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A s s e r t i v e n e s s @ W o r k
DR WILFRED MONTEIRO
Master coach on assertiveness and behavioural training for busines...
Test Your Assertiveness (1 of 3)
 Can you express negative feelings about
other people and their behaviors without
using ...
Test Your Assertiveness (2 of 3)
 Do you have the confidence to ask for
what is rightfully yours?
 Can you accept critic...
Test Your Assertiveness (3 of 3)
 Are you able to refuse unreasonable
requests from friends, family, or co-
workers?
 Ca...
Talk softly –
don’t stand
up for their
rights
Talk softly –
don’t stand
up for their
rights
Gives
‘vice-like’
handshakes
Gives
‘vice-like’
handshakes
ASSERTIVENESS
• Assertiveness is the ability
to communicate your needs,
feelings, opinions, and
beliefs in an open and
hon...
ASSERTIVENESS
1. IS NOT THE SAME AS AGGRESSIVE BEHAVIOR.
2. AGGRESSIVE BEHAVIOR ENHANCES SELF AT THE
EXPENSE OF OTHERS.
3....
WHAT WILL IT DO
1. HELPS YOU BECOME
SELF-CONFIDENT
2. INCREASES SELF-ESTEEM
3. GAIN RESPECT OF
OTHERS
4. IMPROVE
COMMUNICA...
UNDERSTANDING ASSERTIVE BEHAVIOR
Mottoes and Beliefs
– Believes self and others are valuable
– Knowing that assertiveness ...
Characteristics
– Non-judgmental
– Observes behavior rather than labeling it
– Trusts self and others
– Confident
– Self-a...
Nonverbal Cues
– Open, natural gestures
– Attentive, interested facial expression
– Direct eye contact
– Confident or rela...
Feelings Felt
– Enthusiasm
– Well being
– Even tempered
Effects
– Increased self-esteem and self-confidence
– Increased se...
HOW TO BE ASSERTIVE
1. BE HONEST AND DIRECT ABOUT YOUR
FEELINGS, NEEDS, BELIEFS.
2. EXPRESS YOURSELF FIRMLY AND DIRECTLY
T...
HOW TO BE ASSERTIVE
4. STATE YOUR VIEWPOINT WITHOUT BEING HESITANT OR
APOLOGETIC.
5. BE HONEST WHEN GIVING OR RECEIVING FE...
HOW TO BE ASSERTIVE
8. REGOGNIZE AND RESPECT THE RIGHTS OF THOSE
AROUND YOU.
9. USE APPROPRIATE TONE OF VOICE.
10. BE AWAR...
HOW TO BE ASSERTIVE
13. DON’T LET OTHERS
IMPOSE THEIR
VALUES/IDEAS ON YOU
14. ENCOURAGE OTHERS
TO BE CLEAR AND
DIRECT
15. ...
Dr WILFRED MONTEIRO
• is a nationally acclaimed stalwart in the field of
business management with an illustrious career
sp...
CONTACT US
Dr Wilfred Monteiro
TELE : 91 22 9819843927
EMAIL: wm@synergymanager.net
website:
www.synergymanager.net
SYNERG...
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coaching of business leaders begins with assertiveness behavioral training The reason is simple if you don't manage people you can get work done. And ifyou cannot manage people unless you first manage your own behavior

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  1. 1. A s s e r t i v e n e s s @ W o r k DR WILFRED MONTEIRO Master coach on assertiveness and behavioural training for business leaders http://ceo-metacoach.blogspot.in/
  2. 2. Test Your Assertiveness (1 of 3)  Can you express negative feelings about other people and their behaviors without using abusive language?  Are you able to exercise and express your strengths?  Can you easily recognize and compliment other people’s achievements?  Can you express negative feelings about other people and their behaviors without using abusive language?  Are you able to exercise and express your strengths?  Can you easily recognize and compliment other people’s achievements?
  3. 3. Test Your Assertiveness (2 of 3)  Do you have the confidence to ask for what is rightfully yours?  Can you accept criticism without being defensive?  Do you feel comfortable accepting compliments?  Are you able to stand up for your rights?  Do you have the confidence to ask for what is rightfully yours?  Can you accept criticism without being defensive?  Do you feel comfortable accepting compliments?  Are you able to stand up for your rights?
  4. 4. Test Your Assertiveness (3 of 3)  Are you able to refuse unreasonable requests from friends, family, or co- workers?  Can you comfortably start and carry on a conversation with others?  Do you ask for assistance when you need it ?  Are you able to refuse unreasonable requests from friends, family, or co- workers?  Can you comfortably start and carry on a conversation with others?  Do you ask for assistance when you need it ? A “yes” response to the questions indicates an assertive approach.
  5. 5. Talk softly – don’t stand up for their rights Talk softly – don’t stand up for their rights
  6. 6. Gives ‘vice-like’ handshakes Gives ‘vice-like’ handshakes
  7. 7. ASSERTIVENESS • Assertiveness is the ability to communicate your needs, feelings, opinions, and beliefs in an open and honest manner without violating the rights of others • Assertiveness is the ability to communicate your needs, feelings, opinions, and beliefs in an open and honest manner without violating the rights of others
  8. 8. ASSERTIVENESS 1. IS NOT THE SAME AS AGGRESSIVE BEHAVIOR. 2. AGGRESSIVE BEHAVIOR ENHANCES SELF AT THE EXPENSE OF OTHERS. 3. ASSERTIVENESS PRODUCES POSITIVE OUTCOMES FOR ALL; AGGRESSIVE ACTS RESULT IN NEGATIVE OUTCOMES. 1. IS NOT THE SAME AS AGGRESSIVE BEHAVIOR. 2. AGGRESSIVE BEHAVIOR ENHANCES SELF AT THE EXPENSE OF OTHERS. 3. ASSERTIVENESS PRODUCES POSITIVE OUTCOMES FOR ALL; AGGRESSIVE ACTS RESULT IN NEGATIVE OUTCOMES.
  9. 9. WHAT WILL IT DO 1. HELPS YOU BECOME SELF-CONFIDENT 2. INCREASES SELF-ESTEEM 3. GAIN RESPECT OF OTHERS 4. IMPROVE COMMUNICATION SKILLS 5. IMPROVE DECISION- MAKING ABILITY 1. HELPS YOU BECOME SELF-CONFIDENT 2. INCREASES SELF-ESTEEM 3. GAIN RESPECT OF OTHERS 4. IMPROVE COMMUNICATION SKILLS 5. IMPROVE DECISION- MAKING ABILITY
  10. 10. UNDERSTANDING ASSERTIVE BEHAVIOR Mottoes and Beliefs – Believes self and others are valuable – Knowing that assertiveness doesn't mean you always win, but that you handled the situation as effectively as possible – "I have rights and so do others." Communication Style – Effective, active listener – States limits, expectations – States observations, no labels or judgments – Expresses self directly, honestly, and as soon as possible about feelings and wants – Checks on others feelings Mottoes and Beliefs – Believes self and others are valuable – Knowing that assertiveness doesn't mean you always win, but that you handled the situation as effectively as possible – "I have rights and so do others." Communication Style – Effective, active listener – States limits, expectations – States observations, no labels or judgments – Expresses self directly, honestly, and as soon as possible about feelings and wants – Checks on others feelings
  11. 11. Characteristics – Non-judgmental – Observes behavior rather than labeling it – Trusts self and others – Confident – Self-aware – Open, flexible, versatile – Playful, sense of humor – Decisive – Proactive, initiating Behavior – Operates from choice – Knows what it is needed and develops a plan to get it – Action-oriented – Firm – Realistic in her expectations – Fair, just – Consistent – Takes appropriate action toward getting what she wants without denying rights of others Characteristics – Non-judgmental – Observes behavior rather than labeling it – Trusts self and others – Confident – Self-aware – Open, flexible, versatile – Playful, sense of humor – Decisive – Proactive, initiating Behavior – Operates from choice – Knows what it is needed and develops a plan to get it – Action-oriented – Firm – Realistic in her expectations – Fair, just – Consistent – Takes appropriate action toward getting what she wants without denying rights of others
  12. 12. Nonverbal Cues – Open, natural gestures – Attentive, interested facial expression – Direct eye contact – Confident or relaxed posture – Vocal volume appropriate, expressive – Varied rate of speech Verbal Cues – "I choose to..." – "What are my options?" – "What alternatives do we have?" Confrontation and Problem Solving – Negotiates, bargains, trades off, compromises – Confronts problems at the time they happen – Doesn't let negative feelings build up Nonverbal Cues – Open, natural gestures – Attentive, interested facial expression – Direct eye contact – Confident or relaxed posture – Vocal volume appropriate, expressive – Varied rate of speech Verbal Cues – "I choose to..." – "What are my options?" – "What alternatives do we have?" Confrontation and Problem Solving – Negotiates, bargains, trades off, compromises – Confronts problems at the time they happen – Doesn't let negative feelings build up
  13. 13. Feelings Felt – Enthusiasm – Well being – Even tempered Effects – Increased self-esteem and self-confidence – Increased self-esteem of others – Feels motivated and understood – Others know where they stand Feelings Felt – Enthusiasm – Well being – Even tempered Effects – Increased self-esteem and self-confidence – Increased self-esteem of others – Feels motivated and understood – Others know where they stand
  14. 14. HOW TO BE ASSERTIVE 1. BE HONEST AND DIRECT ABOUT YOUR FEELINGS, NEEDS, BELIEFS. 2. EXPRESS YOURSELF FIRMLY AND DIRECTLY TO SPECIFIC INDIVIDUALS. 3. BE REASONABLE IN YOUR REQUESTS 1. BE HONEST AND DIRECT ABOUT YOUR FEELINGS, NEEDS, BELIEFS. 2. EXPRESS YOURSELF FIRMLY AND DIRECTLY TO SPECIFIC INDIVIDUALS. 3. BE REASONABLE IN YOUR REQUESTS
  15. 15. HOW TO BE ASSERTIVE 4. STATE YOUR VIEWPOINT WITHOUT BEING HESITANT OR APOLOGETIC. 5. BE HONEST WHEN GIVING OR RECEIVING FEEDBACK. 6. LEARN TO SAY “NO” TO UNREASONABLE EXPECTATIONS. 7. PARAPHRASE WHAT OTHERS HAVE STATED TO YOU. 4. STATE YOUR VIEWPOINT WITHOUT BEING HESITANT OR APOLOGETIC. 5. BE HONEST WHEN GIVING OR RECEIVING FEEDBACK. 6. LEARN TO SAY “NO” TO UNREASONABLE EXPECTATIONS. 7. PARAPHRASE WHAT OTHERS HAVE STATED TO YOU.
  16. 16. HOW TO BE ASSERTIVE 8. REGOGNIZE AND RESPECT THE RIGHTS OF THOSE AROUND YOU. 9. USE APPROPRIATE TONE OF VOICE. 10. BE AWARE OF BODY POSTURE/LANGUAGE 11. MAINTAIN EYE CONTACT. 12. USE “I” STATEMENTS TO EXPRESS SELF 8. REGOGNIZE AND RESPECT THE RIGHTS OF THOSE AROUND YOU. 9. USE APPROPRIATE TONE OF VOICE. 10. BE AWARE OF BODY POSTURE/LANGUAGE 11. MAINTAIN EYE CONTACT. 12. USE “I” STATEMENTS TO EXPRESS SELF
  17. 17. HOW TO BE ASSERTIVE 13. DON’T LET OTHERS IMPOSE THEIR VALUES/IDEAS ON YOU 14. ENCOURAGE OTHERS TO BE CLEAR AND DIRECT 15. TAKE OWNERSHIP 13. DON’T LET OTHERS IMPOSE THEIR VALUES/IDEAS ON YOU 14. ENCOURAGE OTHERS TO BE CLEAR AND DIRECT 15. TAKE OWNERSHIP
  18. 18. Dr WILFRED MONTEIRO • is a nationally acclaimed stalwart in the field of business management with an illustrious career spanning over 25 years • He is a consultant and advisor to Board of Directors of leading companies & Chambers of Commerce; • a management trainer of high repute who has conducted over 1250 seminars in India and abroad in areas of business strategy, marketing & organization development. • a Visiting Professor to premier management institutes and staff training colleges throughout India. • is a nationally acclaimed stalwart in the field of business management with an illustrious career spanning over 25 years • He is a consultant and advisor to Board of Directors of leading companies & Chambers of Commerce; • a management trainer of high repute who has conducted over 1250 seminars in India and abroad in areas of business strategy, marketing & organization development. • a Visiting Professor to premier management institutes and staff training colleges throughout India. website: www.synergymanager.netwebsite: www.synergymanager.net
  19. 19. CONTACT US Dr Wilfred Monteiro TELE : 91 22 9819843927 EMAIL: wm@synergymanager.net website: www.synergymanager.net SYNERGY MANAGEMENT ASSOCIATES since 1993 HR Systems Design Policy Deployment Talent Management innovations Best Practices enablement Competency based HRM H R Systems Metrics & Audit

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