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Ok....So, What Do I SAY??
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OK – So What Do I SAY??
SAY??
– Techniques For Great Communication
Gregg Oliver
gregg@PFComm.com
858-245-9802
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It’s Hard Sometimes
Approaches to Problem Solving
(Garvin & Roberto)
Characteristic Advocacy Inquiry
Concept of Decision A contest Collaborative problem
Making solving
Purpose of discussion Persuasion and lobbying Testing and evaluating
Participant’s role Spokespeople Critical thinkers
Patterns of behavior •Strive to persuade •Present balanced
others arguments
•Defend your position •Remain open to
•Downplay weaknesses alternatives
•Accept constructive
criticism
Minority Views Discouraged or dismissed Cultivated and valued
Outcome Winners and losers Collective ownership
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Behaviors Demonstrate Unexpressed Feelings
Silence Violence
Range of Feelings
Aggressive
Passive
Ideal
Why Risk It?
We React to the Risk
Exposure to criticism (see: ridicule)
Damage to relationship
Changing our beliefs
Why Have the Conversation?
Outcome Matters
Willing Assent
Engagement and Cooperation
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Communication Factors
Behavior
◦ Character Beliefs
◦ Environment
Skills
◦ Training (for most of us, little practical training)
◦ Learning
Exchanges
Current and Proposed State of Things
Beliefs, Emotions, and Behaviors
Meta-Exchanges
Understand Their Side
Explain Your Side
Resolve the Differences
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Groundwork for a Conversation
•Tentative
•Identify the most pressing issue •Humble
•Clarify the issue with as much detail •Empathy
•Determine the current impact in detail
•Determine the consequences if nothing changes •Simple & Sincere
•Examine the contribution system for the issue •Curious
•Imagine the ideal outcome •Openness
•Respect
•Engagement
•What Do We Both Want to Accomplish?
•What Do We Both Want to Gain?
Before we initiate anything…
◦ Is the relationship bad, neutral, or good?
Impact – how much does this person influence my life?
Interface – how easy and effective are our exchanges?
Intensity – how frequently and deeply do we interact?
Imposition – how much am I willing to sacrifice for this person?
Interests – does this person have my best interests at heart?
◦ Relationships are either “bad” or “not bad”
Any behavior we accept is, by definition, acceptable behavior
We contribute to bad relationships in that we are complicit
We control boundaries
◦ The only time we shouldn’t be actively cultivating “not
bad” relationships is when we are in a critical discussion.
◦ Cultivate bad relationships when you feel like it
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Credibility
◦ Competence
Background and Training
Good track record
◦ Trustworthiness
Good Will
Eyewitness Access to Information
◦ Dynamism
Active, Accessible, Engaged
Relationships
You Have to Know The Score
Tentativeness
Humility
Empathy
Simplicity & Sincerity
Curiosity
Openness
Respect
Engagement
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Summary
Start with your Credibility and Behavior
Navigate the Risk with Improved Skills
Agree on the Mutual Purpose and Objectives
Agree on the Nature of the Impacts
Practice all the Time
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