2. The Do’s of Conflict Resolution
Use Active Listening
Focus on the problem or
behavior, NOT the person
Stick to the problem at hand
Recognize the feelings of others
Use problem solving skills
3. Use Active Listening
Put away distractions
Turn off TV, Cell Phone, etc.
Put aside distracting thoughts
“Listen” to the speakers body language
Don’t mentally prepare to rebuttal
Nod occasionally
Provide feedback
4. Focus on the Problem
What is the biggest roadblock?
Work together to come up with a solution
Don’t focus on the person
Don’t become a hostage to your emotions
5. Stick to the Problem at Hand
Don’t bring up past failures
Don’t rehash old issues
Set boundaries
Hear both sides of the story
Be supportive
6. Recognize the Feelings of Others
Don’t just think about yourself
Be aware of everyone’s feelings
Be cautious when discussing
sensitive topics
Be cautious of who else is around
Word towards a compromise
7. Use Problem Solving Skills
Communicate
Use Positive body language
Listen
Open Up
Clarify or Define the issue at hand
Set Priorities
Develop an action plan
8. The Don’t of Conflict Resolution
Don’t be defensive
Don’t advise, diagnose, criticize,
reassure or bait
Don’t be long-winded
Don’t assume
Don’t cut off communication
9. Don’t Be Defensive
Turn criticism into constructive feedback
Hear the whole message first
Take a break if the conflict gets too intense
Praise the other person
Look for opportunities
Practice forgiveness
Seek a Solution
10. Don’t Advise, Diagnose, or Bait
Don’t place blame
Never use the phrase “It’s all your fault”
Don’t try to diagnose someone with a
problem
Don’t use emotion as bait
Never make a personal attack
Never use the baiting technique to place
blame
11. Don’t be Long-Winded
Cut to the chase / Don’t beat around the bush
Be directive
Don’t sugar coat the conflict
Don’t avoid conflict
Only discuss the details to the conflict
Stay focused on the conflict at hand
Be communicative
12. Don’t Assume
Don’t Judge
Assuming can lead to Prejudice and
Confusion
Assuming is Ignorance
Allow that fact to be discovered
Assuming can lead to Humiliation
Assuming will only complicate conflict
Assuming can kill any trust established
13. Don’t Cut Off Communication
Control cuts off communication
Don’t cut off communication if you disagree
Solve what conflict can be solved within the
boundaries set
Don’t become distracted by others things
Be open and willing to talk things out
Show positive body language