This document discusses establishing and expanding one's comfort zone. It explains that most people operate within unconscious limits defined by their subconscious mind. These limits include an upper limit driven by self-worth and a lower limit associated with threats to survival. The neutral state resides in the middle range where one feels okay. The document provides steps to identify one's personal comfort scales, dialogue with fears, associate comfort with goals, and adopt empowering beliefs to raise one's limits. Practices include visualization, gratitude, optimism, and celebrating small victories to help achieve goals and flourish beyond one's comfort zone.

2. Comfort Zone

3. What does success mean to you? How do you want to feel?

4. Your Comfort Zone has 3 key points: Your Unconscious Upper Limit (UUL) – The Stall Mechanism Your Unconscious Lower Limit (ULL) – The Kickstart Mechanism The Neutral State (NS)

5. Statistics says that up to 75% of our daily activity is determined by our subconscious mind – beliefs that we hold about the world, people and ourselves.

7. What you think and what you feel in turn determines how you act.

8. You actions determine your results.

10. Everyone has it.

13. Not great, not bad, but okay.

16. Establish your Comfort Scale for HAVING THE MONEY Consider you current annual income. 2. Think about how comfortable you would feel if you HAD 10%, 20%, 30% and more money per year. 3. Then think about making 10% less per year or 20% or 30%.

18. Write down in your journey what comes to your mind. What negative consequences might be associated. Write them down.

20. Now listen to your body. Once you really think about it, those old feelings of doubt, worry and discomfort will come back.

21. Drop the picture and try to remember the feelings of comfort again in your body

22. Bring back the pictures of you making it happen (e.g. making 90,000$)

25. Fear of greatness As Marianne Williamson said in her book, a Return to Love (1992):"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us."Your playing small doesn't serve the world.There's nothing enlightened about shrinkingso that other people won't feel insecure around you”

27. Fear of Rejection

29. Finish the sentences below.. I think the world is … I think I am … I think people are I think my job is … I think my health is … I think my financial power is … I think that my ability to experience love, joy, ecstasy is … I think … you may come up with anything else that is in your life here

31. The Flourish System Determine Vision Set Goals Stay Motivated, Positive, Optimistic Reduce Stress Restructure thoughts FLOURISH

32. New Year’s Resolution? How’s your resolution going? Many people talk about resolutions but often do not have a plan on how to accomplish their goal. (I've been there, believe me! :-) )

33. So, what are your intentions? Without a map, we wouldn't know where we're going. If we have a destination in mind, we really need to plan how we're going to get there.

34. Determine Your Vision What is your vision? What is it that you REALLY want? Become clear first. Crystal clear!

36. Write them down.

37. Come up with an action plan that will allow your vision to come to fruition.

39. Breaking it down… Break it all up into smaller, doable steps. Important so that we do not get overwhelmed with a huge goal. This is where people often get stuck, get discouraged or do not know where to start. For example, a goal of losing 30 lbs can start with losing 4 pounds by February, then a total of 10 pounds by March, etc.

40. Doable? Your action plan has to seem DOABLE to you. You should be pretty confident at the time you set the goals that you will be able to achieve them. In other words, it has to be believableto you.

41. Staying Motivated What is the REASON for wanting the specific outcome to come to fruition? Keep original purpose / reason for end result in mind. Sometimes we lose sight of our original motivation when we get wrapped up in everyday details. Helps to have an accountability partner.

42. If you feel yourself getting off track Be mindful! Remember your dream! Visualize it! Write it down on paper. Tell someone. If you think it may be helpful, ask someone to remind you of your dream.

44. JUST BELIEVE. Finally, you have to BELIEVE, not just wish or hope. Believe in yourself fully and rid yourself of negative belief systems, ruminations or even excuses about *not* being able to reach your goal. We often hold ourselves back. Ideas would not come to us if we did not have the resources (or access to the resources) to implement the ideas.

46. Are you living on purpose?

47. Are your daily actions contributing towards your ultimate goal?

49. USE HUMOR! “Through humor, you can soften some of the worst blows that life delivers. And once you find laughter, no matter how painful your situation might be. You can survive it.” –Bill Cosby

50. So Laugh! Try to find something funny in every situation. “Life is not a stress rehearsal.” — Loretta Laroche Our culture waits to have fun.

51. Thoughts Feelings Actions

52. Optimism Some people are naturally optimists We can learn optimism (M. Seligman)

53. Pessimists vs Optimists Pessimists tend to have thoughts that are permanent and pervasive: (Seligman) Example of different explanatory styles: You forget a spouse’s birthday. I’m not good at remembering birthdays. (permanent) OR: I was preoccupied with other things.

54. Positivity Focus on what you HAVE (not on what you do not have) Find the “bless” in the “mess” Think of 3 positive aspects to every situation GRATITUDE (create a daily inventory)

55. Positivity To experience 100% positivity defies and denies the humanness of life. (B. Fredrickson) Aim for a positivity ratio of 3:1 3 positive emotional experiences to every negative emotional experience (the tipping point)

56. Stopping the cycle Distract yourself (with healthy distractions) Dispute the thought with evidence. Tell yourself to STOP! Don’t ruminate. Wear a rubber band & snap it when you have automatic negative thoughts.

57. What you focus on E X P A N D S

58. Move forward with mindfulness Don’t focus your energy on the problem What are you going to do? What is the solution? Reframe into pieces that you can manage right now Don’t overwhelm yourself Cognitive Distortions / Irrational and Distorted Thinking: Don’t try to be perfect Live in the moment: Be present and focused

59. "Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine... And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others." -Marianne Williamson

60. QUESTIONS?

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