This eBook is about an experience with a Narcissist. It was the worst experience of human interaction from the lies, games, deception, and ungenuine discussions to manipulate and gain what she wanted. I had a taudry relationship with a woman at work. Her behavior was so mechanical I decided to use some of the tools in my arsenal from school to flush her out. I used a psychological theory by B.F. Skinner called Operant Conditioning, to expose her character and I wanted to share my experience so others can be aware of the dangers and pitfalls of an acquaintance with a Narcissist. Narcissists are not so cunning, especially with an empath who is learned to human behavior. However, if you've never encountered this breed, it can cause a whirlwind of sorts to the psyche. One minute it's warm and when they want to seek attention somewhere else, it's frost-bitten. Narcissist is a talked about discussion on social media because during the pandemic when individuals had to stay home or indoors, the narcissists was losing their mind. When the opportunity came where humanity was interacting, the demon reared it's ugly head and surfaced into the lives of innocent beings who are unaware of the dangers of this breed. However, we are always forewarned of the dangers but we never look in the right places for a solution. In this manual, ebook, I share where to find information seated in the proof of the narcissist roaming the earth and has always been but since the pandemic is brutal. Most narcissist have experienced some type of trauma in their early years and haven't resolved those issues of entitlement. And unless they are willing to lay on someone's couch to relinquish those dark years will continue to hurt everyone in their wake. So, this eBook is facilitating a warning to learn some of the behaviors to look for and most often than not, Narcissists are attractive. This is how they are able to slip in and lure your attention and then most are soft-spoken. Soft-spoken people are revered because the demeanor is inviting but make no mistake about it, the Narcissist is evil to the core and I hope this eBook will shed light on their personality. Additionally, it is a personality disorder, meaning there are hidden issues within their psychie that they haven't resolved. Knowing this, I urge each of you to be conscious of people when you meet them, learn how quickly they anger over nonsense, stay on the phone which is the new mirror, preoccupied with how they look and want praise and admiration constantly. These are obvious traits but read the ebook to locate the forewarning given to use in plain view and discern your next move . Good luck and God bless you all!

1. N O T O R I O U S
SUDDENLY
'Heartbreakingly sad
BY SIBLEY HUDSON

2. Preface
I began taking notes about a
narcissistic encounter I had
with a woman at work. I used a
psychological theory by B.F.
Skinner called Operant
Conditioning, to expose her
character and I wanted to
share my experience so others
can be aware of the dangers
and pitfalls of an acquaintance
with a Narcissist. Narcissists
are not so cunning, especially
with an empath who is learned
to human behavior.
Nevertheless, here is my
experience.

3. Chapter 1-Introduction and
Background
The first time I allowed a
Narcissist into my existence
was in a setting at work. I
observed an attractive woman
appearing distraught and
overwhelmed with something
in her life. If I knew what I know
now, I should have turned my
back and run for my life. But as
life would have it and I believe
it to be true, God allows even
the devil an opportunity to
flourish in our lives for a season
to ring our necks until we learn
to stay focused on Him.
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4. I H A D A S I M I L A R
E X P E R I E N C E W I T H M Y
N A R C I S S I S T , L E T ' S C A L L
H E R M E L A N I E F O R
I D E N T I F I C A T I O N . S H E
W A S A B O U T 5 ' 2 " T A L L ,
B R I C K H O U S E B O D Y ,
E X C E P T I O N A L B R E A S T S
F O R H E R S I Z E , A N I C E -
R O U N D P O S T E R I O R , A N D
S H O U L D E R - L E N G T H F I N E
H A I R , A N D I F I A M T O
K E E P I T A L L T H E W A Y
R E A L W I T H Y O U , S H E
W A S G E N T L E I N
C O M M U N I C A T I O N W H I C H
W A S A S E X Y A T T R I B U T E
F O R M E .

5. She was actually charming
despite the pain she was
enduring as she was going
through at the beginning of
our acquaintance and what
she eventually distributed to
me. From time to time, she
would leech out at me for no
reason. I don't like irritants
without an explanation so
she was grading my patience.
Melanie told me she had five
boys and Ethan was the
baby. My guard slipped when
I realized she had a 2-year-
old, who was experiencing all
the suffering.
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6. I have a soft spot for children
and if a child suffers, if I could
be of some assistance, I wanted
to help. Melanie's personality
was as gentle as a cat in the
morning seeking food. She was
very soft-spoken and appeared
genuinely concerned with me
and how I was when she
discovered I enjoyed drinking
alcoholic beverages and had a
tendency to be excessive. It was
funny really because she
appeared genuine in the
beginning which allowed me to
lower my guard more. Boy oh
boy do I know better now.

7. The first time I distributed any
funds to her was to get her hair
fixed for $250. She attempted
to manipulate me into
acquiring the funds, but I said,
"Do you want your hair fixed or
not?" She expressed, "yes!"
Once I shared the funding, it
became easy for her to ask for
all the other needs she
experienced. First, it was hair,
then food, rent, then car
insurance, then other
miscellaneous items. I trusted
the money I gave was put to
good use since she told me she
was out of funds because
Ethan's father left her abruptly
for another woman.

8. She was a reserved type of
woman, so it appeared. She
was hippy, stacked, and
attractive, all of the men
noticed her and she reveled
in the attention. Narcissists
crave undying attention. I
questioned some of the
interactions with men she
experienced and she assured
me it was nothing. Right! She
was sneaky and quiet and
when she approached would
instantly request what she
needed despite any negative
behavior she rendered me
previously.
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9. I would tell her often, "I love
you" and she would reply, "I
love you more", which wasn't
as genuine as it was in the
beginning. I stopped
complying with her needs a
little because I could tell, she
was being phony and the
"love you more" was fake.
The actions of a Narcissist are
to gain what they need and
discard when they don't. My
biggest mistake was allowing
my emotions to take over
because my spouse had an
affair on me and I too, had
small children who were
distraught and distant, so I
understood and helped her.

10. The only difference between
Melanie and I is I had money to
endure the financial
difficulties and she probably
did too but she always
appeared penniless. Somehow,
I can't imagine a woman living
with a man and not having a
stash somewhere knowing how
unpredictable men can be.
Perhaps, I didn't suspect her to
be so financially messed up
until she made some slips of
the tongue and was rude to
me. As I shared, she was nice
and humble in the beginning
but the nasty sharp remarks
let me see who she really was
all along.

11. This character of hers allowed
me to pick up my former
training manuals in psychology
to note a pattern in her
behavior that I suspected but
hoped wasn't true. She began
sending me pics of her body
because she could tell I was
shifting interest in just helping
her to lust for her. Perhaps,
this is what she was used to
from men and assumed with
her soft nature, I too would be
bitten and I was. I helped her
for about 2 years considering
the livelihood of Ethan which
became my interest.
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12. She observed it and her
conversations would begin
with what Ethan was doing
and attempting to say as he
was developing beyond a
baby. I observed for sure
when she attempted to use
Ethan as a pawn to
manipulate me. Melanie as
I've come to discover
displayed narcissistic
characteristics more because
she was getting used to me
and was allowing her mask
down to express what she
wanted and needed more
openly until the supply
recognized game to cease the
giving.

13. Chapter 2- What is Operant
Conditioning?
B.F. Skinner is an American
Psychologist, behaviorist,
author, inventor, and social
philosopher who developed a
remarkable theory called
"Operant Conditioning."
Since I am a psychology
minor and had to learn his
and other scholars'
techniques of human
behavior, I observed a
pattern in Melanie so I began
to put her in a test case.
Operant Conditioning is the
idea that learning is a
function of change in overt
behavior.

14. Skinner discovered that
changes in behavior are a
result of an individual's
response to events (stimuli)
that occur in the
environment. So, I knew if I
kept funneling Melanie
funds, she would take it as a
consequence of her situation
and would be repeated over
and over again as you've
read earlier; her boldness to
request funding openly. But
here is where Skinner's
theory is most exquisite;
there are 4 types of operant
conditioning...

15. ...positive reinforcement,
negative reinforcement,
positive punishment, and
negative punishment. Skinner
expressed some behaviors are
automatic and reflexive like
being near a hot stove. These
are not learned behaviors
because they are involuntary
and automatic. However,
behaviors require conscious
control; where the subject
does an act either words or
deeds to get the required
result, in Melanie's case,
funding.

16. Chapter 3- Early Signs of
Narcissism.
I observed the behavior of
Melanie was a clear case of
Narcissism. The pictures she sent
periodically to lure me in, sharing
Ethan's development and pains
from fabricated accidents. She
appeared to confide in me then
she confided in anyone who
would listen. Shared things she
asked me to keep private but in
turn told the entire workforce,
only to appear a victim no less. As
narcissists are in the culture of
using "supplies," once the supply
grows old and there is no viable
interest, the narcissist becomes
bored as the supply of funding
ends.

17. In Melanie's case, the funding
was positive reinforcement
for delivering photos of
herself, love-bombing, and
showing extreme interest.
The more I gave to facilitate
her needs, the more she
provided pictures of herself,
physical touching, hugs, and
seeking me in the work area.
She was a classic Narcissist in
my training manuals. Not to
mention, she expressed that
being abandoned by her
mother was a traumatic
experience. Further, knowing
this demonstrated she had no
heart beating at all in her
chest. Survival was key!!

18. However, Skinner contends
that behavior could be
changed by treating someone
differently based on what
they did. My pleasant stimuli
were money. When I decided
not to comply anymore was
revealed when the mask
completely fell off. The first
time Melanie ghosted me, I
didn't like it and when I saw
her at work I approached her
to find out what was
happening. It was then did
she disclose she had to
distance herself to try to fix
her situation.
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19. Somehow, it was quite the
opposite and now that I look
back on it like hindsight is
twenty-twenty, she was
locating other supplies to
help her besides me. I altered
my feelings because I knew
what the end game would be.
As I said, she was very
attractive and was sending
pictures of outings she and
Ethan were going on and the
pics were breathtaking. All
were used as a ploy to further
manipulate and control.

20. Chapter 4-Deeper Into
Narcissism
I observed someone who was
hurt, crying, and disturbed
but what she saw in me was
another victim. An empath
with whom she could weave
her band of seduction to get
what she wanted. Because I
don't believe she needed the
funding for what she
requested. Narcissists are
not frugal and credit-worthy.
They are fashion steppers,
image makers, and status
quo birds who want to
project the appearance of
success but it is quite the
contrary.

21. My interest had ceased to keep
her happy anymore. I could see
a pattern where she was
ghosting me for no reason and
popping back up as if nothing
happened. I was tired of this
behavior so I began to distance
myself too and save some
money, LOL. The first time
Melanie ghosted me, as I said, I
didn't like it because I believed
she was trying to deal with her
problems. A condition she
couldn't fix because her
problem was not Ethan's father
leaving her. Her problem
started way before him and will
continue until she seeks
professional help.

22. Melanie's problem stemmed
at the beginning when her
mother abandoned her and
her parents were not role
models to produce a sane,
loving, productive teenager
into adulthood. Melanie used
her looks and body to get
most of what she wanted and
this is why she has so many
children and no husband. She
used her body as a tool to
gain attraction and although
the attraction was for the
wrong reasons, she didn't
know in the long run, that
game plays itself out as any
other game.
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23. Men are a funny breed. As
long as they have a warm hole
to disperse their load then
that's all it is and no
attachment is with it. In
addition to her disconnected
early upbringing, she used
what she believed as tools of
seduction to her advantage to
note that men don't want an
easy lay for keeps but only for
play. As Melanie believed she
could use her looks again to
get what she wanted, it didn't
work with me. I knew she was
broken beyond a few sessions
on a couch. I wanted to help
her. It wasn't until later my
eyes was tainted.

24. It would take some time to fix
Melanie and get her to a
point where she could take
her physical attributes at
face value and begin to
mount an arsenal of
intelligence to conquer the
world. But this would take
more than a couple of weeks,
months, or years for that
matter and Melanie would
have to be willing to begin on
her own recognizing she was
ill. She is 39, 40ish, acting like
a child, exhibiting tantrums
and running from her
problems, excluding good
people to only seek supply
and attention elsewhere.

25. She had a beautiful body
with all the curves in the
right places and not to
mention she was attractive.
But all of these things mean
nothing if the personality is
tainted with evil intentions
and manipulation. I have
often expressed, good-
looking women are really
rude human beings and I
project it stems from
gaining so much attention
in the early years, and
expectance and the "pretty
privilege" settles in.
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26. Let us not forget any
potential trauma from
uncles or brothers, and
suitors who perhaps
molested her. Without
counseling, these things
can have a wrecking effect
on the victim and possible
suitors. One has to discern
a massive amount of
patience to endure the pain
she was distributing.
However, my time was
limited because her
personality did not fit the
type of woman I normally
dated and once she got
over the hurdle, I was gone
anyway.

27. Yes, I know, let me clear the
air for those of you who are
reading this eBook and trying
to figure it all out. Yes, I am a
woman and I prefer the
company of women. Not
necessarily weakened or
broken women per se but
women with a need because a
woman in need has so much
passion built up from the
struggles of life when she
does break down, it will be a
hunger that is rippling and oh,
so satisfying. Hold on now,
that will be for another book,
lol.

28. Chapter 5-Effects of Narcissism
From what I observed after
the film came off my eyes,
Melanie was foolish for
lack of better words. All of
the flying monkeys she
worked with were adhering
to her soft nature and the
few who were afraid of the
pistol in her, steered clear.
I watched her walking
through the job peering
into her mirror (phone) so
as not to see those looking
at her. I never understood
this part since she
embellished attention at
every turn. I'm perplexed.

29. Narcissists never let go of
a potential supply. It is
always a period of
discontent but never a
total discard because if
you haven't been
devoured, they want to
ensure you know it's
coming. So the time you
take to figure out if the
relationship is over and so
much time has passed,
they're watching you
interact with others.
Narcissists are a different
kind of disorder.
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30. For starters, the adult is
always childlike and craves
attention like a fish loves
water. Then one of the
most viable indicators is
the cell phone. Narcissists
always have their
cellphones in their hands,
walking with them with
their heads glued to the
screen but not really. They
are walking but their
peripheral vision is intact.
They see everything they
want to see as long as you
see them.

31. And, the insecurities of
narcissists allow them to
walk amongst the normal
and observe what they
need to see. The insecurity
runs deep so much so that
she has been observed
walking an entire floor
without ever looking up
knowing she was being
watched. But she knew she
was being watched. Her
posterior was phat and she
knew because she said to
me once, "all niggas look at
ass." So she knew she was
being watched as she
pranced around.

32. Chapter 6-Coping with
Narcissist Behavior
Melanie ghosted me more
and eventually, she changed
her number and avoided me
at work. The feeling was
mutual because I knew the
behavior and expected it.
But one of the things I
realized is her previous
relationships were indicative
of her mannerisms towards
her suitors as she expressed
in the beginning. It's three
sides to a story and I never
received her suitors' version.
Somehow, now I understand
why he departed and never
went back.

33. Moreover, after managing
her behavior I could fathom
the discontent he endured
and understood why he left.
Individuals with NPD never
own up to their faults and
flaws but blame everyone for
everything that happens
when things go south. I feel
blessed to have met her
because I had never met a
narcissist but she fit the
pattern exactly in every way.
I can only imagine how her
children managed the
rearing process. She was
cold and calculating, firm
and sometimes downright
evil during our acquaintance.

34. Never make the mistake to
approach narcissists to inquire
about a questionable action or
your head will be severed
immediately and then
ghosting will ensue because
narcissists can not take
upfront, genuine
communication at all.
Someone is always to blame
for the shortcomings and it's
never them. What I will say
about managing narcissistic
behavior is as an adult, they
display many child-like
characteristics and I knew if I
would use the theory of
Operant Conditioning as I did,
Melanie would fit the test case
perfectly.

35. As long as the funding was
plentiful, she was visiting me
at my work assignment,
calling me at home, and
texting me throughout the
night as if someone genuinely
interested in being friends.
NOT!! This behavior was
ignited by the funding and
once the funding was
extracted, the devil reared its
ugly head, ghosting ensued,
and a total lack of
communication began. All of
these actions are indicative
of a narcissist. Remember,
the child-like behavior of a
child when the toy gets old, is
thrown in the trash.

36. This is truly the funny part
though, despite how rude she
was, it was expected. NPD is an
illness and without some help
to maintain those demons,
they would clearly get out of
hand. Melanie had five baby
father's and none of them were
willing to marry her, clearly a
sign something is wrong.
Narcissism is serious and if left
untreated can cause an array
of dead souls in the trails. But
despite my sins of the flesh
which God knew of, didn't
allow me to exert more time in
this distraction than
necessary.

37. She and I are in this discard
stage right now. I won't say
anything to her and vice versa.
I can endure because she will
be shocked if she ever forms
her mouth to ask me for
anything even for Ethan. Ethan
will be 5 years old this year
(2022) and should be
displaying more early learning
developments for schools. In
all of the time I've known her
have never seen Ethan in the
flesh but on videos, and pics,
this is sad but a reality.
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38. I wasn't worthy to see him just
provide for him, her intentions
with me were to discard
anyway. Oftentimes, when
people set the stage of where
you fit in in their life, it's not
permanent anyway and
neither was mine. My thoughts
were the flesh and move, plain
and simple. As she was tiring of
me, I was of her. I began to
observe more childlike
behavior of temper tantrums
with other people. I knew the
demon was out and locating
new supplies and smearing me.
It's the protocol with a
narcissist.

39. Chapter 7-Moving On
It's really sad when you think
about it. I love children and
detest when a child must
suffer. But what did it say
about me to become involved
with Melanie for the sake of
her son and turn from helping
a mother in need to some sick,
twisted lust for a broken
woman? I guess if hindsight is
twenty-twenty, I too need a
session on a couch to have
some embedded need to help
when a child is involved
instead of staying in my lane
and running on as I should.

40. I suspect everything that
happened to me should
have happened because my
heart wasn't in the right
place in the end. People
come and go in and out of
our lives for a season and
we should thank God the
season is a short while. I
learned my lesson in all of
this and I'm glad I had the
experience because no
matter if she ghosted me
and changed her number,
missed out on a loving
person who would have
done anything for the sake
of Ethan. But she will never
know and neither will I.
Thank God!

41. Conclusion and Takeaway
I think one of the downfalls
of human beings, when they
interact with others, is the
belief that when they walk
away, life ends and one
crumbles up and dies.
Narcissists think very highly
of themselves so the
expectation of you falling
apart is what they live for.
However, not everyone does
and rightly shouldn't.
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42. No human being weighs a
ton to believe someone
will cease living if they
move on. Life is designed
to grow through
adversity, learn from it,
and move on and anyone
who doesn't is unwise
because life is full of
obstacles. The world
spins on its axis 24 hours
a day and if we just vision
problems and obstacles
in life in this way, will not
place so much
importance on events
changing directions.

43. Narcissism is a Disorder
This disorder is so relevant
today and is a hot topic on
social media. However, a
narcissist has an excessive
interest in admiration of
themselves, feels entitled,
and really believes the
world, yours specifically
revolve around them. We've
had ample warning in the
Bible about the Narcissist
but perhaps didn't take
heed of those words. So, I'm
going to include them here
so you'll always be able to
detect their character.
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44. 2 Timothy 3: 1-9
There will be terrible times in
the last few days. 2 People
will be lovers of themselves,
lovers of money, boastful,
proud, abusive, disobedient
to their parents, ungrateful,
unholy, 3 without love,
unforgiving, slanderous,
without self-control, brutal,
not lovers of the good, 4
treacherous, rash, conceited,
lovers of pleasure rather
than lovers of God— 5 having
a form of godliness but
denying its power. Have
nothing to do with such
people.

45. 6 They are the kind who worm
their way into homes and gain
control over gullible women,
who are loaded down with sins
and are swayed by all kinds of
evil desires, 7 always learning
but never able to come to a
knowledge of the truth. 8 Just
as Jannes and Jambres
opposed Moses, so also do
these teachers oppose the
truth. They are men of
depraved minds, who, as far as
the faith is concerned, are
rejected. 9 But they will not
get very far because, as in the
case of those men, their folly
will be clear to everyone.

46. And from this day forward, the
Narcissist folly will be clear to
you. Don't be unwise, be
vigilant, the Narcissist is
seeking whom he/she can
devour.
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47. One of the weaknesses of a narcissist
is they can't look internally and work
on what needs to be cleaned in their
mindset.
Cannot take criticism of any kind, no
confrontation, no questions on their
inadequacies at all.
Ignore them at all costs and remain
unresponsive.
Separate yourself because they are
delusional and you'll never get
through to reason with them.
Disengage from their conversations.
Set clear boundaries.
Don't react to anything they say
because it's opening up doors of
foolishness.
Read God's word so He can protect
you from encountering this evil one.
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Narcissism is a Personality
Disorder

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individuals referenced in
this ebook were changed
to protect their privacy.
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