone else’s eyes, we can observe
the part we played in having the situation turn out the way that it did. Only then is there some power for us to
see that we had something to do with how it turned out. This is the source for creating the new habit of
questioning your thoughts.
Start creating that habit today and you could actually have fun doing it. You will begin to see how you are
causing your life to go the way that it does.
Keep in mind that if you focus on what you have that you don’t want, you will continue to attract more of the
same because that is the energy you will be putting out, whether you are aware of it or not.
That is why it is important to notice those thoughts – and clear them. Dwelling on what is not working and what
you don’t want will only get you more of the same. It is only when you can identify those thoughts, find value in
what you already have – even what you don’t want, and begin to create what you do want separate and apart
from them – that you will begin to alter that kind of negative energy.
I think it is important to add here to mention that “finding value” in what you have that you don’t want and
“liking it” or wanting to keep it are two different things. If you can see that you can create value in a lesson
learned or an experience completed that will help you live more effectively in the present and, therefore, in the
future, you can understand that everything that happens to us can have value – and it is what we say about it
that creates that value.
For example: I may not want that ticket I got for speeding and not wearing my seatbelt; however, I can see the
value in being conscious about my safety on the road and protecting myself and my family by now doing what I
should have done in the first place; obey the law and wear my seatbelt. That is the value of the ticket and I can
create that in my speaking.
Now, about shifting your unwanted or unpleasant thoughts…
I’d like to share with you a situation that one of my clients shared with me. She said she had thoughts about
herself and that, while she understood “intellectually” that she should let go of those thoughts AND that she
didn’t believe what she “heard” in her head; that she would never find anyone who would really love her for
who she was. BUT, she said, that thought was constantly with her anyway, in spite of the fact that she didn’t
believe it, intellectually.
She said it felt like the thoughts were thinking her, instead of her thinking the thoughts. This happened
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Working with people to be “clear” that they are NOT the thoughts in their head is important, and most
important is seeing that those thoughts are not “the truth.” Those “old” negative thoughts that plague all of
us from time to time are the reason we need to go beyond the mind and find a way to “let go.”
The internet is filled with techniques and methods that are designed to assist you in clearing these kinds of
resistance and past limiting thoughts. Some of the most popular are:
Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT)
The Science of Getting Rich
Cutting the Cord
The Sedona Method
These, along with many other tools, can help you clear out some of those old thoughts and decisions from the
past and can be extremely useful. I encourage you to test them all and see what works best for you.
Whatever you can do that allows you to practice observing yourself and your thoughts and learning to be
clear about what you want and what you don’t want will support your ability to be present.
What are some of the thoughts from the past that stop you from loving and taking care of yourself?
What do you need to do to let go of those self defeating thoughts?
Assignment:
During the day: For the next 21 days, notice how many times during the day you had the thought that
something occurring was a problem and that “it should not be like this.” Write a list of these things and then
next to them, write the value in them being that way. What will you learn from them and what you will create
going forward in the future that will be beneficial as a result of what you have that you don’t want.
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Next, write a list of what you do want – What would be fun, exciting and an opportunity for you to have that
is NOT a fix for something you don’t want? Be open over the next 24 hours to seeing where these things that
you want could show up. Remember to continue to be observant about why you want these things. Is it to fix
something? Is it because you think you would be smarter, better, or more appreciated if you had these things?
What if you already had everything you wanted and needed? What then would you want?
Visualize those things and enjoy in your mind having them. Notice when they start showing up around you!
Remember, according to the Law of Attraction, you attract what you focus on.
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Keep in mind that getting clear, trusting yourself and what you know to be true for you in your conscious mind
can allow those negative thoughts to disappear.
Where I am regarding understanding my thoughts & what I want and don’t want
If you checked Box 1 in this session, congratulations. Once you begin to know that you are not your thoughts,
that you can direct them instead AND that knowing what you want can assist you in having your Boundless
Living experience in life, you can use that vision to empower yourself rather than criticize or make yourself
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If you checked Box 2 or 3 in this Session, step back for a moment in time and consider a these questions.
1. When you are wondering why you are not getting what you want and the things that you don’t want
seem overwhelming, beginning to see value in what you have that you don’t want will go a long way
toward lessening the resistance in the universe to you having what you want. Just notice what you have
that you don’t want, appreciate the value in it and be grateful for what you do have. Do some visualizing
about what you really want – allow yourself to feel and experience what it will be like to have those
things and let go of how you think they should show up.
2. Remember when we talked about considering that the universe is benevolent – it wants you to have what
you want? Now is the time to remember that and continue to generate thoughts like that instead of why
things are not working the way you want them to.
3. Each day, work on valuing what you have - Use clearing tools every chance you get! Understand that you
are not your thoughts and you do not have to be “at the effect” of them. Just notice them, let them go.
Each night, make a list of everything you are grateful for – each list should have at least 3 new things on it
EVERY day. Begin your list below and do it every day from this one forward.
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4. The good thing about thoughts we have that seem to tell us how bad things are and how wrong others are,
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Take a moment to notice some of the following:
Where do these negative thoughts or feelings occur – mostly at work?
Be the observer - notice what seems to trigger them and what can you do to shift your thinking into a
different mode.
Does it happen when you are at home?
Notice if it happens mostly around certain people and notice if you are responding to inner thoughts
that are not necessarily “the truth,” but a version of what you believe to be true. What other version
could you create? What version would be more helpful?
Do you experience concern during your leisure hours or when you are with certain people?
This could be an indication of something that you have been ignoring or avoiding. This is an
opportunity to consider what you can do to change your way of thinking about. Is it a particular person
or place that has you feel that way and can you use it as a chance to practice shifting your thoughts?
Noticing is half the battle and you will only notice when you are awake to these kinds of questions. Put it in
your calendar so that it can “wake you up.” In this way, you will be more conscious and creating more
confidence in yourself and the level of your satisfaction will increase.
Our Thinking
Reactive Creative
Judging Accepting
Worrying Trusting
Over-thinking Clear Thinking
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Coaching Session 3 – Being Present and Creating Confidence
This is a short Session – and it only takes a few lines. But those few lines can change your life so listen carefully
to your coach…
Gratitude
Studies frequently show that people who are satisfied, content with their lives, and confident about who they
are don’t necessarily have more than others have in their lives to be grateful for. They just focus more often
and spend more time in the experience of gratitude.
What experts know is that your heart is the source for gratitude. There’s a simple equation and it works every
time. People who experience gratitude the most are the happiest. In the coaching I have done with thousands
of individuals over the years, this is one of the constant truths I’ve encountered.
I’ve even asked myself the question, which came first – the gratitude or the happiness? And the answer is
always the same. In my experience it is always the gratitude that comes first. Always; no exceptions. When
people are grateful, they are happy.
Have you ever had the experience of just wanting to jump up and down and say “thank you, thank you, thank
you!!!” Of course you have. The last time I did that was when I’d lost my wallet and a stranger returned them
to me by taking them to the store “lost and found.” Not only was the wallet returned, but it had every dime and
dollar bill still in it! It was a wonderful, rewarding experience! Having something like that happen and
experiencing that level of gratitude has the ability to “expand” your heart and your ability to allow happiness
and contentment into your life.
Here’s a tip - If you want to experience that kind of expansion more often, give it away. That’s right; the more
you give away a kind word, a thoughtful deed, a considerate act, the more gratitude and happiness will flow
your way. The benevolent universe you are creating for yourself really does work that way.
More than anything else you will read or study, focusing on your level of gratitude and satisfaction in life, the
more easily you will move forward on your journey to a Boundless Living life.
I know that seems just too simple, doesn’t it? It really is that easy - yet we make being happy and satisfied
pretty darn complicated.
But really, the bottom line is if you release the past, focus on good thoughts, let the bad ones just drift away,
and stay present and grateful for being in the moment, you will become very clear that gratitude is the source
for being happy and fulfilled. And, when you are happy and fulfilled, you are confident in life. Confident that
you can truly create anything that you want – for yourself and for the people you love.
Did you notice I said “…stay present and grateful for being in the moment?” Let me review that just in case you
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If you've spent any time at all studying the metaphysical or the Law of Attraction, you will hear the expression
"being present" quite often.
Being Present: Being “awake” to this instant, this
“now” moment; there is no past in the way and no
future to fear; you are just in the here and now.
Here’s how that relates to gratitude. When you take a moment to be grateful, you are always in the present
moment. Can you see that? If I ask you right now - "What are you grateful for?" you will look into your heart –
in this moment - and say what comes to mind. It could be "for my children" or "for my wonderful family and
home" or "for my talent" – whatever it is, you will be present - and clear, expressing yourself, joyful,
experiencing life to its fullest and ready to embrace happiness.
When you are grateful you are present…and when you are present, you are happy and confident. That’s the
theory - feel free to test it!
Now, I’m going to pose a question here that is probably one of the most important you will read in this
document.
Why would being present impact being confident?
I’d say that the answer to this question could possibly be the most important key to your success in this
Boundless Possibilities Workbook.
Why do you think that is?
Because confidence exists as a result of doing everything we have been talking about since you began this
workbook. It is essential to be an observer, to be clear what you want and be grateful for what you already
have and, finally to being PRESENT; present to yourself and your ability in life. Present to the benevolent
universe you have created. Present to the moment with no past in the way and no judgment from the past
about what you can and can’t do.
I am inviting you to consider that “confidence” is a matter of who you are creating yourself to be in this
moment.
Consider this. LACK of confidence is a state of mind. It is produced by thoughts – involuntary thoughts – from
the past and about the past. It’s as simple as that and while it is simple, it is not easy.
We all have thoughts – about ourselves, about our past failures, about our lack of skills in one area and another
– HOWEVER, and this is the key – Those thoughts are NOT the truth. They are just past memories or feelings –
and they do NOT have to run your life if you choose to let them go. Letting go of the past is a powerful tool to
build confidence in the present.
Letting Go: To release an attachment to some person, thing,
idea, or outcome; to allow whatever happens to happen
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That is why observing your thoughts is so important.
Because only when observing them can you truly separate yourself from them – and see that they are from the
past and not useful in the moment.
Here is the winning formula for Self Confidence…
1. Observe your thoughts – notice if they empower you or not – if not, clear them or let them go
2. Be present – and grateful for everything you have – and see value in what you have that you don’t
want
3. Know what you want and take action consistent with what you want
4. Visualize the experience of having what you want or the action you want to take to get it
5. You can only win – since whether you accomplish exactly what you want or not, you will gain value from
it (see number 2)
Truly, creating confidence in yourself takes only a moment. The key is that moment must happen in a NOW
moment.
Assignment:
Each day for the next 21, notice your level of power; rate yourself on a scale from 1 to 5 – One being least
powerful and 5 being most powerful. Do this in the morning and evening. In the morning, note where you are
when you get up and ready for the day.
Notice each day if your level of power increases or decreases. If it does not increase, what are the things you
are observing about yourself that take away your power? What conversations are you having in your head that
tell you are not powerful? Not confident? Not capable? YOU created them and YOU can stop them.
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In the evening, notice what you say about your level of power before going to bed. Did you accomplish what
you wanted – are you clear that whether you did or not, YOU are the one who gets to say what your level of
power is. Will you have your successes AND your failures empower you or let them disempower you.
Remember, YOU get to make that determination, not your thoughts.
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Where I am regarding Being Present and Confident
If you checked Box 1, good work – stay in the flow and keep growing!
If you checked Box 2 or 3, engage in the following activities, designed to clarify your experience of this
session.
1. This week, when you are in the grocery store, look behind you. Does someone have fewer groceries than
you and look like they are in a hurry? Offer to let them ahead… Notice how their face lights up – notice how
good you feel. The next time you encounter someone giving you a service, look them in the eye and thank
them; really thank them for serving you, notice the difference it makes – for both of you.
2. The next time you notice someone having some kind of difficulty that you know how to handle, do it.
3. Over the next 21 days, begin to take your focus off of you and put it on someone else. Notice what your
experience is of doing this. I promise you will become much more aware of your own value and what you
bring to the world – this can ONLY create confidence.
4. Notice as you go through your week how often you are grateful.
5. Try something you have never tried before. Acknowledge yourself for the results you produced whether
you have thoughts about it that say you did not do a good job. Create a list of what you learned from any
failures you had this week. Observe any thoughts you are having about failure or what you think is failure
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6. Notice your level of power each and every day. Look for it to improve each day and what is missing when it
does not. Notice where you made yourself or someone else wrong because they did something that doesn’t
appear to be working. Create a new explanation about the value of what they did that makes it worth
having happened; no matter how bad it appears at the beginning. Start observing your conversations and
where they are empowering and where they are not – for you AND for others. Then shift the way you are
speaking so that your confidence level is increasing daily.
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7. Describe the last time YOU wanted to jump up and down and say “Thank you, thank you, thank you!!” –
create a moment or two every day to express that kind of gratitude in your life.
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8. Make a gratitude list below. List everything you are grateful for right now. Make a new list every morning
or evening – list at least five things you are grateful for and don’t repeat anything.
Include notes on your experience of doing that and how you feel when you are done.
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Congratulations for taking this on – If you have come this far, you have done great work! Regardless of where
you are – whether you completed all exercises or stopped after Session1, there is value to be seen if you look for
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Now, let’s look at completion…

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Completion
Before we close, I’d like to say a few last words about Completion. “Completion” is a coaching distinction that
can powerfully impact your life.
Completion: A declared state; the experience of everything
addressed; all issues settled and nothing unsaid or un-communicated.
No obligations are due and freedom is all that is present is being
present.
Completing something is quite different than finishing it.
For example, you may have finished reading this Coaching Workbook, but have you completed it? Have you
done all the exercises you intended to do? Are you clear that you got everything you wanted out of it? Do you
understand everything you want to understand? Are you truly “complete” with it?
If you have fallen short of what you intended, you can still be complete!
Many times we think we are complete but we have thoughts and feelings remaining.
So, I would like to take this opportunity to be complete with you. When something is incomplete it saps energy,
leaves old thoughts rattling around in our brains, and creates dissatisfaction.
Old stories, broken friendships and relationships, old careers family arguments; all those things that have
stopped us in life; things that we’ve walked away from but have not completed – That is one of the greatest
values of coaching.
So here’s what’s I need to say to be complete.
In producing this manual, my wish for you is that you experience all the happiness, joy and self
confidence in living that is possible. That your life continually unfolds as an amazing adventure and
that you continue to grow and prosper, traveling the path of those who are living Boundless Lives!
Bob and his entire Coaching Team know that possibility is in your hands and that there is no better time than the
present moment to make that happen.
If you have ever thought about having a coach, now is the perfect time!
I invite you to consider working with a coach – whether it’s with Bob and his team or somewhere else.
Working with a coach can increase enormously the velocity with which you move forward in life!
With a coach at your side, there is nothing standing between you and having complete and utter personal and
professional success.

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We encourage you to find out about Bob’s Boundless Living Coaching Program. Just go to
www.boundlesslivingcoaching.com and find out what is possible for you in working one-on-one with a coach,
whether it is in the personal or business area of life.
Time after time, we witness extraordinary results as people express what they have created out of working, one-
on-one with their coach; gaining wisdom, direction and guidance; and you, too, can create those same kind of
results if that is what you are committed to.
It is only when you take action and step out in the world that you will begin building your self confidence level
and break down your personal barriers to success. Each one of us has amazing gifts to share with the world and
only when we are actively participating in life, can they show up.
Now is definitely the perfect the time to take charge of your own success, raise your self confidence and
overcome the barriers that have stopped you from taking your life to the next level of happiness and
fulfillment.
Warmest personal regards,
The Boundless Living Coaching Team!
P.S. As you consider what is next for you in pushing your life and your business to the next level of productivity
and profitability, consider strongly the fact that Bob uses and is benefited by a powerful partnership with his
coach and the Boundless Living Coaching Team. We all look forward to hearing from you at
www.boundlesslivingcoaching.com !

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