Presentation given on Explorer of the Seas Cruise in January 2016 by Clinical Psychologist Renee Mill, on exploring relationships.

1. EXPLORING RELATIONSHIPS

2. Renee Mill
• Occupational Therapist B.Sc OT (1975),
University of Witwatersrand
• Clinical Psychologist MA (Clin Psych) (1982),
University of Witwatersrand
• Been in private practice since 1982
• Arrived in Australia July 1997

3. Renee Mill

4. Why did Moses spend 40 years wandering
in the desert?
He refused to ask for directions.

5. Women do not mind asking for advice, it is a
form of bonding and building trust. Men see it as
admitting he made a mistake which does not fit
having just slayed the dragon.

6. Boys compete, girls co-operate.

7. 1999 Survey of 1000 telephone users in
Britain revealed what men and women talk
about.
Men Women
Friends 30% 53%
Sex/relationships 18% 22%
Work 25% 11%
Sports 16% 2%
Other 11% 12%
Time <5 minutes >15 minutes

8. Women value relationships, men value
work. A man is a lunch-chaser and
problem solver, a woman is a nest
defender.

9. Stressed women talk, and talk and talk, and
talk and talk. Her talk is unstructured and
several subjects can be discussed at any one
time without any conclusion being reached.
British Medical Association women have
16,000 words per day.

10. Women talking drive men mad because
they think they have to solve every
problem and feel they are nagging.

11. A man talks inside his head and clams up
when he is stressed. Men speak 7,000
words per day.

12. For women, shopping is like talking, no
specific objective and can take hours. A
man needs an objective, a target and a
timetable. He wants to make a kill and
take it home.

13. It is not personal. Men and women are
different and complement each other.
Educate yourself and you can be happy.

14. Questions & Answers
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• Ask Renee any questions you may have
• Alternatively you can email them to
renee@anxietysolutionscbt.com.