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  1. 1. Michelangelo “ I saw the angel in the stone ~ and carved to set it free.”
  2. 2. WELCOME <ul><li>“ AWAKENING THE GIFTS WITHIN” </li></ul><ul><li>CREATING A CULTURE OF CARING </li></ul>
  3. 3. HOUSEKEEPING Bathrooms Refreshments Lunch Cell Phones
  4. 4. From the Family Virtues Guide “ Idealists dare to have big dreams and then act as if they are possible... Idealism does not mean that you are an idle dreamer. Idle dreamers just WISH that things were better. Idealists do something to MAKE things better.“
  5. 5. WHO ARE THE PRESENTERS? <ul><li>Terry Rahn </li></ul><ul><li>& </li></ul><ul><li>Valerie Hess </li></ul><ul><li>Master Facilitators of The Virtues Project </li></ul>
  6. 6. What is The Virtues Project? <ul><li> A global grassroots initiative </li></ul><ul><li>that is transforming the cultures in homes, schools, organizations and communities, through awakening virtues, the gifts of character . </li></ul>
  7. 7. 4 Key Principles <ul><li>The parent is the primary educator of the child. </li></ul><ul><li>Children are born in potential. </li></ul><ul><ul><li>Their natural qualities can develop into positive or negative traits depending on how they are educated in the early years. </li></ul></ul><ul><li>Character develops as children learn to make responsible, moral choices. </li></ul><ul><li>Self-esteem is a natural outcome of living by virtues. </li></ul>
  8. 8. What are virtues? <ul><li>What’s good in us </li></ul><ul><li>The gifts of our character </li></ul><ul><li>The qualities of our spirit </li></ul><ul><li>Our inner strengths </li></ul>
  9. 9. Virtues: The Gifts of Character Assertiveness Caring Cleanliness Commitment Compassion Confidence Consideration Cooperation Courage Courtesy Creativity Detachment Determination Reliability Respect Responsibility Self-discipline Service Tact Thankfulness Tolerance Trust Trustworthiness Truthfulness Understanding Unity Diligence Enthusiasm Excellence Flexibility Forgiveness Friendliness Generosity Gentleness Helpfulness Honesty Honor Humility Idealism Integrity Joyfulness Justice Kindness Love Loyalty Moderation Modesty Orderliness Patience Peacefulness Perseverance Purposefulness
  10. 10. Every Child Is Born In Potential
  11. 11. Is it ever too late? <ul><li>NO!! </li></ul><ul><li>I t is never to late to begin applying these strategies and achieving amazing results! </li></ul><ul><li>Nor is it every too early… </li></ul>
  12. 12. Is this an add on curriculum? <ul><li>NO! This is not one more thing to add to your day. You infuse the strategies into what you are already doing. </li></ul>
  13. 13. Will my kids think this is dorky? <ul><li>Maybe </li></ul><ul><li>Humor is one way that adults and kids become comfortable with the language. </li></ul><ul><li>Hang in there! </li></ul>
  14. 14. What are the goals for this workshop? <ul><ul><li>To awaken your virtues </li></ul></ul><ul><li> To teach you to see these gifts in others </li></ul><ul><li>To have you experience the 5 Strategies </li></ul><ul><li> To inspire you to apply these strategies in your professional and personal lives </li></ul>
  15. 15. What are our expectations? <ul><li> Follow the directions for each exercise </li></ul><ul><li> Finish activities within allotted time frame </li></ul><ul><li> Follow the boundaries that we establish </li></ul>
  16. 16. The A.R.T. Of Boundaries A ssertiveness R espect T rust Do what is right for you Be deeply present without advising interrupting rescuing criticizing teasing Be worthy of trust. What we say here stays here.
  17. 17. INTERACTIVE INTRODUCTION <ul><li>1. Pick one partner. </li></ul><ul><li>2. Choose who will be partner 1. </li></ul><ul><li>3. Partner 1 ask partner 2 all the questions, listening for their virtues. </li></ul><ul><li>4. Partner 1 acknowledge partner 2 for virtues you saw and heard. </li></ul><ul><li>VIRTUE + EXAMPLE = VIRTUES ACKNOWLEDGMENT </li></ul>
  18. 18. <ul><li>Did you remember to write the virtues you saw on each other’s gem tags? </li></ul>
  19. 19. <ul><li>What did you </li></ul><ul><li>appreciate about </li></ul><ul><li>this activity? </li></ul>
  20. 20. <ul><li>What do </li></ul><ul><li>you hope </li></ul><ul><li>to gain from </li></ul><ul><li>this workshop? </li></ul>
  21. 21. THE HISTORY <ul><li>1991 </li></ul><ul><li>Three people </li></ul><ul><li>Response to school shooting and youth violence in the US </li></ul><ul><li>Began as a parenting program </li></ul><ul><li>Virtues the common thread </li></ul><ul><li>Soon discovered universal application </li></ul>
  22. 22. Dr. Dan Popov Linda Kavelin-Popov John Kavelin
  23. 23. <ul><li>THE FIVE STRATEGIES </li></ul>
  24. 24. <ul><li>Speak the Language </li></ul><ul><li>Recognize Teachable Moments </li></ul><ul><li>Set Clear Boundaries </li></ul><ul><li>Honor the Spirit </li></ul><ul><li>Offer Companioning TM </li></ul>
  25. 25. CONGRATULATIONS!! <ul><li>You have already </li></ul><ul><li>practiced all five strategies!! </li></ul>
  26. 26. <ul><li>Speak the Language </li></ul><ul><li>Recognize Teachable Moments </li></ul><ul><li>Set Clear Boundaries </li></ul><ul><li>Honor the Spirit </li></ul><ul><li>Offer Companioning TM </li></ul>
  27. 27. <ul><li>SPEAK THE LANGUAGE OF VIRTUES </li></ul>
  28. 28. Name a Virtue Encourage Mastery Encourage Meaning
  29. 29. A Rainbow of Respect Create Visual Symbols
  30. 30. When to Speak the Language of the Virtues
  31. 31. Speaking The Language
  32. 32. ACTIVITIES <ul><li>Speaking The Language </li></ul><ul><li>of Virtues (handout) </li></ul><ul><li>Acknowledgement Card </li></ul>
  33. 33. ACT With Tact TM Make a virtues “positivity sandwich”
  34. 34. <ul><li>RECOGNIZE </li></ul><ul><li>TEACHABLE </li></ul><ul><li>MOMENTS </li></ul>
  35. 35. TEACHABLE MOMENTS ARE… <ul><li>The opportunities to shine light on virtues being practiced (acknowledge) </li></ul><ul><li>The opportunities to bring attention to virtues needed in a given situation (guide) </li></ul><ul><li>The opportunities to call one another back to our virtues when we fail to practice (correct) </li></ul>
  36. 36. In Teachable Moments Stop Shaming Start Naming Virtues
  37. 37. What Destroys Conscience? <ul><li>Shaming </li></ul><ul><li>Name-calling </li></ul><ul><li>Beating or hitting </li></ul><ul><li>Over-protecting </li></ul><ul><li>Over-punishing </li></ul><ul><li>Ignoring effort </li></ul><ul><li>Lack of clear boundaries </li></ul>
  38. 38. What Builds Conscience? <ul><li>Naming virtues </li></ul><ul><li>Clear boundaries </li></ul><ul><li>The opportunity for </li></ul><ul><ul><li>reparation </li></ul></ul><ul><li>Acknowledging effort </li></ul>
  39. 40. DARKEST MOMENT/SHINING HOUR <ul><li>Describe one of your darkest moments at work. What virtues were needed? </li></ul><ul><li>Describe one of your shining hours at work. What virtues were involved? </li></ul><ul><li>Give your partner a virtues acknowledgement. </li></ul>
  40. 41. ACTIVITY <ul><li>RENAME </li></ul><ul><li>AND REFRAME </li></ul><ul><li>ht side) </li></ul>
  41. 42. The Virtues Pick <ul><li>Pick a partner. Decide who will share first. </li></ul><ul><li>Share something about what’s up in your life at this time (good or bad). </li></ul><ul><li>Read your virtue card aloud and share how it </li></ul><ul><li>is speaking to you. </li></ul><ul><li>Partner, companion in SILENCE with no </li></ul><ul><li>cross talk. </li></ul><ul><li>When first person finishes sharing, partner give VIRTUES ACKNOWLEGEMENT and write the virtues on their gem tag. </li></ul>
  42. 43. <ul><li>SET CLEAR </li></ul><ul><li>BOUNDARIES </li></ul>
  43. 44. Boundaries Keep Us Safe
  44. 45. <ul><li>Clear Boundaries are needed to stay on course. </li></ul>
  45. 46. <ul><li>Clear boundaries are needed when we have a problem. </li></ul>
  46. 47. <ul><li>Clear Boundaries are needed to create a safe and peaceful learning environment. </li></ul>
  47. 48. <ul><li>Our boundaries are what we need to examine first, when we have a problem. </li></ul>
  48. 49. <ul><li>Do our boundaries address the problem? If the answer is “no” </li></ul>
  49. 50. SET A CLEAR BOUNDARY <ul><li>What virtues are needed? </li></ul><ul><li>How do they need to be practiced? Be specific. </li></ul>
  50. 51. Boundaries are found in … <ul><li>Vision statements </li></ul><ul><li>Mission statements </li></ul><ul><li>Staff policies </li></ul><ul><li>Discipline policies </li></ul><ul><li>Progress Reports </li></ul><ul><li>Group rules </li></ul><ul><li>Fieldtrip rules </li></ul>
  51. 52. What Is Your Leadership Style?
  52. 53. Create a Virtues-based Vision
  53. 54. Create a Virtues Based Vision Statement
  54. 55. Boundaries Courtesy Respect Trust Assertiveness Follow directions and treat each other as you would want to be treated. Listen to each other, fully present, without interrupting, rescuing, advising, comparing or teasing. Hold all personal information shared among us as private during and after this workshop. Participate in a way which is right for you. Share what you are comfortable sharing.
  55. 56. The A.R.T. Of Boundaries A ssertiveness R espect T rust Do what is right for you Be deeply present without advising interrupting rescuing criticizing teasing Be worthy of trust. What we say here stays here.
  56. 57. Guidelines for Establishing Clear Boundaries 1. Be Moderate 2. Be Specific 3. Be Positive - Virtues Based 4. Have Specific, Relevant Consequences 5. Make Consequences Educative 6. Be Consistent 7. Communicate Rules Clearly 8. Be Sure Consequences are Understood 9. Make Bottom Line Rules Non-Negotiable 10. Make Expectations Clear
  57. 58. BOUNDARY QUESTIONS ACTIVITY <ul><li>In groups of three, take turns asking, one person at a time, all of the questions </li></ul><ul><li>When each person has finished answering the questions, both listeners acknowledge virtues you see in the person who shared </li></ul>
  58. 59. WRITING A BOUNDARY <ul><li>Write a personal boundary for work </li></ul><ul><li>and for home </li></ul><ul><li>Remember, first identify the virtue that </li></ul><ul><li>is needed </li></ul><ul><li>Next, write down a specific example of how to practice it </li></ul>
  59. 60. And when the boundaries are violated … <ul><li>PRACTICE </li></ul><ul><li>RESTORATIVE </li></ul><ul><li> JUSTICE </li></ul>
  60. 61. In Retributive Justice You are a Detective Asking … <ul><li>What was the crime? </li></ul><ul><li>Who did it? </li></ul><ul><li>How should they be punished? </li></ul>
  61. 62. In Restorative Justice You are a Mentor Asking All Involved… <ul><li>What happened? </li></ul><ul><li>Who was hurt? </li></ul><ul><li>What virtues were needed? </li></ul><ul><li>What amends can be made? </li></ul>
  62. 63. Restorative Justice
  63. 64. <ul><li>HONOR </li></ul><ul><li>THE SPIRIT </li></ul>
  64. 65. WHAT HONORS YOUR SPIRIT <ul><li>What brings you joy? </li></ul><ul><li>What inspires you? </li></ul><ul><li>What renews your spirit? </li></ul><ul><li>What gives you energy? </li></ul>
  65. 66. What Re-creates You?
  66. 67. Honor the Spirit Mastery Mystery Meaning
  67. 68. 14 th Century Samurai “ I have no magic secrets. I make character my magic secret. I have no miracles. I make right action my miracles.“
  68. 69. Explore Mystery Honor Meaning
  69. 70. Simple Steps for Spiritual Health Create a Routine of Reverence Take time every day for reflection. Enjoy Yourself Spend non-compulsory time alone and with people you enjoy. Make Time for Friendship For listening and companioning, for being together. Lead your life with Integrity Tell the truth. Do it now. Expose yourself to Beauty Be in nature. Spend time with the Arts.
  70. 71. Personal Virtues Shield
  71. 72. ACTIVITY <ul><li> WHAT BRINGS YOU JOY? </li></ul>
  72. 73. <ul><ul><li>OFFER </li></ul></ul><ul><ul><li>COMPANIONING </li></ul></ul>
  73. 74. <ul><li>This is the strategy that you use when someone else has a problem. </li></ul>
  74. 75. Getting to the Heart of the Matter Offer Companioning
  75. 76. Don’t Get Furious. Get Curious!
  76. 77. Is Not Is What It Is and What It Is Not A Fix Walk Along A Rescue Respect Curing Caring Advice Presence Sympathy Compassion & Detachment Telling Listening Victim-based Virtues-based
  77. 78. THE PROCESS <ul><li>Offer receptive silence </li></ul><ul><li>Ask cup-emptying questions </li></ul><ul><li>Focus on perceptual cues </li></ul><ul><li>Ask Virtues reflection questions </li></ul><ul><li>Ask closure & integration questions </li></ul><ul><li>Offer Virtues acknowledgments </li></ul>
  78. 79. The Companioning Process
  80. 81. Journaling Questions <ul><li>Who/What are you? </li></ul><ul><li>What do you represent? </li></ul><ul><li>What is your message for me? </li></ul><ul><li>Why are you here? </li></ul><ul><li>How can I carry out...? </li></ul><ul><li>What actions can I take? </li></ul><ul><li>How can I help (or serve) you? </li></ul><ul><li>What is your gift to me? </li></ul>for Images and Symbols in Dreams and Meditations
  81. 82. Applications <ul><li>Organizational Assessment </li></ul><ul><li>Leadership Development </li></ul><ul><li>Creating a Vision Statement </li></ul><ul><li>Creating a Mission Statement </li></ul><ul><li>Cultural Change </li></ul>
  82. 83. Applications <ul><li>Performance Appraisal </li></ul><ul><ul><ul><li>Act with TACT </li></ul></ul></ul><ul><li>Strategic Planning </li></ul><ul><li>Staff Development </li></ul><ul><ul><ul><li>The Five Strategies </li></ul></ul></ul><ul><li>Personal Virtues Profile </li></ul>
  83. 84. Strategic Planning With the Five Virtues Strategies <ul><li>Naming Virtues </li></ul><ul><ul><li>What are our core virtues, our strengths? What VIRTUES do we need to cultivate to move forward? </li></ul></ul><ul><li>What is the Teachable Moment </li></ul><ul><ul><li>For our organization? </li></ul></ul><ul><li>How clear are our Boundaries? </li></ul><ul><ul><li>What boundaries do we need to establish? </li></ul></ul><ul><li>How shall we honor the Spiritual Dimension? </li></ul><ul><ul><li>What rituals, rites of passage, ceremonies are needed? </li></ul></ul><ul><li>What are our true issues? </li></ul><ul><ul><li>What needs to be heard? How well do we companion one another? </li></ul></ul>
  84. 86. VIRTUES VILLAGE <ul><li>Inspiring virtues in the home, </li></ul><ul><li>school, workplace and community! </li></ul><ul><li>For more information on products and services : </li></ul><ul><li>www.virtuesvillagellc.com </li></ul>