What Is Language Of Desire? On the surface, Language of Desire appears to be a dirty talk program for women, but at its core, it’s much more than that. After all, talking dirty to your man is much more complex than just learning 50 different ways to say “penis” or inserting the f-word into everything you say. I think most women already know guys LOVE it when a girl talks dirty to them. However, dirty talk isn’t something that comes naturally to most women. In fact, it can feel downright awkward and embarrassing and can even make you feel like wanting to be sexy means you must be some kind of slut. That’s so not true, but so many women feel like they’re doing something wrong if they express themselves sexually. But talking dirty can also be an incredible way to explore your own sexual desires, improve your sex life, and make a stronger emotional connection with your man. It’s a great way to get your man totally addicted to you.