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Conflict Management
Speech and Debate Notes
9/19/12
2nd and 4th periods
Quick stress relief: The first core
conflict resolution skill
S Being able to manage and relieve stress in the moment is the
key to staying balanced, focused, and in control, no matter
what challenges you face.
S If you don’t know how to stay centered and in control of
yourself, you will become overwhelmed in conflict situations
and unable to respond in healthy ways.
“Driving Analogy”
Psychologist Connie Lillas
1. Foot on the gas= An angry or
agitated stress response.
You’re heated, keyed up, overly
emotional, and unable to sit still.
“Driving Analogy”
Psychologist Connie Lillas
2. Foot on the brake. = A withdrawn or
depressed stress response.
You shut down, space out, and show
very little energy or emotion.
“Driving Analogy”
Psychologist Connie Lillas
3. Foot on both gas and brake. = A
tense and frozen stress response.
You “freeze” under pressure and can’t do
anything. You look paralyzed, but under
the surface you’re extremely agitated.
Stress interferes with the ability to
resolve conflict by limiting your ability to:
S Accurately read another person's nonverbal
communication.
S Hear what someone is really saying.
S Be aware of your own feelings.
S Be in touch with your deep-rooted needs.
S Communicate your needs clearly.
Is stress a problem for you?
S You may be so used to being stressed that you're not
even aware you are stressed. Stress may be a problem
in your life if you identify with the following:
S You often feel tense or tight somewhere in your body.
S You're not aware of movement in your chest or stomach
when you breathe.
S Conflict absorbs your time and attention.
Learn how to beat stress in the
moment
S The best way to rapidly and reliably relieve stress (if
you don't have someone close at hand to talk to) is
through the senses: sight, sound, touch, taste, and
smell.
S But each person responds differently to sensory
input, so you need to find things that are soothing to
you.
Smell &
Scents
 Light a scented candle
or burn some incense.
 Lie down in sheets
scented with lavender.
 Smell the roses-or
another type of flower.
 Enjoy the clean, fresh
air in the great
outdoors.
 Spritz on your favorite
perfume or cologne.
Sound
• Sing or hum a favorite
tune. Listen to uplifting
music.
• Tune in to the soundtrack
of nature-crashing waves,
the wind rustling the trees,
birds singing.
• Buy a small fountain, so
you can enjoy the soothing
sound of running water in
your home or office.
• Hang wind chimes near an
open window.
Touch
Wrap yourself in a warm
blanket.
Pet a dog or cat.
Hold a comforting object (a
stuffed animal, a favorite
memento).
Soak in a hot bath.
Give yourself a hand or neck
massage.
Wear clothing that feels soft
against your skin.
Taste
 Chew a piece of
sugarless gum.
 Indulge in a small
piece of dark
chocolate.
 Sip a steaming cup of
coffee or tea or a
refreshing cold drink.
 Eat a perfectly ripe
piece of fruit.
 Enjoy a healthy,
crunchy snack (celery,
carrots, or trail mix).
Movement
 Run in place or jump
up and down.
 Dance around.
 Stretch or roll your
head in circles.
 Go for a short walk.
• Squeeze a rubbery
stress ball.
Emotional awareness: The second core
conflict resolution skill
S Emotional awareness is the key to
understanding yourself and others.
S If you don’t know how you feel or why you
feel that way, you won’t be able to
communicate effectively or smooth over
disagreements.
Emotional awareness: The second core
conflict resolution skill
S Although knowing your own feelings may seem simple,
many people ignore or try to sedate strong emotions like
anger, sadness, and fear.
S Your ability to handle conflict depends on being
connected to these feelings.
S If you’re afraid of strong emotions or if you insist on
finding solutions that are strictly rational, your ability to
face and resolve differences will be impaired.
Why emotional awareness is a key
factor in resolving conflict
S Definition: Emotional awareness—
consciousness of your moment-to-
moment emotional experience
The ability to manage all of your feelings
appropriately is the basis of a communication
process that can resolve conflict.
Emotional awareness helps
you:
S Understand what is really troubling other people
S Understand yourself, including what is really troubling you
S Stay motivated until the conflict is resolved
S Communicate clearly and effectively
S Attract and influence others
Tips for managing and resolving conflict
S Managing and resolving conflict
requires the ability to quickly reduce
stress and bring your emotions into
balance. You can ensure that the
process is as positive as possible by
sticking to the following conflict
resolution guidelines:
Tips for managing and resolving conflict
S Listen for what is felt as well as said.
When we listen we connect more
deeply to our own needs and emotions,
and to those of other people. Listening
in this way also strengthens us, informs
us, and makes it easier for others to
hear us.
Tips for managing and resolving conflict
S Make conflict resolution the priority
rather than winning or "being
right." Maintaining and strengthening
the relationship, rather than “winning”
the argument, should always be your
first priority. Be respectful of the other
person and his or her viewpoint.
Tips for managing and resolving conflict
S Focus on the present. If you’re
holding on to old hurts and
resentments, your ability to see the
reality of the current situation will be
impaired. Rather than looking to the
past and assigning blame, focus on
what you can do in the here-and-now to
solve the problem.
Tips for managing and resolving conflict
S Pick your battles. Conflicts can be
draining, so it’s important to consider
whether the issue is really worthy of
your time and energy. Maybe you don't
want to surrender a parking space if
you’ve been circling for 15 minutes. But
if there are dozens of spots, arguing
over a single space isn’t worth it.
Tips for managing and resolving conflict
S Be willing to forgive. Resolving
conflict is impossible if you’re unwilling
or unable to forgive. Resolution lies in
releasing the urge to punish, which can
never compensate for our losses and
only adds to our injury by further
depleting and draining our lives.
Tips for managing and resolving conflict
S Know when to let something go. If
you can’t come to an agreement, agree
to disagree. It takes two people to keep
an argument going. If a conflict is going
nowhere, you can choose to disengage
and move on.

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Conflict management

  • 1. S Conflict Management Speech and Debate Notes 9/19/12 2nd and 4th periods
  • 2. Quick stress relief: The first core conflict resolution skill S Being able to manage and relieve stress in the moment is the key to staying balanced, focused, and in control, no matter what challenges you face. S If you don’t know how to stay centered and in control of yourself, you will become overwhelmed in conflict situations and unable to respond in healthy ways.
  • 3. “Driving Analogy” Psychologist Connie Lillas 1. Foot on the gas= An angry or agitated stress response. You’re heated, keyed up, overly emotional, and unable to sit still.
  • 4. “Driving Analogy” Psychologist Connie Lillas 2. Foot on the brake. = A withdrawn or depressed stress response. You shut down, space out, and show very little energy or emotion.
  • 5. “Driving Analogy” Psychologist Connie Lillas 3. Foot on both gas and brake. = A tense and frozen stress response. You “freeze” under pressure and can’t do anything. You look paralyzed, but under the surface you’re extremely agitated.
  • 6. Stress interferes with the ability to resolve conflict by limiting your ability to: S Accurately read another person's nonverbal communication. S Hear what someone is really saying. S Be aware of your own feelings. S Be in touch with your deep-rooted needs. S Communicate your needs clearly.
  • 7. Is stress a problem for you? S You may be so used to being stressed that you're not even aware you are stressed. Stress may be a problem in your life if you identify with the following: S You often feel tense or tight somewhere in your body. S You're not aware of movement in your chest or stomach when you breathe. S Conflict absorbs your time and attention.
  • 8. Learn how to beat stress in the moment S The best way to rapidly and reliably relieve stress (if you don't have someone close at hand to talk to) is through the senses: sight, sound, touch, taste, and smell. S But each person responds differently to sensory input, so you need to find things that are soothing to you.
  • 9. Smell & Scents  Light a scented candle or burn some incense.  Lie down in sheets scented with lavender.  Smell the roses-or another type of flower.  Enjoy the clean, fresh air in the great outdoors.  Spritz on your favorite perfume or cologne.
  • 10. Sound • Sing or hum a favorite tune. Listen to uplifting music. • Tune in to the soundtrack of nature-crashing waves, the wind rustling the trees, birds singing. • Buy a small fountain, so you can enjoy the soothing sound of running water in your home or office. • Hang wind chimes near an open window.
  • 11. Touch Wrap yourself in a warm blanket. Pet a dog or cat. Hold a comforting object (a stuffed animal, a favorite memento). Soak in a hot bath. Give yourself a hand or neck massage. Wear clothing that feels soft against your skin.
  • 12. Taste  Chew a piece of sugarless gum.  Indulge in a small piece of dark chocolate.  Sip a steaming cup of coffee or tea or a refreshing cold drink.  Eat a perfectly ripe piece of fruit.  Enjoy a healthy, crunchy snack (celery, carrots, or trail mix).
  • 13. Movement  Run in place or jump up and down.  Dance around.  Stretch or roll your head in circles.  Go for a short walk. • Squeeze a rubbery stress ball.
  • 14. Emotional awareness: The second core conflict resolution skill S Emotional awareness is the key to understanding yourself and others. S If you don’t know how you feel or why you feel that way, you won’t be able to communicate effectively or smooth over disagreements.
  • 15. Emotional awareness: The second core conflict resolution skill S Although knowing your own feelings may seem simple, many people ignore or try to sedate strong emotions like anger, sadness, and fear. S Your ability to handle conflict depends on being connected to these feelings. S If you’re afraid of strong emotions or if you insist on finding solutions that are strictly rational, your ability to face and resolve differences will be impaired.
  • 16. Why emotional awareness is a key factor in resolving conflict S Definition: Emotional awareness— consciousness of your moment-to- moment emotional experience The ability to manage all of your feelings appropriately is the basis of a communication process that can resolve conflict.
  • 17. Emotional awareness helps you: S Understand what is really troubling other people S Understand yourself, including what is really troubling you S Stay motivated until the conflict is resolved S Communicate clearly and effectively S Attract and influence others
  • 18. Tips for managing and resolving conflict S Managing and resolving conflict requires the ability to quickly reduce stress and bring your emotions into balance. You can ensure that the process is as positive as possible by sticking to the following conflict resolution guidelines:
  • 19. Tips for managing and resolving conflict S Listen for what is felt as well as said. When we listen we connect more deeply to our own needs and emotions, and to those of other people. Listening in this way also strengthens us, informs us, and makes it easier for others to hear us.
  • 20. Tips for managing and resolving conflict S Make conflict resolution the priority rather than winning or "being right." Maintaining and strengthening the relationship, rather than “winning” the argument, should always be your first priority. Be respectful of the other person and his or her viewpoint.
  • 21. Tips for managing and resolving conflict S Focus on the present. If you’re holding on to old hurts and resentments, your ability to see the reality of the current situation will be impaired. Rather than looking to the past and assigning blame, focus on what you can do in the here-and-now to solve the problem.
  • 22. Tips for managing and resolving conflict S Pick your battles. Conflicts can be draining, so it’s important to consider whether the issue is really worthy of your time and energy. Maybe you don't want to surrender a parking space if you’ve been circling for 15 minutes. But if there are dozens of spots, arguing over a single space isn’t worth it.
  • 23. Tips for managing and resolving conflict S Be willing to forgive. Resolving conflict is impossible if you’re unwilling or unable to forgive. Resolution lies in releasing the urge to punish, which can never compensate for our losses and only adds to our injury by further depleting and draining our lives.
  • 24. Tips for managing and resolving conflict S Know when to let something go. If you can’t come to an agreement, agree to disagree. It takes two people to keep an argument going. If a conflict is going nowhere, you can choose to disengage and move on.