Attract and seduce

Attract And Seduce
A 4-Step System For Attracting
Beautiful, High-Caliber Women and
Becoming The Most Interesting Guy In The Room
By Byron Seingalt
Foreword by David DeAngelo
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If your father talked to you about women, it was probably to
rehash stories from his glory days, that all began
with, “When I was your age…”
If your pals talked about dating, it was probably locker room
bluster, full of exaggeration and tall tales about
their self-described prowess with women.
If your female friends consoled you about your social life, it was probably
empty platitudes about being yourself and how every woman wants
a nice guy while you watched them run off with the bad boy.
If men’s magazines, television shows, and advice columns provided tips,
it was probably ridiculous oversimplifications about how you just
had to be confident.
This book is dedicated to all those people who love you and care about you.
But who nonetheless led you astray for years.
Because everything they told you about dating is wrong.
*****
Copyright © 2015 by Stylelife and Byron Seingalt
ISBN-13: 978-0-692-45499-2
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Endorsements
"Teaching you authentic ways to attract a woman, this step by step
guide will change the game and help you to master skills every woman wants
you to have, even if she doesn’t know it yet. We want to be seduced!" -
Jaiya, world-renowned sexologist, author of Red Hot Touch, founder of New
World Sex Education and creator of Super Hero Sex Mastery
(Missjaiya.com).
"Thank you for teaching men not how to trick chicks, but how to
become real men – how to communicate effectively, and how to share their
true value with someone. I’m not using “techniques” anymore; I am sharing
the wonderful man I have become, while not making many common
mistakes." - Entice, OACS Member
"As a woman who coaches men on how to attract women, I'm very
selective with what I endorse. I was expecting to hate this book BUT I didn't.
It's an exceptionally well-written book on the topics of attraction and
seduction." Marni, founder of the WingGirlMethod.com.
"I feel like I have life back into me, when it comes to approaching
women; I talked to more girls in one night than I had in over a year." -
Adam
"This is only the beginning of my journey to grow into my best self
with confidence, courage, and influence. I have nothing to be nervous about
and with these tools and skills, I can accomplish so much more in anything I
do." - Kieran
"You taught the material with the perfect dose of theory &
examples. I had a very clear idea of what I had to do in the field. This has

not only contributed to my romantic skills, but is now bringing closure to an
essential part of my life & my identity." - Jerry
"This is a big step in the process of where I want to get in life, and I
know that this has made me a better person." - Jed
"I'll keep it pretty simple: I've never had or done anything that has
changed my world significantly like this has." - Paul
"My sex with women has never been better, my self-confidence is
great, and women want me." - Houston
"Thank you for opening a whole new reality to me – a reality that I
had denied since childhood, but had thus far only been able to chase with
nothing more than a vague, hope and what determination I could muster. I
can't wait to continue to explore this beautiful reality and the art of
seduction which is the key to its door." - Jason
"I feel like I can start to see clearly now. I've been in a mist my
whole life, thinking everyone else's advice was to blame for my instability to
make it anywhere, but you have shown me that the mist was of my creation
and I was the one keeping it going. You have also shown me I can clear the
mist and forge my own path. Everyone's journey begins with one’s self, and
because of you, I've been able to look at myself and see who I'm meant to be.
My journey begins now; I can't wait to see where I end up." - William
"Getting to know a sensible, fun, ethical, 'keep them comfortable'
way to seduction is something all guys ought to learn - you do it better than
anyone." - Rick
"I want to thank you for giving me a change, for the better, in my
life. You're like a wizard from another world. Now that I have this

knowledge, I can use it to be successful with women and get a better life." -
The European
"Thanks for making a huge impact on my life – you've helped me
become not only a better person, but a better lover!" - Aaron
"I just wanted to thank you so much for sharing your time and
wisdom with us. I am 100% committed to not just changing myself, but
becoming a phenomenal seducer, and doing everything I can to embody the
principles of the art and passing them on in a way that will add value to the
world." - Dave M.
"Your insights have shifted my perspective on what is possible. This
is truly a system for improving your life and maximizing the influence that
you can have. I'm more excited about my future than ever before." - Ryan
"You have taught me what is possible – things I had never realized.
Words can't express the gratitude and warm feeling that I have for you!" -
David R.
"The journey you've taken me on was awesome! I feel as though the
ceiling on my potential has been blown open and my limits, which I had put
on myself, have been destroyed!" - Jason A.
"I liked the lessons where we practiced openers. It allowed me to
watch the women I was talking to and notice their reactions for the very first
time. I also really liked the identity storytelling. It really made everything
come together for me!" - Mark
"What I got out of it was that in the end the greatest success comes
from being present, open, active listening, and interacting with the present

moment and being genuinely interested in the words you are sharing and the
people you are meeting." - Shahin
"A simple, comfortable question does make a lot of difference when
approaching a group. It's far better than my usual, drunken, 'Hey ladies.'
Thanks for all the great tips." - Ricardo
"You deconstructed every step to its very core and added all the
missing pieces and put them all back together. It has helped me realize what
I've been doing wrong, doing right, and given me the self-belief to get tight
with my game and become my greatest self." - Dan
"I've never had my perspectives broadened, changed, and improved
this much before. My mind was blown with every word." - Jeff
"You teach a neglected skill set with patience, thought, and
practicality. I’d never approached a girl in a bar. Now, I can!" - Edward
"My moment was when I set aside everything I came in with, and
used your lines. It became too easy to go in and keep talking." - Josh
"I feel so much more confident in myself and that I don't need to be
afraid of trying to approach. I feel it is in my body, even my walking feels a
lot more confident." - Marshall

Acknowledgements
I wish to personally thank the following members of the original Attract
and Seduce / OACS project for their contributions, suggestions, corrections,
ideas and other help in creating this book:
Dennis Y., Luis M. C., Steve G., Kenny, Joshua, Richardo, David B.,
Sandor, Brian, Pedro, Richard K, Xabi, Henri, Anthony, Wes, James, NJ,
Tom, Yousef, Josh, Adam, Shane, Tony, Jamal, Will, Greg, Hasan, Luca,
Robert, Andrew, John, Brandon, Frankie, Mike, Chris, Linus, Tim, Jason,
Carlos, Travis, Victor, Alex, Nova, Samuel S. R., Hdr, Medieval, Brian C.,
Luther Chance, Joe, Vladimiros D., Scott O. Jr.
Also, a shout out to the following individuals who used our Attract &
Seduce / OACS conference calls, forums and reddit community to give me
feedback, improvements and ideas and without their contributions and
support this book would not have be what it is today:
HypnoK., VG., Bscha., Doublekb., Rosen., Natur., Sparky., KKav.,
Eaude., Coolb., Vitv., Miguel, Sanhoj., Kenny., Rkrish., JackS,. Kotg.,
Mufasa., Tony, Travis, Design, Muhammad, Pheomatar, Jamel., Cadillac,
Linus, Alex, Primate, Keith, Jimmy, Cliff, Rick_H., Andrew, Arturo, Imbue.
And everyone else I may have forgotten to give thanks and praise to. I
love supporting and helping you. You are my big why and it’s a deep and
profound pleasure to watch your personal transformation. If your name is
missing or misspelled, please send me an email (byron@stylelife.com) and
I'll make sure to include it right away.
Finally, I'd like to thank Neil Strauss and the entire Stylelife Academy
team!
Byron Seingalt
a.k.a. Evolve
P.S. Thank you for making this book a bestseller!

Foreword by David DeAngelo
David DeAngelo, founder of the "Double Your Dating" company,
acknowledged dating advisor and serial entrepreneur.
www.DoubleYourDating.com/AttractAndSeduce
If you know anything about me, David D., you probably know this
much... I’ve spent a lot of time thinking, learning, and teaching what it takes
to become insanely successful with women, dating, and relationships.
When I look back at that trip… a journey that involved going from
lonely and dateless, to meeting and dating tons of mind-blowing women, to
the life-changing relationship of my dreams with an amazing Total-10
woman… know what I came to value most?
It was the priceless opportunities that presented themselves along the
way to:
1. Learn what I didn’t know from smart, tuned-in people who genuinely
shared my same goals and dreams.
2. Teach other men what I learned so that they didn’t waste precious time
out of their lives suffering through the same frustrations, setbacks, and
failures that I did for so long.
This in mind… today I couldn’t be more excited about this opportunity
to introduce Byron’s groundbreaking “Attract And Seduce” book… it truly
fits the bill perfectly when it comes to “all of the above.”
From the moment that I began reading, I immediately recognized Byron
as a kindred spirit and an exceptionally gifted teacher with invaluable ideas -
that’s how I know for a fact that this book will help light the path and speed
the journey toward your success with women as well.
From Byron’s bedrock-solid observations about how a man’s inner
beliefs, attitudes and mindsets make or break him with women… to a
different game plan for grabbing any woman’s attention… to laser-focused,
step-by-step techniques for communicating with women in all the right ways
to literally attract and seduce them… it’s all here.
Which brings me to a personal note that you can file under “near-and-
dear to my heart”:
I’d like to make special a shout-out to the concepts and instructions
Byron weaves throughout these pages on becoming the kind of confident,
fascinating, genuine man that high-quality women instantly respond to.

As I learned how to become successful with women and in life from the
“Masters” (also known as the guys who get natural, effortless results) it
didn’t take long for me to discover that creating this confident mindset is
what it’s really all about... the absolute Holy Grail when it came to turning
the ship and beginning to succeed with women.
In fact, I pretty much categorize my life into two eras - B.C. (before
confidence) and A.C. (you guessed it.)
In “Attract And Seduce,” Byron approaches this critical “core” subject
in innovative, interactive ways that aren’t just about getting results… they’re
about changing your entire life through the tools you need to feel confident
and attractive around women at last.
To me, that’s the whole ball-game... and a very big deal... because,
harsh reality is, failing to learn these skills is often the biggest tragedy we’ll
endure in life as men.
If we continue to lack the ability to feel confident within ourselves and
then communicate that confidence to women… if we don’t learn how to
spark interest and attraction… if we have no clue how to make women want
to be with us… it seeps into and sabotages almost everything else in our
lives as well.
It casts a long shadow over everything we do. It makes us trudge
through life feeling like there’s a weight on our shoulders, or like
something’s missing, or that there’s something we’re “hiding.”
Our failure with women basically interferes with all of our hopes and
dreams and everything we want for the future.
Not good.
That’s why, today, I couldn’t be more glad that you’ve added “Attract
And Seduce” to your personal set of tools for getting this part of your life
handled.
Byron hits it out of the park in these pages, and I know for a fact that
you’ll get a lot out of this.
So what are you waiting for?
Start reading…

Table of Contents
Lesson #1: Read Me First - The Call to Action
Chapter 2: Attract & Seduce: The Most Powerful Method of Seduction in the World
Chapter 3: The Attract and Seduce 4-Step System
Chapter 4: Seductive Psychology, Mindset, and Inner Game
Chapter 5: Top 12 Reasons Everyone Should Study Attraction and Seduction
Chapter 6: How to Apply the Attract and Seduce 4-Step System
Chapter 7: Step #1: The Secret of the Opening Line
Chapter 8: The Bridging Technique: Keep Talking!
Chapter 9: Step #2: The Three Keys to Build Attraction
Chapter 10: Key 1: Never Run Out of Things to Say
Chapter 11: Key 2: Be Fascinating and Stay Authentic: The "Identity Storytelling"
Technique
Chapter 12: Key 3: The Power of Active Disinterest, Banter and Flirting
Chapter 13: Step #3: The Most Powerful Way to Connect With a Woman
Chapter 14: Step #4: How to Get Her Number, Set Up a Date and Beyond
Chapter 15: Texting and Phone Calls before the First Date
Chapter 16: How To Tell If A Woman Likes You
Chapter 17: Passive Value Generators That Amplify Your Attractiveness
Chapter 18: Dating With Care and Empathy
Chapter 19: The First Kiss and the "Romantic Window" Technique
Chapter 20: Comfort, Intimacy And The "Love Roadmap"
Chapter 21: Tips For Dating Apps And Dating Websites
Chapter 22: Advanced Text Game And Avoiding Flaking
Chapter 23: Creating a Seductive Atmosphere
Chapter 24: Adventure Dating
Chapter 25: How Attract And Seduce Can Change Your Life
Chapter 26: Happily Ever After
Chapter 27: From Awkward Nerd To Confident Dating Coach: An Inspirational
Interview
Chapter 28: How I Got My Girlfriend: A Powerful Success Story
Chapter 29: Underlying Principles: A Conversation About How to Never Use
Another Line Again and Still Succeed

Lesson #1: Read Me First - The Call to Action
I wanted to make a different book – an interactive book in which I
give you how-to videos, audios and downloadable cheat sheets for each
chapter that will quickly make hundreds of light bulbs go on in your head
and expedite your romantic potential.
By engaging all your senses and showing you how it’s done, you'll
be able to learn how to attract and seduce beautiful, high-caliber women
faster than with any other book. We’ll give to the tools to learn while
you’re on your smartphone, iPad, Kindle, in your car, when you work out
- anytime, anywhere on any device.
In my opinion, if you practice the material in this book you should be
able to accomplish these five goals:
1. Become a more confident person and present yourself in a way that
women find intriguing and interesting.
2. Approach and meet new women in social settings, through dating
apps and online. And you’ll do it efficiently and effectively.
3. Attract women using your authentic personality and identity.
4. Understand "the chemistry of love;" what sparks attraction, and what
causes people to stay together and begin healthy relationships.
5. Avoid “the friend-zone” by understanding the root of romantic
relationships; the principles that allow a woman to see you as a
potential lover, boyfriend or husband.
To get started and see how this works, grab your mobile phone and
text your email address right now to (310) 589-3568 or visit
http://www.stylelife.com/AttractAndSeduce/train (clickable link) or scan
the QR Code on the next page.

Not only will you get to instantly watch the how-to training videos,
I'll also reward you with a digital copy of this book that you can read
anytime, anywhere and on any device.
Why is this important? Why should you care?
Because with this interactive book, you're not only going to learn
how to attract and seduce beautiful women, you'll also learn how to
become the most interesting and confident guy in the room.
If this doesn't sound compelling, I’ll give you even more reasons to
try this out in every chapter with special bonus training videos, audios
and cheat sheets that I think will get your attention, engage and entertain
you.
Let’s begin!
Byron Seingalt a.k.a. Evolve
Los Angeles, California
Stylelife Academy

Chapter 2:
Attract & Seduce:
The Most Powerful Method of
Seduction in the World
"The secret of getting ahead is getting started."
- Mark Twain
Welcome to the beginning of the life that’s waiting for you.
I have something I want to share with you. It's a powerful way to
improve your relationships, attract more lovers, and improve your overall
communication with everyone you meet. Once you learn it, you'll have
the skills to attract high-caliber women and gain power, love, and
friendship with anyone.
I'll introduce you to guys who've mastered the art of attraction and
seduction, so you can hear and learn from their stories. I can prove to you
that it works whether you're meeting women online, on dating apps, in a
bar or in a coffee shop, from London to Los Angeles to Hong Kong. It
will work everywhere in the world, with any type of woman you could
possibly meet.
The system is ancient; it's been around since the dawn of civilization.
For better or worse, it's changed the course of history.
It works for men and women, gay or straight.
It works in politics, business, and romance.
It has changed the world, and it can change your life.
So, what is it? What is this powerful system that can bring you love,
power, and respect?

It's the carefully guarded and practically timeless art of attraction and
seduction.
More specifically, it's a system for understanding and mastering how
attraction and seduction works.
You may be thinking that the power to attract and seduce is
something some lucky guys are born with. I thought that too. Luckily, we
were both wrong.
Attraction and seduction is a skill that can absolutely be learned, and
it can absolutely be taught. I know because I've done both. I've had some
great teachers who taught it to me, and I, in turn, have taught it to
countless students.
It's a system used by freshman college students, A-list celebrities,
and everyone in-between. I've taught them all, and seen them use it – in
person. And if you pay attention and keep reading, I promise you that
what you will learn can change your life for the better.
So let’s talk about you.
If you're reading this, you've probably had at least one lover,
girlfriend, or wife in the past. Or maybe you're a virgin, and you crave
the experiences everyone else seems to have. In any case, you probably
want more out of your romantic life – whether it’s to have some wild
nights, to find someone special, or simply to master the ability to walk up
to and have a great interaction with anyone you want.
Good news! You're about to learn a new model for attraction and
seduction. Something no one has taught you before. In short, it's a four-
step system that focuses on a very linear process of transforming from
stranger to soul mate.

In this chapter, you're going to learn what those four steps are. As we
proceed, I'll go more in depth on how to recognize where you are in the
system and what to do.
Now, this is more than just a book. It’s an interactive experience.
I want to make sure that you understand all the tips, tricks and
concepts perfectly. Which is why I have prepared videos that show you
how you do it, as well as cheat sheets that summarize important
information and the most up-to-date material.
All this complimentary training material comes along with this book.
You'll find the instructions to access it at the end of each chapter. I've
made sure that you have access to all the tools you'll need to learn the
model I'm presenting. The links will connect you with video, audio, and
texts that are bursting with tips and strategies for learning seduction.
This may all sound like too much. But it’s just enough. I love
teaching attraction and seduction. I love seeing my students’ faces when
a light bulb goes on in their heads because they just saw something
they’d been doing wrong their whole lives and are now going to fix it
forever. Or they suddenly understand why this is an art, and that they can
finally master it.
I love getting calls and emails from guys telling me that they've had
some crazy adventure with someone they previously felt was out of their
league. I love hearing about how this helped to strengthen a relationship,
or fixed a problem at work. I love it when a student falls in love and the
love is reciprocated. I just plain love this art form. It means the world to
me, and that's why I'm so excited to share it with you.
So, this book is not just another book about dating, flirting and
meeting women.

It answers the questions that men have had about what women want
since the dawn of civilization. It contains simple and proven techniques
that allow you to hack into a woman's mind and attract her with a power
that you've always had, but never realized.
Whether you are looking for a girlfriend, or want to get out of the
"friend zone"; whether you want to get your ex back, or discover the
secrets behind one-night-stands, this "dating book for smart guys with a
dry spell" is a guide to mastering the art of attraction and seduction.
From the first moment you meet a woman's eyes, to starting a
conversation with her, to getting to know each other, to exciting nights in
the bedroom, to exotic adventures with the woman you love, I'll teach
you all things romantic, and it all works. Remember, when it comes to
attraction and seduction, it’s the small steps and simple changes that
produce huge results.
You will learn how to gain unstoppable confidence with the "Heroic
Mind Shaping Exercise" that helps overcome any anxiety with women
and also helps in other parts of your life. I'll also teach you how to easily
spot and reverse your anti-seductive and unattractive qualities and turn
them into "attraction magnets".
With this 4-step system, you'll learn how to approach and talk to
women in an authentic way while building attraction through your
seductive identity – and without changing who you are as a person. I'll
show you how to use dating apps and websites to contact and attract
women without being ignored or rejected. You'll also learn how to
become the most interesting guy in the room and never run out of things
to say when you’re in conversation with even the highest caliber women.
Later, we'll dive deep into my bulletproof technique to get a date
with a woman without worrying about her flaking. You'll learn

everything from the "First Kiss Technique” to sweep a woman off her
feet, to making her swoon and wanting to take it to the next intimate
level. Then you'll learn how to navigate the “Love Roadmap” from
kissing to complete arousal.
Now, let me tell a bit about how I know all this, my own journey and
why you should learn from me.
I'm a natural introvert. In high school, when you think of a guy who's
good with people you wouldn't have thought of me. I was a goth kid. I
had rows to spikes up both arms, red contact lenses, and a wardrobe that
was all black. My social circle consisted of five guys who all played
Dungeons & Dragons together. One of us had a girlfriend, so we thought
of him as "the player".
To make things worse, I was super skinny, and had asthma so bad
that some nights I had to use a machine to pump medicine into my lungs.
Obviously, I was in no shape to be hitting on women or making powerful
connections.
My first year of college I met a guy who showed me what it meant to
be a seducer, and over the next few years, my life changed – I got a
girlfriend, I had exciting romantic adventures, I had a social circle that
started growing and growing. I spent a lot of time writing about my
changes.
Eventually, the writing ended up in the hands of New York Times
best-selling author Neil Strauss. He called me up and hired me to teach
men (and women) to master the game at the one and only Stylelife
Academy. I've been working there now for ten years. I've traveled the
world teaching countless students the art of attraction and seduction – an
art that I love.

One of my favorite success stories is from a 45-year-old lawyer
who'd had a crush on a woman for months. He studied the system in this
book and within a few weeks, they were in a relationship. Another comes
from a 22-year-old college student who'd nearly finished college without
a single sexual partner: within a year his life had changed – he'd had
several casual sexual partners, and even a threesome. One student used
the "Identity Storytelling" exercise to make his company several million
dollars, by telling just one story.
Think about it: Are you capable of becoming the kind of person
strangers would love to get to know? Are you capable of achieving the
romantic success you've always wished for? Are you capable of
harnessing the power to sway the minds of people you meet? Of course
you are.
All you need to know are the four steps that streamline the seductive
process. But, before we get to the four steps, I want to give you fair
warning...
After years of teaching, I've found that there are three devastating
reasons guys who study this system fail.
The first mistake is something we call "The Give-up Guy". He's the
one who quits before he even begins; the one who decides there's no way
it will work. Here's the deal: give this system and the material a chance. I
promise you'll see results. If it doesn't work – fine. Email me at
byron@stylelife.com and I'll give you the full price back for this book.
Just make sure to try it first.
The second mistake is the "Looks, Power, and Fame Assumption".
The idea that you must have looks, money, and/or some sort of fame or
power to be attractive and intriguing to people. It's not true. It helps (I'll
get into how to use these traits if you have them later), but they're not
necessary.

When I started learning this, I didn't own a car, I didn't have a job,
and I had no social circle or network to speak of. It's all about following
the system – a tested, proven, and simple system. It's all about learning
what to do, and – more importantly – when to do it. The best part about
this whole system is: once you begin to see results, it gets easier and
easier.
The third mistake is "The Self-Defeater". You have to get out of your
own way. If you don't, you'll be stuck where you are forever. You have
to push yourself. Find motivation to move forward, take risks, and make
changes. Self-sabotaging behaviors are commonplace and disastrous.
Your mind wants you to follow the path of least resistance, because
it takes a lot of energy to do something new, and your mind wants to use
as little energy as possible. Self-motivated people are capable of making
it over that mental hump. They've trained themselves to do it.
Here's a technique to prevent you from becoming The Self-Defeater.
Every time you tell yourself, "I don't feel like trying this," get a piece of
paper and write down the reasons why. Then write a list of the things that
won't change if you don't try. Finally, write down a day and time you're
going to give whatever you're going to try a shot. Set an alarm on your
phone for that day. When the alarm goes off, go try out the techniques
we teach you here.
If you can just avoid these three pitfalls, you're going to do great!
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Chapter 3:
The Attract and Seduce 4-Step System
"You have to learn the rules of the game. And then you have to play
better than anyone else. " - Albert Einstein
So, here it is: The Four Step System of Attraction and Seduction.
It doesn’t matter what kind of relationship you’re looking for – this
system will work. I’ve had students who’ve participated in wild sexual
adventures, others who’ve made millions, and a few who’ve found the
woman of their dreams and settled down. All using the same set of
principles. It’s a system that will take you from starting a conversation to
closing the deal.
The principles that govern this system are universal, which means
you can apply them to all kinds of seductions. Whether you’re meeting a
woman in a bar or on an online date, the system will work. You just need
to get a grip on the principles – they are universal, and won’t change. It’s
the techniques that will differ from situation to situation. Anyone
learning this art should experiment with different types of venues and
platforms for dating. The more experimentation you do and the more
feedback you get, the better you’ll get. That said, let’s get started.
Prepare Yourself
Seduction is a journey of self-discovery. To share yourself, you have
to know yourself. Most people underestimate their potential; they decide
not to take risks, or put time into something that could really change their

lives, because they fear the insecurities they’ll have to face on the
journey. Some guys are scared of success: what if this all works out and
they end up with someone who’s out of their league?
To prepare yourself, sit down and reflect on what you’re true
motivations are for reading this book, what you are looking for, and what
exactly you hope to get out of it. The best place to start is by looking at
what you’re missing. Simply think about or write the answers to the
following questions down.
 Why are you learning the art of attraction and seduction?
 Are you looking for love? Sex? Companionship?
 How do you think learning this will help you achieve that goal?
 When you achieve this particular goal, how will things be
different?
 How will people look at you?
 How will you view yourself?
 Are you prepared to put in the time to practice this art?
 Are you prepared to make approaches and face rejection?
 How will you deal with rejection when it comes?
 What will you do to pull yourself back up when the going gets
tough?
 What kind of women are you trying to attract into your life?
 What kind of relationships are you looking for?
Start here, and answer any other questions that may come up while
you’re sifting through your own mind. Once you have some answers you
can move on and start learning the system.
Do not skip this exercise, because it is crucial that you understand
who you are and what you want before you start. Keep that kind of focus
as you continue to move forward learning the art of seduction.

If you want to learn to talk to people, then you’ll have to develop the
best, most seductive identity you can. We’re going to go over that in
detail later, in the chapter on generating value with your life story.
Step #1: Open
This is the beginning. The place where you spark a conversation with
a woman or a group. Keep in mind that most women don't wander
around by themselves to be approached by you. So, the majority of your
approaches will be groups. This is also the step where most guys quit.
I’m going to teach you the principle behind what to do when you
approach, and then provide a few techniques that you can use to start
conversations. My goal for you is pretty simple:
 Learn to start a comfortable conversation with total strangers.
 Learn what makes people uncomfortable when they’re approached.
 Learn how to alleviate the fear of the approach. (Something we call
"Approach Anxiety".)
If you feel like it’s too much, don’t worry – we’re going to break it
down, and there’s plenty of supporting videos you can watch by
following the instruction at the end of this chapter.
After practicing this material, you’ll have the confidence and the
skills to start conversations with almost anyone – most importantly, the
kind of women you've always wanted to talk to. I’ve had students
who’ve never cold approached anyone before. After a few weeks of
practicing the techniques I suggest in this chapter they were able to go to
a bar, point out someone they wanted to talk to and, at least, make a
conversation happen, if not more.
Step #2: Attract

When you’re in conversation, your goal is to build social value.
Social value is relative, and is based on how interesting you are to the
person or people you’re talking to. What we’re going to work on in this
step is how you convey high social value in an authentic way. The goal is
to make yourself interesting to the specific group of people you are
speaking with. Here’s the goal for the Attract section:
 Learn to use your knowledge and showcase-able skills to build value.
 Learn to tell stories that focus on preferences and experiences to
convey your identity.
 Learn how to use active disinterest to create emotional spikes in your
seductions.
There are many ways to be interesting and authentic. Just about
anything you do or say can be a tool for building value; it’s all about
understanding how value is built and conveyed.
This is really the meat of the system: building social value. This is
one of the sections you’re going to spend the most time refining. There
are quite a few pieces to it, but once you’ve practiced it, your social life
will shoot into the stratosphere. Once you learn how to build value,
you’ll get more dates, have more sex, meet who you want, and more.
Step #3: Connect
To romantically connect with a woman, you must tell her that you’re
interested. At its core, this chapter is about timing. In attraction and
seduction there is a specific time when you must tell her that you are
interested. Most guys have terrible timing, and little understanding of
how to compliment someone effectively. In this chapter you’ll learn:
 How to give a great compliment.
 How to get the most impact out of a compliment.
 The timing for a seductive compliment.

 When not to compliment someone.
Here is the problem with indicating your interest too early: Wanting
to tell a woman that you’re interested in her feels very straightforward
and honest. How many guys try to pick up women by simply telling them
they have beautiful eyes? Too many.
Why do they do it? Because, it feels good to compliment her.
Unfortunately, if a person receives the same compliment too much, it
fades into the background, becoming a pattern that’s no longer paid
attention to. Most attractive women have heard the same compliments
thousands of times. So if you are the next guy that tells her that she has
beautiful eyes, guess what she thinks? Yeah, another one of those... next.
By understanding the proper timing of a compliment within
seduction, you’ll learn how to break that pattern, and give compliments
that are truly felt and authentic.
The timing is key here. Pay attention to that. When you compliment
someone it’s always a good thing, but if you learn to compliment
someone with proper timing you can really make an impression, and
change the dynamics of an interaction.
Step #4: Seduce
This is the chapter where you'll learn about going for the kiss or
further. Where you learn how to set up the meeting or date. Where you
learn how to move a person or group of people from one location to
another. There’s one technique I’m going to teach you that will help you
accomplish all of these goals and it’s called "seeding". In this chapter
you’ll learn:
 How to properly seed a date or meeting.
 How to "bounce" someone from one location to another.

 How to set up an intimate moment, and what to do if you misjudge
the moment.
And that’s it – those four steps will take you from approaching to a
second meet up. Following all this material is everything you’re going to
need to know once you’ve learned these four basic steps. The goal is to
make you the total package – a person that other people envy, and want
to get to know.
At the end of the book you’ll find interviews with guys who I’ve
taught personally, and you can read about their experiences:
How they got to where they are. You’ll hear from one guy who
maintains a healthy relationship with the girl he loves, while bringing
new women into his sex life in a healthy and honest way.
How they practiced this material. You’ll hear from a former student,
who’s now a coach. He went out every day, practiced, improved, and
even did stand-up comedy in an effort to learn this skill.
The hurdles they had to jump to achieve success. Learn how one
student went from having crippling approach anxiety to becoming a man
who can approach anyone.
What kind of success they’ve all had, and how you can achieve your
goals. Each student I’ve interviewed experienced more sex, a better
professional life, and a steady girlfriend. Different goals – each one
achieved.
It’s time to become the social superhero you’ve always wanted to be.
It’s time for you to have choice when it comes to friends and lovers. It’s
time to meet the people you’ve always wanted to meet. To have someone
you’d only met moments ago say, “You’re the most interesting person
I’ve ever met.”

Welcome to having choice. Welcome to your new and improved
social life.
Welcome to Attract and Seduce!
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Cool How-To Training Videos!
Watch Neil Strauss on video explaining the principles of
attraction and the different levels of Game:
to (310) 589-3568
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Chapter 4:
Seductive Psychology, Mindset, and Inner Game
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the
strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them
better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose
face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who
errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort
without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the
deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends
himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph
of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while
daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid
souls who neither know victory nor defeat."
- Theodore Roosevelt
Seduction isn’t about you. It’s about the person you’re seducing.
Great seducers can put themselves in the shoes of the people they want to
seduce. They can look at themselves from other people’s perspectives,
and make strategic judgments about what to do next in a social situation.
That's how Cleopatra was able to seduce Julius Caesar and Mark Antony.
One of the most important skills you’re going to want to get familiar
with is to understand what other people think of you.
The Persona Exercise
This is all about seeing the way other people view you. To do this
you’re going to want to take notes and collect data. You can do this with
anyone you already know. Ask them this one simple question: "If you
had to describe me to someone who had never met me what would you
say about me?" Then ask, "What have I done or said that makes you
describe me this way?"

Ask as many people as you can these two questions, and try to find
out where the commonalities are. If everyone says you’re a nice guy,
then you’re probably a nice guy. If everyone says you’re selfish, then
you’re selfish. That's pretty simple, but necessary for the next step.
Now that you have this information what can you do with it? Well,
the first thing you can do is ask yourself: Is this how I want to come off
when I get to know people?
If you’re satisfied with the answer, great! If you’re not, then you
have to look deeper, and decide if you want to change these qualities,
and how you’re going to change these qualities. Later on when we get
into being interesting and generating value with your life story we can
start to mold your identity into a more seductive version of itself.
Each of us are going to have different traits that we want to change;
it’s important early on to know what people think of you, so you can
work on developing a more seductive identity over time that is authentic
and powerful.
Introduction to Story and Routine Stacks
I grew up a huge fan of Kung-Fu movies. When I was a kid I used to
watch the characters do their forms and katas on screen and practice in
my living room. I thought martial arts were the clear path to
superpowers. I had no idea what the purpose of those katas or forms
were. I just thought they were awesome looking – I still do. Years later,
when I started studying martial arts, in a school rather than my living
room, I found out what their purpose was.
In most traditional martial arts schools, katas or forms are collections
of choreographed techniques or movements. Each form or kata expresses
a number of principles through the techniques inherent in the form. They
may include footwork, specific punches or kicks, break-falls, a few even

include meditative pieces. Generally, the forms aren’t meant for combat.
They’re meant to be practiced repeatedly, until you understand the
principles on an internal level. They’re one piece of the martial arts
puzzle, but by no means everything.
Routine stacks are seduction’s version of katas or forms, with a few
slight differences.
A routine stack is a collection of material that’s meant to help you
understand the principles of seduction. They consist of one or more
techniques for each phase of the seduction. If you’re using a routine
stack to practice, then it’s important that:
 You practice saying the material out loud, over and over again before
you use it. You want to make sure you know what you’re saying.
This way, if the people you’re going to be talking to become
confused, you can reiterate what you’re saying more clearly.
 You should memorize the material in order. There is a structure to
seduction. Know where your routines fit into the stack and memorize
that order.
 You recognize that routine stacks are not your entire seduction,
they’re collections of techniques to practice. They can be used to fall
back on, but routine stacks can’t be counted on to solve every
problem.
 They’re great tools for learning seduction, because they can give you
something to fall back on. If you don’t know where you are in the
seduction, or you can’t think of something to say a routine stack can
be a lifesaver, assuming you memorized the material.
When you know where you’re seductions going, it makes the chaos
of your initial interactions more clear, which can come off as confidence,

as long as you’re not pushy about the material. Now, let me show you the
structure of a routine stack. In order to build one, the first thing you must
know is the phases of interaction. For us, the phases are: Open, Attract,
Connect, Seduce. You should make sure you have routines for all of the
following:
 At least one opener, no more than two.
 Demonstrations of Higher Value, Games, Bar bets, etc.
 Identity Stories
 A technique for showing Active Disinterest.
 A technique for showing Active Interest.
 Seed for a date
 Seed for a bounce
You will learn how to build your very own stack later in this book.
Once you have chosen your stories and routines, they should all be well
memorized and practiced for delivery, body language, tonality, and
volume dynamics.
And remember one of Murphy’s Laws of combat: no plan survives
first contact with the enemy. Meaning, it’s a routine stack is a stratagem,
but it’s not the whole seduction. In the field things will change. Be
prepared maneuver when curveballs are thrown at you.
Conquering Approach Anxiety
Approach anxiety is the negative voice in your head telling you not
to approach – it keeps you from walking towards a woman. The result is
excuse after excuse for not trying.
Why is Approaching Women so Hard?
Let’s start off with the first part: Why do you have such a hard time
approaching women? As with most topics related to seduction, there are

as many different answers as there are men in the Game. However, some
of the broader reasons that approaching women can be difficult include:
 Personal Experience: We’ve all had experiences approaching
women where we felt hurt and humiliated. Unfortunately, our brains
are hard wired to remember these more than the times where things
went swimmingly well. These past experiences hold you back from
approaching in the future.
 Lack of Experience: Conversely, there’s the lack of experience.
You don’t approach women much, so you think it’s a huge deal and
that it will inevitably end in disaster. You’ve built things up in your
head so much that the fantasy of what might go wrong is preventing
you from getting the experience you need to make things go right.
 Lack of Story and Routine Stack: You don’t feel like you have
anything good to say, because you haven’t done the homework on
your stack. This is one of the easiest things to fix, as it’s just about
putting the time in on what you’re going to say. Remember that a lot
of Game takes place before you even head out for the night.
 Pedestalization: You see a woman who you are overwhelmingly
attracted to and you think you can’t approach her because she’s "out
of your league". Apparently you haven’t seen Style standing next to
his wife. A big part of what we teach you in Stylelife Academy boils
down to this: Looks might matter, but not as much as you think they
do, and anyway, you can overcome your "attraction deficit."
When it comes right down to it, there’s only one answer to approach
anxiety: It’s approaching women over and over again, honing your
approach so that it becomes better over time. This will not only build a
bank of positive experiences, it will also help alleviate approach anxiety.

Now that we know what underpins your anxiety, let’s talk about a
few common problems men encounter when approaching women.
What You’re Doing Wrong When You Approach Women
So what are you doing wrong? That’s what you want to know, right?
What can you be doing better so that you can build the types of positive
experiences that are going to make approaching women that much easier
with every approach?
 You’re Too Serious: Coming up to a woman and being very serious
at first is a recipe for disaster. It makes things awkward and tense.
Instead, opt for a lighter approach; one that will have her laughing,
smiling and wondering who you are and what you’re about.
 You Can’t Handle a Challenge: A lot of guys blow it the second
their stack goes off course. She throws a curveball your way and you
lose it; That’s not an attractive reaction. Instead of bailing at the first
sign of trouble, learn how to weather the storm.
 You’re Too Needy: On the other hand, you might be trying too hard
to impress her, either by being entertaining or by trying to
demonstrate higher value in incorrect ways or with bad timing. This
comes across as needy, and neediness is kryptonite when it comes to
seduction.
 You’re Paying for her Time: It’s fine to buy someone a drink or
dinner, just make sure you’re not purchasing their time. If that person
is sticking around for free stuff, then you’re paying for their time. If
they’re sticking around because they’re enjoying their time with you,
and you want to buy them something for being awesome – go for it.
Also, don’t be a cheapskate, it’s just as bad as paying for someone’s
time.

 You’re Not Going Out Enough: Guess what, guys? Going out once
a month isn’t going to cut it. Sure, you’ve got a life to lead. But try
and head out at least a couple of times a week and practice what
you’re learning. I’d argue that having more than a week between the
last approach of one night and the first of the next is going to be a
huge setback in terms of your comfort level.
 You Make Excuses to Not Approach: There’s always going to be a
reason to not approach. However, the more you do it, the better
you’re going to get at it. Any time you hear that little voice inside
your head telling you why you shouldn’t approach, tell it to shut up
and approach immediately.
Having approach anxiety isn't the difference between a regular man
and a confident man. The real difference is that confident men
experience this anxiety and push past it.
Here is a thought experiment: Would this fear still exist if you were
100% sure when you approached that the woman would be friendly,
want to talk to you, or even be interested in you? In other words, if there
were no risk, you'd approach her, wouldn't you?
Ask yourself: What's the lasting result of being rejected or
embarrassed?
Mostly, just a bad memory; a reminder that you need more practice.
The biggest mistake is being 'too shy to try'. As Wayne Greztky said,
"You miss 100% of the shots you don't take."
Your potential gain is significant! The best case is she likes you, you
get her number and you go on a date. No matter what, you learn
something from talking to her. You apply that knowledge next time. You

get better. The risk versus reward for approaching a woman is in your
favor. Before you approach, you'll feel your anxiety, but... this time say
to yourself, "It's no big deal. I can handle this."
Feel your fear. Recognize it. Put it to the side in your mind and go!
You've nothing to lose and everything to gain.
One very common question that my students ask me is, "When did
your approach anxiety go away?" The true answer is, it never does. It
often lessens over time, but it will always be there to a degree. Approach
anxiety is totally normal.
The good news is even the shyest guys can alleviate their approach
anxiety when they really try. You can too. Everyone can. So, when
you're out there practicing, here are some techniques you can use to
make sure the anxiety doesn't stop you from opening:
Technique 1: "It's like ripping off a Band-Aid."
If you think about approach anxiety too much and try pulling it off
slowly, you’ll end up making it worse than it has to be. You just have to
rip it off; meaning you just have to make the approach.
Note that the first set of the day is always the hardest, just try to
power through it. Once you’ve made the first approach, the rest will be
easier. You're stronger than you think.
Remember, the only reason you’re anxious is because you want to
talk to those people and you’re worried about what they’ll think of you.
Take a risk, and see what happens.
Technique 2: "Micro-stepping"

If powering through doesn't work, then try slowing down and
breaking the approach into small pieces. The micro-stepping technique is
a little harder, but it never fails if you stay honest, and focus.
When your anxiety gets so high that it's paralyzing you, it means that
you've given your mind and body too difficult a challenge. Try breaking
the task down into smaller pieces.
For example, "I'm going to talk to that really attractive woman," may
be way too much for you. So break the approach down into a few very
small, very not scary steps.
Start like this: "I’m going to walk in her direction."
Now that may sound ridiculous, like it barely relates to talking to the
woman, but that’s the point. You’re using small steps that don’t induce
anxiety to help you build momentum. Once you’re moving in her
direction, set another goal for yourself, "Once I’m standing near her, I’m
going to say, ‘hey, quick question.’" If you can utter those words, you’ve
gone past the point of no return. It would be more awkward to leave
without asking the question than it would be to ask it and open the group
up.
By taking it one small step at a time, you end up in conversation. The
anxiety is likely surging through your body at this point, but it didn't stop
you from getting to where you needed to be. Use it. Let it be a little extra
energy to give excitement behind the interaction.
What’s great about this exercise is not only how effective it is, but
that it works whenever you have to do something that induces anxiety.
Try using it when you have to go for a kiss, or ask a girl out on a date.
Small steps will lead you to success.

The Heroic Mind Shaping Exercise: Confidence Building
Have you ever watched a movie and pictured yourself in the
character's shoes? Imagine if you could take on the frame of one of your
favorite heroes. This exercise will allow you to spot the positive traits in
others, and help you develop them within yourself.
To do this exercise you need the steps listed below, combined with
an exclusive Attract and Seduce audio lesson, which you can get by
following the link at the end of this chapter.
1. Write down a list of characters with qualities you would like to
incorporate into your frame. For you, that might be James Bond,
Alexander the Great, Casanova, or any other person (real or
fictional) whom you admire.
2. Choose the character on this list that you can most easily visualize in
detail.
3. Choose a form of media that you can best experience this character
with. This could be a movie, a history channel presentation, a book, a
series of magazine articles, or anything else you feel would be
beneficial.
4. Feel free to combine a few forms as well. Do whatever it takes for
you to best understand the character to the fullest degree.
5. Pay attention to how this character walks into a room, the micro
expressions on his face, the way he talks and portrays confidence. If
there is a specific scene in a movie or book that you believe best
portrays this character, watch or read it several times.
6. Once you have done all this, sit down in a quiet room and listen to
the Heroic Mind Shaping Exercise audio file, which you can find
by clicking on the link at the end of this chapter.

Rejection and Transforming Your Critical Seductive Mind
Seduction can be a difficult art to learn, because training requires we
fail in front of the people we’re interested in getting to know. These
rejections can send us spiraling into self-doubt; causing us to quit
practicing. We keep hearing criticisms of ourselves like "you suck" over
and over. As students we know criticism is important, it helps us get
better, but this inner-wingman telling us that we suck – he’s of no use to
anyone. Here’s one way you can train yourself to transform him from a
bad inner-wingman to a helpful one.
When it comes to practice, don’t accept criticism from yourself that
you wouldn’t accept from a good wingman. A good wingman would
never tell you that you suck or that you’ll never be good with women,
and hopefully you wouldn’t tolerate that kind of worthless criticism.
If your wingman told you that you should approach from an angle rather
than walking up directly, you’d more than likely take that advice,
because it’s helpful. What they’re telling you will make you a better
seducer, and that’s the goal.
When it comes to self-criticism, you need to recognize that same
difference. Telling yourself that you suck won’t help you, but giving
yourself specific advice will. My suggestion is to carry a note card, and
every time you tell yourself, "I suck" or "I’ll never get the girl" or "I’m
unattractive" you’re going to take out the note card. On it you’re going to
write down a helpful tip for yourself; one or more things you can do to
improve your seduction. You can be harsh, pointing out your own
seductive flaws, but make sure that you’re writing down ideas you can
test to fix the problem. The idea here is to train yourself to replace
worthless criticisms with helpful ones and quiet down that terrible
wingman in your head.

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To make things easier, I created a downloadable "Cheat
Sheet" called the "Routine Stack Builder". Also you can
listen to the "Heroic Mindshaping Exercise" and watch Neil
Strauss on video explaining how to eliminate Approach
Anxiety, visit:
to (310) 589-3568
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Chapter 5:
Top 12 Reasons Everyone Should Study
Attraction and Seduction
"The most amazing thing for me is that every single person who sees
a movie, not necessarily one of my movies, brings a whole set of unique
experiences. Now, through careful manipulation and good storytelling,
you can get everybody to clap at the same time, to hopefully laugh at the
same time, and to be afraid at the same time."
- Steven Spielberg
"We know what we are, but know not what we may be."
- William Shakespeare
Reason #1
Studying Attraction and Seduction will help you to influence others.
To understand attraction and seduction, you must understand desire.
Desire is the root of seduction’s power. Learning to seduce someone
means leading their imagination to learn about their own desires. This is
what we’re going to study: How to fulfill desires with our words, our
looks, and our reputations.
If you understand seduction, you'll have a better grasp on the world
around you. You'll understand why you make the decisions you make
and have better insight as to why others make the decisions they make.
You'll understand how the world, politicians, and advertisements
influence you. You’ll learn what makes you attracted to the people you're
attracted to. Seduction is a skill with a world of benefits.
Reason #2
Studying attraction and seduction will open up new opportunities.

Many of us run into opportunity after opportunity that we miss out
on. Sometimes it's just because we didn't know there was an opportunity
in the first place. I have met so many people who've had crushes on
friends or co-workers who felt like the deck was stacked against, and so
they never made a move. They ended up as "just friends" and find out
later that the other person felt the same way, and had either one of them
made a move, they might be together. A tragedy of epic proportions.
Attraction and seduction can give you the awareness to see these
kinds of opportunities; to understand when the deck is truly stacked
against you and when you're the one in control.
Reason #3
Studying attraction and seduction will help you get to know yourself
better.
A side effect of studying attraction and seduction is self-
understanding. To be a great student of attraction and seduction you must
learn to put yourself in other people’s shoes, to see the world from a
variety of other perspectives. You have to look at yourself through their
eyes and ask if what you're doing is seductive to them.
Reason #4
Studying attraction and seduction will improve your romantic, dating
and sex life, expand your social circles, and grow your network.
While studying attraction and seduction you're going to make
friends. It's going to happen. To practice you need to get out there and
meet people, and as you'll learn when we get deeper into the system – the
first step is learning to make people comfortable with you, and the
second is to offer value. Doing this will make you friends.
Put yourself in a woman's shoes: a guy walks up to you, he is very
comfortable to be around, he has great stories, an interesting personality,

and helped make the interaction more enjoyable. Would you want this
guy in your social circle? Of course.
Reason #5
Studying attraction and seduction will bring more adventure into
your life.
People who study attraction and seduction have a great
understanding of the world around them, because the art form requires it.
The more you know about the world around you the more conversations
you'll be part of, and even better, the more conversations you'll be able to
lead. This means getting to know your city, getting to know your
country, getting to know the culture around you, and discovering as
much as you can about the world.
Reason #6
Studying attraction and seduction will give you choice.
Imagine seeing a woman you’re interested in talking to – at a bar, in
a nightclub, on the street, or anywhere else. Now imagine you could
walk right up to her and start a conversation that leads to a romantic
adventure. With practice, you can have the ability to choose who you’d
like to date, rather than hoping for the best.
Reason #7
Studying attraction and seduction will give you a new perspective.
To be a great seducer you have to be able to see yourself from other
people’s perspectives; you need to understand how others view you, so
that you can make strategic decisions about which pieces of identity to
share. By paying attention to how other people think and feel, you’ll start
to open up your mind to why others do what they do – and that can
change your life in more ways than I can possibly contain in this short
section.

Reason #8
Studying Attraction and Seduction will expand your horizons.
The more you know about the world, the more conversations you can
be part of, and, even better, the more conversations you can lead. All the
guys I know who study seduction are ravenous learners. They consume
information faster than anyone else I know.
If you study attraction and seduction, there will be a point where
you’ll come to realize that you’ve become more interested in absorbing
new information. It’s a great moment.
Reason #9
Studying attraction and seduction will make you more confident.
Ask most people what it takes to seduce another person and they’ll
almost invariably say, "confidence". For the most part, they’re right,
confidence is a big part of it, but you can’t just be confident. You have to
cultivate confidence through small successes. By practicing the
techniques, and learning the principles, you’ll start to see success on a
small level, and over time those successes will stack, giving you the
confidence to be a great seducer.
Reason #10
Studying attraction and seduction will transform you into your best
self.
The combination of self-awareness and social-awareness that comes
from studying attraction and seduction will make communication easier
and more effective for you. The confidence you’ll get from having put in
the blood, sweat, and tears it takes to learn this skill will give you
confidence in all other areas of your life. You’ll pick up new skills, go on

new adventures, and have a legion of new friends, and as many lovers as
you could want. You’ll be a new person; the best person you can be.
Reason #11
By studying attraction and seduction, you’ll make more money.
As we’ve mentioned before, seduction is not all about romance. It’s
part of business too. Becoming a better seducer means becoming better at
communication. The information you gain from studying attraction and
seduction will allow you to think steps ahead of others and be more
strategic. It will also help you navigate the complex social dynamics that
exist in the business world. As you practice, you’ll find that making
deals, getting meetings, and eventually making more money will come
easier, because you’ll be more aware of people’s needs and desires.
Reason #12
By studying attraction and seduction, you’ll have more sex.
Seduction for most people is about sex, romance and relationships.
It’s the number one goal for most of my students. If you put in the time
to learn this skill, not only will you end up having more sex, it will also
be with the types of women you desire, in the kinds of relationships that
you want to have.
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Chapter 6:
How to Apply the
Attract and Seduce 4-Step System
"The key to growth is the introduction of higher dimensions of
consciousness into our awareness."
- Lao Tzu
Way before I started teaching seduction, I studied martial arts. My
teacher was awesome – a guy who could walk into any school of martial
arts, watch them move, and apply their techniques to himself. He was
never shy about how he did it. The key was in his understanding of two
particular words. Hearing the two words over and over again, and
understanding their meaning, significantly changed my life. Here are the
two words:
 Principle
 Technique
So, what's the difference? Why are these two words so important?
Well, if you understand their importance and meaning in the context of
learning an art form, they make learning anything much easier.
A principle is universal. That means a principle of attraction and
seduction holds true no matter who's doing the attracting and seducing or
what realm of seduction you're playing in: Business, Politics, or
Romance.
For example, if the principle of starting a conversation is "make the
person or group comfortable" then that holds true whether you're a
woman seducing a man, or a man seducing a woman. It holds true in

romantic seductions, business seductions, and political seductions. The
principle always remains the same; techniques however, differ from
situation to situation.
In martial arts, there's no one punch that wins all fights. In seduction,
there's no one technique for making friends with everyone, or getting the
woman of your dreams into bed. Techniques are expressions of their
respective principles, and are meant to be used for specific times and
places.
The key in martial arts and seduction is the same: You practice
techniques to gain better understanding of the underlying principles. That
means if you want to learn attraction and seduction, practice the
techniques, but always keep the principles in mind. You may
intellectually understand the principle, but that’s not the same as
experiencing the principle. Techniques help you learn the principles
through experience. That’s why you practice them.
So, later on when I teach you about starting conversations, I'm going
to teach you the principle and then some techniques. The techniques I
offer in this book and online are foolproof for very particular situations.
They’ve been thoroughly tested and are great for you to practice.
How to Practice Attraction and Seduction Techniques:
Attraction and seduction is a skill set like any other, meaning it
requires practice. This book has all the lessons for you to learn the skill,
but you're going to have to put the time in to practice it. Check out the
instructional videos – you'll find a link to at the end of every chapter. I
even have a practice schedule up for you, if you want to see what a good
week of practice is like.

The World is Your Dojo:
Unlike martial arts, there are no physical schools for learning
attraction and seduction. We don't have dojos or playing fields to practice
on. But we still have a classroom of sorts. Every place you choose to
practice, whether it be a nightclub, a coffee shop, a shopping mall, or the
beach is your classroom. Treat it as such, when you practice:
 Don't get drunk.
 Have a study plan.
 Do your homework.
 Treat the place with respect.
 Plan regular hours to practice.
For years I've been hearing the same thing about practice. "Doing all
this new stuff makes me feel weird around my friends." Here's a
suggestion: Don't practice around your friends.
Think of it like this: when you go to a sport practice, you don't bring
all your friends who aren't interested in the sport to practice with you. It
would be weird if they were there, and they probably wouldn't have a
good time. You have to think of this art just like practicing any other;
only practice with other people who are interested in learning this art
form. If no one else is interested, practice on your own.
5 Things A New Student Can Do To Prepare for Their Seduction
Education
I imagine that if you’re reading this you’re ready to put a whole lot
of energy into the art form. That’s great! Here are a few ideas for new
students to help you before you even start:
1. Set time aside: This is going to be the most important step for any
newbie. Set time aside on a calendar that you know will be solely used to

practice whatever material you’re learning. I suggest, at minimum, one
day a week, for three hours. For guys practicing in bars and clubs, do it
stone cold sober.
2. Practice material: Find material you like and practice it. This is
vital in the early stages. You need something solid to work on. Don’t just
jump into sets with people doing the same old thing you’ve always done.
I suggest an opinion opener like Cashmere Sweater or Drunk-I-Love-
You to start. Practice something new, something that takes you out of
your comfort zone. As our coach Jonny Cruz says, "Get uncomfortable."
3. If you need a push, buy one: There are two ways you can do this.
The first is to go out with a friend, hand him a $200 bill, and have him
return $20 for every approach you make. The second is to take a
bootcamp. I suggest the Stylelife Bootcamps, because I teach for
Stylelife and because our bootcamps are awesome. Sometimes, you just
need a kick in the ass. Stylelife is here to give you that kick in the ass,
possibly a few.
4. Read and write more: You’re going to want to improve your
verbal capacity; reading and writing are the best way to do that. So, pick
up at least one book a month and read it. Get in a writing habit, because
you’re going to have to write field reports: detailed descriptions of what
happens each night you practice. It is truly rare to see a student get good
at this without writing things down.
5. Get a wingman and practice with a friend: Many of my
students like to go out and practice in pairs, as wingmen. It can be fun
and helpful to have a friend around. Here’s how you can make the most
of practicing with a friend:
 Pick your practice - Decide what you’re going out to practice. It
should be something specific, like an opener or a routine. Before you

go out, make sure you both know what you’re going to be working
on and make a plan.
 Know your material - Before you go out, make sure you understand
what kinds of routines, openers, and stories you each like to tell. Let
your partner know where you’re at in your practice. Are you working
on opening? Are you working on Seeding Dates? Are you working
on building value? You and your friend should be clear on what you
know and what you’re practicing.
 Reward Motivation - This is a technique to help motivate you when
you’re out with a friend. Give your friend $100 and for each
approach you make, he gives you back $20. Let’s say you have three
hours to approach five groups of people or individual women or he
keeps the remaining money.
 Approach Alone - When making approaches, one guy should walk
up and then the wing should follow once the first person has started
conversation. Two guys walking up to a group together makes it
more obvious that you’re there to hit on them, and our goal is to be
subtle. So, walk up alone, then have your friend approach once
you’ve progressed from the opener to conversation.
 Secret Codes - Sometimes you’re going to want to communicate
with your wingman without saying something out-loud. By the way,
many women are masters of communicating in code with their
friends on a girl's night out.
I suggest creating a code that you can use to communicate simple
messages. Here’s an example of a code I used to use when my friend
approached:

 If I point with one finger when my friend approaches, it means that’s
the woman I’m interested in. This lets him know to steer clear of her,
while helping to build comfort with her friends.
 If I point with two fingers, it means that I can’t remember the
person’s name. It’s his cue to introduce himself to that person, and
ask their name.
 If I point with three fingers it means, I’d like him to help me politely
eject from this group. There are some conversations you don’t want
to be in, and sometimes it can be tough to leave. Having a friend
come over and say, “Hey, you need to close out your tab,” or
something similar can allow you to leave without being rude.
Debrief Afterwards - This is probably the most important part of
working with a friend. Either when you get home, or the next day, sit
down with your friend and go over what you did wrong and what you did
right. Start to plan out your next practice session based on your debrief
sessions.
Respect Your Wingman Friend - Some guys like to tease each
other relentlessly. This is great for when you’re hanging out together,
but not for attraction and seduction. When you and your friend are in a
group together, you should always be propping each other up, never
tearing each other down. In addition, don’t let other people tear your
partner down. Stand up for him and make sure he stands up for you.
You’re in it together.
One of the most powerful symbols that you're an interesting person is
that you have interesting people around you. People who are not only fun
to be around, but people who are just as interesting as you are.
Picture this: You're out at a bar or club and you approach a woman.
You're the wing tonight, so you introduce your buddy and let everyone in
the group know that he's an amazing guy. You just made him interesting,
but you didn't do anything for yourself, right?

Wrong.
In fact, you've just totally set yourself up to be a super cool guy,
because you convey respect for someone you care about. While you're
giving social value to the guy you're winging for, you're also creating
high social value for yourself in this situation. After all, if you're with
this totally awesome dude, how awesome does that make you?
Pretty awesome.
This applies basically everywhere in life. Whether you're out at a bar
or club, or just meeting people at a business conference or even trying to
make new friends when you move to a new city. If you're around people
who are interesting, people are going to assume that you're interesting
yourself. If you introduce others as being fascinating, interesting people,
others are going to want to know what you're hiding under your hat.
So, as a conclusion for this chapter, I want you to go find a wingman,
share and discuss what you want to learn first and then go out.
See you in the field!
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Chapter 7:
Step #1: The Secret of the Opening Line
"Let us always meet each other with smile, for the smile is the
beginning of love." - Mother Teresa
Over the years, I’ve heard one consistent complaint that bring
students to me: “I don’t have the confidence to approach strangers, let
alone beautiful women, because I just don’t know what to say.”
I understand. It was tough for me to learn how to walk up and talk to
complete strangers; to make the cold approach. However, it needs to be
done, because it’s what will give you real choice. It’s what will give you
the ability to say, “I want to talk to that person,” and then actually do it.
One of my fellow coaches reminisced with me about one of his first
cold approaches: "I saw this girl on the subway. She was standing right
near me. I looked at her knowing I was going to have to approach her.
This is why I was doing it right? To approach the people I want to be
able to talk to, I looked at her again ready to make my move, but I
couldn’t move. My feet felt like they were cemented into the ground.
My heart was beating faster, and I felt like I had tunnel vision. I couldn’t
do it."

Now, after practicing, he’s managed to become the kind of guy that
can approach anyone, even high-caliber women, with confidence.
How does he do it?
Well, he uses a conversation starter, commonly referred to as an
“opener.”
An opener is a scripted line that helps to start a conversation, and
most importantly, makes the person or group comfortable talking with
you.
Think about it this way: If you are approached by a complete
stranger, what would you be thinking? What does he want from me?
Why should I answer? How long do I have to talk to him? These
questions, if they go unanswered would make you uncomfortable, and
you’d probably not want them around.
So here is the principle: To start a conversation with strangers you
must make them comfortable talking with you.
Why?
If anything you say or do feels uncomfortable, they'll probably run
for the hills as fast as possible. This is why guys are rejected so often
when they approach, because they make the woman and/or her friends
uncomfortable.
Here are five golden rules for starting conversations:
1. Say something that’s interesting.

Whatever comes out of your mouth should arouse curiosity. It
doesn’t have to blow their minds, but it does have to get the group
talking.
2. Say something that leads to more conversation.
Conversation has to move forward. Generally making a statement
doesn’t lead to more conversation, so try using a question. Questions
like, “What's the time?” or “Where’s the bathroom?” generally don’t
work because the group simply answers them expecting you to move on.
In addition, they’re not interesting.
3. Say something that expresses a little about yourself.
Everything you say and do when you’re with someone reveals
something about yourself. Be aware that the way you start a conversation
says something about you. By using an opening line you can actually
start to control the assumptions people make about you when you
approach. Think about what the things you’re asking say about you.
4. Make sure they know that you can’t stay long.
This may sound counter-intuitive, but when you approach, you
should always say something to the effect of, “I can’t stay long.” The
reason for this is when a stranger approaches a person or group, that
person or group has a moment of anxiety that makes them feel
uncomfortable. Especially if they think that they are going to be stuck
with the new person talking their ear off. To alleviate this anxiety, it’s
important to let them know, right away, that you’re leaving soon.
Now, obviously, we approached because we want to continue
conversation. Don’t worry; you don’t actually have to leave. You just
have to say that you can’t stay long. If you’re able to make them
comfortable they won’t bring up that you said you had to leave. In fact,
in all the approaches I’ve ever done, I’ve never had anyone bring it up.
5. Make sure you give them a reason for whatever you’re saying.

You don’t want to appear as though you’re doing market research or
some sort of survey, so always give a reason for saying whatever you
were going to say. You’ll see examples of these reasons in the openers in
this book and on the website.
How to practice starting a conversation
Now that you have the golden rules down it’s time to learn the
words, but before I get to the openers let me give you some tips for
practicing them:
1. Memorize and rehearse: Make sure you know what you’re
saying, if you fumble with the words people will get confused. If they get
confused, they may reject you. It’s just that people get uncomfortable
when they’re confused, and they reject people they’re uncomfortable
with. If you learn the opener, have it down, word for word. If you can't
rehearse at home, do it in the car while you’re driving. You’ll be able to
repeat the portion they didn’t hear or were confused about.
2. Go out and practice. These things take time to practice. You’re
not going to get these down perfectly in a night, and it’s going to take
more than one approach to get them down. That means you need to put
practice time in, don’t email me if it doesn’t work on the first try. That
would be like taking one martial arts class, learning one punch, that you
practice once, and then blaming the teacher for teaching you something
that didn’t work. It’s a skill and it takes practice.
3. Add body language: Here's a little secret: Point your feet away
from the person or group you are beginning a conversation with. When
you say, “I can’t stick around long,” It’ll be more effective if your body
language is consistent with your words. When people who are really in a
hurry or aren’t planning on sticking around, they keep their bodies facing
the direction they’re going. Do the same; keep your feet pointed away.
Now, onto two of my favorite openers:

Opener #1: The Cashmere Sweater Opener
"Hey, quick question, I have to take off in a minute, but I wanted to
get your advice about something. I’m supposed to help my friend pick
out a cashmere sweater for his sister’s birthday. I had him check her size
and she wears all smalls and mediums. So, my question is: If someone
bought you a gift would you rather it be a little too small or a little too
big?"
Opener #2: The Drunk I-Love-You Opener
"Hey, quick question. Maybe you can help with this one: Do drunk
"I-love-yous” count? Like if someone’s drunk and they say they love
you. Does that count? The reason I’m asking is because one of my
buddies is going to be here in a few minutes and he asked me something
I couldn’t really give him an answer to – It’s kind of a relationship
question. This girl, who he’s been into since college, finally opened up to
him last night and said she was in love with him. The problem is, she
was drunk and she hasn’t mentioned anything since. What should I tell
him to do?"
Learning to start conversations with ease takes time, there are a lot
more tips and tricks you can employ to make it easier or refine your
delivery.
For many more openers, check out the online bonus training section
at the end of this chapter.
Creating your own opener:
Once you’ve practiced one of the openers, you can start to toy
around with the idea of building your own opener. Because your main
goal when starting a conversation is to make the person feel conformable

talking to you, an opener should contain certain elements to achieve this
goal. First and foremost, you have to answer the questions in their mind
before they even think them.
A fair warning: I don’t think that new students should be creating
their own material. It would be like going into a martial arts class and
just deciding to make up your own moves, but I know that many of you
are going to try so here are some guidelines:
1. Why is he talking to me? Make sure your opener has a "root." In
other words, you must have a reason that you’re saying whatever you’re
saying. It could be that you need help to select a sweater, or to choose a
name, a dish in a restaurant. It could be that you are looking for an
opinion, an answer or advice and she looks like she can help. Either way
there has to be a reason for the approach.
2. When will he leave? Make sure that your openers have a time
constraint. That means letting the person know you can’t stay long.
Maybe you have to catch a plane, get back to your friends, go to a
meeting, etc. The main point is to let the person know that you are not
going to latch onto them for an extended period of time.
3. Make sure the topic is interesting; this can serve as a springboard
for discussions and should end with a question that can lead to more
conversation.
4. Is he hitting on me? Don’t start with a compliment, make it sexual
or convey that you are interested. First of all, you really don't know her -
so how can you already be interested in anything more than her looks?
Secondly, indicating your interest early on can make women
uncomfortable, and it’s bad seductive timing.

5. If you’re going to create an own opener, practice it regularly. You
need to work out the kinks, and you can’t work them all out in your head,
they need to be field-tested.
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Chapter 8:
The Bridging Technique:
Keep Talking!
"If you always put limit on everything you do, physical or anything
else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits.
There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go
beyond them." - Bruce Lee
You might think that the biggest problem I've run into as a seduction
coach was getting guys to approach intimidating beautiful women, but
you’d be wrong. The biggest problem, by far, was getting guys to not run
away after a few minutes talking to a group of strangers.
Most of the time, a student would walk up, open, get the
conversation going, get nervous, and eject from the group. When I'd ask
why the student left, the answer would invariably be, "I couldn't think of
anything else to say."
Here's the thing: you do have something to say. In fact, you have lots
of things to say. You're just freezing up, because you are likely worried
about judgment from the group. Or you are overthinking the group's
opinion of you.
First piece of advice: Don't panic. This happens to most students and
there’s a way to fix it. It's called "bridging."
Bridge: The all-purpose conversational linking technique
A bridge can be any question or any observation.

A bridge is a way to propel a conversation forward and steer it in the
direction you want it to go. The first bridge generally happens right after
the opener; you ask a question or make an observation. The question or
observation should lead to a value building routine or story.
This technique was developed when a fellow coach and I were
discussing the "I have nothing to say" phenomenon, which consistently
plagues our students. At the time, we didn’t teach a technique for
strategically evolving a conversation on the spot. We sat down and
thought about what drives interaction forwards. We noticed two things:
1. People would make contextual observations, or
2. People ask questions seemingly out of nowhere.
Here are a few examples:
"So, how's work?"
"How's your wife doing?"
"You remind me of this teacher I had."
"I love the music here."
"How do you all know each other?"
"I love your necklace."
Everyone, in every conversation we observed, used questions and
observations to propel conversation forward. Stack enough of questions
and observations together and you can easily extend the length of a
conversation, ad infinitum. And when we extracted this pattern, we knew
immediately that this was our answer.
However, as seducers we want to be a little more strategic. Can we
use bridging to not only propel conversation forward, but also to steer it
where we wanted it to go? Absolutely.

Let's say you want to talk about music: You can make an observation
about the music in the room.
Let's say you want to talk about work: You could ask where someone
works.
Let's say you want to talk about travel: You could ask, "Do you do
much traveling?"
To look at it another way: You could ask the question, "How do you
all know each other?"
There are only a few answers to the question:
"We work together."
"We're related."
"We're in a romantic relationship."
"We're roommates."
"We go to school together."
"We're friends."
Knowing this ahead of time - I suggest having a story ready about
work, a sibling (or lack thereof), a romantic relationship, a roommate,
school, and a close friend. This way no matter what answer you get,
you're a step ahead and ready to move things forward.
For right now, it's important to see that a bridge can steer
conversation. Later on we'll discuss how to bridge into an identity story
(chapter 11) or a knowledge based identity story (chapter 10). The better
you get at asking questions and making observations, the easier it will be
to find places for your stories in your seductions. You can find more
information on Bridging, The Ring Finger Routine, The Best Friends
Test, and Identity Storytelling, by following the instructions at the end of
this chapter.

Tips for bridging:
 Keep the bridges non-physical when you're first learning this
skill. Observations about body language are great, but one's
about her attractiveness will come off as hitting on her. Don't do
that.
 One of the best bridges to use after the opener is: "How do you
all know each other?" It gives you valuable information about
the dynamics of the group you're speaking with.
 Bridges are used throughout an interaction, not just after the
opener. Anytime you need to move the conversation forward or
steer it, a bridge can be applied.
 Bridges are great for leading to conversations where you can
express who you are to the other person. If you are a musician
and want to talk about music, make an observation about the
music in the venue. If you love your job and want to talk about a
work related story ask, "Do you all work together?" Get their
answers and tell your story.
 For guys who feel like they always run out of stuff to say, try
using a bridge when you hit that mental block. Make any
observation or ask any question, then see where the conversation
goes.
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Chapter 9:
Step #2: The Three Keys to Build Attraction and Become
the Most Interesting Guy in the Room
"Try not to become a man of success, but rather try to become a man
of value." - Albert Einstein
I'm going to teach you the three steps to becoming the most attractive
and interesting guy in the room. It is vital that you memorize each of
them. Download the cheat sheet that I’ll give you at the end of this
chapter or write steps down and memorize them.
What is social value and what does building it mean?
Social value is a combination of your looks, your reputation,
what you do, and what you say in a given social situation. That means
if you’re good-looking, famous, and charming you’ll have a lot of value
in a room. Right?
Of course it does! However, just because they’re attractive in one
room doesn’t mean they are in the next, because social value is
conditional. You don’t get any social value for being good looking if the
people you’re interacting with think you’re ugly. You don’t get any value
for being famous if the people you’re speaking with don’t know you’re

famous. What’s charming to one person might be unattractive to the
next.
Your value changes from interaction to interaction, and the value of
each of your qualities is based on the people or person you’re talking
with. It’s based on their perspective of the identity you’re conveying.
Great seducers must learn to see themselves from the eyes of others. This
helps them calculate the most efficient and effective way to build value
with a person or group.
We’re going to talk about three active ways to build value: Routines,
Identity Stories, and Active Disinterest. Later in the book we’ll discuss
two passive ways to build value: looks and reputation.
Looks and reputation are passive, meaning that you don’t have to do
anything to get them to work; people either think you’re good looking or
not. They either know who you are and what you’ve done or they don’t.
For this reason, we’re going to focus on the active aspects, the stuff that
takes infield practice to master.
For purposes of practice: always assume that the group or person
isn’t attracted to you physically, and doesn’t know anything about you. If
in conversation, you find out that the girl you’re interested in is attracted
to you or has heard about you in a positive way, it’s a bonus.
How do you build high value in a social setting?
One of the biggest problems I see with most men who study attraction
and seduction is this: they try to get what they want before they've built
enough social value. You must learn to build high social value, and you
must learn to build a lot of it!
Social value is like money. If you want the Aston Martin, you're
going to need the $150,000 it costs to purchase it. If you don't have the

money, you're just window-shopping. Similarly, if you don't have
enough social value, you're not going to get her number, your dates will
flake, and your seduction will fail.
That said, here are the three steps you'll need to use to actively build
social value:
Key #1: Knowledge Based Social Value (Generating Social Value
with What You Know)
In movies the "player” is generally portrayed as a guy with a
gimmick. He has some trick or game that he uses to charm and seduce
the women he meets. While tricks and gimmicks won’t get you love,
they will help you add value in a seduction. They’re a piece of the
puzzle. If you want to become the most interesting guy in the room, you
should memorize a few routines – magic tricks, bar cons, psychology
games, or cold reads – to have on hand to liven up the atmosphere. The
more entertaining routines you know and can perform, the more
interesting and fun you'll be. The knowledge based games and routines
are by no means the only way you build social value, but they can come
in handy with the right timing.
Key #2: Wisdom-based Social Value (Generating Social Value
with Your Life Story)
This is going to be the cornerstone of your social value building.
Wisdom-based value building is all about your perspective of the world.
Wait a minute, you might think. My life has not been that exciting. What
if I don’t have any stories that can impress a group of people?
Don’t worry; you don’t need to be well traveled, have a crazy
adventurous life or a high paying job. Don’t get me wrong – that
definitely helps, but it’s not necessary. Generating value with your life
story is about sharing your perspective of reality; not bragging. It's about

lessons you’ve learned about life. Start by answering the following
questions:
Where have you been?
Example: When I first arrived in Indonesia to study martial arts…
What lessons have you learned about life?
Example: My first job at the animal shelter showed me how
important animals can be to a child…
What events have shaped your life?
Example: The moment I first heard a Metallica song I knew I’d have
to start playing guitar…
What hobbies do you have?
Example: I grew up watching anime and have always wanted to be
able to move like a ninja, so a few months ago I started parkour
classes…
What are your preferences?
Example: My favorite food is pasta, because my grandmother made
it for us every Sunday…
You're going to have to take those answers and use them to construct
"identity stories". Identity Storytelling is a technique for learning basic
storytelling and discovering how to express who you are. You’ll be
taking a look at your preferences and experiences, and learning to talk
about them in a seductive way that will make you more attractive to your
audience. These stories are efficient ways to communicate who you are
(your identity) to other people.

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