2. ತಂ ೆಮಕ ೆ ಹದ ೆಟುದನು ಾ ೆ ಾತಂ ೆಮಕ ೆ ಹದ ೆಟುದನು ಾ ೆ ಾ??
ೊಂ ರುವರವ ಅಹಂ ೆಯು ೆಯುವನಕೊಂ ರುವರವ ಅಹಂ ೆಯು ೆಯುವನಕ
ತಂ ೆ ಾ ಮಕ ಾ ಾ ೆಂಬು ೆದು ೆತಂ ೆ ಾ ಮಕ ಾ ಾ ೆಂಬು ೆದು ೆ??
ಬಂಧಮು ವ ದು ಬ ಕಬಂಧಮು ವ ದು ಬ ಕ –– ಮಂಕು ಮಮಂಕು ಮ ((174174))
Children hung on to you till the ego sprouts in them
‘Father-child’kinship deforms with growth between them
When ego is upright , who is father? who are children?
Relationship breaks, if it is not maturely grown

3. If EGO, is defined as self-esteem,
it is indispensable. If we want to
treat others with respect, we
need to treat them as we treat
ourselves. I cannot respect
others, if I don’t respect myself.
If EGO becomes, my need, my
respect, my sensitivities and
always comes first, beware, it’s aalways comes first, beware, it’s a
dynamite
Harmony at home or cooperation
at workplaces are blocked by this
‘ I am right’ syndrome, the EGO
People embraced by demonic
Ego, can sacrifice anything and
everything

4. Careless kith and kin, mocking and
nagging husbands, wives and children
are like pricks and pokes of a golden
sword.
Is it worth to remain related, fighting
tooth and nail, on a daily basis? Or , is
it better to learn to live together? Is
departing to live happily a solution? Isdeparting to live happily a solution? Is
there an assurance of peace in new
relationships? Or the solution lies in
me? Life is a tough choice
Is this EGO play, a test for humans to
achieve psychical distance of a spot of
warmth near the fire, between the hot
flames of attachment at one end and
the cold shudder of detachment at the
other end?

5. Static Relationships may die
soon. There must be
something mutual
happening and it must
develop and grow. This is
true especially in
workplaces.
Being transparent andBeing transparent and
direct, from the beginning,
one can avoid
misunderstandings, the
virus of relationships.
Respecting and accepting
others’ point of view and
objective discussions may
help in developing
relationships

6. How do I relate with
the world? That’s the
greatest lesson of
Life. Our Family,
Friends and Society
are the real teachers.
They teach in many
ways of Reality,
Symbols and
Consequences. Is it
fair to blame them, if
Deep Love and
affection some times
makes us blind. When
evil tendencies are
incited, sowing
psycho-fever, it may
finally destroy us.
(kagga 177)
.
fair to blame them, if
we don’t learn? We look great in the
Ego Mirror. We may
know who and what
we are. But, the
world will decide and
label us . We will miss
to see that image, if
we ignore the word
mirror.

7. Two men, both seriously ill, occupied the same hospital room. One man
was allowed to sit up in his bed for an hour each afternoon to help drain
the fluid from his lungs. His bed was next to the room's only window. The
other man had to spend all his time flat on his back. The men talked for
hours on end. They spoke of their wives and families, their homes, their
jobs, their involvement in the military service, where they had been on
vacation. Every afternoon when the man in the bed by the window could
sit up, he would pass the time by describing to his roommate all the things
he could see outside the window. The man in the other bed began to live
for those one-hour periods where his world would be broadened andfor those one-hour periods where his world would be broadened and
enlivened by all the activity and color of the world outside. The window
overlooked a park with a lovely lake. Ducks and swans played on the water
while children sailed their model boats. Young lovers walked arm in arm
amidst flowers of every color and a fine view of the city skyline could be
seen in the distance. As the man by the window described all this in
exquisite detail, the man on the other side of the room would close his
eyes and imagine the picturesque scene. One warm afternoon the man by
the window described a parade passing by. Although the other man
couldn't hear the band - he could see it. In his mind's eye as the
gentleman by the window portrayed it with descriptive words. Days and
weeks passed.

8. One morning, the day nurse arrived to bring water for their baths
only to find the lifeless body of the man by the window, who had
died peacefully in his sleep. She was saddened and called the
hospital attendants to take the body away. As soon as it seemed
appropriate, the other man asked if he could be moved next to the
window. The nurse was happy to make the switch, and after making
sure he was comfortable, she left him alone. Slowly, painfully, he
propped himself up on one elbow to take his first look at the real
world outside. He strained to slowly turn to look out the window
beside the bed. It faced a blank wall. The man asked the nurse whatbeside the bed. It faced a blank wall. The man asked the nurse what
could have compelled his deceased roommate who had described
such wonderful things outside this window. The nurse responded
that the man was blind and could not even see the wall. She said,
"Perhaps he just wanted to encourage you."
Epilogue: There is tremendous happiness in making others happy,
despite our own situations. Shared grief is half the sorrow, but
happiness when shared, is doubled. If you want to feel rich, just
count all the things you have that money can't buy.
(Author unknown)

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