This document provides guidance on how to address offenses, false doctrine, and reconciliation based on biblical principles. It outlines steps Christians can take, beginning with patiently enduring, questioning, and seeking understanding. If the issue is not resolved, the next steps are to bring one or two others to offer counsel, then if needed tell the church. The goal throughout is reconciliation and restoration of right fellowship according to Jesus' teaching in Matthew 18. Sample letters are provided for different stages of the process to promote open communication and resolution of issues between believers in a spirit of humility, love and obedience to God.

1. Be ready for offenses
MATT 18:7, LUKE 17:1

2. HAS OFFENSES COME? WHAT CAN CHRISTIANS DO?
OFFENSE
FORBEAR
ASK
WHY
SCAN
DAL?
NO
REQUIRE
PUBLIC
REPENTANCEYES
FORGIVE
REPE
NTED
?
YES
ASK AGAIN
WITH 2
NO REPE
NTED
?
YES
TELL THE
CHURCH
NO
REPE
NTED
?
CAST OUT
NO

3. LOVE LETTER TO OFFENDER WHAT WORDS TO SAY
Dear brother/sister/Pastor,
Your action/words last …………. hurt me and
although I tried to forbear, the pain just won’t go
away.
May I request that we take steps toward
reconciliation and peace soonest. A good step is a
meeting between the two of us which should end in
the restoration of our good relationship.
Praying for that day to come soon, with all the love
in the Lord, let us both say, Amen.
Your brother/sister ………
Mahal kong kapatid/Pastor,
Ang iyong mga ikinilos/iniasal/sinabi noong
…………. Ay nakasakit sa akin. Kahit na sinubukan ko
na itong balewalain, nahihirapan pa din ako at hindi
maalis sa isip ko ang nangyari na di maganda.
Kung maaari sana ay magkita tayo upang gumawa
ng hakbang tungo sa pagkakasundo sa lalong
madaling panahon. Ang layunin ng pag-uusap na
ito ay upang magpatawaran.
Ipinapanalangin ko na ito ay mangyari kaagad.
Nagmamahal sa Panginoon,
Ang iyong kapatid

4. LETTER ASKING 2 TO HELP WHAT WORDS TO SAY
Dear brethren (1) and (2),
I tried to talk to ….. but he ignored my efforts to be
reconciled, so I wrote a letter, and still after …. days,
he did not respond;
In the interest of pursuing what the Lord has told us
in Matt 18:15-17, when things like this happen in
His church, I seek your assistance in convincing our
brother/sister to sit with me and be reconciled.
Praying to God for your help, with all the love in the
Lord, let us all say, Amen.
Your brother/sister ………
Mahal kong mga kapatid (1) at (2),
Sinikap ko pong kausapin si …….. Subalit hindi niya
ako pinansin, kaya sumulat ako, ngunit pangatlong
araw na ngayon ay hindi pa rin siya sumasagot;
Bilang pagsunod sa ating Panginoon, ayon sa
kanyang mga sinabi sa Matt. 18:15-17, kung may
mga ganitong pangyayari, hinihingi ko po ang
inyong tulong upang makipagkasundo.
Panalangin ko sa Diyos na ako ay inyong tulungan.
Nagmamahal, ang iyong kapatid

5. A PLEA FOR CHURCH ACTION WHAT WORDS
TO SAY
Dear Pastor and church,
After my efforts to reconcile were ignored by Bro.
…. I brought Bros. (1) and (2) with me, hoping that
he would listen to the three of us but sadly, we had
no progress with him.
This leaves me no recourse but to ask the whole
church to intervene in my behalf. I am very much
affected and want to have peace.
Praying to God for your help, with all the love in the
Lord, let us all say, Amen.
Your brother/sister ………
Mahal kong Pastor at church,
Lahat ay ginawa ko na upang makipag kasundo kay
Kapatid na …… subalit kanyang binalewala. Dinala
ko ang dalawa pang kapatid, at wala din pong
nangyari.
Wala na po akong ibang paraan upang magkaroon
ng katahimikan ng isip kundi dumulog sa buong
Iglesya.
Panalangin ko sa Diyos na ako ay inyong tulungan.
Nagmamahal, ang iyong kapatid

6. DID YOU SEE FALSE DOCTRINE? WHAT CAN CHRISTIANS DO?
YOU HEARD
FALSE
DOCTRINE?
FORBEAR
ASK
WHY
DOG
MA?
NO
REQUIRE
VERSES
YES
RECONCILED
TRUTH
DEFEN
DED?
YES
ADMONISH
TO RETRACT
NO RETRA
CTED?
YES
TELL THE
CHURCH
NO
RETRAC
TED?
CAST OUT
NONOT FUNDAMENTAL
INQUIRY IS GOOD, BUT IF YOU CHALLENGE, BE READY WITH FULL CONTENTION

7. VERSES APPLICABLE
1. ACTS 17:10-11 – if you think it is false, be a Berean
2. 2 TIM 3:16 – if you need to correct, use scripture not tradition
3. PROV. 27:17 – some discussions can be done as a means of sharpening
4. TITUS 3:10 – Two or three admonitions before rejection
5. 1 COR. 11:19 – heresies must come so be ready
6. ROM 6:17 – Mark and avoid people of contrary doctrine
7. 1 COR 5:6 – Little leaven infects all, so avoid it