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Congruence therapy Dr. Bonnie Lee, Ph D.
WHAT IS CONGRUENCE THERAPY? ,[object Object],   ...unique in encompassing both the intra-psychic and interactive components of therapy. Much therapy of the past has been focused only on clients’ behaving, beliefs or feelings. This model is focused on bringing about change at the level of being, as well as changes in doing, feelings and perceiving. The process taps the universal yearnings of individuals within their personal family and social systems and helps them work towards a sense of responsible wholeness. This work requires that the therapist develop a high level therapeutic competence and congruence...
Circle of Connection:
THE ICEBURG: Four Interrelated Human Dimensions: INTERPERSONAL INTER-GENERATIONAL INTRA- PSYCHIC UNIVERSAL-SPIRITUAL
COMMUNICATION There are 5 COMMUNICATION STANCES according to Congruence Therapy: Blaming: accuse, point the finger at, attribute Placating: pacify, sooth, appease Super-reasonable:nothing gets to you, turn a blind eye Avoidant:irrelevant, withdrawn, sarcastic, indirect Congruent: attending, awareness, acknowledgement, alignment
EXTERNAL-what we see INTERNAL- what we can not see
THE HOUSE WITH FOUR DOORS,HOW WILL YOU GET IN? INTERGENERATIONAL: FAMILY OF ORIGIN INTRAPSYCHIC: PSYCHOLOGICAL UNIVERSAL-SPIRITUAL—YEARNINGS AND QUALITIES OF BEING INTERPERSONAL--COMMUNICATION
Where are your clients? (couple, families, parent/child)
Five circuits and recursive loop: These are the circuits that will lead to a cyclic and recursive loop of recurrent reactions (chronic)   This system is and will: ,[object Object]
Create a ‘self-similar cycle’ of interaction
Function as a closed system
Self-reinforcing
Difficult to exit,[object Object]
Circuit 1:FAULT LINES LIMITED RANGE AND DEPTH OF COMMUNICATION (SEE 5 STANCES) OVERFUNCTIONING OR UNDERFUNCTIONING SEPARATE ACTIVITIES EMOTIONAL AND PHYSICAL ABUSE RECURSIVE LOOP LINKS PAST AND PRESENT
Circuit 2: Pressure Points Life transitions Set-backs and losses

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Congruence therapy

  • 1. Congruence therapy Dr. Bonnie Lee, Ph D.
  • 2.
  • 4. THE ICEBURG: Four Interrelated Human Dimensions: INTERPERSONAL INTER-GENERATIONAL INTRA- PSYCHIC UNIVERSAL-SPIRITUAL
  • 5. COMMUNICATION There are 5 COMMUNICATION STANCES according to Congruence Therapy: Blaming: accuse, point the finger at, attribute Placating: pacify, sooth, appease Super-reasonable:nothing gets to you, turn a blind eye Avoidant:irrelevant, withdrawn, sarcastic, indirect Congruent: attending, awareness, acknowledgement, alignment
  • 6. EXTERNAL-what we see INTERNAL- what we can not see
  • 7. THE HOUSE WITH FOUR DOORS,HOW WILL YOU GET IN? INTERGENERATIONAL: FAMILY OF ORIGIN INTRAPSYCHIC: PSYCHOLOGICAL UNIVERSAL-SPIRITUAL—YEARNINGS AND QUALITIES OF BEING INTERPERSONAL--COMMUNICATION
  • 8. Where are your clients? (couple, families, parent/child)
  • 9.
  • 10. Create a ‘self-similar cycle’ of interaction
  • 11. Function as a closed system
  • 13.
  • 14. Circuit 1:FAULT LINES LIMITED RANGE AND DEPTH OF COMMUNICATION (SEE 5 STANCES) OVERFUNCTIONING OR UNDERFUNCTIONING SEPARATE ACTIVITIES EMOTIONAL AND PHYSICAL ABUSE RECURSIVE LOOP LINKS PAST AND PRESENT
  • 15. Circuit 2: Pressure Points Life transitions Set-backs and losses
  • 16. Circuit 3: Exacerbation Opens up earlier wounds, over and over again Exaggerates imbalance in relationship (superlatives like: ‘always, never, constantly)
  • 17. Circuit 4: Relapse ‘Nothing has changed in my life’ or ‘we are right back where we started’ Fault-lines become engrained and perhaps ‘fissures’ Distress precipitates relapse (crisis driven)
  • 18. Circuit 5: Congruence Attending Awareness Acknowledgement Alignment