When Etiquette Interrupts the Party TEXT: GEN 21:8-19 I. PRESUMPTION A. WEANING- GEN 21:8 Rom 12:15-16 Isa 28:9-10 2Thess 3:10 B. WOUNDING- GEN 21:9 Prov 20:11 Luke 6:44 Matt 7:20 Matt 7:1 1Cor 8:12-13 Gal 4:28-29 II. CORRECTION A. WANDERING- GEN 21:14 Gen 16:9 Eph 5:3-4 Gen 26:8 B. WANTING- GEN 21:15 Gen 21:14 Gen 16:10 1Cor 10:13 C. WHINING- GEN 21:16 III. INSTRUCTION A. WHY- GEN 21:17 Gen 16:13 2Cor 4:9 Eccl 12:1 B. WHERE- GEN 21:17 Ps 40:1-2 Ps 66:18 Gen 21:17 C. WATER- GEN 21:19 Gen 16:13

1. When Etiquette Interrupts the
Party
Text: Gen 21:8-19
This well-planned party has come to a screeching halt with
the misbehavior of one attendee.
The problem was that of…
I. Presumption
Titus 2:9
9Exhort servants to be obedient unto their own masters,
and to please them well in all things; not answering
again;
1Pet 5:5
5Likewise, ye younger, submit yourselves unto the elder.
Yea, all of you be subject one to another, and be clothed

2. with humility: for God resisteth the proud, and giveth
grace to the humble.
A.Weaning- Gen 21:8
Gen 21:8
8And the child grew, and was weaned: and Abraham
made a great feast the same day that Isaac was
weaned.
Rom 12:15-16
15Rejoice with them that do rejoice, and weep
with them that weep.
16Be of the same mind one toward another. Mind not
high things, but condescend to men of low estate. Be
not wise in your own conceits.
About 3yrs old (Ishmael would be 16-17; 21:5,
16:16)
2Chr 31:16
16Beside their genealogy of males, from three
years old and upward, even unto every one that
entereth into the house of the LORD, his daily
portion for their service in their charges
according to their courses;

3. Isa 28:9-10
9Whom shall he teach knowledge? and whom shall
he make to understand doctrine? them that are
weaned from the milk, and drawn from the breasts.
10For precept must be upon precept, precept upon
precept; line upon line, line upon line; here a little,
and there a little:
2Thess 3:10
10For even when we were with you, this we
commanded you, that if any would not work, neither
should he eat.
B.Wounding- Gen 21:9
Gen 21:9
9And Sarah saw the son of Hagar the Egyptian, which she
had born unto Abraham, mocking.
Prov 20:11
11Even a child is known by his doings, whether his
work be pure, and whether it be right.
Luke 6:44
44For every tree is known by his own fruit. For of
thorns men do not gather figs, nor of a bramble
bush gather they grapes.

4. Matt 7:20
20Wherefore by their fruits ye shall know
them.
Matt 7:1
1Judge not, that ye be not judged.
1Cor 8:12-13
12But when ye sin so against the brethren, and
wound their weak conscience, ye sin against Christ.
13Wherefore, if meat make my brother to offend, I
will eat no flesh while the world standeth, lest I make
my brother to offend.
Gal 4:28-29
28Now we, brethren, as Isaac was, are the children of
promise.
29But as then he that was born after the flesh
persecuted him that was born after the Spirit, even
so it is now.
II. Correction

5. A.Wandering- Gen 21:14
Gen 21:14
14And Abraham rose up early in the morning, and took
bread, and a bottle of water, and gave it unto Hagar,
putting it on her shoulder, and the child, and sent her
away: and she departed, and wandered in the
wilderness of Beersheba.
She had made a wilderness trip five chapters
earlier only to learn “submission”.
Gen 16:9
9And the angel of the LORD said unto her,
Return to thy mistress, and submit thyself under
her hands.
Now Ishmael must learn the same lesson.
His travel companion should have informed
him of her experiences.
Eph 5:3-4
3But fornication, and all uncleanness, or
covetousness, let it not be once named among you,
as becometh saints;
4Neither filthiness, nor foolish talking, nor jesting,
which are not convenient: but rather giving of thanks.

6. Gen 26:8
8And it came to pass, when he had been there a long
time, that Abimelech king of the Philistines looked out at a
window, and saw, and, behold, Isaac was sporting with
Rebekah his wife.
Judg 16:25
25And it came to pass, when their hearts were merry,
that they said, Call for Samson, that he may make us
sport. And they called for Samson out of the prison
house; and he made them sport: and they set him
between the pillars.
Eccl 10:13
13The beginning of the words of his mouth is
foolishness: and the end of his talk is mischievous
madness.
Prov 10:23
23It is as sport to a fool to do mischief: but a man of
understanding hath wisdom.
Prov 26:19
19So is the man that deceiveth his neighbour, and
saith, Am not I in sport?

7. Isa 57:4
4Against whom do ye sport yourselves? against
whom make ye a wide mouth, and draw out the
tongue? are ye not children of transgression,a seed
of falsehood,
2Pet 2:13
13And shall receive the reward of unrighteousness,
as they that count it pleasure to riot in the day time.
Spots they are and blemishes, sporting themselves
with their own deceivings while they feast with you;
B.Wanting- Gen 21:15
Gen 21:15
15And the water was spent in the bottle, and she cast
the child under one of the shrubs.
Gen 21:14
14And Abraham rose up early in the morning, and
took bread, and a bottle of water, and gave it unto
Hagar…
Abrahams’ provisions only last so long; you need
to be able to find your own.

8. Gen 16:10
10And the angel of the LORD said unto her, I will
multiply thy seed exceedingly, that it shall not
be numbered for multitude.
Hagar has to grow in faith
1Cor 10:13
13There hath no temptation taken you but such as is
common to man: but God is faithful, who will not
suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but
will with the temptation also make a way to
escape, that ye may be able to bear it.
C.Whining- Gen 21:16
Gen 21:16
16And she went, and sat her down over against him a
good way off, as it were a bowshot: for she said, Let me
not see the death of the child. And she sat over against
him, and lift up her voice, and wept.
Who is she talking to?
She must be talking to herself.
She has a fool for an adviser is this is the case.

9. She has already decided he will die. She has not
considered she could die too.
She is worried about the wrong things. God didn’t
promise she would see the descendants of Ishmael.
III. Instruction
A.Why- Gen 21:17
Gen 21:17
17And God heard the voice of the lad; and the angel of
God called to Hagar out of heaven, and said unto her,
What aileth thee, Hagar? fear not; for God hath heard
the voice of the lad where he is.
She had emotions but no reason; she had forgotten
the God that saved her from her own trouble.
Gen 16:13
13And she called the name of the LORD that spake
unto her, Thou God seest me: for she said, Have I
also here looked after him that seeth me?
2Cor 4:9
9Persecuted, but not forsaken; cast down, but not
destroyed;

10. Eccl 12:1
1Remember now thy Creator in the days of thy
youth, while the evil days come not, nor the years
draw nigh, when thou shalt say, I have no pleasure in
them;
1Sam 30:6
And David was greatly distressed; for the people
spake of stoning him, because the soul of all
the people was grieved, every man for his sons
and for his daughters: but David encouraged
himself in the LORD his God. KJV
Ps 42:5
Why art thou cast down, O my soul? and why
art thou disquieted in me? hope thou in God: for
I shall yet praise him for the help of his
countenance. KJV
Ps 42:11
Why art thou cast down, O my soul? and why
art thou disquieted within me? hope thou in God:
for I shall yet praise him, who is the health of my
countenance, and my God. KJV

11. Ps 43:5
Why art thou cast down, O my soul? and why
art thou disquieted within me? hope in God: for I
shall yet praise him, who is the health of my
countenance, and my God. KJV
B.Where- Gen 21:17
Gen 21:17
17And God heard the voice of the lad; and the angel of
God called to Hagar out of heaven, and said unto her,
What aileth thee, Hagar? fear not; for God hath heard
the voice of the lad where he is.
No one can repent for you. You can never earn the
favor of God by the reformation of the flesh. It is
God who lifts you out of the pit.
Ps 40:1-2
1To the chief Musician, A Psalm of David. I waited
patiently for the LORD; and he inclined unto me,
and heard my cry.
2He brought me up also out of an horrible pit, out
of the miry clay, and set my feet upon a rock, and
established my goings.

12. Ps 66:18
18If I regard iniquity in my heart, the Lord will not hear
me:
Gen 21:17
17And God heard the voice of the lad; and the angel of
God called to Hagar out of heaven, and said unto her,
What aileth thee, Hagar?
fear not;
for God hath heard the voice of the lad
where he is.
C.Water- Gen 21:19
Gen 21:19
19And God opened her eyes, and she saw a well of
water; and she went, and filled the bottle with water, and
gave the lad drink.
Gen 16:13
13And she called the name of the LORD that spake
unto her, Thou God seest me: for she said, Have I
also here looked after him that seeth me?
Just sitting next to a well of water does you no good
till “God opens your eyes”.

13. That well of water has a greater value to you when you
share it with someone else.
When Etiquette Interrupts the Party
TEXT: GEN 21:8-19
I. PRESUMPTION
A. WEANING- GEN 21:8
Rom 12:15-16
Isa 28:9-10
2Thess 3:10
B. WOUNDING- GEN 21:9
Prov 20:11
Luke 6:44
Matt 7:20
Matt 7:1
1Cor 8:12-13
Gal 4:28-29
II. CORRECTION
A. WANDERING- GEN 21:14
Gen 16:9
Eph 5:3-4
Gen 26:8
B. WANTING- GEN 21:15
Gen 21:14
Gen 16:10
1Cor 10:13
C. WHINING- GEN 21:16
III. INSTRUCTION
A. WHY- GEN 21:17
Gen 16:13
2Cor 4:9
Eccl 12:1
B. WHERE- GEN 21:17
Ps 40:1-2
Ps 66:18
Gen 21:17
C. WATER- GEN 21:19
Gen 16:13