This document summarizes Brian Rhen's five-point marriage checkup model called "Bloom". The five key areas that make a marriage healthy are: 1) Committing to sacrificial love, 2) Cherishing and respecting each other, 3) Being gracious and forgiving, 4) Choosing the right words in communication, and 5) Having a greater purpose. The document provides biblical support and questions for couples to assess how strong each area is in their marriage on a scale of 1 to 5. It advertises Brian Rhen's online "Bloom" program that provides materials and coaching over 5 weeks and 1 year to help couples strengthen these five areas of their marriage.

1. The Essential Five-Point Marriage Check Up
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Bloom!Bloom!

2. "But blessed is the man who trusts in the LORD,
whose confidence is in him.
He will be like a tree planted by the water
that sends out its roots by the stream.
It does not fear when heat comes;
its leaves are always green.
It has no worries in a year of drought
and never fails to bear fruit."
The heart is deceitful above all things
and beyond cure.
Who can understand it?
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3. Blessed is the man
who does not walk in the counsel of the wicked
or stand in the way of sinners
or sit in the seat of mockers.
But his delight is in the law of the LORD,
and on his law he meditates day and night.
He is like a tree planted by streams of water,
which yields its fruit in season
and whose leaf does not wither.
Whatever he does prospers.
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4. Trusts in the LORD
Delights in the law of the LORD
On his law meditates day and night
Leaves are always green
Never fails to bear fruit
Does not wither in the heat
Does not walk in the counsel of the
wicked
Heart is deceitful above all things
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Question: How do you
know the health of your
marriage?

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Brian Rhen:Brian Rhen:
• Pastor
• Marriage Coach
• Married
• Kids

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The BloomThe Bloom
Five-Point MarriageFive-Point Marriage
Check UpCheck Up

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What it takes to BLOOM!What it takes to BLOOM!
The 5 key nutrients:The 5 key nutrients:
•Commit to LoveCommit to Love
•Cherish & RespectCherish & Respect
•Be Gracious & ForgiveBe Gracious & Forgive
•Choose the Right WordsChoose the Right Words
•Seek a Greater PurposeSeek a Greater Purpose

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COMMIT To “sacrificial” LOVECOMMIT To “sacrificial” LOVE
DAILY
YEARLY
SEASONALLY
This is my command: Love (agape) each other. John 15:17

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COMMIT TO “sacrificial” LOVECOMMIT TO “sacrificial” LOVE
-WORDS OF ENCOURAGEMENT
-QUALITY TIME
-GIFTS
-ACTS OF SERVICE
-PHYSICAL TOUCH
5 Love Languages

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CHECKUP QUESTION #1
How committed are
you to love?

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Committed to love?
husband
wife
completeroom to improve
roomtoimprovecomplete

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CHERISH & RESPECTCHERISH & RESPECTHowever, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself,
and the wife must respect her husband. Eph. 5:33
with
cherish
with
respect
she
responds
he
responds
she
reacts
he
reacts
without
respect
without
cherish

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CHECKUP QUESTION #2
What is the degree you feel
cherished (wife) and
respected (husband?)

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Cherished and
Respected?
husband
wife
respectedroom to improve
roomtoimprovecherished

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BE GRACIOUS & FORGIVEBE GRACIOUS & FORGIVE
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you
may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.
Colossians 3:13
Grace leaves
space for
error
“an attitude”
Forgiveness
releases
“a process”

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CHECKUP QUESTION #3
How capable are you of being
gracious and of forgiving?

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Gracious and Forgiving?
husband
wife
completeroom to improve
roomtoimprovecomplete

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CHOOSE THE RIGHT WORDSCHOOSE THE RIGHT WORDS
Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry.
James 1:19
Argument REACTING the other
Destructive offensive, names, sarcasm, violent = scarring
Disagreement REACTING issue
Harsh defensive, personalities arise = separating
Normal dialogue RESPONDING each other
Kind attentive, encouraging = supporting

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CHOOSE THE RIGHT WORDSCHOOSE THE RIGHT WORDS
CIRCUMSTANCE
EMOTIONS
Hurt, Fear, Want, Joy
THOUGHTS
3 sec.
with self
REACT
“FLESH”
with God
RESPOND
“SPIRIT”

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CHOOSE THE RIGHT WORDSCHOOSE THE RIGHT WORDS

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CHOOSE THE RIGHT WORDSCHOOSE THE RIGHT WORDS

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CHECKUP QUESTION #4
Are you using the right words
in your communication?

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SEEK A GREATER PURPOSESEEK A GREATER PURPOSE
The LORD will fulfill his purpose for me. Psalm 138:8
People
seldom hit
what they
do not
aim at.”
Thoreau

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SEEK A GREATER PURPOSESEEK A GREATER PURPOSE
•Marriage Purpose Statement
•Marriage Verse
•Values (being)
•Goals (doing)
•Dreams
•Prayer
The LORD will fulfill his purpose for me. Psalm 138:8

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CHECKUP QUESTION #5
How purposeful is
your marriage?

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BLOOM!
Where are you?

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FINAL CHECKUPFINAL CHECKUP
Rank each on a scale of 1(weak) - 5(strong)Rank each on a scale of 1(weak) - 5(strong)
___Commit to Love___Commit to Love
___Cherish & Respect___Cherish & Respect
___Be Gracious & Forgive___Be Gracious & Forgive
___Choose the Right Words___Choose the Right Words
___Seek a Greater Purpose___Seek a Greater Purpose

29. Do you want to grow inDo you want to grow in
any of these five areas?any of these five areas?
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30. A 5-WEEKTUNE-UP FOR ANY MARRIAGE
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Bloom!Bloom!

31. • 5-weeks5-weeks of live webinarsof live webinars (1 per week)
• 1-year1-year of group tele-coachingof group tele-coaching (1 per month)
• LifetimeLifetime access to recorded materialsaccess to recorded materials
(including updated materials)
• 5-weeks5-weeks of follow-up e-course (1 per
week)
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33. • 15%15% of proceeds donated
• Vision AbolitionVision Abolition –– building homes and
providing care for girls in Fiji
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34. When is Bloom?When is Bloom?
5 Wednesdays
Time: 7:30 PM – 9:00 PST
Starts February 2, 2011
February 9, February 16
March 2, March 9
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