A question that I am often asked is how to stop being jealous. Experiencing jealousy can often be a good thing, however it can also make you feel like you are losing your mind. If you feel like in your case it is the latter, read on and we will show you a technique to show you how to stop being jealous.
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How to Stop Being Jealous – Ever Hear of This Technique to Overcome Jealousy?
1. How to Stop Being Jealous – Ever Hear of This Technique to
Overcome Jealousy?
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A question that I am often asked is how to stop being jealous. Experiencing jealousy
can often be a good thing, however it can also make you feel like you are losing your
mind. If you feel like in your case it is the latter, read on and we will show you a
technique to show you how to stop being jealous.
2. Before we get into specific steps to stop it, let’s look at what jealousy is in the first
place. There tend to be two types of jealousy: warranted and unwarranted. What we
are going to help you to stop is jealousy that is unwarranted and could potentially be
damaging to your relationship, pushing your spouse or partner away. To do so, we
need to identify the difference between warranted and unwarranted jealousy. Then
we will go over a mind control technique to show you how to stop being jealous…
particularly of the unwarranted kind.
3. Before we get into specific steps to stop it, let’s look at what jealousy is in the first
place. There tend to be two types of jealousy: warranted and unwarranted. What we
are going to help you to stop is jealousy that is unwarranted and could potentially be
damaging to your relationship, pushing your spouse or partner away. To do so, we
need to identify the difference between warranted and unwarranted jealousy. Then
we will go over a mind control technique to show you how to stop being jealous…
particularly of the unwarranted kind.
Experiencing the Ugly Side of Jealousy
Jealousy is a perfectly natural emotion and is one that any human being is capable of.
It is not considered to be one of the more attractive emotions, which is why often
times it is hard to admit that you are experiencing it.
4. There is indeed good jealousy and bad. Good jealousy can be thought of not so much
as an ugly emotion as it is an internal radar system that perceives potential threats to
your relationship.
For example if you are out shopping and you notice your spouse or partner flirting a
little too much with the cashier and this behavior is out of character for him or her,
that may send a flag up to you wondering if they are bored with your relationship. This
jealousy is good in that it helps you to identify signs from your partner that there may
indeed be things in your relationship that need to be addressed.
5. There is indeed good jealousy and bad. Good jealousy can be thought of not so much
as an ugly emotion as it is an internal radar system that perceives potential threats to
your relationship.
For example if you are out shopping and you notice your spouse or partner flirting a
little too much with the cashier and this behavior is out of character for him or her,
that may send a flag up to you wondering if they are bored with your relationship. This
jealousy is good in that it helps you to identify signs from your partner that there may
indeed be things in your relationship that need to be addressed.
However, bad jealousy is counterproductive and can indeed be destructive to a
relationship. Take the same scenario. Let’s say your spouse or partner simply laughs at
a joke cracked by the cashier and on the way out you say to them, “So you want to go
back and get her number so you can sleep with her?”
6. To your spouse or partner, this kind of bad jealousy feels like an attack. They don’t
understand what triggered that response and yet they sit there feeling as though they
are being accused.
7. To your spouse or partner, this kind of bad jealousy feels like an attack. They don’t
understand what triggered that response and yet they sit there feeling as though they
are being accused.
But is My Jealousy Good or Bad?
Here are a few quick ways to decipher whether or not your particular jealousy is good
or bad:
•Did my spouse or partner do anything that truly threatens our marriage or
relationship?
•Did their behavior remind me of something from the past?
•Am I instead feeling insecure because of something that has nothing to do with their
behavior?
8. How to Stop Being Jealous
If you have asked and answered these questions and have determined that your
jealousy is indeed coming from you internally and is not directly related to anything
your spouse or partner had done directly (bad jealousy), then here is a technique to
help stop this type of jealousy from destroying your peace of mind and damaging your
relationship:
9. How to Stop Being Jealous
If you have asked and answered these questions and have determined that your
jealousy is indeed coming from you internally and is not directly related to anything
your spouse or partner had done directly (bad jealousy), then here is a technique to
help stop this type of jealousy from destroying your peace of mind and damaging your
relationship:
Step 1: Think of one of your jealous thoughts or fantasies about your spouse or
partner
10. How to Stop Being Jealous
If you have asked and answered these questions and have determined that your
jealousy is indeed coming from you internally and is not directly related to anything
your spouse or partner had done directly (bad jealousy), then here is a technique to
help stop this type of jealousy from destroying your peace of mind and damaging your
relationship:
Step 1: Think of one of your jealous thoughts or fantasies about your spouse or
partner
Step 2: Write down the details of that thought down to the finest point, as much as
you can to describe it
11. How to Stop Being Jealous
If you have asked and answered these questions and have determined that your
jealousy is indeed coming from you internally and is not directly related to anything
your spouse or partner had done directly (bad jealousy), then here is a technique to
help stop this type of jealousy from destroying your peace of mind and damaging your
relationship:
Step 1: Think of one of your jealous thoughts or fantasies about your spouse or
partner
Step 2: Write down the details of that thought down to the finest point, as much as
you can to describe it
Step 3: Close your eyes and play the fantasy all the way through in your mind
12. Step 4: Next, change the terms of the fantasy in your mind. Put funny-looking
costumes on them, change the scenery into something silly, put clown makeup on
them….just whatever comes to mind that breaks things up and adds levity to the
scene for you
13. Step 4: Next, change the terms of the fantasy in your mind. Put funny-looking
costumes on them, change the scenery into something silly, put clown makeup on
them….just whatever comes to mind that breaks things up and adds levity to the
scene for you
Step 5: As you are manipulating the fantasy, be conscious of whether you are feeling
more or less jealous
14. When you discover what parts of manipulating the scene makes you feel less jealous,
employ those same techniques and scenarios each and every time you begin to feel
this bad jealousy coming on.
What you are doing, in essence, by using this manipulation technique is taking back
control of your thoughts and not letting them control you. It takes some practice, but
this has proven to be a very effective technique for those that are looking for a way to
stop being jealous.
15. This technique is truly just one step when learning how to stop being jealous.
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