1. HEAL THE NINE TRAPS OF UNCONSCIOUS LOVING
Avoid Internal Emotional Stress That Weakens Immune Function
Trap 1. You don’t ask for what you want. You expect the other person to be a mind reader. You’re afraid to ask for
what you want out of fear of rejection, judgment or disapproval.
Solution: Learn heart & soul-centered communication skills with a trained facilitator.
Trap 2. You put the other person’s needs and desires ahead of your own. Output, output, output with out
balancing Self-nurturing leads to physical, mental and emotional depletion, displaced anger, hurt and suppressed
immune function.
Solution: Learn how to Self-nurture AND nurture others to create mutually empowering and loving relationships.
Trap 3. You re-create a disempowering or Self-destructive relationship.
One gravitates towards what is familiar because it feels safer than an unknown they haven’t experienced.
Solution: Learn how to heal past trauma, hurts and disappointments for the last time and stop repeating old patterns.
Trap 4. You believe the issue of your conflict is really the issue that needs to be resolved.
The surface issue is rarely the real issue that needs to be resolved. Underneath anger, blame and judgment resides
your Ego’s warrior fueled by fear, hurt and sadness.
Solution: Learn how to explore, understand and transform deeper feelings of fear into compassionate Self-forgiveness.
Trap 5. You expect your partner to grow and learn at the same pace as your Self.
Each person has their own path and process during their lifetime. No path or rate of growth is better than another’s.
Solution: Allow the other person the freedom and dignity of their own life process.
Trap 6. You expect the other person to take on your responsibilities.
98% of the time your upset with the other person is a dis-owned aspect of your self which gets triggered.
Solution: Learn how to take responsibility for your own emotions . Learn how to recognize what your partner has to mirror back
to you about your Self . What is your learning opportunity?
Trap 7. You get caught up in power struggles between your ego / mind vs heart / soul.
The ego/mind builds protective barriers around the heart’s desire fueled by fear and limiting beliefs that can stand in the
way of one’s goals. The mind is a tool to be used in service to the heart.
Solution: Learn how to transform your own limiting beliefs into new Self-loving, Self-nurturing and Self-honoring ways of being.
Trap 8. You follow your heart without regard for your wisdom.
Just as the mind is a tool to be used in service to the heart, the heart is a guide to be used in alignment with your inner
wisdom so you remain open to all possibilities.
Solution: Learn to access and Trust your Inner Wisdom Guide to create a healthy balance between heart and mind
Trap 9. You forget you are a Spiritual Being having your own unique human experience on Earth.
Whenever you move away fro, understanding, compassion, forgiveness and love you are moving away from your
Divine Self.
Solution: Build a relationship with your Authentic Self and use your unique gifts and talents to serve your Higher Purpose.
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Dianne Porchia, M.A. Since 2001, offering a unique holistic approach to health, wellness, personal
growth, transformation and professional development. Porchia uses stress reduction as a door opener
for deeper healing work on physical, mental, emotional, sub-conscious and Spiritual levels of our human
experience on Earth. Private sessions and retreats offer experiential-dynamic processes that integrate
therapeutic touch-talk, somatic dialogue, neuro-linguistic programming, body movement, breathing, visu-
alization, creative expression and Vipassana meditation.
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