More free content: https://www.lovelifesolved.com/ In this presentation, dating coach Kristina Kirilova is going to shed light on: - What you should do when you fall in love with a close female friend of yours. - How to avoid getting into a situation where it’s either lovers or nothing. - What to do if she has no romantic feelings for you and is unlikely to develop any in the future.

1. In Love With a Close
Female Friend?
by Lovelifesolved.com

2. Hey there!

3. Nice to meet you, I’m Kristina Kirilova.

4. Being in love with a friend can be
painful and awkward.

5. Many questions come to mind in a
situation like that.

6. “Am I going to ruin
the friendship if I tell
her the truth?”
“Does she
feel the
same?”

7. But being in love with your best
friend doesn’t have to end in losing
her or suffering in the friend zone
while she dates around and tells you
about her latest conquests.

8. However, to avoid these
undesirable consequences you
need to let her know that you
have feelings for her.

9. More precisely, you have to tell her —
with spoken words!

10. Many men want to avoid this
uncomfortable conversation by
showing her they are into her.

11. And so they look at her intensely,
hold her hand longer, buy drinks,
write poems, invite her to romantic
movies,…

12. Bad idea!

13. Why?

14. Because she won’t get it.

15. You’re her best friend. She won’t interpret your
attention as a sign of attraction.

16. On the contrary:

17. She will continue to talk about
other guys with you — not
knowing she’s hurting you.

18. She will continue to cuddle and hug you, not
knowing all you want is the cuddling to lead to more.

19. She will continue to tell you that
you are cute and any woman
would be lucky to have you, not
knowing you want her to be that
woman.

20. L E S S O N # 1
The only way to make the
pain stop is by telling her
about your feelings.

21. How can you tell her?

22. Pick up the phone and invite her to something you both
usually do when you hang out together.

23. Before you go and talk to her,
here are some rules that you
should follow:

24. Don’t Mention Why
You Want to See Her
When, all of a sudden, you want to
talk and act all weird it blows the
situation out of proportion and
makes her feel uncomfortable.

25. No Flowers or Other
Presents
You aren’t lovers (yet), and no
gift could convince her otherwise.
So rather save your money
because it’s only going to make
everything worse.

26. No Big Romantic
Gestures Before She
Knows How You Feel
When a friend suddenly changes
his usual behaviour and starts
treating her as his girlfriend, is
quite unexpected and shocking. It
will make it feel uncomfortable

27. Don’t Expect Anything
to Happen
Don’t pressure her even more by
expecting an answer right then
and there.

28. L E S S O N # 2
Any gesture that shows her
that you are madly in love
pressures her immensely.

29. Now that you know how
to tell her, let’s get more
speci
fi
c and talk about
what you should say.

30. The best thing you to say is, as
usual, the honest truth.

31. No games, no pretending, no
coolness. Just your sincere
thoughts and feelings.

32. Here is an example of how one
could do just that:

33. I wanted to talk to you about something. I’ve been feeling
attracted to you for the last few months. You’re my best
friend and you’re the most amazing person I’ve ever met. I
just wanted to tell you how I feel, so please don’t feel
awkward about this.

34. I enjoy our friendship and I don’t want to pressure you but
I’d be really happy if you felt something for me too. But if
not, everything is going to stay the way it is now. I just
wanted you to know how I feel because it hurts so bad when
you tell me about other guys.

35. She might be shocked because
up to this point you were just a
friend and now everything is
different.

36. So let some time pass.

37. It’s her turn now.

38. Your “job” is done, you can’t force anyone to fall
in love with you. Give her some space to get
clear on her feelings and focus on other things.

39. What if she doesn’t
reciprocate your feelings
immediately?

40. Don’t act crazy now! Your emotions are gonna try to force
you to do something dumb, like sending her a compilation
video with all your best pics together, so be extra careful.

41. Don’t avoid her.
Don’t act weird when she’s around.
Don’t call her more often than usual.
Don’t give her extra attention.
Stay normal.

42. An “either we’ll get together or our friendship is over”
situation is the last thing you want.

43. You don’t have to lose a friend
just because you have fallen in
love with her.

44. The less you pressure her, the more likely she will feel
attracted to you.

45. She has never thought of you as a
potential lover before.

46. Now is the first time she can
think of you as more than a friend
and explore whether or not she’s
excited in being romantically
involved with you.

47. Rational vs. irrational hope

48. If you’ve let some time pass and
she hasn’t made any steps towards
you then you should start thinking
about distancing yourself from her.

49. Seeing her with other guys and listening to her stories will
hurt you deeply and might cause severe emotional damage.

50. There comes a point when it
becomes clear that she just
doesn’t feel the same.

51. Do everything you can to make it
happen, but know when to stop.

52. What are some
indicators you have
reached that point?

53. You’ve let some time
pass (few weeks or
more) and she is still
acting weird
She’s still talking to
you about other guys
and acts as if nothing
has happened
She is dating someone
else
She avoids spending
time alone with you
She is tries to set you
up with someone else

54. You can’t hope forever she’ll
change her mind.

55. At some point, you have to move on and meet other
women. And there are countless great ones out there!

56. Give yourself a chance to fall in love with someone
who is excited to be with you.

57. That’s it for today. Thank you so
much for reading!