2. The Vow of Marriage
I, _______________, take thee,
_______________, to be my wedded
wife/husband, to have and to hold,
from this day forward, for better or for
worse, for richer or for poorer, in
sickness and in health, to love and to
cherish, ’til death do us part,
according to God’s holy ordinance;
and thereto I pledge myself to you.
3. Keys in a Christ centered marriage
What is God’s opinion on getting
married?
4. I would like you to be free from concern.
An unmarried man is concerned about
the Lord’s affairs – how he can please the
Lord. But a married man is concerned
about the affairs of this world – how he
can please his wife – and his interests are
divided.
An unmarried woman or virgin is
concerned about the Lord’s affairs: Her
aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both
body and spirit.
5. But a married woman is concerned about
the affairs of this world – how she can
please her husband.
I am saying this for your own good, not to
restrict you, but that you may live in a
right way in undivided devotion to the
Lord.
1 Corinthians 7:32-35
6. Keys in a Christ centered marriage
What is God’s opinion on getting
married?
Does it matter who I marry?
7. Keys in a Christ centered marriage
What is God’s opinion on getting
married?
Does it matter who I marry?
Our roles in marriage
8. Out of respect for Christ, be courteously
reverent to one another.
Wives, understand and support your
husbands in ways that show your support
for Christ. The husband provides
leadership to his wife the way Christ does
to his church, not by domineering but by
cherishing. So just as the church submits
to Christ as he exercises such leadership,
wives should likewise submit to their
husbands.
9. Husbands, go all out in your love for your wives,
exactly as Christ did for the church – a love
marked by giving, not getting. Christ’s love
makes the church whole.
His words evoke her beauty. Everything he does
and says is designed to bring the best out of
her, dressing her in dazzling white silk, radiant
with holiness.
And that is how husbands ought to love their
wives. They’re really doing themselves a favor –
since they’re already “one” in marriage.
10. No one abuses his own body, does he? No, he
feeds and pampers it. That’s how Christ treats
us, the church, since we are part of his body.
And this is why a man leaves father and mother
and cherishes his wife. No longer two, they
become “one flesh.” This is a huge mystery,
and I don’t pretend to understand it all. What is
clearest to me is the way Christ treats the
church. And this provides a good picture of
how each husband is to treat his wife, loving
himself in loving her, and how each wife is to
honor her husband.
Ephesians 5:21-33
11. Role of the Husband
Place God first, his wife second
12. Role of the Husband
Place God first, his wife second
Leave his father/mother and join his wife
13. Role of the Husband
Place God first, his wife second
Leave his father/mother and join his wife
Lead his family by example, centered on
Christ
14. Role of the Husband
Place God first, his wife second
Leave his father/mother and join his wife
Lead his family by example, centered on
Christ
Love and cherish his wife as Christ loves us
His words evoke her beauty
His desire to bring the best out of her
15. Role of the Wife
Place God first, her husband second
16. Role of the Wife
Place God first, her husband second
Leave her father/mother and join her husband
17. Role of the Wife
Place God first, her husband second
Leave her father/mother and join her husband
Love her husband as Christ loves us
18. Role of the Wife
Place God first, her husband second
Leave her father/mother and join her husband
Love her husband as Christ loves us
Understand and support her husband
19. Role of the Wife
Place God first, her husband second
Leave her father/mother and join her husband
Love her husband as Christ loves us
Understand and support her husband
Respect her husband’s leadership
20. What NOT to do
Try to find my value from my spouse
My wife/husband can not validate me
My wife/husband can not fulfill me
21. What NOT to do
Try to find my value from my spouse
Try to fix my spouse
22. What NOT to do
Try to find my value from my spouse
Try to fix my spouse
Take my eyes off Christ and center on my
spouse
Leads to negativity, criticism, divide, eventually a
broken relationship
23. Keys to a God centered marriage
Show your spouse they come before anyone else
24. Keys to a God centered marriage
Show your spouse they come before anyone else
Desire to have real conversations
25. Keys to a God centered marriage
Show your spouse they come before anyone else
Desire to have real conversations
Intentional time away
26. Keys to a God centered marriage
Show your spouse they come before anyone else
Desire to have real conversations
Intentional time away
Commit to not go to bed angry
27. Keys to a God centered marriage
Show your spouse they come before anyone else
Desire to have real conversations
Intentional time away
Commit to not go to bed angry
Realize differences – thank God for them
28. Keys to a God centered marriage
Show your spouse they come before anyone else
Desire to have real conversations
Intentional time away
Commit to not go to bed angry
Realize differences – thank God for them
Spend time in prayer together/for each other
29. Keys to a God centered marriage
Show your spouse they come before anyone else
Desire to have real conversations
Intentional time away
Commit to not go to bed angry
Realize differences – thank God for them
Spend time in prayer together/for each other
Live in constant communication with our Heavenly
Father, desiring continual growth
