Self control is most the important life tool for success.The children must be taught to develop "Self-Control"

1. SELF - CONTROL
Presentation by
Pratima Nayak,Counsellor
Email:pnpratima@gmail.com

3. Self-control separates us from our ancient
ancestors and the rest of the animal kingdom.
Rather than responding to immediate impulses, we
can plan, we can evaluate alternative actions, and
we can refrain from doing things we'll regret. We
can also take advantage of these innately human
abilities by developing wisdom and willpower.

4. Self-control is the ability to control one's
emotions, behavior, and desires in the face of
external demands in order to function in society.
Self-control is essential in behavior to
achieve goals and to avoid impulses and/or
emotions that could prove to be negative. Self -
control can affect everything we do from talking
with a classmate to taking a test.

5. Self-control involves:
1. Control of impulse
2. Control of emotions
3. Control of movements

6. Impulse control
The ability to think or stop before acting
With the skill we can imagine the consequence of
their behavior.
Without this control
• we interrupt a lot speak too much or speak out
of turn.
• We do bully
• We rush through assignments
• We follow rules one day not the next

7. Emotional control
The ability to manage feeling by thinking about
the goals
Helps us keep going even when upsetting or
unexpected things happen.
Without this
• We become easily frustrated and quick to give
up.
• We are unable to tolerate correction and
criticism
• Find it difficult and calm down.
• We have trouble to postpone enjoyment till the
assignment completed.

8. Movement control
The ability to control body movement
It regulates our physical actions and responses in
an appropriate way.
Without this skill
• We are overactive or restless
• We have trouble in quiet and seated activities
• We have difficulties staying in line till our turn
comes.
• We disrupts others in games and conversations.

9. Need of self – control for our students
Impulse control is at the root of self-control.
As a result, when children lack impulse control they often
have trouble regulating their emotions and controlling their
actions.
This can lead to all types of difficult behaviors
including bullying.
When you teach your child impulse control, he’s much more
likely to be successful with school, in his relationships and in
managing his behavior.

10. Need of self – control for our students
Kids with impulse control can successfully stand in
line, wait for their turn while playing a game and
can think before they act. They also tend to have
more success with their peers as impulse control
helps kids
• To resist peer pressure
• To solve problems successfully.

11. Need of self – control for our students
• It makes children successful
Impulse control can help increase a child’s success in
school and throughout life. Self-control is twice as
important as intelligence when it comes to academic
achievement,

12. Need of self – control for our students
• Improve decision making, critical thinking & problem solving
Children who can control their impulses are better able to think
about their answers before writing them down and have better
critical thinking skills to solve problems when they aren’t
immediately certain of the answers.
They can also tolerate more frustration while devoting time to
thinking of the answers. They can even wait with a quiet raised
hand rather than blurting out answers.

13. Need of self – control for our students
• It helps them to tolerate frustration.
They can also tolerate more frustration while devoting time to
thinking of the answers. They can even wait with a quiet raised
hand rather than blurting out answers.

14. Role of teachers and parents
in developing
“Self –control”

15. Teach Kids about Feelings
When kids develop an understanding of the difference
between feelings and behaviors, it can help them control
their impulses. A child who understands that it is okay to
feel mad but not okay to hit, can see that he has choices
about how to deal with his feelings without reacting
impulsively. A child who understands that it is okay to feel
mad but not okay to hit, can see that he has choices about
how to deal with his feelings without reacting.

16. Establish Household Rules
Kids look for adults to learn about appropriate and
acceptable behaviors and having a written list of
rules helps make this clear to children.
A list of household rules can also help kids
understand how rules differ in different
environments. For example, it may be acceptable to
yell at the playground but in the library voices
should be in a whisper.

17. Set yourself as Model for Appropriate
Behavior
Kids are always watching what you do.
They see how you handle stress.
They watch how you treat other people.
They look at how you deal with your
feelings.

18. Teach them life skills
• Listening skills.
• Problem solving skills
• Anger management skills
• Decision making skills
• Critical thinking
• Interpersonal relationship
• Empathy

19.  Practice Delayed Gratification
Delayed gratification, or deferred gratification, is
the ability to resist the temptation for an
immediate reward and wait for a later reward.
Generally, delayed gratification is associated with
resisting a smaller but more immediate reward in
order to receive a larger or more enduring reward
later.

20.  Encourage Physical Activity
When kids are physically active they have a
better chance at managing their impulses. When
they’re a bundle of energy, they are more likely
to act without thinking. Encourage moderate
amounts of physical exercise and activity to
keep them physically and mentally healthy.

21. Let them play Impulse Control
Games
Let them play games that provide a young
child with a fun way to practice impulse
control. Games such as “Red Light Green
Light”.