1. 2012 PAAVE Presentation

2.  A pattern of assaultive and coercive behaviors
in which an individual establishes and
maintains power and control over another
with whom he/she has an
intimate, romantic, marital, or family
relationship.
 Abusers often use
threats, intimidation, isolations, violent acts
and other behaviors to establish and maintain
power and control which is the root of
domestic violence.

3. 1. Domestic violence occurs when a person commits one of the
following acts against or upon his spouse, former spouse, any other
person to whom he is related by blood or marriage, a person with
whom he is or was actually residing, a person with whom he has
had or is having a dating relationship, a person with whom he has a
child in common, the minor child of any of those persons, his minor
child or any person who has been appointed the custodian or legal
guardian for his minor child:
(a) A battery.
(b) An assault.
(c) Compelling the other by force or threat of force to perform an
act from which he has the right to refrain or to refrain from an act
which he has the right to perform.
(d) A sexual assault.
Cont’d

4. (e) A knowing, purposeful or reckless course of conduct intended to harass
the other. Such conduct may include, but is not limited to:
(1) Stalking.
(2) Arson.
(3) Trespassing.
(4) Larceny.
(5) Destruction of private property.
(6) Carrying a concealed weapon without a permit.
(7) Injuring or killing an animal.
(f) A false imprisonment.
(g) Unlawful entry of the other's residence, or forcible entry against the
other's will if there is a reasonably foreseeable risk of harm to the other
from the entry.
2. As used in this section, "dating relationship" means frequent, intimate
associations primarily characterized by the expectation of affectionate or
sexual involvement. The term does not include a casual relationship or an
ordinary association between persons in a business or social context.
Added by Laws 1985, p. 2283. Amended by Laws 1995, p. 902; Laws
1997, p. 1808; Laws 2007, c. 40, § 1; Laws 2007, c. 318, § 5.

5. Emotional or Psychological Abuse:
• Undermining a person’s sense of self-worth
•Causing fear by: intimidation, threatening physical harm to
self, partner/children, destruction of pets and property, mind games, or
forcing isolation from friends, family, school and/or work
Physical Abuse
•Use of force against someone in a way that injures or endangers that
person.
•Denying medical care of forcing alcohol and/or drug use.
Sexual Abuse
• Any situation in which partner is forced to participate in
unwanted, unsafe, or degrading sexual activity.
Economic or Financial Abuse
• Making or attempting to make a person financially dependent.

6.  Despite what many people believe,
domestic violence is not due to the
abuser’s loss of control over
his/her behavior.
 In fact, violence is a deliberate
choice made by the abuser in
order to take control over his/her
partner.
Power and Control

8. Playing the game of life…

9. -The victim realistically fears that the batterer will
become more violent and even fatal if she attempts to
leave.
-Their friends and family may not support them
leaving.
-They knows the difficulties of single parenting in
reduced financial circumstances.
-There is a mix of good times, love and hope along
with the manipulation, intimidation, and fear.
-They may not know about or have access to safety
and support.

10. A Victim is the best expert at determining their own
level of safety, and therefore are the best expert at
determining how to survive a violent
relationship, even if that means staying in the
relationship

11. •FEAR
•Lack of Resources
• Financial Dependence
• Isolation/lack of support
•Institutional Responses
•Traditional Ideology

12. •Leaving is not an event
• Each time victims leave they learn a new part of the process so
that when they know its time to leave for good- they know the
systems they need to access in order to be successful
•Leaving also means breaking free from someone who has
established power over you in many ways
•Leaving will require strategic planning and legal
intervention to avert separation violence and to safeguard
survivors and their children

13. Effects of DV on Children
• Children who witness domestic violence are
affected in ways similar to children who are
physically abused.
• They are at a greater risk for abuse and neglect
if they live in a violent home.
• Children exposed to family violence are more
likely to develop social, emotional, psychological
and/or behavioral problems than those who are
not.
• Some children show no negative impact from
witnessing domestic violence.

14. • Children who witness domestic violence areaffected in
ways similar to children who are physically abused.
• They are at a greater risk for abuse and neglect if they
live in a violent home.
• Children exposed to family violence are more likely to
develop social, emotional, psychological and/or
behavioral problems than those who are not.
• Some children show no negative impact from witnessing
domestic violence.

15. • Numerous somatic complaints
• Nervous, anxious, short attention span
• Tired, lethargic and frequently ill
• Poor personal hygiene
• Regressed behaviors or high risk play
• Shame, guilt and self blame
• Fears of abandonment
• Anger
• Depression and feelings of helplessness
• Confusion about conflicting feelings towards their
parents.

16. • More aggressive/more passive
• Behavior problems at school
• Acting out or withdrawing
• “Parentified” or overly mature behavior
• Rigid Defenses
• Excessive attention seeking
• Lying to avoid confrontation
• Out of control behavior
• Hypersensitivity – to sound, movement
• Bedwetting and nightmares

17. •Withdrawl from school
•Becoming secretive, ashamed, or hostile to
parents, family, or friends
•Partner calls, texts, or using social networking
constantly
•Apologizes for partner’s behavior constantly
•Stopped hanging out with friends

18. Victim’s inner thoughts Abuser’s Belittling Behavior…..
and feelings….
Do you: Does your partner:
 feel afraid of your partner  humiliate, criticize, or yell at
much of the time? you?
 avoid certain topics out of  treat you so badly that
fear of angering your partner? you’re embarrassed for your
 feel that you can’t do friends or family to see?
anything right for your  ignore or put down your
partner? opinions or
 believe that you deserve to be
accomplishments?
hurt or mistreated?
 blame you for his own
 wonder if you’re the one who
is crazy? abusive behavior?
 see you as property or a sex
 feel emotionally numb or
helpless? object, rather than as a
person?

19. Abuser’s Controlling
Abuser’s Violence Behavior…..
Behavior/Threats….
Does your partner: Does your partner:
 have a bad and  act excessively jealous
unpredictable temper? and possessive?
 hurt you, or threaten to  control where you go or
hurt or kill you? what you do?
 threaten to take your  keep you from seeing
children away or harm your friends or family?
them?  limit your access to
 threaten to commit money, the phone, or the
suicide if you leave? car?
 force you to have sex?
 constantly check up on
 destroy your belongings? you?

20. •Frequent injuries with the excuse of “accidents”
•Frequent and sudden absences from work or school
•Frequent, harassing phone calls from the partner
•Fear of the partner; references to the partner's anger
•Personality changes (i.e. outgoing to withdrawn)
•Excessive fear of conflict
•Submissive behavior; lack of assertiveness
•Isolation from friends and family
•Insufficient resources to live (money, credit cards, car)
• Depression, crying, low self-esteem

21. •Gently ask direct questions about the situation.
•Listen without judging.
•Tell your friend the abuse in not his/her fault.
•Emphasize help is available.
•Explain that relationship abuse is a crime and
protection is available.
•Work with your friend to identify resources that can
provide assistance and support.

22. What protection does the order provide?
By issuing a temporary protection order, the court may:
Prohibit the adverse party from threatening, physically injuring, or harassing the
applicant or minor children, either directly or through an agent.
Exclude the adverse party from the applicant's place of residence.
Prohibit the adverse party from entering the residence, school or place of employment
of the applicant or minor children and order him/her to stay away from any specified
place frequented regularly by them.
Prohibit the adverse party from having any contact with the applicant:
In person
By phone
By mail (written or electronic)
Through a third party
Order such other relief as it deems necessary in an emergency situation.

23.  An Emergency Temporary  A Temporary
Protection Order (ETPO) may
be issued if adverse party is Protection Order (TPO)
arrested for domestic battery
or related charges and still in may be issued for 30
custody. days.
 An extension hearing
 This process MUST be started
immediately upon the adverse may be requested to
party's arrest. If the request extend the Order up to
is delayed, the judge may not
consider it an emergency. A one year thereafter.
hearing will be scheduled
within seven calendar days.
The applicant must attend
this hearing.
Emergency Temporary

24. •Theapplicant will be required to complete an application, describing the
need for a Protection Order.
•Criminal charges do not have to be filed.
•Policeor medical reports of current or previous incidents may be included
with the application.
•Photos of any visible injuries may be taken in the Protection Order office.
•Photo identification of the applicant is required for notarization of the
application.
•Theapplication must contain specific information about recent
physical, sexual and/or emotional abuse or threats of abuse that cause
concern for the applicant's safety.
•An advocate will review the application, discuss safety options and offer
referrals to other services as needed.
•The application process may take one to two hours.

25. The applicant MUST have a least one of the following relationships
with the person against whom the Order may be issued:
Related by blood (i.e. son/daughter, father/mother, brother/sister)
Related by marriage (i.e. spouse, ex-spouse, or current in-law)
Current or former roommate
Past or present dating relationship
Have children together
NOTE: The applicant’s, or any of the person’s listed above, minor
child may also be entitled to protection.

26. •A stalking order that is issued by a Justice of the Peace may do the
following:
•Order the adverse party to stay away from the
home, school, business, or place of employment of the victim and
any other location specifically named by the court.
•Order the adverse party to refrain from
contacting, intimidating, threatening or otherwise interfering with
the victim and any other person, including a member of the family
or the household of the victim, specifically named by the court.

27. The applicant must fill out an affidavit that describes in detail the actions or behavior of the
adverse party that causes the applicant to believe his/her physical or mental well-being is at
risk. The affidavit must be LEGIBLE, and it should include all relevant dates and times so that
a proper foundation will be presented to the reviewing judge.
In the affidavit, the applicant must show that the adverse party is acting in a pattern or
"course of conduct” consisting of a series of acts over time that shows evidence of a
continuity of purpose directed at a specific person.
The applicant may include any supporting documents such as:
Documentation of phone calls
Notes left by the adverse party
Pictures of property damage etc.
Answering machine tapes.
The applicant will be contacted by a court clerk and informed of the judge's decision. If
granted, the Order will be in effect for 30 days and may be extended up to one year
thereafter.

28. Think of a safe place to go if an argument occurs - avoid rooms with no
exits (bathroom) or rooms with weapons (kitchen).
Keep a bag packed in a safe place until you are ready to leave or if you need
to leave suddenly.
Important items to have:
Identification
Personal papers (i.e. medical, school, and legal papers)
Funds
Keys
Phone and Contacts
Medications
Things to help cope (i.e. pictures, keepsakes)
Change of clothes
Think about and make a list of safe people to contact and places to go.

29. Know the resources in your community for emergency shelter, information
and support.
Carry phone numbers with you at all times. Memorize all important
numbers.
Inform friends, neighbors, school and co-workers so they can be aware of
the situation.
Keeping the abuse a secret could be dangerous for you and others.
Establish a "code word" or "sign" so that family, friends, teachers or co-
workers know when to call for help.
Keep a written log, including date, time and witnesses, of any
contact, harassment or abuse.
Save written or electronic (voicemail, e-mail, text) messages, caller ID
records and call traces.
Keep a copy of your protection order on your person as well as at all places
listed.
Give a copy to close friends, family, neighbors and co-workers too.

30. Get a new, unlisted phone number and screen incoming calls.
Use a post office box rather than your home address.
Change locks if you choose to stay in the same residence. Keep the
outside clear of foliage and well lit.
Avoid staying alone.
Vary your routine. Don’t make it easy to be followed.
Plan how to get away if confronted by your abuser.
DO NOT meet with the adverse party, even if he/she promises to
return belongings or to resolve differences. Always ask for a police
escort to retrieve belongs or return property.

31.  Go to a safe place
 Seek medical attention immediately. University Medical Center
(UMC) is the only hospital that will do a rape kit. You may be
injured more seriously than you realize. Medical evidence will
be needed, if you decide to press charges.
 Call University Police (895-3668) or CALL 911. Reporting is
not the same as pressing charges.
 Call the Counseling and Psychological Services (895-3627).
 Do not blame yourself-you are the victim of a crime.
 Do NOT bathe, shower, douche, or change clothes until you
have talked with the police or nurse. However, if you have
already done these things, please do not let his stop you from
seeking medical care. If you’ve changed clothes , place the
clothes you were wearing in a paper bag and them to the
hospital with you.
 Remember you may have an advocate to help every step of
the way

32. Las Vegas Metro Police Department 311 or (702) 828-3111
Domestic Violence Unit (702) 828-4451
Henderson Police Department (702) 267-5000
Victim/Witness Advocate (702) 267-4727
National Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)
Nevada Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-500-1556
SAFE House Hotline www.safehousenv.org (702) 564-3227
Office (702) 451-4203
Safe Nest Hotline www.safenest.org (702) 646-4981
Office (702) 877-0133
Child Abuse and Neglect Hotline (702) 399-0081
Senior Protective Services (702) 455-8672
Emergency Protective Orders (702) 646-4981
Temporary Protective Orders (702) 455-3400
Stalking/Harassment Orders (702) 671-3165