Habbit 4 Think win win

1. Habit4
Think Win-Win
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2. Think Win-win
• This is the habit of creating effective
interpersonal leadership. In order to
manage our relationships with others
properly we need to think “Win/Win”.
This isn’t just a technique that you can
apply to every day situations and
relationships, it’s a philosophy – a whole
way of thinking and being.

3. • Think Win-Win isn't about being nice, nor is it
a quick-fix technique. It is a character-based
code for human interaction and collaboration.

4. Think Win-Win
This philosophy is based on 6 paradigms of
interaction. Basically, every time we interact
with others it fits into one of these categories:
• Win/Win
• Win/Lose
• Lose/Win
• Lose/Lose
• Win
• Win/Win or No Deal

5. • Win/Win – Mutually beneficial and co-operative. All parties come out on
top
• Win/Lose – “If I win, you lose.” This is very authoritarian in style and
can be seen as overly competitive. It’ a win at all costs mentality which is
usually instilled from childhood.
• Lose/Win – “If I lose, you win.” This is usually the attitude of people who
want to keep the peace and not upset the applecart. The problem with
Lose/Win is that whilst you may feel happy your friend/colleague etc. has
come out on top, this can however lead to an eventual breakdown in
relationships as resentment builds up.

6. • Lose/Lose – This happens when two Win/Lose
people clash, it leads to a stubborn impasse as they
try to beat each other at all costs.
• Win – Don’t really want anyone to lose they just
want everyone to come out on top. It’s an “every
man for himself” mentality.
• Win/Win or No Deal – This is where, if a
mutually beneficial outcome cannot be reached,
then you know it’s okay to walk away with no
hard feelings.

7. Win-Win Situation
• You get sponsored by a company and
provide them with free marketing in
exchange for one or some of their
products.
You connect the right real estate agent
with a buyer you know personally, and
collect a referral
You are a head hunter that knows all the
right people, and the businesses that need
them.

8. How to think Win-Win
• In the win-win situation might be so
hard for us to think and solve it.
• So how do you do it? How can you be
happy for your friend when he just got
accepted at college and you didn’t?
How can you avoid feeling inferior to
the girl next door who has all those
gorgeous clothes? How can you find
solutions to problems so that both of
you can win? Might I suggest two clues:
Win the private victory first and avoid
the tumor twins.

9. WIN THE PRIVATE VICTORY
FIRST
• It all begins with you. If you are extremely
insecure and haven’t paid the price to win
the private victory, it will be difficult to
think Win-Win. You’ll be threatened by
other people. It’ll be hard to be happy for
their successes. It will be difficult to share
recognition or praise

10. AVOID THE TUMOR TWINS
• There are two habits that, like tumors, can
slowly eat you away from the inside. They
are twins and their names are competing
and comparing. It’s virtually impossible to
think Win-Win with them around.

11. Win-Lose Situation
• a hunter kills a wolf and it's a win for the
hunter but a loss for the wolf's pack.
Another example is that if an argument is
settled unfairly is in one side's favor only,
for instance a border dispute between two
countries. There are other types of
situations like win-lose situations.

12. Lose-Win Situation
• you may give in to peer pressure, allow
others to take advantage of you, or listen to
others gossip about a friend. Facing
challenges in this way leaves you feeling bad
and it is not healthy. Of course there are
times when it is okay to give in. When an
issue is not important to you and no one is
going to be hurt by the decision it is okay to
let another win. Just make sure you take a
stand when you feel strongly or the decision
is harmful to you or another person.

13. Lose-Lose
• Fighting is a great example of a lose–lose
situation. If you think about it, both
people get hurt and usually neither person
feels good in the end. The attitude of lose-
lose is that if I am going down, I am going
to bring you with me. This does not help
anyone involved and often makes
problems worse.

14. I win you win or no deal
• Either we both get an acceptable outcome, or
the deal is off, and that’s OK.

15. Develop your Character
Three character attributes are required if you are to apply I win You
win or No Deal
• 1.Integrity
Integrity removes your duplicity, allowing you to know without
doubt what constitutes a win. From a business perspective, you
need to understand your core offering and be able to say no to
work that falls outside of your value proposition.
• 2. Maturity
With maturity comes social intelligence, allowing you to understand
the relationship from the other’s perspective.
• 3. Abundance Mentality
Confidence in your ability will result in a core belief that there will
always be enough work to support you. If you feel that losing the
relationship will destroy your business, then perhaps your business
model may need to be re-examined.

16. What’s the best option?
The best option really depends on what
situation you are in at the time, what you
want to achieve, and what the other
person wants to achieve.