7. Self-MentoringTM
Dr. Marsha Carr
• Department of Educational Leadership at UNCW
• Superintendent of Schools in WV for 10Years
• Principal
• Director of Curriculum
• Reading Specialist
• Colleague and Friend
38. Plan a Preferred Future
• Specific and measurable
• Balanced
Personal and “Professional”
for truly
Integrated Success
Achieving
YOUR Destiny
39. Plan a Preferred Future
• Pragmatic
• Physically possible
• Consideration of limitations and
resources
Achieving
YOUR Destiny
40. Plan a Preferred Future
• Exploit available opportunities
• Create filters to prevent wasting time
and maintain focus
Achieving
YOUR Destiny
41. Decide the WHO not WHAT
• Focuses on core competencies &
satisfactions
• Allows you to define what to do and
resources you need
Achieving
YOUR Destiny
42. Decide the WHO not WHAT
• ALSO, what NOT to do
• Allows you to focus efforts, time, &
energy
Achieving
YOUR Destiny
43. Be HONEST with yourself
• Do not believe your own
rationalizations
• Consider your environment
• Consider your available resources
Achieving
YOUR Destiny
44. Ignore the Naysayers
• Constructive criticism is good --
Embrace it!
• Outside perspectives that are baseless
conjecture or laden with emotional
projection is destructive for achievers
Achieving
YOUR Destiny
45. Don’t Settle for Mediocrity
• Push the limits of your potential
• Outside perspectives that are baseless
conjecture or laden with emotional
projection is destructive for achievers
Achieving
YOUR Destiny
52. Relevancy
The usefulness of the information that exists
about you and how consistent that
information is with you you say you are and
what you claim to value
53. Purity
The amount of information that comes up in
an Internet search that is about you and not
someone with a similar name or similar
interests
54. Diversity
The mixture of information found when you
are searched online:
• Do you have a website?
• Are you found in real time content?
• Are there images and video of you?
82. Future Self
• Research shows that people
think of their current selves and
future selves as different people.
(Pronin & Ross, 2006; Wakslak et al., 2008)
83. Future Self
• Limited ability to imagine one’s
future self leads to opting for
immediate gratification.
(van Gelder, Hershfield, & Nordgren, 2013)
84. Seeking
Immediate Gratification
• Future consequences are not considered
• Respond reflexively rather than
intentionally and with control
• Negatively related to “joy” and “happiness”
85. • Living in the “here and now” is one
of the strongest correlates of
delinquent behavior.
• People with a “here and now”
orientation respond to tangible
stimuli and are unable to defer
gratification.
Future Self
(Gottfredson & Hirshchi, 1990; Pratt & Cullen, 2000)
(Nagin & Pogarsky, 2003)
89. CreativeVisualization
A process of visualizing specific
behaviors or events occurring in
one’s life.
Assumes students’ have
experience with creative thinking
and creative problem solving.
93. The best time to plant a
tree was 20 years ago.
The second best time is now.
Chinese Proverb
94. CreativeVisualization
NOT JUST ONE TIME!
Once the schema is clear, the
visualization can be repeated to
support continuation toward goal
attainment.
95. • Tied to Student’s
Identity
• Personally
Interesting
• Integral to the
Student’s Vision of
the future
• Viewed as Useful
(Eccles & Wigfield)
Personally Meaningful
97. • If you could do anything for 8
hours a day for the rest of your
life, and money were no object,
what would you do?
• Am I excited to do what I’m
doing every day? If not, is it me or
something else?
AskYourself
102. Why Control the
Message?
• College Admissions Officers & Committees
will search you
• Potential Employers will search you
• Friends (& non-friends) will search you
• Your Competition will search you
• Potential Boyfriend/Girlfriend will search you
103. How To
Control the Message
• Find Out What’s on the Web
• Clean Up Content thatYou Don’t Want
Everyone in the World to See
• Create a More Flattering Image Online
104. • With quotes around your name, search
yourself on Google,Yahoo!, and Bing
• What did you find?
Search Yourself
105. Search Yourself
You want to find:
• Favorable entries about your work
• Flattering or neutral mentions of your
personal life
107. Start with what you have posted:
• Delete any negative comments you’ve made
• Delete inappropriate photos or videos
• Check all sites!
• Edit blog entries that are negative
Remove Unflattering
Content
108.
109.
110. You Can Start Fresh Too:
• Delete all of your accounts
• Create new ones with a unique name for
yourself
• Use your middle initial
• Use your nickname
• Remember...Nothing really ever goes away.
Remove Unflattering
Content
111.
112. Remove Unflattering
Content
• Ask others to remove negative
content about you.
• Remove “tags” from photos
• Paid services:
reputation.com
internetreputation.com
113.
114. Reset Privacy Settings:
• Block groups or individuals from viewing
content that you would prefer to be
private
• Manage our groups regularly and
remove unsupportive members
Remove Unflattering
Content
115. • Avoid overly prolific status updates
• Claim your domain name
GoDaddy.com
• Create a More Flattering Image Online
Other Message
Management Tips
116. The BEST Way To
Control the Message
Create Favorable Content
• Set up a linkedin.com profile that is public
• Get people to “endorse” you professionally
• Update profiles regularly
• Blog on a topic of interest
• Contribute in positive ways to the online
community - and do so often!
121. Effective Goal Setting:
More Than SMART
Prioritized
Reviewed Periodically
Revised as Needed
Accountable to Others
122. Effective Goal Setting:
More Than SMART
Periodically review
goals and modify to
reflect changing
priorities and
experiences.
123. Effective Goal Setting:
More Than SMART
Share your goals and
engage with successful,
motivated people who
also set goals.
124. Avoid Unrealistic Goals
Insufficient Information
Goals Set by Other People
Always Expecting Best
125. The greater danger for most
of us lies not in setting our
aim too high and falling short;
but in setting our aim too low,
and achieving our mark.
-Michelangelo
