3 Hour Session delivered to faculty and staff of Montclair Kimberley Academy Faculty and Staff of the upper division. Gender differences and gender bias - how do they impact students' lives? How does society's conflation of biological sex, gender identity, gender expression, and sexual orientation affect everything from self esteem, intractability, bullying, and peer pressure? What can we do as educators to support healthy gender and sexual identities of out youth?

1. What Boys and Girls Are Made of:
Supporting Healthy Gender and Sexual Identities of Youth
Montclair Kimberley Academy Faculty
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Seattle Girls’ School
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2. About Seattle Girls’ School
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3. Agenda
• Gender Differences
• Gender Bias
• Gender Bias and Girls
• Gender Bias and Boys
• Gender and Sexuality Paradigm
• What Can We Do?
• Discussions
• Resources
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4. Disclaimers and
Other Food for Thought
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5. Gender Differences
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6. Gender Bias
Brash Intuitive
Troublemaker Well-Behaved
Strong Delicate
Competitive Cooperative
Physical Emotional
Silent Verbal
Clever Pretty
Mistake-Prone Perfect
Belligerent Nice
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11. Process Break
Please turn to a nearby neighbor or form
small groups to discuss the following:
How do you experience gender? What
pressures do you feel, and what messages
do you get? What happens as you conform
or defy gender norms? Think about your
experiences growing up, as well as now.
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12. Cycle of Socialization
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14. Girls and Gender Bias
Where Does it Lead?
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15. The “Good Girl” in Conflict
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16. The “Good Girl” in the Workplace and Home
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17. The “Pretty Girl” on Beauty
Beauty
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18. Boys and Gender Bias
Where Does it Lead?
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19. The “Tough Guy” in Conflict
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20. The “Tough Guy” in the Workplace and the Home
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21. Psychic Dissonance, Health, and Violence
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22. Gender and Sexuality Paradigm
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23. Process Break
In what ways do you see your
students:
-internalizing and conforming to
gender norms and stereotypes
-feeling pressured to conform to
gender stereotypes
-being little affected by gender
stereotypes
-actively non-conforming to
gender stereotypes
What are the positives and negatives of these various
states, as far as you can tell? How do you respond to
these youth where they are?
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24. Break
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25. What Can We Do?
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26. What Can We Do for Girls?
• Teach the difference
between self-sacrificing and
good.
• Talk about or compliment
something besides her looks.
• Value the quality of her
relationships, not the
quantity.
• Give her access to diverse
women mentors.
• Role-Play difficult
conversations with her.
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27. What Can We Do for Boys?
• Teach the difference
between strong and
tough.
• Talk about feelings and
relationships.
• Make it okay to be
vulnerable.
• Give him access to
diverse male mentors.
• Help him understand
societal homophobia.
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28. What Can We Do for All?
• Help them develop strong interaction and social skills.
• Discuss nontraditional family and relationship models.
• Show them diverse role models of all GSD identities.
• Teach about gender and sexuality diversity.
• Give them healthy outlets for their feelings.
• Respect and nurture their true selves.
• Teach “norm”, “normal”, and “good”.
• Share your stories.
• Model the way.
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29. Teach Media Literacy
• Choose media FOR intentionally for the classroom.
• Engage in media WITH youth.
• Help youth understand the hidden messages of media.
• Help youth think about how they want to internalize or
reject these messages.
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30. Cycle of Liberation
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31. At the School
• Experiential And Discovery Base
Learning
• Facilitating Questions and Discussions
• Media Literacy
• Patterns and Systems
• Values and Actions
• Autonomy and Choice
• Justice and Activism
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32. Examples
• Affinity Groups, Clubs, GSAs, etc.
• Social Justice Curriculum
• Student Driven Campaigns
• “Not at Our School” Culture Setting
• Film Viewings and All School Reads
• Policy, Programming, Practice, and
People for Change
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33. Process Break
Please turn to a nearby neighbor or form
small groups to discuss the following:
How do you see gender and sexuality
inclusivity at the school already? What is
one thing you could do to increase gender
and sexuality inclusivity?
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34. Parents: Partners or Foes?
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35. What Parents Fear and
What We Can Do About It
• “I didn’t know about this stuff…”
• “I don’t have any language around this…”
• “I want to protect their innocence…”
• “Are you teaching my kids values?”
• Heads Up Communication
• Resources and Language
• Clear Reiteration of Mission and Values
• Research and Your Expertise
• Explicit Communication of Parents’ Roles
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36. Undoing Gender and
Sexuality Bias
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37. Questions and Comments
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38. Presenter Information
Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee
6th Faculty and
Professional Outreach
Seattle Girls’ School
2706 S Jackson Street
Seattle WA 98144
(206) 805-6562
rlee@seattlegirlsschool.org
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39. Resources
• Joshua M. Aronson, Ph.D., “Improving Achievement &
Narrowing the Gap,” Learning and the Brain
Conference, Cambridge, MA, November 2003
• Allan G. Johnson, Privilege, Power, and Difference.
• Miss Representation, documentary film on media and
women
• United Nations Population Fund Statistics on Gender
Equality as of 2005
http://www.unfpa.org/swp/2005/presskit/factsheets/facts
_gender.htm
• Learning to be critically literate of mass media
http://www.medialit.org/
• Media Guide for Parents and Educators
http://www.commonsensemedia.org/
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40. Gender Specific Resources
• Jennifer Bryan, various trainings and publications on
gender and sexuality diversity, From the Dress Up
Corner to the Senior Prom
• JoAnn Deak, Ph.D., Girls Will Be Girls: Raising Confident
and Courageous Daughters, How Girls Thrive
• Jackson Katz, Tough Guise, Wrestling with
Manhood, The Macho Paradox
• John Medina, Talaris Research Institute, various studies
on early gender differences in competition and play
• Mary Pipher, Ph.D., Reviving Ophelia: Saving the Selves
of Adolescent Girls
• Rachel Simmons, Odd Girl Out, Odd Girl Speaks
Out, Curse of the Good Girl
• Michael Thompson, Raising Cain, Speaking of Boys, It’s
a Boy!
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