1.
Stages, Theories, and Communication
Ahyana Presley | Olivia Criss |
Thuy Le | Dominic Interlicchia
November 18, 2013

2.
• Perceptual
• Interactional
Contact
EXIT
• Testing
• Intensifying
Involvement
EXIT
Intimacy
EXIT
• Interpersonal Commitment
• Social Bonding
Repair
Deterioration
EXIT
Dissolution
• Intrapersonal Repair
• Intrapersonal Dissatisfaction
• Interpersonal Separation
• Interpersonal Repair
• Interpersonal Dissatisfaction
• Social/ public Separation

3.
Perceptual
• See, hear, read
a message
• View a photo
or video
• Smell the
person
Elements to form a
mental & physical
picture along with
gender, age,
beliefs, values,
height, etc.
Interactional
• Superficial
• Relatively
impersonal
Basic information is
exchanged &
preliminary to more
involvement with the
person

4.
Testing
Whether your
initial judgment
is true
the sense of
mutua lity of
being
con nected
develops
• What school
are you
attending?
• What are you
majoring in?
Intensifying
Reveal more of
yourself, amp up
your affections to
move to next
level of the
relationship
Gifts, cards,
flowers, flirting, or
becoming
sexually intimate

5.
Flirting
DO’S
DON’TS
Compliment
Inappropriate
Compliment
Introduce
yourself
Drawn-out
introduction
Make eye
contact
Blink a lot or
stare profusely

6.
Interpersonal
Commitment
Committing
yourself further
and establishing
a deeper
connection with
the person who
becomes your
best or closest
friend
Two people
agree to be
committed to
one another in
a confidential
manner
Social
Bonding
Public “outing” of
the commitment
made by two
people, usually
in front of family
and friends. Unit
is formed.
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7.
Intrapersonal
Dissatisfaction
Occurs when the
bond between
two individuals
becomes weak
Everyday
interactions
become
unsatisfying
and the future
begins to look
bleak unlike
before
Interpersonal
Dissatisfaction
Spend less free
time together,
withdraw and
grow farther
apart

8.
Intrapersonal
Repair
Interpersonal
Repair
Analyze what
went wrong
and consider
ways of fixing
the problems
Both partners
will discuss, the
problem, what
changes they
would like to
see and what
both parties
are willing to
do

9.
Interpersonal
Separation
Bonds are broken
and the unit
reverts back to
individuals
Living separate
lives, possibly in
different
apartments
Social/Public
Separation
Comes in the
form of divorce
if a married
couple or
avoidance
and the return
of the “single
life” if in a
committed
relationship

10.
Vertical Arrows:
move to a more or
less intense stage
Repair
EXIT
Involvement
EXIT
Intimacy
Self-reflexive Arrows:
stabilization
Contact
EXIT
Deterioration
Exit Arrows:
each
stage
presents
an exit
strategy
Dissolution
EXIT

11.
Relationship
Liscence
Turning Points
Important events that can
change the direction of the
relationship and create
consequences for the
individuals involved
Permission to break some
relationship rule as a result
of your stage in the
relationship
•
Intimate VS non-intimate
relationships
•
Can be reciprocal
•
Varies across cultures
•
Can be negotiated mostly
nonverbally and in small increments
• Mostly positive but can be negative
• Vary with culture
• Varies with the stage of the
relationship

12.
5 Factors
Similarity
Proximity
People form
relationships on
the basis of
attraction
Reinforcement
Physical
Attractiveness
Personality

13.
Friendship
Rules
Relationship
are held together
by an adherence
of certain rules
Romantic
Rules
Family
Rules
Workplace
Rules

14.
Common Internal
Tensions
Closeness & Openness
Autonomy & Connection
A person engaged
in a relationship
experiences internal
tensions causing the
relationship to be
in a constant state
of flux
Novelty & Predictability

15.
WHY
relationship
s develop?
WHAT
happens
when they
develop?
BREADTH
how many topics
are talked
about
DEPTH
the degree to
which you
penetrate the
core of the
other individual

16.
BREATH
DEPTH
Superficial
Personal
Intimate
Core
Depene
-tration

17.
Comparison
Level
Profits
Rewards
Costs
Results
Obtain
Avoid
Money
Status
Love
Information
Goods
Services

18.
Relatively proportional
COSTS
REWARDS
Equitable relationships =
Greater Satisfaction
Inequitable relationships =
Greater Dissatisfaction

19.
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Office Worker
Scientist
Housework
Brainwork
Dissatisfaction
Complaints

20.
To be
autono
-mous
To be
thought
of
highly
+
Respect
Contribute
Acknowledge
-
Rules violated =
Relationships deteriorate
Rules maintained =
Relationships maintained

21.
Be nice
Share joint activities
Communicate
Be open
Be positive
Focus on Self-improvement
Give assurances
Be empathic

22.
Communication
Patterns
Withdrawal
Decline in self-disclosure
Deception
Positive messages decrease
Negative messages increase

23.
Strategies of
disengagement
Positive tone to
preserve relationship
Justification to explain
breakup
Negative identity
management
De-escalation to
reduce intensity

24.
Dealing with
a break-up
Break lonelinessdepression cycle
Take time out
Bolster self-esteem
Remove uncomfortable
relationship symbols
Be mindful of your
relationship patterns

25.
Interpersonal Repair
R
Recognize the problem
E
Engage in productive
conflict resolutions
P
Pose possible solutions
A
Affirm each other
I
Integrate solutions into
normal behavior
R
Risks

26.
Intrapersonal Repair
Stimulus-Response View
Criticis
m
Attack
Criticism
Attack
Circular View
Attack
Criticism
Criticism
Attack
Remember
punctuation