Help my balance is tilting!

Resonance Consulting
Corporate Consulting, Coaching and Training
Help, My W/L balance is tilting !

Mulla Nazruddin

Sabita Prasad: A certified NLP coach, Psychotherapist , to understand “Why
people behave the way they do?” is Sabita's forte! Her unique approach in
coaching and training, blends the best of Western psychology & Eastern
philosophy. Her special interests include Stress and Conflict management,
Gender specific behaviours and their impact at the workplace.
Sudha Jayaram: comes with her hands-on experience of 25 years in people
management both in private and public sectors. An alumnus of IIM
(Kozhikode), she changed gears from being a senior executive in a bank to
co-found a private enterprise. She believes that the desired work-life balance
is indeed achievable.
Sabita and Sudha have presented Research papers at PMI- India
conferences.
 Gender communication styles : “Help, my colleague is behaving strangely”
 Stress Management: “Help I am 35, and I have Diabetes!”
 Conflict resolution: “Help, Something is just not right!”
They are POSH Consultants & external experts on POSH committees of many MNCs
Diversity & Inclusivity Consultants since 2008

Work-Life balance is ..........??????
It is all about making sure you make time to live and not
just stay stuck behind a desk… Richard Branson

All Work and No play….
• All Work and no play ……makes Jack a dull boy!
• All work and no Self management / life-strategy makes
…Srinivasan… less …productive!

The “D” Factor
• Dilemma
• Deadlines missed
• Divorce
• Diabetes…Disease
• Depression
• Death wish
What do you think are the possible causes?

Stress Hijack –Vagus nerve impact
Are you listening to your body…Bio feedback?

What is Stress?
• Internal reaction to external factors or stressors
• Excessive psychological and physical demands
• Primary Function : fight or flight
Is all Stress bad??
ME

The Yerkes-Dodson (Harvard) Law of Performance
• Eustress (good stress) – helps perform better
• Distress: Benefits disappear and performance drops
Beware the bareness of a busy life! Socrates

Work-Life Balance-tools
FEAST OF LIFE
Focus
Energy
Acceptance
Self
management
Trust

Brains at deep rest

Information Overload
STRESS EMI
Heightened sensory input!
Emotional roller coaster rides!
RELATIONSHIPS
INSTANT
GRATIFICATION
24/7
work

Attention States Daniel Goleman
Heightened Attention
FLOW
Disengagement
FRAZZLE
Free Association
Creativity

• Annamaya Kosha
• Pranamaya Kosha
• Manomaya Kosha
• Vigyanamaya Kosha
Anandamaya Kosha:
Energy Management - Pancha Koshas
Being happy in the current situation,
despite it not being the perfect scenario!

Acceptance
• Some things are in your control
• Many are not
• Knowing … and taking action is the first step towards
creation of W/L strategy
• Create “My thoughts” time –to think things through

Work Life strategy

Embracing change –Personal & Professional
Why?
Fear of
commitment
Fear of
losing
control
Out of
comfort
zone
Ignorance of
consequence

Self Management!
Self
SPIRITUAL FAMILY
SOCIALINDIVIDUAL
WORK

Health; Hobby and Happiness
Individual
Self
H
H H

What gives you Happiness?
• Getting your needs and wants fulfilled
• Job that pays and satisfies
• House / car / promotion
• Boss and team members
• Happy family
• On site postings
• Externally driven!!

Secret of Happiness
Subjective well being
Positive affect
Meaning and purpose in life
Is your happiness quotient inherited?
Sonia Lyumbomirsky: 50% is inherited
40% is at your disposal!

Why Be Happy?
 Boosts experience of joy, contentment, love, pride
 Physical and mental health
 Improved immune system
 Higher energy levels
 Self confidence and Self worth
 Deepened engagement with work
 Meaningful social connections
 Improved relationships, conflict demystified!
 Sense of being in control

Long term happiness?
Tools & techniques Happiness Habits

Positive Emotions - Neuroplasticity of Brain
Negative and Positive emotions impact us differently!
Positive emotions
Neurons wire together
New pathways
Positive Experiences
Brain is like a plastic mould: Experience the good things around
Change the brain to change the mind!

Long term happiness
1. Compassion and Kindness
 Compassion- source of Oxytocin –the feel good chemical:
 Being kind triggers brain activity similar to one experienced
while receiving rewards!
2. Self Compassion:
 Tackle the inner critic
 Work on self compassion: 2 things that went well for you

Happiness habits…Attitude of gratitude

Happiness habits…Being in awe/ being Inspired

Happiness –a habit to be learnt
Core of Work life Balance!
Being a happy & satisfied person ….. Self Management
• Focus on the positive experiences…Neuroplasticity of Brain
• Compassion to self & others
• Gratitude for the privileges
• Awe-walks-appreciating new people & amazing nature
• Mindfulness / Meditation
• Make Happiness a habit…switch on the happiness button!

Trust
Even God could not be everywhere always-so he makes
us believe that He is there for us when we need him and
all are happy with that knowledge .........
Being there physically 100% of the time is not necessary
.......

Focus
Energy
Acceptance
Self
management
Trust
Work Life balance is a… FEAST
Frazzle
Yoga
Mindfulness
Food / Breathing
Thoughts / Beliefs
Relationships!
3 Hs
In my control
Guitar
2 things that
went well
Delegate
Panchakhoshas

Fast track-mood changers
Change your physiology to change your Psychology!
Laughter-the best medicine
Shopping!!
Exercise / Walk
Sleep it off
Phone a happy friend
Walk tall, shoulders straight …
What songs set your feet tapping ?
And of course laughter fun and Dance your blues away..

Work-Life balance is a… FEAST!
Thank You!
Sabita and Sudha
Corporate Consulting, Coaching and Training
www.resonanceconsulting.in

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