Relationship discussion on communicating with silence at home. What are the dangers of silence at home? How can silence help at home?

1. The GOOD Husband
&
The TRUE Wife
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2. The Inner Light (The Light Within)
• Inner Light is the ONLY thing that
makes a man to be a Good husband
and a woman to be a True wife.
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3. The Light Within (Inner Light)
• According to Jesus (Jn.11:9-10
KJV), if any man stumbles at night
(in the dark), it is NOT because it is
dark,
• Rather, it is because There is no
LIGHT WITHIN him.
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4. Advantage of Inner Light
• Because there was NO Inner Light,
many sisters have said YES to the
WRONG brother and they later regret.
• Because there was NO Inner Light,
many brothers have Proposed to the
WRONG sister and they later regret.
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5. • To relate with your spouse at home,
sometimes you need Common Sense and
sometimes you need Uncommon Sense.
Common & Uncommon
Sense at Home
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6. UNANSWERED Question!
How is the Inner Light
connected to Common and
Uncommon sense?
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7. Q & A Section
A question came on the
dangers of silence at home
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8. The Silence Treatment
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9. The Silence Treatment
• Many fathers and mothers are ruining the
future of their child,
• JUST because they always keep
Silent when they should have spoken up
(in STRONG words) and rebuke their
child for some wrongdoing.
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10. KEKERE lati p’eka IROKO
• They know that this child is
committing immoralities,
• Yet they keep Silent and look away.
• They know that this child is growing
in Ungodly languages & attitude (i.e.
dirty tongue, malice /hatred etc.),
• Yet they kept Silent and look away.
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11. KEKERE lati p’eka IROKO
• They know that the manner of dressing
of this child is Very Ungodly,
• They know that the parties attended by
this child are Ungodly parties;
• Yet the father and mother keep Silent
and look away when they should have
Spoken Up.
• ...and so and so on
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12. The Silence Treatment
• There are many Bad weapons in
the world, Silence is one of them.
• There are many Good weapons in
the world, Silence is one of them.
Q: How is silence a Bad and a Good
weapon at the same time?
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13. Communicating
at home with
Silence

14. The Silence Treatment
• There are many Good Weapons in
the world, Silence is one of them.
• There are many Bad Weapons in the
world, Silence is one of them.
• Many people have developed High BP,
JUST because their spouse fought
them with a weapon called Silence.

15. The Silence Treatment
• Sometimes they say, Silence speaks
louder than voice.
• For those who know how to use it,
Silence can indeed speak louder than
voice, either Positively or Negatively.
• Some Christian husbands/wives have
perfected the use silence NEGATIVELY
against their spouse at home.

16. The Silence Treatment
• Some Christian spouse have taken
Silence as the Major means of
communication at home.
• When it comes to serious matters at
home, some Christians communicate it to
their spouse Only with Silence.
• Yet, even at home, there is a time to be
silent and there is a time to speak (Eccl.3).

17. The Silence Treatment
Q: Who is a wicked person?

18. The Silence Treatment
Q: When the silence of a person causes
his/her spouse to develop hypertension, can
such a person be called Wicked?
• Prov.6:16-18GNT. ‘There are seven
things that the lord hates and CANNOT
tolerate…’
• Prov.6:18 NKJV. ‘A heart that devises
Wicked plans...’

19. The Silence Treatment
• When you determine in your heart to
Injure your spouse with Silence, then
you are Wicked.
• Micah 2:1 NCV: '...how terrible it will
be for people who plan Wickedness, who
lie on their beds and make evil plans.
When the morning light comes, they do
what they planned, because they have
the power to do so.

20. The Silence Treatment
• Some Christians will be on the same
bed with their spouse at night,
• And they will be planning in their
heart:
•Ma a de se fun!
•Mi o ni ba so anything!
•I will keep quiet hence forth! etc.,

21. The Silence Treatment
• …And in the morning, they will do
just that because they have the
power to do so.
• Yet they know that their Silence is
causing Mental and Psychological
injury to their spouse.
• To God, such spouses are Wicked.

22. The Silence Treatment
• Isa. 5:20 NCV: How terrible it will be for
people who call good things bad and bad
things good, who think darkness is light
and light is darkness, who think sour is
sweet and sweet is sour.
• GNT: You are doomed! you call evil
good and call good evil. You turn
darkness into light and light into
darkness. You make what is bitter sweet,
and what is sweet you make bitter.

23. The Silence Treatment
• Your silence at home is Bitter and
Sour in the belly of your spouse,
• But it is Sweet in your own belly.
• Willingly, you make what is bitter
sweet.
• Willingly, you make what is evil good.
• God is saying You Are Wicked.

24. The Silence Treatment
• When God says he cannot tolerate
wicked hearts (Prov.6:16-18), he is
saying no wicked heart will
make heaven.
• This means the Christian that
LOVES to use Silence to Injure
his/her spouse continuously is joking
with eternity.

25. The Malice in Silence
• Sometimes silence is a tactical way of
keeping Malice.
• ‘Mi o ba ja o, at least to baki mi, mo n
da l’ohun now’.
Snappy…Snappy Answers
•How are you? Fine!
•E ku ile o, e kabo (very snappy)
•E kaabo o. Thank you.
• More examples?

26. The Malice in Silence
• Sometimes your snappy answers
may cause Pain or Injury to your
spouse.
• If you know it and you DON’T stop,
it is Wickedness.
• If you know it and you DON’T care,
it is Wickedness.

27. The GOOD
Silence Treatment

28. The GOOD Silence Treatment
• Prov. 23:9 NKJV. Do NOT speak in
the hearing of a Fool, for he will
despise the wisdom of your words.
• NCV: DON’T speak to Fools; They
will only ignore your wise words.

29. The Good Silence Treatment
• There are times when people stop talking to
you again on a particular matter.
• There are times when your parents or your
pastor or your friends and loved ones stop
talking to you again on a particular matter.
• There are times when even God stop
talking to you again on a particular issue.
• Most likely they are giving you ‘The Prov.
23:9 treatment’ (i.e.the silence treatment).

30. The Good Silence Treatment
• Amos 5:13 NCV: In such times, the
wise person will Keep Quiet, because
it is a BAD time.
• It is GOOD not to speak when it is a
BAD time to talk.
• If people keep silent when it is a BAD
time to talk, then it is a GOOD silence.

31. The Good Silence Treatment
• If people (your parent, pastor, friends
etc.) keep silent because there is no
GOOD time to correct you, then you are
in trouble.
• If people keep silent because every time
is ALWAYS a BAD time to correct you,
my friend you are in a ‘Very Big’ trouble
(O NLO DIE DIE).

32. The Good Silence Treatment
• Amos 5:13 AMP. Therefore, he
who…has insight will keep silent at such
a…time…[when people will NOT listen
to truth…]’.
• When you Repeatedly refuse to be
corrected, when you willingly choose to
continue in Disobedience;
• At such times, those who have insight
(Inner light) may stop correcting you and
start keeping Silent.

33. The Good Silence Treatment
• When you have been corrected over and
over again and you refuse to listen,
• And you noticed that people (your
parent, pastor, friends, spouse etc.) &
even God suddenly stop talking to you
again on that issue,
• If you are wise, that is the time to listen to
that correction, or else, O NLO DIE DIE.

34. The Good Silence Treatment
• God and those people keeping silent may
be leaving you to do whatever you
want and face the consequence (Very
Dangerous).
• This means, ‘Won Ti Pa E Ti’, & it is
time for you to Change.
• God and those people may be
leaving you to a REPROBATE mind
(Rom.1:28).

35. Since They Refuse Correction:
• Rom.1:28. CEV. ‘...He let their Useless
minds rule over them…’.
• GWT. ‘…God allowed their own Immoral
minds to control them…’
• EASYENG. ‘…So God let their minds
become Spoiled…’
• MSG. ‘…God QUIT bothering them and
let them run loose’
• VOICE. ‘…He Turned Them Loose to
follow…their depraved minds…’

36. Since They Refuse Correction:
• I have seen something NEW under
heaven: come and see Christian youths
doing Yahoo-Yahoo.
• Come and see Christian brothers and
Christian sisters joining them to do
Yahoo-Yahoo.
• Not knowing that willingly they are
Digging their own Graves with their
own hands.

37. Since They Refuse Correction:
• Not knowing that willingly they
are Carving their own Coffins with their
own hands.
• Not knowing that willingly they
are Burying their own Future with their
own hands.
• Not knowing that the end of it is what is
called ABAMO.
• Not knowing that they will surely Bite
their fingers at the end.

38. Since They Refuse Correction:
• And that is if their ‘life’ is not cut short;
that is if they don’t Die Young.
• Foolishly, they have forgotten Prov.14:12
& Prov. 16:25
• The devil is beating a drum for them:
–‘O n f' ina sere o, O n f' iku sere...’
• And they are dancing to the
SWEET music without listening to the
DEADLY song.

39. Since They Refuse Correction:
• Prov.14:9GNT. Foolish people don't
care if they sin, but good people want to
be forgiven.
• EASYENG. ‘Fools think that they do not
need to do anything about their sins…’
• NCV. Fools don’t care if they sin,
but honest people work at being right.
• Christian youths who are no longer
convicted by the Word of God (KAI!).

40. Since They Refuse Correction:
• Their parents & pastor have talked and
talked with them, All To No Avail.
• Other people have talked and talked
with them, All To No Avail.
• Even God has talked and talked with
them, All To No Avail.
• And now, everybody has stopped warning
them, Including God.

41. Since They Refuse Correction:
• Everybody & even God are now keeping
silent.
• God and everybody had left them to their
Reprobate Mind...Christian brothers and
sisters who claim to be born again!
• Such a Christian youth is going little by
little (O N Lo Die Die), that is if
he/she is not totally gone already.

42. Prayer Points
• Rom.1:28MSG.‘…God QUIT bothering
them and let them Run Loose’
• VOICE. ‘…He Turned Them Loose to
follow…their depraved minds…’
• May God NOT turn us loose!
• May people (parent, pastor, friends
etc.) NOT stop correcting us!
• May I begin to take corrections as from
now!