1. Engaging Families & Children: Practical Tips
Training Dates: March 18 & April 1 2015
Presenter: Melissa Cole, MSW, LCSW-C
2. Why do we choose to do this work?
What makes this type of work important to us?
Personal Values
Personally Affected
Desire to Help Others
Need to Contribute to the Community
Spiritual Calling
Professional Career
Personal or Professional Development
Additional Income
Other……
3. Why do families choose to work with us?
The Working Relationship.
Regardless of:
How the families reach us
Their unique presenting problems
The length or type of services
The number of workers involved
The team members
Other…..
It is ALL about:
How meaningful services are to the family
What the family gains from services
How ‘easy’ service participation is for the family
‘RELATIONSHIP’ consists of:
Commitment +
Relating +
Knowledge +
Skills…………+
= Engagement
Engagement leads to positive outcomes!
4. What Brings BSF Staff & Families Together?
Core Principles of
BSF Programs
Establishing Trust
Active listening
Assessing
Communicating
Assisting / Mentoring
Crisis Intervention
Coaching / Modeling
Advocating
Educating
Maintaining Safety
Focusing on Strengths
Core Elements of Effective Helping Relationships
Availability
Knowledge
Flexibility
Communication
Time
Trust
Responsibilities
Positive attitude
Humor
Respect
Strengths
Hope
Forgiveness
Boundaries
Defined Roles
Reciprocity
Reliability
Honesty
Empathy
Consistency
Authenticity
Humility
Safety
Other…..
5. What Do We Often Take for Granted?
Some ‘common sense’ things we often overlook:
Remember: we are guests in their lives
their participation in services is a gift –not a
guarantee
Courtesy goes a long way:
confirm each appointment day/time; be flexible
Use preparatory empathy:
put ourselves in ‘their shoes’
Select our words carefully
interactions shape the relationship
Follow our purpose / we must stay on task
we are more than friendly visitors!
Do NOT make assumptions
we have the responsibility to seek clarification &
to set the tone for authentic interactions
6. More Items We Often Take For Granted….
Maximize ‘teachable moments’ & apply them to the IRP
Using ‘here and now’ examples makes the treatment plan ‘real’
Be open minded / look for creative solutions
Solution focused & strength based interventions
Think like we are a member of a team…because we are!
Be mindful of other providers working with the family & make
sure we are collaborating
Utilize anticipatory guidance / review next steps together
For example: changes in service delivery or plans for discharge
Alert the supervisor to ANY safety concerns
Be familiar with agency protocols regarding safety issues
Discuss observations, disclosures, questions we have on this topic
Normalize ‘taboo topics’
We have a responsibility to help families talk about tough topics
in constructive and productive ways (ie: sex, disabilities, violence,
discipline, etc…)
7. How Do We Make the Most of Our Interactions?
What we say
• We must be purposeful in our
communication
How we say it
• Verbal
• Non-verbal
Active Listening:
• Words
• Behaviors
• Feelings
Role Modeling / Action
• Take time to teach
• Celebrate accomplishments
• Lead by example
8. What is Active Listening?
Relating
Attitude
Do thoughts & behaviors match?
Type of communicator
Investment in services
Planning & Reflecting
Personal & Family Values
Self Image
Self-Esteem
Doing
Treatment Planning
Process of Change
Current Problems & Obstacles
Reacting / “Fight or Flight”
Identifying, Owning & Managing Feelings
Triggers for Feeling States
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EMPATHY: identification with and understanding of another’s situation, feelings and motives.
9. Perspective and Engagement
Perspective = Connection
Once connected, rapport begins
Rapport provides opportunities for
effective communication
Once communicating, engagement is
built through the development of
trust, respect & reliability
We must recognize differences &
while also finding common
ground
10. How Can We Use Our Perspective?
Key questions to consider as we build & maintain relationships:
What is the purpose of my contact?
Have I communicated my purpose clearly?
Do we share the same agenda?
Do we have the same priorities?
Do we share the same definitions for common concepts, words & goals?
Are our roles well defined?
Am I demonstrating my role, my purpose & my professional boundaries
through my words and actions?
Is the treatment plan on target or in need of adjustment?
How well does the family understand, apply & ‘buy in to’ the treatment plan?
What’s working/successful in the working relationship? Has the success been
discussed/acknowledged? Have mistakes been addressed?
What obstacles are blocking progress in the working relationship?
What new information has come to my attention that needs to be addressed?
What risk factors/safety concerns do I need to consider for each relationship?
11. What Differentiates Us?
Cultural/Racial/Ethnic Identity
Tribal Affinity
Nationality
Acculturation/Assimilation
Socioeconomic Status / Class
Language
Education
Literacy
Family constellation
Social history
Perception of Time
Health Beliefs
• Health / Mental Health
• Beliefs about Health/Mental Health
• Values
• Age Cycles
• Life Cycles
• Gender & Gender Identity
• Sexual Orientation / Identity
• Religion & Spiritual Views
• Spatial & Regional Patterns
• Political Orientation &Affiliation
12. Engagement and Boundaries
Why are boundaries so important?
They set the framework for us to talk about:
Our roles & responsibilities
The services being delivered
Our expectations for the working relationship
Limits of confidentiality , privacy & safety issues
They help us focus on our responsibilities to the client
The treatment plan is central to all communications
They reduce ‘compassion fatigue’
We don’t get overwhelmed as easily when we’re attentive to our limits
They establish parameters for legal & ethical behavior
When in question, consult the regulations / agency protocol / supervisor
They support regulatory & reporting requirements
Our timelines for home visits, reports & other services
13. Key Components of Boundaries
What we say
How we say it
The meaning behind our communications
Limits of Confidentiality
Privacy
Informed Consent
Client’s right to self-determination
Competence (including cultural competence)
Conflicts of interest
Dual relationships
Record keeping & treatment planning
Personal values
Desire to ‘rescue’ to ‘be friends’ or to ‘be liked’ by the family
14. Roadblocks to Successful Engagement
Making assumptions
Giving advice
Judging
Making the work about us
Placing blame
Picking favorites
Doing favors
Breaking confidentiality
Arguing
Saying: ‘I told you so’
Avoiding tough topics
Lack of preparation
Becoming friends
Blurring boundaries
Pride
Embarrassment
Stress
One sided thinking
Frustration / Impatience
Ignoring ‘taboo’ topics
Active Characteristics Passive Characteristics
15. Unique Factors Influencing Engagement
Involvement of Multiple Systems
• Medical / Health
• Academic / Vocational
• Mental Health / Psychiatric
Cultural Differences
• Unique relationships with families
Parental Functioning
• History or current stressors from:
Substances
Victimization / Perpetration
Mental Illness
16. How do the Unique Factors Play a Role?
Families are often in crisis
Previous coping skills are not effective
Sense of urgency to resolve problems
Confusion / fear / intense emotions
Sometimes socially isolated & vulnerable
Psychiatric conditions are impactful
Untreated conditions complicate engagement
Treated conditions require special consideration
Workers may represent unresolved issues
We are symbols of prior working relationships
Life is dynamic
Engagement, assessment, intervention & outcomes
are processes
17. Parent/Guardian Functioning Up Close
Substances
Victimization /
perpetration / trauma
Mental illness
Involvement of other
services
Other…
Stress management
Can be easily overwhelmed
Judgment
Often impaired or limited due to stress
Frustration tolerance
Many times low tolerance for stress
Empathy
Often self-absorbed due to unmet needs
Personal boundaries
Concept of privacy or intimacy is often blurred
Rational thinking
Emotional flooding or cognitive distortions
Social stability
Multiple relocations, losses & abrupt transitions
Intimate relationships
Anxiety often drives behavior
Impact Issues =
effects on coping
18. What Issues Require Immediate Attention?
Important Topics:
Limits of Confidentiality
Privacy
Personal Safety
Public Safety
Boundaries
Dual Relationships
Misinformation
Misunderstandings
Different Expectations
Things to Consider/Steps to Take:
Gather Information
Document what is seen
Contact the Supervisor
Follow State Regulations
Follow Agency Protocol
Problem Solve the Situation
Implement Crisis Intervention
Take care of self
19. Some Engagement & Boundary Questions to Consider
When I’m asking questions about the family’s life & routines, how do I remain respectful of
the family’s right to privacy & determination about what information to share? What
information do I have the right to know?
When is it OK for me to disclose something personal with the family?
What if the family invites me to dinner or to a family event? Is it ever OK to support a family
by forming a friendship with them?
What if I don’t feel comfortable with something the family is doing in their home. Should I
say something? How would I bring it up politely/respectfully?
When is it OK to give a hug or to put my arm around a client?
What if I suspect child maltreatment or a safety concern in the home? How do I bring up
the limits of confidentiality in a way that supports the family and follows the law?
What if I feel like a co-worker is crossing a boundary?
When is it OK for me to give advice to a family?
Is it ever OK to give a family money or personal gifts?
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24. Helpful Websites
National Association of Social Workers
http://www.socialworkers.org/pubs/code/code.asp
National Association for the Education of Young Children
http://www.naeyc.org/about/mission.asp
National Early Childhood Technical Assistance Center
http://www.nectac.org/~pdfs/pubs/assuring.pdf
Division for Early Childhood Code of Ethics
http://www.campbellsville.edu/Websites/cu/Images/Academics/Education/Docum
ents/ECE/Cod e%20of%20Ethics_updated_Aug2009.pdf
American Counseling Association
http://www.counseling.org/resources/aca-code-of-ethics.pdf
ASHA Code of Ethics
http://www.asha.org/docs/html/ET2010-00309.html
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Notes de l'éditeur
Fortunate to receive referrals based on positive references
Community collaboration – strong relationships
Families often go with a ‘default’ provider out of necessity: location, coverage, crisis, referral, impaired advocacy skills, etc
Once connected, even if voluntary, if families don’t ‘like’ the services they can ‘withdraw’ by passive resistance aka ‘non-compliance’