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Getting Chronic Conflict
Unstuck
with Dr. Tammy Lenski
What causes a conflict to become
chronic?
When important conflict is
avoided
When cracks aren’t
repaired
When conflict is real, but not
true
Takeaways
• Address conflict early and fully
• Build a work environment that
nurtures healthy conflict
• Avoid avoiding, support constructive
confrontation
• “Real but not true”
What gets a chronic conflict unstuck?
Management’s clear
messaging
Taking it offline
One person making the
commitment
Small, regular successes
on joint projects
Takeaways
• Management’s response makes a
difference
• Email and social media can escalate and
compound conflict
• It only takes one person to start getting
things unstuck
• Focus on opportunities for success on
joint work projects, not just fixing the
problem
What will you say or do?
Practical strategies
• Increase cooperation
• Focus on what is
working
• Multi-dimensionalize
• Break the conflict into
bite-sized chunks
• Work with behaviors,
not with opinions
• Test for “real but not
true”
• Prevent cornering
• Replace complaining
with problem solving
• Avoid triangulation
• Address face loss
Would you like this workshop
at your organization?
tammy@lenski.com
603.203.6630

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