1. "Polygyny enables the society to
- reduce social crisis,
- prevent the mistress problem
- cure the society from illegitimate children.“
Suleha Alamgir
(GR101 presentation)
Gustav Le Bon (French psychologist)
Arab Open University
Arabic Civilization
Kuwait Branch
2. To present to you the concept of polygyny
To inform you why one should support those
engaged in it and avoid opposing them
To state why polygyny, when practiced by
properly applying the rules, is good for the
society as a whole
These points will be majorly presented through facts,
statistics and clinical researches
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3. POLYGAMY
The practice or custom of
having more than one
spouse at the same time
POLYGYNY POLYANDRY
The practice or custom of The practice or custom of
having more than one wife having more than one
at the same time husband at the same time
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4. “Marry of the women that please you: 2, 3 or 4.
But if you feel that you shall not be able to deal
justly, then (marry) only one or what your right
hand possesses. That would be more suitable to
prevent you from doing injustice.”
(Quran 4: 3)
To deal justly:
“to be able to divide his time and wealth in an equitable
fashion (before he is allowed to have more than one wife)”
“nor should a husband having more than one wife make his
inclination (to one wife) so obvious as to kindle jealousy and
ill-feeling which may lead to constant hostility among the
wives”
Polygamy in Islam (Dr. Bilal Philips & Dr. Jameela Jones – IIPH) pg. 44 & pg. 60
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5. “Men must have a greater instinctual sexual drive
and a natural desire to have more than one wife.
The first of the two facts is borne out by scientific studies
conducted by Dr. Masters and Dr. Johnson. It has clearly
been established through their clinical researches that men
in general are much more easily aroused sexually than
women.
The second fact is obvious from the high frequency of extra-
marital sex among western males as opposed to females and
the historical existence of institutionalized polygyny in human
society at all stages of recorded human history and in all
present day „primitive societies‟ which have been studied,
with very few exceptions.”
Polygamy in Islam (Dr. Bilal Philps & Dr. Jamila Jones - IIPH) Pg. 48
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6. Grants Legal and social status
Financial security
Protection and dignity
Physical and emotional fulfillment
Children and family life
Provision in illness and old age
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7. Her children are protected against
illegitimacy, single parenthood, and financial
deprivation.
Polygyny also provides for her after the death
of the husband
Men hide behind „monogamy‟ and have extra
marital affairs
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8. A woman has the right to deny polygyny in her
marriage contract
Thehusband cannot force polygyny on her –
she has the right to divorce if she believes
she is unable to bear a polygynous marriage
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9. It
prevents the spread of diseases like AIDS
and Herpes
Because in almost all countries, there are
more females than males
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10. After the WW II, - 7.3 million women more than
men in Germany
Source: Wikipedia - Trümmerfrau
Russia has about 8,000,000 more females than
males
Source: Official Russian Census (2010) http://www.perepis-2010.ru/
USA has about 4,800,000 more females than
males
Source: Wikipedia – Demographics of USA
New York City alone has about 1,500,000 more
females than males
Source: Wikipedia – Demographics of NY City
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11. According to
CIA World Factbook
Country Male / Female Ratio
Ukraine 85 / 100
Armenia 89 / 100
Kazakhstan 92 / 100
Croatia
93 / 100
Italy
Hong Kong
Japan
North Korea 94 / 100
Poland
Slovakia
Czech Republic
Portugal 95 / 100
Romania
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13. According to suicide.org:
More males die from suicide than females.
4 male deaths by suicide for each female
death by suicide
According to
gazette/1998/10.01/WhyWomenLiveLon.html
news.harvard.edu/
“Between ages 15 and 24 years, men are 4 to 5
times more likely to die than women.”
Most deaths … from vehicle accidents, homicide,
suicide, cancer, and drowning.
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14. According to igfculturewatch.com/1999/11/30/more-gays-than-
lesbians:
“The studies have varying degrees of reliability
… But they seem to converge on a finding that
there about twice as many gay men as lesbians,
no matter what measures are used.”
IGF – Independent Gay Forum
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15. Men, by nature, are polygynous
Polygyny protects the woman
Women have the right to refuse a polygynous
marriage
Statistics prove that in most countries, there are
more women than men
Research proves that between ages 15 – 24, men
are more 4 to 5 times like to die than women
Various studies prove that there are nearly twice
as many gays as lesbians
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16. Suppose you have a sister / aunt / daughter
who is among the unmarried women, what
would you suggest to her:
Extra marital affairs
Celibacy (no marital relation)
Polygyny
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17. “Polygyny enables the society to
reduce social crisis,
prevent the mistress problem
cure the society from illegitimate children.”
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Notes de l'éditeur
Title Slide 1 ************************************************************I first came across polygyny when I read this quote from Gustav Le Bon and I was like does this guy even know what he’s talking about --- he’s looking at polygyny like it’s a good thing – I grew up in a society where anyone who married twice was looked down upon (some were even rejected by their families)So I searched and searched and researched … and I reached a conclusion – that which I’ll try to prove through this presentation
Slide 2What is polygamy?
Slide 3First: What is polygamy Polygamy is further divided into : Polygyny and PolyandryAs is clear through the image, polygyny is : ….
Now when we usually speak about Polygyny, we think of Islam – so let’s look at polygyny in Islam************************************************************(after explaining “to deal justly”) I read advice for men on a website “Men, be careful. Marry more than one woman at your expense – remember they love to shop” Imagine he spends 50 KD on one of his wife’s – he’ll have to spend 200 KD in total in one night – poor chap!!!
Why does Islam support polygyny? One of the reasons is apparent through this quote
************************************************************Explanation last point) And please don’t say that there are no extra marital affairs – the numbers are shocking. According to infidelityfacts.com, some statistics of those who have been unfaithful are: US – 50%Britain – 48 % Germany / Mexico – 40%France – 38% Spain – 22% Men are the ones protected by monogamy while women continue to be victims of men's desires. (Easy birth control and easy legal abortion has opened the door of illicit sex to woman, and she has been lured into the so-called sexual revolution. But she is still the one who suffers the trauma of abortion and the side effects of the birth control methods.) Polygamy forces men to face up to responsibility and fidelity. It forces them to take responsibility for their polygamous inclinations and protects and provides for women and children.
************************************************************Explanation last point) And please don’t say that there are no extra marital affairs – the numbers are shocking. According to infidelityfacts.com, some statistics of those who have been unfaithful are: US – 50%Britain – 48 % Germany / Mexico – 40%France – 38% Spain – 22% Men are the ones protected by monogamy while women continue to be victims of men's desires. (Easy birth control and easy legal abortion has opened the door of illicit sex to woman, and she has been lured into the so-called sexual revolution. But she is still the one who suffers the trauma of abortion and the side effects of the birth control methods.) Polygamy forces men to face up to responsibility and fidelity. It forces them to take responsibility for their polygamous inclinations and protects and provides for women and children.
************************************************************If we compare the current ratio with the one from 10 years ago – we will notice a huge difference (we are talking in 100 millions here)It is not because more men are dying, this is because more women are living – decrease in female infanticide, decrease in death during childbirth, better healthcare, urbanization and many other factors contribute to the increase in female population. Also, please note that women live longer than men – women have stronger immune systems than men. Also, it has been established that more males die before reaching adulthood, many men die through suicide and due to wars as is evident from the next slide
And to make matters worse, there are nearly twice as many gays than lesbians.************************************************************Which means that there are more females not involved in relationshipsthan males
Celibacy - It may be possible in exceptional cases of one in ten thousand. In the vast majority, the person either gets married or performs illicit sex or indulges in other sexual perversions. Sex hormones are released in the adult body every day.************************************************************Only a minority will practice polygamy in Muslim society. In spite of polygamy being legal in Muslim countries, only 10-15% of Muslims in these countries practice polygamy. Although the majority of men would like to have more than one wife, they cannot afford the expense of maintaining more than one family. Even those who are financially capable of looking after additional families are often reluctant due to the psychological burdens of handling more than one wife.Islam does not promote nor force polygamy, it only allows it as it recognizes the problem instead of ignoring it.Polygamy in Islam is the most practical answer for the welfare of the widows and the orphans. Furthermore, it is the only honorable way for the unmarried women to have families of their own.