ASSignment
The ratio of failure between love and
arrange marriage

What is marriage?
 Marriage, also called matrimony or wedlock, is a socially or ritually recognized union or legal contract between spouses that
establishes rights and obligations between them, between them and their children, and between them and their in-laws.
 A marriage which is arranged by formally a boy & a girl’s liking and two families decision, this type of marriage is called
arrange marriage.
 The definition of marriage varies according to different cultures, but it is principally an institution in which interpersonal
relationships, usually sexual, are acknowledged.
 In some cultures, marriage is recommended or considered to be compulsory before pursuing any sexual activity. When defined
broadly, marriage is considered a cultural universal.

marriage

What is Arrange marriage?
 Arrange marriage is a type of marital union where the bride and groom are selected by their party then by each other.
Marriage is planned and agreed by the family or the guardians of couples.
 Arranged marriage is common in South Asia, Africa,the Middle East,Latin America,Southeast Asia and parts of East Asia
; elsewhere in developed countries, arranged marriage has continued in some royal families, parts of Japan.
 The arranged marriage statistics are promising, there is no wrong or right way to love. I believe that arranged marriages
can work and that they can make some people very happy. I also, however, believe that love cannot be manufactured or
created using a set of rules or ideals. I like the idea of choice. If you choose to have your marriage arranged, all the more
power to you! The point is, you should be able to choose.

 Love marriage is the ones where two people fall in love & decide they want to share that love for the rest of their life, ina
committed and long marriage.
 The term love marriage is used to describe a marriage which is decided upon the couples without consulting their parents or
families. These marriages may break caste, community and religion barriers. However, these marriages are considered socially
unacceptable.
 There is no clear definition of love marriage. It is generally used to describe a marriage which was the sole decision of the
couple.
 The marriage of Queen Victoria and Prince Albert also made love marriage more acceptable in the minds of the British public
in the Victoria era were love marriages were rising.
 In Pakistan, love marriage is rare in the society.
What is love marriage?

Love marriage
Advantages :
 Strong relationship
 Mutual understanding
 Combined decision making
 Offer more independence and freedom
Disadvantages :
 Refused by family
 Facing financial problems
 Matter of religion
 Considered as a taboo amongst people
 Sometimes discord arises
 Childhood marriage

Arrange marriage
Advantages :
 Well understanding :
- in husband & wife
- in bride & her new family
- between bride & bride groom’s families
 Parents make wise decision for their child.
 Long lasting relation (maximum time)
 Offer more protection & security to the woman
 Society accept them warmly
Disadvantages :
 Understanding problem
 Takes time to settle
 Internal family problem
 Dowry problem

love marriage in islam
 "The Prophet ( SAW ) said it is better for a man to have a steel nail driven through his head then to touch the
palm of a strange woman. hadith“
 It is true that even hand shaking or hand holding between non - mahrams of opposite gender is not allowed. So if
you are holding her hands then yes you are crossing limits and it is haraam.
There are also levels of zina - which are haraam.
 It was narrated from Abu Hurayrah that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Allaah
has decreed for every son of Adam his share of zina, which he will inevitably commit. The zina of the eyes is
looking, the zina of the tongue is speaking, one may wish and desire, and the private parts confirm that or deny
it.”
Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 5889; Muslim, 2657.

arrange marriage in islam
 When a girl reported that her father had forced her to marry without her consent, the Prophet (peace be upon him) gave her the
choice, either to accept the marriage or to choose to invalidate it.
 In another hadith, the Prophet made clear that ladies should not be married without being consulted first. Abu Hurairah quoted
the Prophet (peace be upon him) as saying:
"A matron should not be given in marriage except after consulting her, and a virgin should not be given in marriage except after her
permission." (Al-Bukhari)
 Arranged marriages are allowed and promoted in Islam as long as they are accepted by both the bride and the groom. One of the
conditions for the Nikah (marriage ceremony) to be valid is both the man and woman are asked independently of each other as to
whether they agree with the marriage or not. If either of them say ‘no’ then the Nikah cannot continue , however, silence is
regarded as consent. (Radd ul Mohtar).

Divorce rate because of love marriage in the world
United States 54.8%
United Kingdom 42.6%
Singapore 17.2%
Bangladesh 13.2%
Germany 39.4%
Sweden 54.9%
Japan 1.9%

Divorce rate because of arrange marriage in the world
United States 35.2%
United Kingdom 42.6%
Singapore 11.2%
Bangladesh 7.5%
Germany 19.4%
Sweden 25.4%
Japan 1.9%

Why
arranged
marriages are better than
love marriages?
Completely new
experience
Having family
support
Expectation levels

Difference

Difference is

Literature review & Methodology
 Marriage provides a structure of life that plays an important role in producing or maintaining individuals
psychological well being. For the success marital satisfaction is required and the lack of marital satisfaction will be
the failure of marriage. The failure of marriage is affected by different type of factors. Cost , creed, economic status
religious and other beliefs have influence on marriage. Perceived social support received from family and friends
increase marital satisfaction.
Methodology :
 Likert type analysis
 Questionnaire
 Interviews

Questionnaire
 Arrange marriage is better than love marriage.
 Women get more respect in love marriage.
 Arrange marriages really work in our society.
 Arrange marriages last longer than love marriages.
 Arrange marriage is better choice than love marriage.
 Love marriage has success rate in first two years.
 Love marriage is preferred over arrange marriage.
 Higher expectations versus low reward in love marriage.

Data analysis Statement no:1“ Arrange marriage is better than love marriage”
50% people strongly agree that arrange marriage is better than love marriage, 20% are agreed,10% disagree and 20% people are
strongly disagreed.
 Statement no:2“ women get more respect in love marriage”
30% people are strongly agreed that women get more respect in love marriage, whereas 20% people are agreed, 10% are neutral, 10%
are disagreed and 30% are strongly agreed.
 Statement no: 3“ Arrange marriage really work in our society”
60% people are agreed that arrange marriage really work in our society, 20% are disagree,30% are strongly disagree,20% agree
and 10% are neutral.
 Statement no: 4“arrange marriage lasts longer than love marriage”
65% people are strongly agreed, 20% are agreed, 8% are disagree, 2% are strongly disagree whereas 5% are neutral.

Data analysis Statement no:5“arrange marriage is a better choice than love marriage”
40% people are strongly agree that arrange marriage is a better choice than love marriage, 30% are disagreed,10% strongly
agreed, 10% are only agreed and 10% are neutral.
 Statement no: 6” love marriages have success rate in first two years”
30% people are agreed that love marriages have success rate in first two years, 20% are strongly agreed, 25% are disagreed, 20%
are strongly disagreed and only 5% remain neutral.
 Statement no :7“love marriage is preferred over arrange marriage”
30% people are disagreed that love marriage is preferred over arrange marriage, 25% are strongly agreed, 20% are agreed, 15%
are strongly disagreed and 10% are neutral.
 Statement no: 8“higher expectations versus low reward in love marriage”
40% people are strongly agreed, 25% are strongly disagreed, 20% are disagreed,10% agreed and 5% are neutral.

ratio

Conclusion A marriage is built on a very strong foundation consisting of trust, care and honesty. This foundation is built when two people have given up
their love and entrusted it in.So I think there is nothing like an ideal marriage. It’s all about the way you perceive your marriage.
 Arrange marriages are more successful than love marriages. Therefore, the ratio of failure of arrange marriage is less than the ratio of
failure of love marriage. In love marriages our parents plays no role and our marriage becomes shaggy but in arrange marriage note only our
parents but other family members celebrate a lot and happy atmosphere spreads all over like festival. But in love marriage there is only
sadness and tension all around. Something we will have to love alone with our partner, in love marriages. We can also see the results of love
marriages in our surroundings where mostly love marriages are failed because of the lack of the family support for the couples and parents
let them go where they want go therefore the couples after passing a specific time start to blame themselves for their poor livings and
break their relationships. So, therefore in my opinion arrange marriage is better than love marriage because there are less chances of
faiulure.