2. True or False?
Research suggests that dating experience leads to greater
marital success.
FALSE
“Being in love” when you first get married is the greatest
predictor of marital success.
TRUE
Greater dating experience may make marital satisfaction
harder to achieve because it heightens an individual’s
expectations.
TRUE
3. A Study ...
Psychologist: Martin King Whyte
Hypothesis: dating experiences lead to successful
marriages.
Findings: No correlation between dating
experience, length of dating, engagement, degree of
pre-marital intimacy and marital success.
Couples from Detroit were interviewed.
4. “Being in Love”
According to Sternberg, couples who are deeply in
love:
#1 Strong sexual desire for each other
#2 Knew each other well and enjoyed each other’s
company
#3 Made the relationship a priority in their lives
5. Issues: “The Market Experience”
Shopping for a partner, “test driving” is problematic
In the realm of free-choice mate selection, we have to
say “yes” or “no” to one partner at a time.
What if you want to return to an old partner and
they’re no longer available?
Greater choices = increased expectations and
scrutiny of partners in marriage.
6. The Role of Negotiation
Romanticizing “the day”, rather than the
commitment.
Couples may not realize the shared roles, rules and
duties that need to be negotiated in their new life.
Will the new roles be compatible? How can we
form a new life together without “ditching” our
independent selves?
7. 9 Psychological Tasks
Psychologist: Judith Wallerstein
Out to determine “what makes marriages succeed”.
The pillars that hold up a marriage.
8. #1
Separating from your own family, and
investing fully in the new one.
Redefining the lines of connection to
each.
18. The 6 R’s of Marriage
Psychologist: Claude Guldner
Influenced by Systems Theory
Aims to summarize the negotiations required
in early marriage. What rules, roles and duties
need to be discussed?
20. Questions
What is the meaning/definition of your “R”?
How could this “R” present challenges for a newly
married couple? What types of challenges?
Can you think of a specific example of a challenge?
How could this challenge be negotiated or resolved?